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Are You Dating an Army Soldier or a Fake?

If you don’t want to read the rest of this article, there is one surefire way to know if your soldier is fake:

If a soldier you’re “dating” online asks you for money for ANY reason, it’s a scam. Period. End of story. [Click to tweet this]

And as my husband says….If you have to ask, it’s a scam.

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UPDATE: Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from 374 people in these scams! Story here.

Since starting the website in 2004, I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not. Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site. And he is the one who just happened to find her while he was looking around and decided she’s going to be his future wife. What he really means is she’s going to be his next victim.

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Stories That Are Lies

He’s in Special Operations

1. He is in a special operations unit and therefore cannot share any information with you. It’s true that special ops guys can’t discuss their job but that also means they don’t tell random strangers they’re in special ops. My husband was special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. Special ops guys don’t brag about it. They’re known as “quiet professionals” for a reason.

He’s Been Denied Leave

2. He has been deployed for two years, has been denied leave time and will not be coming home any time soon therefore you won’t be able to meet. If there were soldiers being denied leave after being overseas for years at a time, it would be ALL over the news. It’s a lie.

He’s on a Top Secret Mission

3. He is on a top secret mission in a country other than Iraq or Afghanistan (or even in Iraq or Afghanistan – it’s all lies). Now, we certainly do have troops in other countries. However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does!).

He Needs Permission from Someone in His Unit

4. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. This is followed by outrageous lies. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet. Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie.

Everyone Around Him is Dead

5. He says one of the following….his parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. My favorite is when they combine all these things. Really? I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him?

He Has No Mailing Address

6. He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often. Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address. And this is not a post office box and it’s not in Nigeria!! It also has nothing to do with a Western Union office. And you don’t have to send it through a relative because he can’t give out his address.

He Needs Money for Leave

7. He says he needs you to pay for his R&R leave because the Army doesn’t pay for it. This is absolutely false! A real soldier will not request money to travel home as he doesn’t need it! The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone. This includes emergency travel like the death of a loved one. It’s not like you just book your own flight home from Afghanistan on Delta.

He Needs You to Request His Leave

8. He says he can come home but you have to request his leave through an email address. If all an Army spouse had to do was email her soldier’s commander to get him home from deployment, don’t you think ALL Army spouses would be doing this? There would be no one deployed. The Army does not allow leave requests from Army family members. In fact, even in the case of the death of an immediate family member, the information has to be verified by the American Red Cross before the soldier’s command is contacted for possible leave by officials at the Red Cross – they don’t just take your word for it.

He Needs You to Pay for a Phone Line

9. He wants you to pay for a phone line, cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other. Real soldiers can call home for FREE. My husband deployed multiple times and we never paid for a single phone call. If he asks for this, he’s a scam artist. Not to mention, soldiers are making enough to buy a phone card if they really had to.

He’s About to Retire

10. He’s about to retire and then he can marry you and live happily ever after. This usually also includes stories about being a higher ranking officer. Typical story and it’s all lies. Real officers have even LESS time to be online talking to strangers over the internet.

His Child Needs XYZ

11. He has a child that is dying or needs surgery (or some other medical emergency) and he needs the money to pay for it. All military dependents are covered by Tricare, which for the most part is amazing insurance. I had a c-section and was in the hospital in a private room for three days. Know how much I paid? $12. Real soldiers aren’t paying out of pocket for their kid’s medical care.

He’s a General

12. And he’s only 28! Wow, talk about a quick advancement! LOL A General will have well over 20 years of service and less than 1% of officers will make it to the rank of General. On top of that, Generals make a minimum of $12,000 per month in JUST base pay. So why exactly would he need money from you?

His Pay is Deposited in the U.S. and He Has No Access

13. Seriously? First, the Army is providing the essentials while you’re deployed so there’s not a need for a lot of money overseas. Second, you can have access to your money, so this is yet another lie. There are ATMs on any main post and the PX accepts debit and credit cards. If he says he’s somewhere that there isn’t an ATM or another way to get money, there is also nothing for him to spend money on. So why does he need it?

