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Are You Dating an Army Soldier or a Fake?

If you don’t want to read the rest of this article, there is one surefire way to know if your soldier is fake:

If a soldier you’re “dating” online asks you for money for ANY reason, it’s a scam. Period. End of story. [Click to tweet this]

And as my husband says….If you have to ask, it’s a scam.


UPDATE: Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from 374 people in these scams! Story here.

Since starting the website in 2004, I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not. Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site. And he is the one who just happened to find her while he was looking around and decided she’s going to be his future wife. What he really means is she’s going to be his next victim.


Stories That Are Lies

He’s in Special Operations

1. He is in a special operations unit and therefore cannot share any information with you. It’s true that special ops guys can’t discuss their job but that also means they don’t tell random strangers they’re in special ops. My husband was special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. Special ops guys don’t brag about it. They’re known as “quiet professionals” for a reason.

He’s Been Denied Leave

2. He has been deployed for two years, has been denied leave time and will not be coming home any time soon therefore you won’t be able to meet. If there were soldiers being denied leave after being overseas for years at a time, it would be ALL over the news. It’s a lie.

He’s on a Top Secret Mission

3. He is on a top secret mission in a country other than Iraq or Afghanistan (or even in Iraq or Afghanistan – it’s all lies). Now, we certainly do have troops in other countries. However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does!).

He Needs Permission from Someone in His Unit

4. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. This is followed by outrageous lies. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet. Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie.

Everyone Around Him is Dead

5. He says one of the following….his parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. My favorite is when they combine all these things. Really? I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him?

He Has No Mailing Address

6. He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often. Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address. And this is not a post office box and it’s not in Nigeria!! It also has nothing to do with a Western Union office. And you don’t have to send it through a relative because he can’t give out his address.

He Needs Money for Leave

7. He says he needs you to pay for his R&R leave because the Army doesn’t pay for it. This is absolutely false! A real soldier will not request money to travel home as he doesn’t need it! The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone. This includes emergency travel like the death of a loved one. It’s not like you just book your own flight home from Afghanistan on Delta.

He Needs You to Request His Leave

8. He says he can come home but you have to request his leave through an email address. If all an Army spouse had to do was email her soldier’s commander to get him home from deployment, don’t you think ALL Army spouses would be doing this? There would be no one deployed. The Army does not allow leave requests from Army family members. In fact, even in the case of the death of an immediate family member, the information has to be verified by the American Red Cross before the soldier’s command is contacted for possible leave by officials at the Red Cross – they don’t just take your word for it.

He Needs You to Pay for a Phone Line

9. He wants you to pay for a phone line, cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other. Real soldiers can call home for FREE. My husband deployed multiple times and we never paid for a single phone call. If he asks for this, he’s a scam artist. Not to mention, soldiers are making enough to buy a phone card if they really had to.

He’s About to Retire

10. He’s about to retire and then he can marry you and live happily ever after. This usually also includes stories about being a higher ranking officer. Typical story and it’s all lies. Real officers have even LESS time to be online talking to strangers over the internet.

His Child Needs XYZ

11. He has a child that is dying or needs surgery (or some other medical emergency) and he needs the money to pay for it. All military dependents are covered by Tricare, which for the most part is amazing insurance. I had a c-section and was in the hospital in a private room for three days. Know how much I paid? $12. Real soldiers aren’t paying out of pocket for their kid’s medical care.

He’s a General

12. And he’s only 28! Wow, talk about a quick advancement! LOL A General will have well over 20 years of service and less than 1% of officers will make it to the rank of General. On top of that, Generals make a minimum of $12,000 per month in JUST base pay. So why exactly would he need money from you?

His Pay is Deposited in the U.S. and He Has No Access

13. Seriously? First, the Army is providing the essentials while you’re deployed so there’s not a need for a lot of money overseas. Second, you can have access to your money, so this is yet another lie. There are ATMs on any main post and the PX accepts debit and credit cards. If he says he’s somewhere that there isn’t an ATM or another way to get money, there is also nothing for him to spend money on. So why does he need it?

He’s On a Peacekeeping Mission in {insert name of country}

14. Last time I checked we aren’t on a lot of peacekeeping missions in Nigeria and Syria. And if we were, a real soldier wouldn’t tell you that.

Verify The Truth

So how can you find out if he’s telling the truth?

