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Are You Dating an Army Soldier or a Fake?

If you don’t want to read the rest of this article, there is one surefire way to know if your soldier is fake:

If a soldier you’re “dating” online asks you for money for ANY reason, it’s a scam. Period. End of story. [Click to tweet this]

And as my husband says….If you have to ask, it’s a scam.


UPDATE: Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from 374 people in these scams! Story here.

Since starting the website in 2004, I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not. Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site. And he is the one who just happened to find her while he was looking around and decided she’s going to be his future wife. What he really means is she’s going to be his next victim.


Stories That Are Lies

He’s in Special Operations

1. He is in a special operations unit and therefore cannot share any information with you. It’s true that special ops guys can’t discuss their job but that also means they don’t tell random strangers they’re in special ops. My husband was special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. Special ops guys don’t brag about it. They’re known as “quiet professionals” for a reason.

He’s Been Denied Leave

2. He has been deployed for two years, has been denied leave time and will not be coming home any time soon therefore you won’t be able to meet. If there were soldiers being denied leave after being overseas for years at a time, it would be ALL over the news. It’s a lie.

He’s on a Top Secret Mission

3. He is on a top secret mission in a country other than Iraq or Afghanistan (or even in Iraq or Afghanistan – it’s all lies). Now, we certainly do have troops in other countries. However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does!).

He Needs Permission from Someone in His Unit

4. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. This is followed by outrageous lies. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet. Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie.

Everyone Around Him is Dead

5. He says one of the following….his parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. My favorite is when they combine all these things. Really? I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him?

He Has No Mailing Address

6. He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often. Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address. And this is not a post office box and it’s not in Nigeria!! It also has nothing to do with a Western Union office. And you don’t have to send it through a relative because he can’t give out his address.

He Needs Money for Leave

7. He says he needs you to pay for his R&R leave because the Army doesn’t pay for it. This is absolutely false! A real soldier will not request money to travel home as he doesn’t need it! The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone. This includes emergency travel like the death of a loved one. It’s not like you just book your own flight home from Afghanistan on Delta.

He Needs You to Request His Leave

8. He says he can come home but you have to request his leave through an email address. If all an Army spouse had to do was email her soldier’s commander to get him home from deployment, don’t you think ALL Army spouses would be doing this? There would be no one deployed. The Army does not allow leave requests from Army family members. In fact, even in the case of the death of an immediate family member, the information has to be verified by the American Red Cross before the soldier’s command is contacted for possible leave by officials at the Red Cross – they don’t just take your word for it.

He Needs You to Pay for a Phone Line

9. He wants you to pay for a phone line, cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other. Real soldiers can call home for FREE. My husband deployed multiple times and we never paid for a single phone call. If he asks for this, he’s a scam artist. Not to mention, soldiers are making enough to buy a phone card if they really had to.

He’s About to Retire

10. He’s about to retire and then he can marry you and live happily ever after. This usually also includes stories about being a higher ranking officer. Typical story and it’s all lies. Real officers have even LESS time to be online talking to strangers over the internet.

His Child Needs XYZ

11. He has a child that is dying or needs surgery (or some other medical emergency) and he needs the money to pay for it. All military dependents are covered by Tricare, which for the most part is amazing insurance. I had a c-section and was in the hospital in a private room for three days. Know how much I paid? $12. Real soldiers aren’t paying out of pocket for their kid’s medical care.

He’s a General

12. And he’s only 28! Wow, talk about a quick advancement! LOL A General will have well over 20 years of service and less than 1% of officers will make it to the rank of General. On top of that, Generals make a minimum of $12,000 per month in JUST base pay. So why exactly would he need money from you?

His Pay is Deposited in the U.S. and He Has No Access

13. Seriously? First, the Army is providing the essentials while you’re deployed so there’s not a need for a lot of money overseas. Second, you can have access to your money, so this is yet another lie. There are ATMs on any main post and the PX accepts debit and credit cards. If he says he’s somewhere that there isn’t an ATM or another way to get money, there is also nothing for him to spend money on. So why does he need it?

