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Are You Dating an Army Soldier or a Fake?

If you don’t want to read the rest of this article, there is one surefire way to know if your soldier is fake:

If a soldier you’re “dating” online asks you for money for ANY reason, it’s a scam. Period. End of story. [Click to tweet this]

And as my husband says….If you have to ask, it’s a scam.


UPDATE: Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from 374 people in these scams! Story here.

Since starting the website in 2004, I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not. Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site. And he is the one who just happened to find her while he was looking around and decided she’s going to be his future wife. What he really means is she’s going to be his next victim.

If this article helps you or has kept you from becoming the victim of a scam (or sending him even more money), please consider donating to help maintain this website so that others will be able to utilize this information as well. Thank you!


Stories That Are Lies

He’s in Special Operations

1. He is in a special operations unit and therefore cannot share any information with you. It’s true that special ops guys can’t discuss their job but that also means they don’t tell random strangers they’re in special ops. My husband was special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. Special ops guys don’t brag about it. They’re known as “quiet professionals” for a reason.

He’s Been Denied Leave

2. He has been deployed for two years, has been denied leave time and will not be coming home any time soon therefore you won’t be able to meet. If there were soldiers being denied leave after being overseas for years at a time, it would be ALL over the news. It’s a lie.

He’s on a Top Secret Mission

3. He is on a top secret mission in a country other than Iraq or Afghanistan (or even in Iraq or Afghanistan – it’s all lies). Now, we certainly do have troops in other countries. However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does!).

He Needs Permission from Someone in His Unit

4. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. This is followed by outrageous lies. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet. Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie.

Everyone Around Him is Dead

5. He says one of the following….his parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. My favorite is when they combine all these things. Really? I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him?

He Has No Mailing Address

6. He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often. Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address. And this is not a post office box and it’s not in Nigeria!! It also has nothing to do with a Western Union office. And you don’t have to send it through a relative because he can’t give out his address.

He Needs Money for Leave

7. He says he needs you to pay for his R&R leave because the Army doesn’t pay for it. This is absolutely false! A real soldier will not request money to travel home as he doesn’t need it! The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone. This includes emergency travel like the death of a loved one. It’s not like you just book your own flight home from Afghanistan on Delta.

He Needs You to Request His Leave

8. He says he can come home but you have to request his leave through an email address. If all an Army spouse had to do was email her soldier’s commander to get him home from deployment, don’t you think ALL Army spouses would be doing this? There would be no one deployed. The Army does not allow leave requests from Army family members. In fact, even in the case of the death of an immediate family member, the information has to be verified by the American Red Cross before the soldier’s command is contacted for possible leave by officials at the Red Cross – they don’t just take your word for it.

He Needs You to Pay for a Phone Line

9. He wants you to pay for a phone line, cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other. Real soldiers can call home for FREE. My husband deployed multiple times and we never paid for a single phone call. If he asks for this, he’s a scam artist. Not to mention, soldiers are making enough to buy a phone card if they really had to.

He’s About to Retire

10. He’s about to retire and then he can marry you and live happily ever after. This usually also includes stories about being a higher ranking officer. Typical story and it’s all lies. Real officers have even LESS time to be online talking to strangers over the internet.

His Child Needs XYZ

11. He has a child that is dying or needs surgery (or some other medical emergency) and he needs the money to pay for it. All military dependents are covered by Tricare, which for the most part is amazing insurance. I had a c-section and was in the hospital in a private room for three days. Know how much I paid? $12. Real soldiers aren’t paying out of pocket for their kid’s medical care.

He’s a General

12. And he’s only 28! Wow, talk about a quick advancement! LOL A General will have well over 20 years of service and less than 1% of officers will make it to the rank of General. On top of that, Generals make a minimum of $12,000 per month in JUST base pay. So why exactly would he need money from you?

His Pay is Deposited in the U.S. and He Has No Access

13. Seriously? First, the Army is providing the essentials while you’re deployed so there’s not a need for a lot of money overseas. Second, you can have access to your money, so this is yet another lie. There are ATMs on any main post and the PX accepts debit and credit cards. If he says he’s somewhere that there isn’t an ATM or another way to get money, there is also nothing for him to spend money on. So why does he need it?

He’s On a Peacekeeping Mission in {insert name of country}

14. Last time I checked we aren’t on a lot of peacekeeping missions in Nigeria and Syria. And if we were, a real soldier wouldn’t tell you that.

Verify The Truth

So how can you find out if he’s telling the truth?

The absolute best way to verify is with #2 – ask him to email you from his Army email address.

  1. Ask him to give you his Army email address rather than his yahoo, hotmail, etc. This will be his firstname.lastname@mail.mil. All soldiers have an Army email account. There is NO reason why he can’t provide it – regardless of what unit he is assigned to, what his mission may be, who he’s working for, etc. And the Army email account is free so him saying his credit card hasn’t been processed or his account is locked because he didn’t pay is also a lie. If he refuses to provide this, he’s fake.