The absolute best way to verify is with #2 – ask him to email you from his AKO address.

  1. Ask for his mailing address overseas. If he can’t provide one, he is lying. There is nothing secretive about an APO address. And an APO address will not be a post office box. It’s also not at a Western Union office!
  2. Ask him to give you his AKO email address rather than his yahoo, hotmail, etc. This will be his firstname.lastname@us.army.mil. All soldiers have an AKO account. There is NO reason why he can’t provide it – regardless of what unit he is assigned to, what his mission may be, who he’s working for, etc. And the AKO account is free so him saying his credit card hasn’t been processed or his account is locked because he didn’t pay is also a lie. If he refuses to provide this, he’s fake.

I originally had other questions you could ask regarding his training, etc, but I’m removing those because many people believed whatever ridiculous information he came up with when they asked.

But you say he’s sent you pictures or a copy of his ID?

Many have been provided pictures, copies of military identification cards, even videos. First, pictures can be grabbed from anywhere on the internet – there’s no guarantee you’re talking to that person. They may very well be using the picture of a real soldier but that doesn’t mean you’re talking to him. Some of these scumbags are using the pictures of soldiers who were killed in action to run their scams. It’s sick.

Someone told me once they were dating a General and she even had pictures. I told her to send them to me. Guess who the pictures were of? David Petraeus!

Some use totally fake pictures in uniforms that are all messed up – I’ve seen Army uniforms with Air Force tapes and Navy insignia – no joke.

I’ve seen very badly doctored military ID cards where it’s obvious he’s typed over information on the card. What’s funny is he’ll type over the only legitimate information on the card and replace it with something that makes no sense. Such as rank of SPC and pay grade of MAJ.

The pictures they use many times on military IDs are so fake and it’s so obvious. Real military ID pictures basically look like a mugshot – solid background with him in uniform and basically only showing his face (maybe the very top of his shoulders). Someone sent me one the other day that not only looked nothing like a military ID (more like a business card for a recruiter), it had a picture of a soldier who was obviously at a military ball or some other formal event as he had a bow tie with his dress uniform. That is NOT an ID picture.

Or maybe he’s added you on Facebook and even changed his relationship status to you

The Army posted this example on their Facebook page:


So exactly which one are you dating? Oh and by the way, I’ve never seen a soldier unless it was on an official page (such as the base commander’s page) that uses his rank in his name.

Soldiers Don’t Have Time For This

99.9% of military guys overseas don’t have the time available to them to email, chat and Skype for hours at a time or even every day online. They are too busy doing their JOB. And most have no interest in “dating” someone online while they’re deployed. Continuing to talk to their loved one that they knew before deployment? Absolutely! Time to peruse dating sites and chat for hours? Absolutely not.

But he said he loves you and wants to marry you….even though you “met” last week

I’m assuming if you’re falling for this, you’ve never been in a military town. Go downtown in a military town to a club one night and let me know how many single soldiers are there looking for the love of their life….not exactly what their goal is. And when you’re thousands of miles away from each other, he doesn’t have the opportunity to sleep with you. So the point would be???

Many of these stories contain comments about him saying he loves you within a few days/weeks of starting to talk or he wants to marry you as soon as he returns. Let’s get this straight – you haven’t met and certainly haven’t had the opportunity to have any kind of physical relationship, yet he wants to marry you? Does this sound feasible to you? If you’re even hesitating on the answer, I’ll help you. It’s not. They’re lying so they can get in your wallet. And they’re doing this to many others at the same time they’re doing it to you. It’s just who is going to open up access to their bank account first.

But you asked him if he was a scammer and he said no!

Come on, think about this! Why would he admit it to you? Or even better, he told you he is in fact a scammer but he REALLY loves you…..as long as you keep sending him money.

He hasn’t asked for money yet though

Don’t worry, he will. If any of the above signs sound familiar, it’s only a matter of time. He may get pretty far into his story before he asks. He may wait until his plane is suppose to leave and you’re meeting him in less than 24 hours. Then all of the sudden disaster strikes and he needs three grand to be able to come home. LIES!

Even though he’s doing these things, you still think he’s the real deal

I hate to be harsh but if any of the above sounds familiar, it’s a SCAM. Don’t sit there and think you’re the exception. You’re not the lucky one who’s encountered these signs but somehow your guy is the real deal. He’s FAKE. He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t want to marry you. And sooner or later, he’s going to ask for money.