He’s On a Peacekeeping Mission in {insert name of country}

14. Last time I checked we aren’t on a lot of peacekeeping missions in Nigeria and Syria. And if we were, a real soldier wouldn’t tell you that.

Verify The Truth

So how can you find out if he’s telling the truth?

The absolute best way to verify is with #2 – ask him to email you from his AKO address.

  1. Ask for his mailing address overseas. If he can’t provide one, he is lying. There is nothing secretive about an APO address. And an APO address will not be a post office box. It’s also not at a Western Union office!
  2. Ask him to give you his AKO email address rather than his yahoo, hotmail, etc. This will be his firstname.lastname@us.army.mil. All soldiers have an AKO account. There is NO reason why he can’t provide it – regardless of what unit he is assigned to, what his mission may be, who he’s working for, etc. And the AKO account is free so him saying his credit card hasn’t been processed or his account is locked because he didn’t pay is also a lie. If he refuses to provide this, he’s fake.

I originally had other questions you could ask regarding his training, etc, but I’m removing those because many people believed whatever ridiculous information he came up with when they asked.

But you say he’s sent you pictures or a copy of his ID?

Many have been provided pictures, copies of military identification cards, even videos. First, pictures can be grabbed from anywhere on the internet – there’s no guarantee you’re talking to that person. They may very well be using the picture of a real soldier but that doesn’t mean you’re talking to him. Some of these scumbags are using the pictures of soldiers who were killed in action to run their scams. It’s sick.

Someone told me once they were dating a General and she even had pictures. I told her to send them to me. Guess who the pictures were of? David Petraeus!

Some use totally fake pictures in uniforms that are all messed up – I’ve seen Army uniforms with Air Force tapes and Navy insignia – no joke.

I’ve seen very badly doctored military ID cards where it’s obvious he’s typed over information on the card. What’s funny is he’ll type over the only legitimate information on the card and replace it with something that makes no sense. Such as rank of SPC and pay grade of MAJ.

The pictures they use many times on military IDs are so fake and it’s so obvious. Real military ID pictures basically look like a mugshot – solid background with him in uniform and basically only showing his face (maybe the very top of his shoulders). Someone sent me one the other day that not only looked nothing like a military ID (more like a business card for a recruiter), it had a picture of a soldier who was obviously at a military ball or some other formal event as he had a bow tie with his dress uniform. That is NOT an ID picture.

Or maybe he’s added you on Facebook and even changed his relationship status to you

The Army posted this example on their Facebook page:

scam-soldier

So exactly which one are you dating? Oh and by the way, I’ve never seen a soldier unless it was on an official page (such as the base commander’s page) that uses his rank in his name.

Soldiers Don’t Have Time For This

99.9% of military guys overseas don’t have the time available to them to email, chat and Skype for hours at a time or even every day online. They are too busy doing their JOB. And most have no interest in “dating” someone online while they’re deployed. Continuing to talk to their loved one that they knew before deployment? Absolutely! Time to peruse dating sites and chat for hours? Absolutely not.

But he said he loves you and wants to marry you….even though you “met” last week

I’m assuming if you’re falling for this, you’ve never been in a military town. Go downtown in a military town to a club one night and let me know how many single soldiers are there looking for the love of their life….not exactly what their goal is. And when you’re thousands of miles away from each other, he doesn’t have the opportunity to sleep with you. So the point would be???

Many of these stories contain comments about him saying he loves you within a few days/weeks of starting to talk or he wants to marry you as soon as he returns. Let’s get this straight – you haven’t met and certainly haven’t had the opportunity to have any kind of physical relationship, yet he wants to marry you? Does this sound feasible to you? If you’re even hesitating on the answer, I’ll help you. It’s not. They’re lying so they can get in your wallet. And they’re doing this to many others at the same time they’re doing it to you. It’s just who is going to open up access to their bank account first.