He’s On a Peacekeeping Mission in {insert name of country}

14. Last time I checked we aren’t on a lot of peacekeeping missions in Nigeria and Syria. And if we were, a real soldier wouldn’t tell you that.

Verify The Truth

So how can you find out if he’s telling the truth?

The absolute best way to verify is with #2 – ask him to email you from his AKO address.

  1. Ask for his mailing address overseas. If he can’t provide one, he is lying. There is nothing secretive about an APO address. And an APO address will not be a post office box. It’s also not at a Western Union office!
  2. Ask him to give you his AKO email address rather than his yahoo, hotmail, etc. This will be his firstname.lastname@us.army.mil. All soldiers have an AKO account. There is NO reason why he can’t provide it – regardless of what unit he is assigned to, what his mission may be, who he’s working for, etc. And the AKO account is free so him saying his credit card hasn’t been processed or his account is locked because he didn’t pay is also a lie. If he refuses to provide this, he’s fake.

I originally had other questions you could ask regarding his training, etc, but I’m removing those because many people believed whatever ridiculous information he came up with when they asked.

But you say he’s sent you pictures or a copy of his ID?

Many have been provided pictures, copies of military identification cards, even videos. First, pictures can be grabbed from anywhere on the internet – there’s no guarantee you’re talking to that person. They may very well be using the picture of a real soldier but that doesn’t mean you’re talking to him. Some of these scumbags are using the pictures of soldiers who were killed in action to run their scams. It’s sick.

Someone told me once they were dating a General and she even had pictures. I told her to send them to me. Guess who the pictures were of? David Petraeus!

Some use totally fake pictures in uniforms that are all messed up – I’ve seen Army uniforms with Air Force tapes and Navy insignia – no joke.

I’ve seen very badly doctored military ID cards where it’s obvious he’s typed over information on the card. What’s funny is he’ll type over the only legitimate information on the card and replace it with something that makes no sense. Such as rank of SPC and pay grade of MAJ.

The pictures they use many times on military IDs are so fake and it’s so obvious. Real military ID pictures basically look like a mugshot – solid background with him in uniform and basically only showing his face (maybe the very top of his shoulders). Someone sent me one the other day that not only looked nothing like a military ID (more like a business card for a recruiter), it had a picture of a soldier who was obviously at a military ball or some other formal event as he had a bow tie with his dress uniform. That is NOT an ID picture.

Or maybe he’s added you on Facebook and even changed his relationship status to you

The Army posted this example on their Facebook page:


So exactly which one are you dating? Oh and by the way, I’ve never seen a soldier unless it was on an official page (such as the base commander’s page) that uses his rank in his name.

Soldiers Don’t Have Time For This

99.9% of military guys overseas don’t have the time available to them to email, chat and Skype for hours at a time or even every day online. They are too busy doing their JOB. And most have no interest in “dating” someone online while they’re deployed. Continuing to talk to their loved one that they knew before deployment? Absolutely! Time to peruse dating sites and chat for hours? Absolutely not.

But he said he loves you and wants to marry you….even though you “met” last week

I’m assuming if you’re falling for this, you’ve never been in a military town. Go downtown in a military town to a club one night and let me know how many single soldiers are there looking for the love of their life….not exactly what their goal is. And when you’re thousands of miles away from each other, he doesn’t have the opportunity to sleep with you. So the point would be???

Many of these stories contain comments about him saying he loves you within a few days/weeks of starting to talk or he wants to marry you as soon as he returns. Let’s get this straight – you haven’t met and certainly haven’t had the opportunity to have any kind of physical relationship, yet he wants to marry you? Does this sound feasible to you? If you’re even hesitating on the answer, I’ll help you. It’s not. They’re lying so they can get in your wallet. And they’re doing this to many others at the same time they’re doing it to you. It’s just who is going to open up access to their bank account first.

But you asked him if he was a scammer and he said no!

Come on, think about this! Why would he admit it to you? Or even better, he told you he is in fact a scammer but he REALLY loves you…..as long as you keep sending him money.

He hasn’t asked for money yet though

Don’t worry, he will. If any of the above signs sound familiar, it’s only a matter of time. He may get pretty far into his story before he asks. He may wait until his plane is suppose to leave and you’re meeting him in less than 24 hours. Then all of the sudden disaster strikes and he needs three grand to be able to come home. LIES!