I get emails and messages (or comments) from people who tell me the story and ask me if he’s fake. I answer yes, it’s a scam. And what do they do? Keep asking me more questions – but he does this or he said this or he sent me these pictures. Guess what? The answer is still the same. It’s a scam. Go back and read the first line in bold at the top of this article. I don’t care if he asks you to mail him a penny – a real soldier will NOT ask you for money. A real soldier makes more overseas than he does when he’s home!!

The Scam Checklist

So let me sum this up:

  • If he’s asking for money for a phone line, it’s a scam.
  • If he’s asking for money for travel home, it’s a scam.
  • If he needs you to help him move money from one location to another, it’s a scam.
  • If he asks for your bank account information, it’s a scam.
  • If he wants you to wire money for ANY reason via Western Union (or similar service), it’s a scam.
  • If he asks you to email his command so he can come home, it’s a scam.
  • If he tells you to open a bank account or credit card for him, it’s a scam (and this one could get you into legal trouble!)

PLEASE quit sending these people money! If you’re just itching to give away your money, send it to me! haha After all, I’ve spent more hours than I can count updating this article with the latest techniques and answering questions here and elsewhere.

Finally, if you don’t believe me, please read this article from the Army – Soldier Scams

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Dee Pike November 16, 2014, 1:27 pm

    HI, Im chatting to 2 guys currently, one the half Mexicon/American soldier with the heavy accent Charles Strader, we even video skyped, but when the package was to be paid for, you know those packages containing money and before you get it you must first send money via Western Union for the release of said package…….. the second is a doctor, mind you sound very educated,but his son got diagnosed with cancer within 2 months from when our chat started and he have no access to his account! Why do men think we are so stupid……

  • Dee Pike November 16, 2014, 1:30 pm

    and whats worse…..DR Peyton Berookim in on you tube giving gastro-intestinal lectures, but in the army he is a orthopeadic surgeon…….with a dying son….but in one of the videos his daughters ‘picture is at the back on the desk and later he picks her up….so pathetic….

  • Jenny November 16, 2014, 11:18 pm

    I met the person I call my boyfriend on Okc. His profile says that he is deployed and he was supposed to be back in July. He claims he got switched to another unit and is still over there. It has been almost a month now with no answer to my emails. He is on my facebook but there really isn’t anything much on his page. After reading this I am questioning more than I already was. I have tried looking him up online to no avail. How would I go about finding out if he is still deployed and this isn’t all a lie? I need to know so I can move on with my life if need be.

  • Cris November 17, 2014, 6:33 am

    Hi, thanks for all the information. Through this site, I realized that the person I’m exchanging my mails with is a scammer. He said his name is Peter Ralston with an email: peterralston2014@gmail.com. He told me that he was divorced with his wife with 1 kid, and is currently working with NATO based in Afghanistan. He also said about tragic story that happened to his family. Like his dad and sister died in 9-11 attack as to why he decided to be an Army. Just today he sent me an email asking for my complete name and address as he would like me to help him transfer his so called money from UK to my address. I just find it so ridiculous because if he really had $2million, why not contact his family like his mom to help him about it and why he would trust me straight away since we just known each other for barely a month. This was the main reason why I ended on this website today. I’m thankful for the author of this site. You just saved one innocent person like me. Just so blessed not to fall on their trap!!! A big THANKS to you again Stacey!!!

  • Stephanie November 17, 2014, 11:31 pm

    I met a guy on a dating site and we have been talking for a month, not everyday and not for hours. He has not asked for money or said any of the things above. But over the last month at times my emails would come back to me saying the email address is not real. Then the next day it would work. When someone is in afghanistan can there internet connection stop and cause my emails to not be delivereed?

    • Lisa December 14, 2014, 8:24 am

      I think so if they have whats called a ( Black out ), no communication in or out. But still keep your eyes open.

  • mitchelle November 18, 2014, 8:58 am

    I just want to know if it’s possible to notify the real person whose identity were being used??? or is there anyway to notify them??