But you asked him if he was a scammer and he said no!

Come on, think about this! Why would he admit it to you? Or even better, he told you he is in fact a scammer but he REALLY loves you…..as long as you keep sending him money.

He hasn’t asked for money yet though

Don’t worry, he will. If any of the above signs sound familiar, it’s only a matter of time. He may get pretty far into his story before he asks. He may wait until his plane is suppose to leave and you’re meeting him in less than 24 hours. Then all of the sudden disaster strikes and he needs three grand to be able to come home. LIES!

Even though he’s doing these things, you still think he’s the real deal

I hate to be harsh but if any of the above sounds familiar, it’s a SCAM. Don’t sit there and think you’re the exception. You’re not the lucky one who’s encountered these signs but somehow your guy is the real deal. He’s FAKE. He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t want to marry you. And sooner or later, he’s going to ask for money.

I get emails and messages (or comments) from people who tell me the story and ask me if he’s fake. I answer yes, it’s a scam. And what do they do? Keep asking me more questions – but he does this or he said this or he sent me these pictures. Guess what? The answer is still the same. It’s a scam. Go back and read the first line in bold at the top of this article. I don’t care if he asks you to mail him a penny – a real soldier will NOT ask you for money. A real soldier makes more overseas than he does when he’s home!!

The Scam Checklist

So let me sum this up:

  • If he’s asking for money for a phone line, it’s a scam.
  • If he’s asking for money for travel home, it’s a scam.
  • If he needs you to help him move money from one location to another, it’s a scam.
  • If he asks for your bank account information, it’s a scam.
  • If he wants you to wire money for ANY reason via Western Union (or similar service), it’s a scam.
  • If he asks you to email his command so he can come home, it’s a scam.
  • If he tells you to open a bank account or credit card for him, it’s a scam (and this one could get you into legal trouble!)

PLEASE quit sending these people money! If you’re just itching to give away your money, send it to me! haha After all, I’ve spent more hours than I can count updating this article with the latest techniques and answering questions here and elsewhere.

Finally, if you don’t believe me, please read this article from the Army – Soldier Scams

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Denita June 9, 2015, 7:50 am

    Hi, I met someone who claims to be a soldier. to make it short, he hasn’t asked for money..but asked if I could give him my account so he can put money in it..the reason..? supposedly his ex was using his money and he deactivated the card. so he want to put it in mine to send to him. I asked for the email address you suggested, and he said that’s for his son to reach him..the army knows he’s not married so he didn’t want to give it..fake, isn’t he?

  • ann June 9, 2015, 3:35 pm

    hi I just met the american military love of my life frank babcock his face is still up online or rather some handsome innocent soldier in peace keeping in sudan who then asked me for money for a military calling card and who can’t email but has facebook messanger oh yea his mom and dad are dead that made me smile reading that part
    thanks
    ann in ireland
    never heard of this before and I thought I was clued in
    has to be a scam right!
    I’m convincing myself now
    thanks again
    your a friend

  • brown cody June 10, 2015, 2:19 am

    How can will stop corruption in our countries this is gettig too much for women to handle.I think the government need to do something and protect the soldiers

  • donna pearson June 10, 2015, 11:41 am

    I have been scammed for nearly 2000.00 from a general Francis Campbell also known as General John Francis Campbell. He has son named Jonathan that attends a private school in Ghana. He has his son email me also. He is on a peace mission sent over by the UN. He needed money to come home on. He is retiring and I had to send 1100.oo dollars to a woman in Germany. I have all the information because I sent her a money gram which the UN gave me the address. After I sent it they wanted an other 5000.00 to send him home. The first amount was froe a marriage certificate it goes on and on. He thinks I am now trying to get the money up to send him home

  • Patricia Daniel June 11, 2015, 4:52 am

    I am dating this guy who sends me picture of him and his kid and swears he loves me and wants to marry me but he asked me email his commander to come home I spent over 750.00now the commander wants 1,550.00for his flight that got my attention what should I do? I’m new to this.