Even though he’s doing these things, you still think he’s the real deal

I hate to be harsh but if any of the above sounds familiar, it’s a SCAM. Don’t sit there and think you’re the exception. You’re not the lucky one who’s encountered these signs but somehow your guy is the real deal. He’s FAKE. He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t want to marry you. And sooner or later, he’s going to ask for money.

I get emails and messages (or comments) from people who tell me the story and ask me if he’s fake. I answer yes, it’s a scam. And what do they do? Keep asking me more questions – but he does this or he said this or he sent me these pictures. Guess what? The answer is still the same. It’s a scam. Go back and read the first line in bold at the top of this article. I don’t care if he asks you to mail him a penny – a real soldier will NOT ask you for money. A real soldier makes more overseas than he does when he’s home!!

The Scam Checklist

So let me sum this up:

  • If he’s asking for money for a phone line, it’s a scam.
  • If he’s asking for money for travel home, it’s a scam.
  • If he needs you to help him move money from one location to another, it’s a scam.
  • If he asks for your bank account information, it’s a scam.
  • If he wants you to wire money for ANY reason via Western Union (or similar service), it’s a scam.
  • If he asks you to email his command so he can come home, it’s a scam.
  • If he tells you to open a bank account or credit card for him, it’s a scam (and this one could get you into legal trouble!)

PLEASE quit sending these people money! If you’re just itching to give away your money, send it to me! haha After all, I’ve spent more hours than I can count updating this article with the latest techniques and answering questions here and elsewhere.

Finally, if you don’t believe me, please read this article from the Army – Soldier Scams

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • kenette February 16, 2015, 8:31 am

    I have been dating this guy for four months. He was on a tour, he was schedule to be home on February 12,2015 but on the 9th he emailed me telling me his close friend in the army with him, cousin was killed and that his friend wants him to go to Nigeria for the funeral and that he would be back in two days. So they were waiting for permission to travel there . Permission was granted. So on the day the troops were headed back they all left for airport as a team.he email me saying he made it there safely. Telling me he was tired .OK back in January he went to medics cause he didn’t feel well they gave him a pill and he was OK .so couple times he said he was just tired and stressed.so the night he got ready to leave he email me saying he headed to airport. Thirty minutes later he said he was at airport but was dizzy.Next money I get a email from his friend telling me he is in a coma, that he passed out in airport. He said he contacted the army and they told him that because they went on personal it was nothing they could do,so the guy had to scan some papers over to the DOD fiance for a request of 2350 to pay the balance for the doctors. He gave me the name of the hospital. He said the army did respond and said it would take ten business days to send money. We would talk everyday but for only maybe ten minutes. Before work ,on his lunch and after work.and if he had PT we would talk a little later for only a couple minutes. When I say talk I mean do a chat on yahoo messenger. He has called me several times but we talk about three to five minutes. What is go on could someone please help me. He never gave me a sad story. He said he has custody of his two girls.but he has a nanny and his sister was helping out but she moved in January to be with her boyfriend. Could this be real or a fake He would always tell me I was God sent

  • Linda Walker February 16, 2015, 8:36 am

    Someone using a Facebook page posed as Thomas R. Donard is pretending to be a US soldier in the Middle East. The fool asked me to wire $295 Western Union at 3 AM in the morning for a phone line. Needles to say they want be getting one dime from me. I just want a way to warn others.

  • kenette February 16, 2015, 8:46 am

    I need to add to my question from above. We starting texting in November, i recieved a email for dinner it was a surprise that he was coming to see me. He ordered his ticket he was going be here for least then 24 hours. He had a email saying he had to report to base for a emergency meeting. He found out he was leaving the day he was suppose to fly out. He did tell me because of the job it was classified but he wouldn’t be gone to long. We use to text early morning when he was in the states and text after six p.m. then when he got on tour we started the messenger. On the 11th of February he had a dozen of roses delivered to me. He never came out and asked for money please help me I’m lost