  • Cynthia hicks November 19, 2014, 1:53 pm

    I have had two different soldiers at two different times sending messages both have ended up asking for money which they don’t get the names are Raymond Josh and Donato Thompson Raymond is suppose to be in afganistan and Donato is in Africa how can you tell if they are real or fake I have told both no on the money but would like to know how to find out for sure

  • Evelyn Zimbler November 19, 2014, 7:15 pm

    Have been chatting to a:
    General John Rodriquez
    Has not asked for money etc
    But want to verify if he is real or not!
    How do I actually verify this
    Have a photo of him in his US full dress uniform
    Want to beleive hebus real…….

  • Idiot November 19, 2014, 11:59 pm

    Please make sure when you receive a picture to upload it for facial recognition. http://www.tineye.com does not always work. I used that one first and got scammed. The one that matched the picture was images.google.com or click the camera icon camera icon in the search box , Click Upload an image, Click Choose file. Select the image from your computer. Hit search. This one OFFICER was not only stationed in Afghanistan, had people helping him in the states, Ghana, and was found by Google images on a dating site in Australia. Please be smarter than I was people… Good luck.

  • Deb November 24, 2014, 3:17 pm

    I just recently was contacted by “Damon Jeffrey” he claimed he was in Syria and all the excuses that come with it. He loved me, wanted to marry me, his parents are deceased and he is an only child. Then came the money talk…that’s when I knew this was a scam. I didn’t send him a dime and I called him on his lies. Guess what…now he’s not talking to me. Guess he’s moved on to his next victim already. Don’t fall for these lies ladies!!!!! Please be cautious and listen to you intuition. Stay safe!!!!

  • Diana November 25, 2014, 2:17 pm

    How can you check if an APO address is legit?

  • Beth Pearce November 25, 2014, 10:42 pm

    I am writing a man that says he in the -Army His name is Mark Patrick stationed in Iraq. He has sent pictures and sent me picture using his AKO address. Says he is from ohio
    Have you heard about him

  • Sharon Blount November 25, 2014, 11:08 pm

    I knew my instincts were right. Smh!!! From day 1!!!!!! Yea it burns me and to honestly believe I would any different. Clarkson Sylwester stevs aka Clarkson slywester. Slywesterclarkson@yahoo.com

  • me November 26, 2014, 12:51 am

    I have one. Hes all of the above. But he calls me from a magic jack number. All the same flags. But he uses the name John Patch.Hes never asked for money. Hes divorced with a 13yr old boy. And of course in Iraq. I met him on a Mormon Singles site. It kills md that not only is he on a Christisn site but impersonating a military man.

  • Pirjo Laakso November 26, 2014, 9:25 am

    Hi, I got facebook and email messages from Brian Neil Levine with pictures…. he is now in Iraq (?). He told me he is a single father of two boys….the name is fake and he replies in 3 or 4 different ways (not very good English some times) His email is …..
    He did send for example this…”My military education includes: Aviation Officer Basic Course, Rotary-Wing Flight School, Armor Scout Platoon Leader Course, Military Intelligence Officer Advanced Course, and the Army Command and General Staff College. I hold a Master of Science degree in Public Administration from Central Michigan University. I served my first tour as an Aeroscout Platoon Leader in the 5th Infantry Division, Ft. Polk, Louisiana. My next assignment was as the Assistant S3, 1-502d ATK AVN Regt, 2AD, Ft. Hood, Texas; followed by S2, 1-4th ATK AVN Regt, 4ID, Ft. Hood. After attending the MI Advanced Course, I served as the S4, 3rd Squadron, 6th Cavalry Regt, Republic of Korea. Upon return from Korea, I served as the S1, 1-3d ATK AVN Regt, 3ID, Hunter Army Airfield, Georgia. I then commanded Alpha Company, 1-3d ATK AVN Regt, 3ID, Hunter Army Airfield. After attending Army Command and General Staff College, I served as the Brigade S3, and later as the Brigade XO, of the 21st Cavalry Brigade, Ft. Hood. In 2003, I was selected to be the Brigade S3, 4th Combat Aviation Brigade, 4ID, Ft. Hood, and served in that position throughout the unit’s deployment to Operation Iraqi Freedom 2004-05.
    My awards include the Bronze Star Medal, Meritorious Service Medal with 2 Oak Leaf Clusters, Army Commendation Medal with 4 Oak Leaf Clusters, Iraqi Campaign Medal, Korea Defense Service Medal, Humanitarian Service Medal for Hurricane Katrina, two Overseas Service Ribbons, and a Meritorious Unit Citation from Operation Iraqi Freedom. I have earned the Senior Aviator Badge and the Parachutist Badge. I am qualified in the AH-64D Longbow Apache, the AH-64A Apache, the OH-58 Kiowa, and the UH-1 Iroquois “Huey” Helicopter. 5th Infantry Division, Ft. Polk, Louisiana, 1-502d ATK AVN Regt, 1-4th ATK AVN Regt, 4ID, Ft. Hood, 1-3d ATK AVN Regt, 3ID, Hunter Army Airfield, Georgia, Brigade XO, of the 21st Cavalry Brigade, Ft. Hood. In 2005, 4th Combat Aviation Brigade, 4ID, Ft. Hood, Operation Iraqi Freedom 2005-06. Operations/Aviation. I am currently deployed back to Iraq, serving under the NATO – ISAF’s Mission. 3rd Brigade Combat Team, 82nd Airborne Division….”
    I am living in Helsinki, Finland and he did sent me flowers, chocolate, a Teddy and a wine bottle, the wine came from Ireland???… After two days of writing to me he was madly in love and I was going to be his next wife… I can survive this, but it is sickning that he actually used pictures of those boys. All the best for everyone br Pirjo.