  • Nightmare come true June 11, 2015, 3:06 pm

    I’m one of those people that thought “that would never happen to me or anyone i know” but it did. It happened to my mom, I just found out on Tuesday 6/9/15 and she had just sent him 500 dollars earlier that day. Overall she lost 54K…yes, 54 THOUSAND DOLLARS. Promises of paying her back when he returns in September. Telling her she is his soulmate, and God sent her to him. He found my mom while at her weakest time of her life. We had just lost my dad and she was mourning and lonely and he filled that void for her. He goes by the name NICOLE RICHARDSON MALDONADO, he is still on Facebook at this very moment. Claims to live in Trenton Garden, New Jersey but is stationed in Syria, yet all the money she sent via “Western Union” was sent to Nygeria. Here are the names of the people (so called agents that picked up the money for him)
    James Collins
    City: Akure – State: Ondo – Country: Nigeria

    Akinyemi Taiwo Temitope
    City: Idonre – State: Ondo – Country: Nigeria

    Gregory Isaac Promise
    City: Akure – State: Ondo – Country: Nigeria

    This was supposedly his Aunt
    Alice Robinson
    Blue Pine Dr.
    Indianapolis, IN

    I was advised to report this to http://www.ic3.gov – they will open up a case for you and it is reported to the appropriate authorites, FBI will even get involved depending on the severity of your case.

    He asked her for her bank routing number and also her apple Id and password. She gave this information to this piece of scum. We have spent the last 2 days changing all of her information to try and protect what she has left. I don’t want to share my mother’s name but i feel it is important to share her story. This is happening ladies, this is very true and very much a SCAM. Please feel free to contact me, I’m willing to answer any questions if will help even 1 person.

  • Lisa June 11, 2015, 8:40 pm

    He is telling me that the army made flight arrangements for him to fly out of Kenya but stationed in Somalia. Says he has to get himself there, is that true? Or will they bring him to Kenya?

  • Fen June 11, 2015, 10:19 pm

    Hi everyone, first of all i would like to thank the owner of this website. I met a guy on fb who’s wearing a military uniform and i have to admit he is freaking hot! We’ve been talking for 3 weeks now. He said his mom died when he was 6, while his dad died few years ago. He’s been using God’s word etc. Add also the poor grammar, he said he is half dannish half american. He wanted to visit me in December this year and he will book the ticket next month. He is applying for retirement and i need to email his senior but i refused. I have to admit, I like him but as I read this article my heart was broken cause all infos here are true. He never asked for money though. All i wanna do right now is to get this guy who is using the poor soldier for his benefits. Please help me catch this guy! Im still chatting with him and i haven’t spilled the bean yet.

  • Angie June 11, 2015, 11:03 pm

    accidentally friend requested collins williams on Facebook he has not asked me for money just some hats and sun glasses and a phone his email address is WilliamsWilliams 424@yahoo.com I have mailed things to him to nigeria to a agent john johnson adale now he wants food items candy cookies says for kids could he be fake

  • Mp June 12, 2015, 11:19 pm

    Need Help I’ve been talking to this so called soldier he’s currently in Nigeria I keep asking him for his MOS AND AKO ETC ETC but everytime I ask he gets upset he also wants me to send him money to help him pay for his network and to buy fruit the only way we communicate is thru Facebook messenger because he claims that he is unable to communicate but his commander let him use his cell phone because of bs and will go crazy if he doesn’t speak to me please help how could I find out if he is real or not.

  • Charity June 13, 2015, 3:22 pm

    need help!!!! I just found out my 4year old sons dad has been living a double life. I’m officially about to lose it. I need help to bring justice to the table. I found out 2 days after he left for korea he has been married since 2014 when I moved down here to be with him.

    • Stacey Abler June 27, 2015, 9:37 am

      Only advice I can give you is to get an attorney to help get the proper care for your son.