  • Nik Mclean February 16, 2015, 9:02 pm

    Lt. Col. Tom Morgan on deployment in Afghanistan in the bomb squad. I was skeptical from the first point of contact. He has told me a lot of personal stuff his mum is Austalian (that’s where I am) his dad died some years back his brother (Gary) is in be U.S still but none talk much since his dad died. He was going to apply for leave to come to Australia but apparently his leave pass expired & it costs $700 to renew & funnily enough he can’t access his funds. He has not asked me for this money (I’m broke anyway so he’s got the wrong woman). I confronted him about it he said I never asked & I’m not going to by I know it’s complete lies that he can’t access his funds if he can access a computer to chat on yahoo he can access his bank. I’m waiting for a response about his AKO and I asked him originally about Skype he doesn’t have it but yet it’s free on an iPad or laptop to download. I am 99.9% this is a scammer & he’s not going to like me when I’m finished with him!

  • Michelle Mcintosh February 17, 2015, 10:22 pm

    hi my name is michelle but i prefure shelly and you should give your self a big pat on the back you do a good thing for wemon all over the world i am in h and have been corrasponding with a soldier from the us army he sent two photos of him in uniform one with a dark man and the other was the same photo with the dark man removed his email address is theswampdswampfox@gmail.com dob 8/3/1967 he has 2years more on deployment and what he was looking for in life and wanted to keep intouch to see if we could build a relationship together ans mayde one day become his wife he said he was a widower with no kids we have been emailing to each other since 14/12/2014 i told my friend about him and she warned me if these scammers as she coped one her self at that time he hadnt asked me for anything until his last email a few days ago he aaked me to help him with some funds to help with his up keep and to get things he needed i have never been in the army or had a man in the army but i know enough to know that the army dose previde tge things that the men and wemon need so the warning bells went off double time i played along i want ti see the response u get back so i emailed him back and said that if i could help him with funds i would but i only just get by with what i get my self and i dont have any spear cash that i could send him sorry so i will see what i get back but he was good at what he dose he sounded so real in his words so keep up the good work stacy if it werent for you alot more if use wemon would be destatute cause of them scum bags if there is anything i can do to help you get the word around about these scumbags please let me know my email is shellymcintosh1@gmail.com shelly

  • Michelle Mcintosh February 17, 2015, 10:39 pm

    hi its just me again the soldier i just told you about said he was a top ranked feild sargent and gose by the name of felix steel his uniform also has his last name on it and that he was stationed in kabul Afganistan with his team on a privet sting operation shelly

  • Lori w February 18, 2015, 7:42 am

    I have been talking with a guy named kennybradley84@gmail.com. Hehas told me he is stationed at camp egger but told me to mail anything to ABU Firdaws Ghana tamales 00233.????

  • Stacy wilson February 18, 2015, 3:41 pm

    Thank you Stacey for all your information and thanks to you I am not a victim of these scammers. If I friend someone and they say there in the military I asked for their AKO email and if I get a BS answer its goodbye.

  • Lauren February 19, 2015, 11:22 pm

    Hey! I’m looking for some help/advice in regards to my “Boyfriend” who is in the army but I haven’t met him yet. I’ve been reading around and getting a little scared about some of the things I have read about scammers etc. … I guess the best way is to summarise my story. I met my army “Boyfriend” on chatroulette, I know not the best place to meet guys but he was on there with some mates and we just hit it off. Decided to swap details and wanted my number but considering he is on the other side of the world it would be to expensive so I agreed to Skype.
    So now he is deployed in Iraq so we Skype all the time and this is on video we also snap chat each other and through skype he has shown me while i was on skype to him the pic i sent to him on snapchat so I know he really is the person he says he is no problem with that. So we had been talking and getting along awesome I was super happy with our friendship, then one day he caught me off guard and asked me to be his “girlfriend” I think it’s kind of funny that I’ve never met him but he wants to be in a relationship I said yes any way thinking it would be fun. Things have been awesome its really light hearted and fun we make each other laugh and enjoy seeing each other. He has started to get more serious saying he is coming to see me in a couple of months, I’m super excited about it but I’m also taking the approach not going to believe it till I see it. It’s getting harder for me as I’m starting to get to know him even more and I can feel myself really falling for him but I keep thinking to myself I can’t be falling in love with him IVE NEVER MET HIM!
    I guess that’s why I’m interested to see if anyone is in this situation or has any advice on it and maybe it really did work out and he wasnt a fake? I don’t know what to expect … i mean if he is fake he has centainly fooled me … thoughts ?