  • Murni Wiyati November 26, 2014, 7:21 pm

    I have been visiting your links for many times lately as I just knew it since last week from a friend.
    Please let me know can these email addresses be faked:


    I have written my story on your google member but I am sorry if I am being impatient.

    Thank you so much for replying me.

  • Aga November 27, 2014, 5:48 pm

    wow, seriously?! this is so embarrasing that I almost fell for this. I mean I never sent any money, because I thought it was weird he asked for money so I started to dig online about US Army bases and TS2 worldwide communication.
    Let me introduce Shawn Davidson special operations unit, US Army base in Germany :) I started to like him! this is so creepy!!!!
    He asked me to send $150 so he could call me. yeah right. oh, the funny thing is I met him on a christian dating site!!! wow, some girls out there must be warned, coz we christian ladies can be very naive and nice and compassionate.
    Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!

  • Paula Luna November 29, 2014, 7:09 pm

    here is a new one: i met him on wednesday, by tursday he loves me so much and want to marry me, on friday he is not online, on saturday he says he is not good, cause he is on charge of munitions and had lost a bullet, so he has to pay for it or else he is going to jail, that he has not access to his bank account so he need me to help him and as soon as he came to marry me he will pay the money.

  • Melissa C November 30, 2014, 4:41 pm

    Hi all. I wanted to report a scammer to you so you can let others know. His name is Emilio Lopez, 46, email address emiliolopez1520@gmail.com and emiliolopez613@yahoo.com. He likes to use Skype not yahoo.. When asked for details of his military job, he will change the subject. He will even go as far as to introduce you, via Skype, to his grandmother Patti. He claims to be in Baghdad and returning home to FL on Dec 5th. When he Skype’s with you he will ask for your camera but then tell you that he doesn’t have a mic or camera on his computer. Claims to work 7-3 m-f and have weekends off. (Anyone who has been in the military knows this is not a real work schedule I don’t care who you are) Well Friday, (its Sunday now) he claims to have been shot. I got the frantic call from gramdma, she was in tears, scared that he would not be ok. Today, he is fine and packing to go home. Out of the blue (I expected this to happen) he says.. baby send me some money so I can get the kids and granny a present in Dubai. I asked him just how much he wanted and his response was oh $4500 should be fine. At this point I turned off the camera and told him that I didn’t have it and would not be sending it. His response was anger then he hung up on me. A few hours later I logged back into Skype to find that he has deleted me. (Shocker) Please let others know about this man.