  • mahitab hamdy June 13, 2015, 4:02 pm

    hi
    he says his name is Benjamin Batchelor and he is in peace making in Ghana
    he sent me like 8 pic,
    he loved me in 2 days
    he ll come to usa to retire next October
    they r guarding mountain of gold or something like that
    he sent me a pic nd the t-shirt he wore was written on it “RAKKASAN”, which i searched and found is Air ASSault, even his colleagues having same print on their t-shirts.
    he mentioned also OPDAT… when i was asking him to give me the OPA
    he said OPA is a post office
    he gave me 2 addresses
    1- first sergeant Benjamin Batchelor OPDAT
    2- Kofi ANNAN international
    peace keeping camp base
    city- APO
    state armed forces Ghana
    country Ghana
    unit-313th movement control battaliion( i think he misspelled battalion, which is ok we can do mistakes while typing)
    and i need to know is this guy a real or scammer
    he shows me that he is trying his best to make me trust him coz he is real:))

    and i prefer to ask about him before i get involved emotionally or wait till october.
    thanks
    and by the way all the pages that is revealing these scammers r really very helpful.. thanks so much really

    i did as u said and asked for his AKO,
    he said its batchelor68.us.army@usa.com
    its not as u said firstname.lastname@us.army.mil….. when i told him it should be like this, he said, that this for soldiers stationed in usa

  • Judy June 14, 2015, 11:29 am

    Pls ladies, be on the look out for Bright James..says he’s in London but from Texas. Sweet talker.. Confessed his love after 1 day..wanted marriage.. I asked a few questions of him, AKO address, asked him to call.. Couldn’t do either. Called him on it, and now he’s gone. Even took off his fb.. I didn’t give him a chance to scam me. Been there.

  • Nikki June 14, 2015, 9:22 pm

    I read your article and found it actually very informative. I really hope more people read this! However, I have many friends in the Military and while they have been deployed they actually have allot of free time when they are not on a mission or patrol. And many of them are on dating websites lol. So, that is the only maybe flaw to this that I saw! Just thought I would say that.

  • megmorales June 14, 2015, 11:13 pm

    A man claiming to be e9 army ranger jason heinz james with army pictures that look authentic …who is the real soldier?

  • Lynne June 15, 2015, 10:43 am

    It’s very very useful all the informations I read on this columns It’s very helpful. Good job Stacey. God bless you

  • Alice June 15, 2015, 9:09 pm

    Is anybody talking to a Albert Williams he says he’s a Lt General in Afganistan his email is Albert Williams 2004 @ yahoo.com he says he getting ready to retire, my email is tweety2840@yahoo.com, I do have pictures if you would like to see…….thanks

  • marz reyes June 16, 2015, 10:33 am

    he sgt bernard dillon he said to me that they not are provided to hand a phone during their mission and he send me s documents to fill up for next of kin for the fast approval of paper so when he visit me, and when he back to us i will together with him.is this true pls help me

  • Liza June 17, 2015, 12:40 pm

    There is a guy Morgan Nash.
    Don’t believe him.
    His fake too. He will saying his wife died, he has a daughter, her name is Monica.
    He will be so sweet and talk himself into your heart. He will ask you to go to KIK or Yahoo messanger to talk.
    First he maybe mentions he’s birthday coming, and he wants a watch or phone.
    I didn’t send it. He acted like he sad because i did’n trust him.
    But he said ok, he understands.
    But the next step he asking for itune card to call you or money.
    I was so stupid and sent to him $50.00 .
    He called me and the voice and picture from him just didn’t mach.
    He told me he was born in New York and he has his phillipien accent becouse his mother was from there.
    After that call I started to feel that something wrong.
    So I searched for military base in Nigeria. No military base. I went depper in search and i found out everything about this dating scam.
    I had asked him, and he told me this is not true. He is really Morgan Nash.
    But I felt hi just want to keep going with this. I asked him who he is really. He was keep saying the same name. I asked so many questions, and he rarely snswerd and he asked me back whay I want to know who he is.
    I asked him to take a picture of himself right now. He sent me a picture. It was the similar guy on other pictures, but it would be another stollen picture.
    I feel so bad and stupid becsuse I let him do this.
    But I am lucky because I figure out just in time.
    Ladies be careful with the guy on meet me, who’s name is Morgan Nash.
    I feel bad about the real Morgan.
    I hope hi is alive.