  • Amy February 20, 2015, 6:37 am

    Has anyone recently talked with Martin Marcio? On Facebook he is Alex Martin Marcio. I don’t know who the identity is of the profile picture..if it is a victim also, or part of the scam. But he claims to be
    a SSgt in Afghanistan, about to retire…single dad..his wife died of a heart disease…has legal fees -needs 27k in a week….(uh-huh)…I have pictures…willing o share…

    Be careful…he is a smooth talker..sometimes….

  • Nina February 21, 2015, 3:50 pm

    Hi, I am very concerned for a friend of mine. She is a widow and gets lonely, she has been seeking a friend/companion on the dating websites. A man who claims to be Army Captian Michael Lamb from Lubbock, TX and also from Michigan has been telling her he is going to be retiring from the military, but they have continued his stay abroad. He supposedly needed his luggage/ or personal items shipped back to the US, including a ring he bought her so that they could get married, but now his luggage has been shipped to China somehow????? I am very concerned for my friend, as I said she is a widow, and I believe she is the victim of an ugly scam, she has sent money already in very large amounts to help this supposed Army Captain. Any and all advice would be helpful, and if there is any way to get her money back, or if anyone has heard of this man please let me know. Thank you so much. Oh yes, another thing, she said he sends her emails from a Yahoo account.

  • Jeanne February 22, 2015, 1:26 am

    Great article w/info. 2/17/2015 I rec’d a friend request on my Facebook site. He looked legit
    except little information, no pics of his family, etc. asked me to open Yahoo Messenger. Red flag.
    Why couldn’t he message me via FB. I see your point I could have asked for AKO email address.
    More flags arose. Calling me baby, unusual love approaches. Will be home and could he fly out to California to see me. 42 yo wife died of cancer. 9 year old son. I grew suspicious. Reported him to Facebook and they deleted him. Before he was deleted, I emailed one of his friends. This lady booted him out immediately. Knew he was a scam. The pic of the soldier was very handsome and clean cut, I could easily have fallen in love with his wholesomeness. So sad that these creepy scammers use photos of soldiers. Wanted to share my recent experience. Let the intuition sound forth and listen to it. Hope you can reply to this note. Sincerely, Jeanne California

  • nanc February 22, 2015, 4:54 pm

    Army goes by dave bill son pebbo r dave his email.! Davebill50 @yahoo.com. . Retiring this yr.son in ghana dead wife car accident with real son.but adopted a son. He says he is from albany texas.

  • Nat February 22, 2015, 5:20 pm


    I did read your blog multiple times, and I think you are really funny. Well I think I know he is a scam, but can’t help to ask for your confirmation anyway. His name is Theo Miles. He said he is a Apache pilot. He has been with the army for 19 years. He is now 46 years old. He was very convincing and was able to manipulate me to develop feelings for him. He said he is in Afghanistan now at Bagram Airfield Base, Kabul. His pictures seem real. Until one day he asked me to pay for his internet for 3 months since he said for some reason he didn’t have access to his fund. He would give it to me back when is back home. He said I will have to get Reloadit card. I questioned him about why the card, why did he pay for his own internet, what provider he would use,…etc. I told him it didn’t seem to make sense to me. He got pretty mad. Then I did some research and found your article. I realized he is a scam, so I deleted him from YM. I intended to never talk to him again. Then he dropped me nasty messages, and I responded. Below is the content.