  • DLA November 30, 2014, 10:14 pm

    Within 24 hours of completing my profile on Christian Mingle Sgt John Galbraith age 55 stationed in Kabul Afghanistan for the last 1.5 years made contact. Within 2 weeks he was madly in love wanting to make a permanent life with me when he retires in two weeks, after being in since age 18. He is an only son, both parents are deceased. Has a son age 12 living in Ghana with his best friend, because his wife died in arms. He has sent me all kind of pics with him in military uniform, and with his son. He has sent a pic with him in uniform holding a picture with my name on it. But yet twice he has needed financial assistance for his son to get his son out of Ghana and back to the U.S. I have asked him for his APO address and his AKO email address and he gets angry claiming I don’t trust him and he does not share anything over the internet. I have tried to be the voice of reason – it has not worked. I told him I thought this was looking like a scam. I have even seen part of what he has written me on this very site. (“I saw you standing on a pier, the wind was blowing through your hair ……”) I researched him and he really comes up too clean. Has anyone else run across this man?

  • Kate December 1, 2014, 5:24 pm

    I have been communicating with “Capt. Bruce Clark James” from Long Beach California, supposedly stationed in Afghanistan. Luckily, when the information he was giving me sounded strange, I asked him for his CO at his home base, or anyone who could confirm that he was who he said. All the usual, he was in special ops, CIA, etc…none of it made sense. I became quite suspicious when he asked me to go to a website to purchase a special phone to talk to him. Soldiers don’t require you to purchase a special phone. They also would not hesitate to supply information to verify who they really are. Don’t fall for it. This guy’s e-mail was “proudsoldier55@gmail.com”.

  • Diane McBride December 3, 2014, 10:17 am

    I have been talking to a Sargent Major Perry Legg for a little over a year now. Everything was good until he ask me for money he claims the Army will not send him home from Afghanistan that he has to pay for his travel so me being stupid sent him money in the amount of 41,000.00 so he could come home . But I havent seen him yet so I figured I’m screwed . I know I will not get money back I just wanted to warn others of this. Do Not Send Anyone Money Its a Scam.

  • joyce December 3, 2014, 3:46 pm

    there are of fake military id flying around and i wouldn;t give them a penny ,they arent real/

  • Debora Rathmann December 4, 2014, 12:09 am

    The man I was recently talking to is pretending to be in the Air Force not the Army, but the story is the same. He sent me a picture of him and his kids. The creep. I figured it was a scam so I have stopped talking to him. The name he used was Henry Jordan and his email address is henryjordan151@yahoo.com. I guess he thought he had me hooked, but no. He couldn’t write English very well and asked for money. I also looked into what he was telling me. So much for conning me. I didn’t send any.

  • debby_holanda@msn.com December 5, 2014, 7:59 am

    hi my name is debby and I am a little time in contact with a lieutenant on facebook, maybe he is a scamming as I can discover if he really is in service to us army?

  • Rosa Espinoza December 5, 2014, 3:56 pm

    Hi am. Date this guy for. 7months he.
    Name is Capitan Joe. Crockett he ask me for money to send by wester union or moneygram but i dont send hen nothing yes how cant i comunication with the real joecrockett

  • Laura December 5, 2014, 11:39 pm

    I’m afraid for my girlfriend. She’s been talking to a man named Fred Hernandez. He claims to be in the military helping keep order with Ebola patients in south Africa. He has sent a large amount of money to her account and asked her to withdraw it and send it to him via moneygram. Unfortunately she has done so and scared the bank is going to tell her in a week or so it was a fraudulent deposit. She’s struggling financially now and I’m sure she’s going to owe the bank that money. She swears the bank said it’s ok but I don’t believe her. By the way she’s only been talking to him for 3 weeks. Help!!