  • Toni June 18, 2015, 10:52 am

    Yup, feel like a fool, hit by two idiots that I thought were real. David Gonzalez and Victorate James Green….no such people, nevermind no such Army/Air Force Staff Sargeants!!! Neither have asked for money, just seem to want online sex and pictures of me naked, but “Victorate” posted such handsome pictures and if he was real, I would’ve pursued..
    David says he’s in Syria! He doesnt say much but wants me to contact his general so he can come home, calls me baby. Victorate wants to marry me and is in LOVE with me…he says he is in West Africa now protecting us from Isis troops.
    I have taken myself off online dating sites, I’m so disgusted!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Glenda June 18, 2015, 10:00 pm

    I met someone in the the army on a website what if he have not ask for money and I talk with him but he does not stay online a long time and he is in Syria and he is a Sgt.could you tell me if he is running a scam.

  • Camille June 19, 2015, 7:37 pm

    Hi there I met a guy named Captain John Blake. I am very catious because someone tried to scam me before off OurTime so I am on guard. I just started on Okcupid and he contacted me and wanted my cel which I don’t give out so we settled on yahoo messenger and he sounded great except that his wife and parents died so he is a single Dad of a young daughter – very sad but this could happen so I let that pass. Anyway when he ask how much I make a year it had me doubting so I Googled his mane and this site came up. Then I rechecked his Okcupid profile. It said he grew up in ND and he said on yahoo messenger grew up and owned a home in Washington DC which my spider senses tingle and I dug deeper. I explained my concern and asked for his APO address and he gave it to me without the dot between first and last name so of course it bounced. He said it was too late for us because I accused him of scamming when I asked for his APO address and not to email anymore. Fine by me but I felt a bit bad and hope I didn’t make a mistake. I did report him to okcupid though because it is hard to believe people will do this to soldiers and if he is real he can prove it to them.

  • Veronika June 19, 2015, 8:20 pm

    Hai, I am now in a very difficult situation. Someone that I know 3 days ago from Skout online dating site not asking me for money, but he asking me to send all his stuff to me, including vital documents, camera and incentive from Afghanistan government that he receive it. He said that he don’t have his family so he need to send it before his new 14 days mission to Syria. He promised me to come to the country that I lived, and want to build further relationship until marriage. He send me a lots of pictures that make me really falling in love and trust him that he is the real soldier. Please help me to sort it out this problem. I will send it to you all the photos that I received from him in the last couple of days. Please reply it through my email address. Thank you so much for your help (Veronika, NZ)

  • Dana June 20, 2015, 11:12 pm

    It’s very hard to believe that someone could play with someone’s feelings, but it is true. Those scammers are very good at what they do. In my case it was very confusing. The red flags were there, but I ignored them. I think I did because I was hoping that he could be the wanted love of my life. I got some pictures from the soldier both dressing casual and militar uniform. At this point I still asking me how the scammers got those pictures and how these suckers don’t have heart to lie and take such advantage of women’s love. Please don’t send them any money at all, don’t let them play with you, so they will have to look for a job to earn the money they need. Then people can have the opportunity to find the real love.
    You will be able to recognize those scammers as soon as they ask you for money and ask you to send the money by Wester Union where nobody will be able to know who got your money. Clean crime.

    I appreciate the information given about the militar scam. This information should be posted at the on line dating sites to warn people about this kind of scam.