    theomilez: hello babe
    theomilez: well you have never been on my mind and i tried to chat with you, the moment i sent you a message you logged out .. i think your feelings are not real and you are full of shit .. you never bothered to make a contact and yet you said you were falling . you threw away what we were having just because of 500 dollars .. shame on you .. have a wonderful life
    theomilez: bye
    Me: omg are you serious?
    Me: I didn’t see that you logged in.
    Me: Number one who are you anyway?
    Me: Well I know how I felt. I did fall for someone that is not real. I don’t believe you are who you said you are. You and I both know it.
    Me: Thats funny you said I am full of shit. What about you?
    Me: Can you even look at yourslef in a mirror and feel good about yourself?
    Me: I think not.
    Me: You know it wasn’t about $500 if that were true. You and I both know that was a lie. I would consider sending it to you if that was real. Guess what I did some checking myself. Soldiers on deployment don’t need to pay for their internet.
    Me: You know you are pretty good at fooling other people and playing with someone’s heart. On top of that you have enough nerves to say this nasty things to me. I can’t belive someone like you.
    Me: Who is that guy in the pictures you sent me? Does he even know you use his pictures?
    Me: Like I said you are good at what you do which is fooling other people and playing with people’s heart. I am not your first victim. I am sure of it. I don’t know why you do what you do. I thought we were falling in love. What a joke. You are not capable of falling for anyone. Not sure what make you such a heartless soul.
    Me: Shame on you even more.
    Me: I hope you have some decency in you. Stop manipulating people to fall in love with somene that is not real. That is wrong.
    Me: Good bye

    theomilez: I am prety sure you should feel stupid right now for saying what you dont know shit about .. FYI i am real and I am the one in those pictures .. if you like accept that if you like choose what you want to believe in .. if you want to know how stupid you are then i challenge you we do a video cam .. i will be waiting online so you see me and my gears on and you see where i am .. stupid cunt .. its your loss ..
    theomilez: next time you meet somebody else take the chance and dont let money be your priority and learn to take a risk when you dont even have full belief .. bbeing over protective wont get you no where.. mark my words and see if you meet someone that would ever be as true as i am to you ..
    theomilez: well after waiting this long online waiting to see if you wanted to video chat and you never showed up .. so i would just say you have a good life ..BYE
    Me: Wow really?
    Me: What was the need of you to call me nasty name?????
    Me: If what you said was true, still no need for you to be so rude.
    Me: So much so of how you used to feel about me. Not sure where this anger came from. I would have loved to accept your challenge but it was 4-5 am in the morning. You would have known I was sleeping at the time.
    Me: It wasn’t a fair challenge when you knew your opponent couldn’t show up. Well I will log on tonight 10 pm my time. You can prove me wrong then.

    He is a fake, isn’t he? Oh his mom died when he was little. His dad died a few years ago. He said he has only been in the military. He even went to military school.

    • Stacey Abler March 1, 2015, 12:22 pm

      You know what even if he isn’t (and he likely is), why would you want to continue to speak with someone who called you that? If his internet needs to be paid, tell him to take it out of his own pay. He gets paid twice a month and it’s more when he’s deployed than when he’s at home (and he has less expenses over there!).

  • medic February 23, 2015, 8:58 am

    hello,thanks for wrote those tips for us ,I met a USsoldier who have mission in Taliban on Internet and we talk on Skype only few weeks .i stumbled read your tips here ,so I did ask him to sent me email by his military email address .he said he have one but he refused to sent me email ,he also mentioned he use it for office matters only .he got very angry after I insisted to ,also he said he can’t use camera in camp there unless he back to us . he Explained he angry because I doubt him ,we didn’t talk any more after that .apart from this two (AKOand camera).he said everything are correct since I would double check on other way (mostly on internet),he never married and have a mother at home ,he hire a nanny to taking care his mother since he has no father.
    We talk again after I apologized to him for doubting him .but still not sure if he is truly interested in me or others.and two more things I can not verified are he have night shift there and he have vacation every four months.