  • Golnice December 6, 2014, 2:08 pm

    Hello everyone…. I would really like to appreciate this website it really opened my eyes…. Met this guy called Justice Babler on Okcupid about a month ago claiming he was in Qatar… he then started getting so romantic and sent me pictures of a very handsome guy…. I told him to turn on his webcam he told me it was impossible there… I asked him how he could chat with me he said he had made a computer there and decoded yahoo messenger and that nobody could trace him….. I was about to fall for everything he said…. some nights he suddenly left the conversation telling me somebody had entered their room… He said if he was got caught chatting with me they would put him in dungeon!!!! after some days he said he could not tolerate the situation and asked me to write his commander a leave request….. the email was Baseqatarusmillitary@usa.com I did so…. after a couple of days they asked me for my exact name address and the nearest airport to my home…. I was somehow scared and gave them fake information…. he told me it is ok and no need to be honest with them…. then it was the money part…. they asked me for 3000 dollars for paper work… I told him the whole thing sounded like a scam… the email was even full of spelling and grammar mistakes they had even called him a She…. I told him and he said yeah send me the email and let me see that… then he showed himself so shocked telling me that he had no idea why the money was asked!!! then after some days he called me on yahoo messenger crying and telling me he was sent to Iraq suddenly and he could not be in contact with me alot…..he disappeared for some days then sent me an email telling me ha had missed me ans stuff…. then one night in the middle of the night he called me crying again telling me no matter what happened he loved me and he wanted to have a family with me…. he had also told me his wife had cheated on him and they had got divorced and he had a son living with his mum and of course his mum was a widow…. and then 3 days ago he sent me an email telling me that his mum had been unconscious for 2 weeks she had a kidney failure and he had to send 17,700 dollars for the surgery but since he was in Iraq it was impossible he asked me to send him as much as I could…. then I told him I couldn’t because I live in Iran and we do not have any credit cards here whatsoever…. he asked me to ask my brother who lives in US to send him money promised me to pay it back in 3 days…. he kept calling me several times crying and begging me …. he told me he was so worried for his 2-year-old-son coz he was with a nanny now…. I was wondering how stupid the scammer was…. asking for money twice a month! he did not even give it time…. and searching the web I came across your page…. same scenarios…. then I sent him an email called him a scam and told him to go to hell…. no wonder no answer…… thank you again for all the info… hope mine is also useful for someone…. his email address is Justicebabler@yahoo.com which I’m sure he’s not gonna use again… LADIES DO NOT SEND A PENNY TO THESE PIGS…..LET US NOT LET LONELINESS MAKE A FOOL OF US….. peace to all ya

  • Kari December 7, 2014, 12:25 pm

    Just wondering if the same information applies to Marines. I am currently talking to a Marine who says he was deployed to Nigeria. Lots of little red flags life he can send email but can’t Skye or call because he doesn’t have minutes. I know he’s out in an inconvenient place where he doesn’t have access to everything but something doesn’t sound right. So when I ask for his AKO email, what might that look like since he is Marine. Even though he is different military branch, I really found this site helpful and bet these guys cross over. He uses the name Jose West.

  • Rose Hilderbrant December 7, 2014, 9:02 pm

    I had been in contact with an air force general for month. 4star. Now I am finding out I have been scamed. How can I turn the guy in? I know a lot about his family,cos I went under AF and found out, all what he text me was the truth. But I still got scamed. So now how do I complain about that to the AF?

  • Lorna Irving December 8, 2014, 12:23 pm

    I have been talking to this guy since August,He said his name is Jonney Carrick US Army. He sad that he was in Iraq, maybe in late nNovember he said he was deployed to West Africa, ebola free zone, all of a sudden he hate it there and keep on asking for money to pay for leave….its like this he wanted me to western union him 350 fo file for leave paper, then 2200 to pay for flight, then another day he said he got suspended because he tore his shoe and need 350 because he can’t go back to duty unless he get 350, the list goes on and on. he keep saying if i love him i would do this and he want to come home to be with me so back. He said if I western Union the leave money when he get to my place, we both will be getting an allowenced of 800 per week. I could write a book with the stuff he has been telling me. I started to think something is not right here. so glad I found this page or site.

  • Jane December 11, 2014, 9:38 am

    I’m talking to someone called guy lancaster!! Who is in a special mission!! He has given me a us.army.mil email address!!! Could they be a scammer!!!

  • Dar Yellowhair December 12, 2014, 11:16 pm

    I meanr a guy a couple months ago but has not ask me for any money r ask me for anything yet and he is jus a sweet guy dnt knw if I can trust him how can I find out if he is really stationed in Afghanistan. .? Please help me…

  • Erika December 14, 2014, 1:46 am

    Hi. I have been talking to this sergeant lucas Kelvin James for a month now, he is in Nigeria. He wants me to send western union $150 to pay for a month of talking on the phone. I wrote to his administration which is deployed_usmilitary@usa.com. I do not know if that is a true email or not. This man had his staff sergeant call my cell phone just the other day on a restricted number to make sure I was ok because I did not answer my Facebook for a few days. Is this real? I do not know if I should believe him or not but he really want to talk to me. He is also going to be coming home in time for my birthday in march and I am kind of scared because he and I never met and he is infatuated with me. Please help me.