  • Jacomine mach June 21, 2015, 8:13 am

    i had two americAN GENERALS WHICH I MET ,THE FIRST ON FACEBOOK HIS Name
    major General Albert Smith from Kabul since 24 Nov.2014He would send all his money documents of investment and marry me and com to me in Holland but i must pay for all the costs before and get it back when he is by me.I payed totaly 30100 euro and have now very less to live but he asked still 25000 and do not send it of course i haven’t.But i was fall in love with and still now.He say when i pay the last mony he come to me i get my money back his email addres is albertsmith00012@gmail.com he started wit i foto from General Maurice Forsyte that was wrong at last i had one foto what i could believe ,but now i have only small mails to ask for the 25000 euro
    The second is on Skype Lt.General John Allen i had one foto of hi a romance foto what i saw now on this site but it was part cut now.He did not ask for money but feel love for me ,he has an adopted sun who is very ill and he ask me or i could go to Boston and car for that childHe Pr but nowomised me also that he would help me to get my money back from Gen,Albert.But now he is angry of me i asked to much and now he say that i may not skype more with him but i am angry now i promised him to be for him in the rest of my live i was fall in love .I am a widow from holland and much older than he but that was not a problem he say.Oke.his email is lt_johnallen@yahoo.com please can you answer me or he is the real General , i don’t believe it ,he shall never ask me to go with him in the future i think. Now i go further wiyh mail for both,for Albert try to get my money back i don’t need his millions only my own what i did payd.Whe General Allen is right i promiss him to be a very good wife for him. He is on Skype as Gen john allen can i have a mail from you or they both are right man =thank you very much ,my name is Jacomine Mach on Skype Jacomina80

  • cathy June 21, 2015, 9:27 am

    Guy calling himself Gilbert Palmer from a Christian dating chat started talking to me. Things did not seem right. So I started to reasearch. Your site here and the info on it was a big help.
    Thank you.

  • R. Carter June 21, 2015, 9:49 am

    I have been speaking to a solider by the name of Robert Patton born 7th june 1973. He claim he is coming to be with me & all the usually things that they say online to hook you in. He gave me his military ID number & his Flight itinerary & so many pictures from past & earlier pictures. I just don’t know if he is genuine. Somebody help me?

  • Anna hill June 22, 2015, 1:30 am

    my friend is being scammed by a joe who has a 14 year old son living with he’s mum in Australia. The boy is jake who 14, and can’t wait to meet he’s new mum as he’s mum left him four years ago, run off with another man.
    This joe tells her he wants to marry her, wants her to move in with him,
    Can’t get to he’s money till he comes out
    Wants her to meet he’s mum and boy in Australia
    Been left a house to him by he’s dad but can’t sort anything out till he comes out
    She only chats to him on yahoo all times through the day
    He’s an high manager in the Iraq army
    He’s going to retire in December and wants to spend the rest of he’s life with her.
    She’s fallen out with me because I told her he’s fake
    She won’t listen to anyone and she’s going to get scammed
    She thinks he really loves her
    And he’s boy can’t wait for her to be a mother to him
    He’s mums sick in Australia but he can’t get leave to see her
    He’s son contacted the army to speak to him to tell him
    He’s going to buy her a diamond ring
    GROW UP SADIE HANDY HES NOT REAL

  • pamela June 23, 2015, 9:49 am

    I am pamela I got my lovely sweet army hubby from a dating site so I don’t know why all you ladies carry the bad eggs they are still good guys out they not every one are scammers

  • Karen June 24, 2015, 8:15 am

    I’ve recently been chatting to a guy who I thought was a US soldier and I live the in the UK. We got chatting on Badoo. My friend suggested he may be fake (no reason to think otherwise until 2 days ago) then he asked for money to assist with his flight home. I came across this website and was so glad I did as he made excuses for just about everything I asked him. Lucky for me I am a lawyer and pretty switched on and would NEVER part with my money and I told him that. He got really arsey and even threatened to take my young daughter – yeah you can try! He is a vile scumbag and I told him so. My heart goes out to the soldier who’s fake ID he is using, the poor guy may have lost his life.