  • Amanda February 23, 2015, 4:55 pm

    First, I want to thank you, Stacy, for this article.
    My scammer found me on http://www.tagged.com. He goes by the name William Roy, an ARMY MP (or, by doing an image search using image.google.com, Roy Williams.) This fella is a silver tongued devil, let me tell ya. He is “deployed” to Iraq and certainly has the hours down. I only talk to him before he racks out, and before he heads out to work, (or patrol). My first hinky feeling came when I asked him if he needed anything, since I was already putting together a care package for a friend’s son stationed in Germany. He told me that 4 weeks ago a care package was sent that contained explosive materials… he went so far as to tell me a “time bomb”. Due to the contents of the care package, the receiving of packages had been stopped for the time being. I understand that, and even agree with it. Then he went on to tell me that the only thing they could receive is money, sent to an agent in the states then the funds would be made available to him. He then said he needed about $220.00 for items he needed to purchase from the store on base. (He said store, not PX ). That when I was ready to send the money, to message him, and he would get the information for the available agent from the information unit that day.
    After I agreed to send the money, he dropped the subject. All good. (I haven’t sent the money, but I wanted to draw him out more.) Not long after that, he said “I never thought true love exist before I met you.” 2nd warning flag. Who the heck can fall in love without even hearing the other person’s voice. I mean REALLY fall in love. Oh, he turned my head and my heart over, kept me all tangled up…but meeting someone, talking to someone, spending time with that special someone…that is what builds a relationship. He asked me about my day, and I told him that I had taken my cousin’s children out sledding, and that they were in competition to see which one could drive me to drink first.. His reply was “It seems fun there……I can’t wait till I’m home with you and have our own kids.” He supposedly has an 18 year old daughter and a 12 year old son.
    Now, I know not everyone is eloquent when they’re texting or messaging. But some of his words were just off. Such as “I need to go to bed and have have some rest”. “Have”, not “get”. Just little things that are extremely common to people in the States, but apparently other countries have a problem grasping. He never uses any military terms… and the little “off” questions I’ve asked him (such as “what does ISAF really do?”) he gives answers that I swear were copied and pasted from Wikipedia. Then the clincher. Last night he was talking to me and wrote “You are everything that I need and want in a woman. You are my best friend,my soul mate, my hear desire,the light that clears the darkness from my life. You make me a better person Just by being you And with you,The Love That Exists…will never fade away”… Google is a person’s best friend here. It sounded so much like a quote, that I Googled it. https://www.scamwarners.com/forum/viewtopic.php?p=199277 … it’s the third one down. It’s not verbatim, but very close. So, I confronted him on it… couldn’t stop myself. He got very upset and said that if I doubted him, then there could be no relationship. *Sigh*. So, I admit, I apologized, because if this is real, if HE is real, I don’t want that screwed up.
    So… back to my reason for posting this. Thank you Stacy. I will be asking for his APO/FPO address and his AKO e-mail address. If he fails these…then it’s been fun chatting with him. If he passes…then it has been fun chatting with him and I will continue to do so.

  • betty February 23, 2015, 8:58 pm

    My friend starting talking to this guy who says he’s in the marines and he lives in Texas. He just got deployed to Nigeria. He said he had to leave his son with his son’s teacher because his mom left when he was a year old and they don’t no where she is. She has already sent him money and a phone because he said he didn’t have access to his money. He told her that he had to ask his CEO if he could call her but he sends her text messages all the time. She met him on http://www.Zoosk.com. So how do we find out if he is real

  • shiraz h February 25, 2015, 9:34 am

    hello i Need advice and help plz. few week ago i meet somebody ,he said he is Military soldier in Afghanistan since 13 months now ,i dont have anyinformation abt him just his Name is gordon metus and few in Formations ab him .we contact each other mostely of the time by emails on yahoo and not ofen on Messenger maybe till now just 2 times but i insisted to heard his voice and saw him on cam but he just tell i hav to contact Military Office welfare to procure a Military calling Card for our behalf and am dombt and confused plz if u can help me with Logical and true answer i will be plissed thanks

  • Svetka February 25, 2015, 7:59 pm

    Anyone knows Zuma duncan or Zuma bryn .zumabryn@yahoo.com thank you

  • Boryana Gecheva February 26, 2015, 5:01 am

    I have a question, in fact 2 questions. Does anybody know if there are deployed USA peacemakers in Syria, namely in Aleppo and Damascus? Could every deployed soldier (peacemaker), who has an Internet connection available, reach his/her bank account, check for transfered payments and transfer money to dependents?

  • Becky February 26, 2015, 10:56 pm

    Daniellonnie22@yahoo.com or Daniel Lonnie is a scam. Claims to be an E-6 SSG getting ready to retire.

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