  • Lisa December 14, 2014, 8:48 am

    I just wanted to say everything is true. I went on a dating website and went through so many fakes. I found a few real ones but they are as untrusting of us as we are of them because they also are getting scammed. I must have been through 50 fakes before i found a few real ones. Doesn’t matter how long it takes, if he asks for money in any way then he is a fake. Be smarter than these people, this is a kind of war to them. They attack us American women as a form of physiological warfare. Be strong and keep looking, you will find a good one. I did. Just educate yourself and it will become very easy to see the lies fast in the conversations. Real soldiers are aware of this problem and will answer as many questions as they can. If they are interested then they will give you all the information you need to check them and help you feel comfortable. Oh and don’t forget to check their I.P. address. That will tell you where they are using the internet from. Even if its from a internet cafe, which most of these scammers use, it will tell you what country it came from. ALL computers have an I.P. address. Good luck and dont be sad, be mad that they waisted your time on that when you could have been talking to someone real.

  • Guillermo Aboud December 15, 2014, 6:00 pm

    As I can read here each story is, more or less, the same: there is a scammer lying, cheating and trying to steal from us. I was exchanging messages with somebody that told me “she” was working with the Army in Kabul in special missions, and told me a tragic story about how his husband died fighting with a shark, and how much “she” loved me and more.
    After some days, insisting she loves me, told me that “she” discovered a box with millions of dollars from a raid on the Taliban. Summarizing, “she” ask me for all my bank and personal data, for transferring the money to me. Of course as I find this story crazy and ridiculous I started to investigate the profile and I discovered that “she”, the scammer, uses the a lot of photos of a female officer in the Army, regrettably fallen in combat. Therefore I decided to write in this web site because the terrible thing for me is the scammer using the photos and the story from a real soldier killed in action. Finally, this is another story that maybe helps to prevent from scammers. Thanks to this web site!

  • Anny Araujo December 16, 2014, 12:42 pm

    met a soldier in the chat, we talked and he asked me to help him get back home , I asked what I could do to help , he asked me to send an email to your captain calling for the release of it home , I’m scared not knowing that it could be a scam , please algume can help me clarify what should I do after that I now?

  • Michelle December 16, 2014, 4:32 pm

    I joined Christian Mingle and 1 day in I got a guy interested in me and ya by day 3 he loved me and wanted to take it to the next level and talk via phone, wanted me to hook up to the Military satellite with a refundable fee of 1100.00 . What the heck are you kidding me, I almost fell for it he was so charming they emailed me a request form I filled out, then 3 hours later it was approved and wanted me to send 1100.00, the mistake they made was sending me the same form in another woman’s name they forgot to take my email address out and put her’s in the major’s name was David Roger with a AKO address david.roger@us.army.mil all looked ligit , now I see so many red flags it’s unreal these people need to be stop NOW… they never got my money but how many other women are falling for these charming men or women for that matter, open your eyes ladies, there is no prince charming’s in this cruel world…thieves all thieves, I will never talk to anyone claiming to be from the Military ever again, I can’t believe they would use Christian site for stealing from women…SAD Just SAD.

    • lisa December 18, 2014, 5:54 pm

      There are prince charming’s, really there are. I found one. Just keep looking. Be smarter than these people. If your really interested in a Military man then educate yourself on everything. Learn the uniforms and the difference between the different branches of the Military and the difference between the summer and winter uniforms as well as the desert and mountain uniforms. Learn the rank insignia and where it is placed on the uniform, learn the metals and what they mean. Even learn the guns that our US Army is using today. A real soldier will appreciate your knowledge and a scammer will disappear fast and not mess with you. I have all kinds of things i can tell you on how to check to see if they are fake. I have been through it. I found a real Soldier. He’s the love of my life. Let me know if i can help. lgoldman4636@yahoo.com

  • patty December 19, 2014, 12:47 pm

    He’s back. He found me again. Now he says he’s in Ghana. Claiming his son died of malaria. He says he has no one to turn to but me. Because he now lost everyone. He wants me to send him $600 to book a flight. And he’ll be with me for Christmas. Can you believe that? I’m not falling for it anymore. I’m not answering his messages. And he’s still using the whole “you don’t care about me”, “how can you abandon me when I need you?”. But it’s not making me feel guilty because I know he’s fake.

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