  • Lisa June 25, 2015, 3:43 am

    Hi I have had someone e-harmony who claims he is a UK based army soldier. Problem is in his emails from a yahoo account it is in broken English and lots of comma use. I’m now concerned he is fake he says he lives in London and has only just been deployed to Afghanistan.

  • Joann R June 25, 2015, 10:18 pm

    Would like to find out the real name of the solder I have a picture of is there any way to do that I found out the person was fake by reading a site like this way to go

  • Rosie Bradley June 26, 2015, 8:37 am

    Ok so I have a good one. I met this man online. Says he is 57. I’m 50. His pictures are a man in plain clothes. All randomly taken around the house in different days. He starts with conversation and we email each other on the site. I say that I’m on Facebook if her wants to know more about me. He tells me that he is in US Army in Afghanistan and he could not have FB because of where he was but if I gave him my cell # he could text when he got off duty so i gave him my # it caught me off guard because i thought he was just an average guy but he NEVER said any rank he was. Later I got his Yahoo email address so we emailed every day or every other day. HE kept asking me to email him pics of me which later I did. He emailed me his Army pictures (that’s when I saw that he was a staff SGT. (he never told me what his rank was nor anything about what his job was only that it was horrific over there. I never pretended that I was not who I was I was honest, told him that I was fat had scars HAD ABSOLUTELY NO MONEY and so forth……that didn’t deter his thoughts of me. He said that beauty came from within He was 57 and needed a new life with me. He initiated the love thing 1st. Any way I got taken for a ride on the $ thing.but I stopped it when I was asked for more as he had supposed to have sent me his “treasure” and it was stopped at Dallas International Airport and the boxes had locks on them they needed the code to open and search the contents if not they needed more $ for Diplomatic yellow tags which do not exist. I immediately contacted a Military Investigator Matthew Ivanjack who later told me that he contacted the real Soldier in question and he had been aware of the ID theft and was battling it for 8 yrs. However the real Soldier in question has a Facebook blog in which he is maybe in his 40s and posts uplifting messages but when people comment things to him he NEVER COMMENTS BACK (it’s almost like the posts are staged) I have commented to this Facebook blog my name and email address that I really had something I needed to tell him he never replied back but the military investigator emailed him the information I sent him and he was very much AWARE OF WHO I AM, you would think he would want to know more about the IMPOSTER WHO STOLE HIS IDENTITY because the Investigator said that the military couldn’t do anything to help him so if he had been trying to regain his ID on his own. Anyway 10 days passed then I heard from the man from the match.com site he said that the treasure did not matter to him because he missed and loved me blah blah blah. ..he was going to pay the $ back and that he should never had sent the treasure to me as it took more $ than what he sent to take care of them. I told him what I found out and he was furious and told me to report it to the officials in America and he was reporting it to his commanding officer over there so now I’m very confused as to who is the REAL IMPOSTER. The man off match.com is kisheljef 57 Moss Point, MS. Military name is SGT Joseph Jeffrey Kishel Jr .jeffreykishel@yahoo.com He never told me his rank, I looked all of it up on the Internet. Why would this man keep telling me be careful with any account #s because people are scamming other people. I immediately asked if we could Skype each other because we only communicate via yahoo email, yahoo messenger app, and phone text, he immediately says YES WE CAN SKYPE as his Commander does it all the time with his family and he would check into getting an account set up. He insists that he is going to pay back the money because he wasn’t aware of them needing more $. He warned me not to give out any account #s to anyone because soldiers did NOT NEED $. I’m so confused with this situation.
    Sincerely,
    Rosie Bradley
    rosemarie2745@gmail.com

  • Maan June 26, 2015, 5:48 pm

    I have a question. Do the army always monitor their soldiers on what ever they do. And if the send a package to they inspect it as well?

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