I originally had other questions you could ask regarding his training, etc, but I’m removing those because many people believed whatever ridiculous information he came up with when they asked.

But you say he’s sent you pictures or a copy of his ID?

Many have been provided pictures, copies of military identification cards, even videos. First, pictures can be grabbed from anywhere on the internet – there’s no guarantee you’re talking to that person. They may very well be using the picture of a real soldier but that doesn’t mean you’re talking to him. Some of these scumbags are using the pictures of soldiers who were killed in action to run their scams. It’s sick.

Someone told me once they were dating a General and she even had pictures. I told her to send them to me. Guess who the pictures were of? David Petraeus!

Some use totally fake pictures in uniforms that are all messed up – I’ve seen Army uniforms with Air Force tapes and Navy insignia – no joke.

I’ve seen very badly doctored military ID cards where it’s obvious he’s typed over information on the card. What’s funny is he’ll type over the only legitimate information on the card and replace it with something that makes no sense. Such as rank of SPC and pay grade of MAJ.

The pictures they use many times on military IDs are so fake and it’s so obvious. Real military ID pictures basically look like a mugshot – solid background with him in uniform and basically only showing his face (maybe the very top of his shoulders). Someone sent me one the other day that not only looked nothing like a military ID (more like a business card for a recruiter), it had a picture of a soldier who was obviously at a military ball or some other formal event as he had a bow tie with his dress uniform. That is NOT an ID picture.

Or maybe he’s added you on Facebook and even changed his relationship status to you

The Army posted this example on their Facebook page:


So exactly which one are you dating? Oh and by the way, I’ve never seen a soldier unless it was on an official page (such as the base commander’s page) that uses his rank in his name.

Soldiers Don’t Have Time For This

99.9% of military guys overseas don’t have the time available to them to email, chat and Skype for hours at a time or even every day online. They are too busy doing their JOB. And most have no interest in “dating” someone online while they’re deployed. Continuing to talk to their loved one that they knew before deployment? Absolutely! Time to peruse dating sites and chat for hours? Absolutely not.

But he said he loves you and wants to marry you….even though you “met” last week

I’m assuming if you’re falling for this, you’ve never been in a military town. Go downtown in a military town to a club one night and let me know how many single soldiers are there looking for the love of their life….not exactly what their goal is. And when you’re thousands of miles away from each other, he doesn’t have the opportunity to sleep with you. So the point would be???

Many of these stories contain comments about him saying he loves you within a few days/weeks of starting to talk or he wants to marry you as soon as he returns. Let’s get this straight – you haven’t met and certainly haven’t had the opportunity to have any kind of physical relationship, yet he wants to marry you? Does this sound feasible to you? If you’re even hesitating on the answer, I’ll help you. It’s not. They’re lying so they can get in your wallet. And they’re doing this to many others at the same time they’re doing it to you. It’s just who is going to open up access to their bank account first.

But you asked him if he was a scammer and he said no!

Come on, think about this! Why would he admit it to you? Or even better, he told you he is in fact a scammer but he REALLY loves you…..as long as you keep sending him money.

He hasn’t asked for money yet though

Don’t worry, he will. If any of the above signs sound familiar, it’s only a matter of time. He may get pretty far into his story before he asks. He may wait until his plane is suppose to leave and you’re meeting him in less than 24 hours. Then all of the sudden disaster strikes and he needs three grand to be able to come home. LIES!

Even though he’s doing these things, you still think he’s the real deal

I hate to be harsh but if any of the above sounds familiar, it’s a SCAM. Don’t sit there and think you’re the exception. You’re not the lucky one who’s encountered these signs but somehow your guy is the real deal. He’s FAKE. He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t want to marry you. And sooner or later, he’s going to ask for money.

I get emails and messages (or comments) from people who tell me the story and ask me if he’s fake. I answer yes, it’s a scam. And what do they do? Keep asking me more questions – but he does this or he said this or he sent me these pictures. Guess what? The answer is still the same. It’s a scam. Go back and read the first line in bold at the top of this article. I don’t care if he asks you to mail him a penny – a real soldier will NOT ask you for money. A real soldier makes more overseas than he does when he’s home!!

The Scam Checklist

So let me sum this up:

  • If he’s asking for money for a phone line, it’s a scam.
  • If he’s asking for money for travel home, it’s a scam.
  • If he needs you to help him move money from one location to another, it’s a scam.
  • If he asks for your bank account information, it’s a scam.
  • If he wants you to wire money for ANY reason via Western Union (or similar service), it’s a scam.
  • If he asks you to email his command so he can come home, it’s a scam.
  • If he tells you to open a bank account or credit card for him, it’s a scam (and this one could get you into legal trouble!)

PLEASE quit sending these people money! If you’re just itching to give away your money, send it to me! haha After all, I’ve spent more hours than I can count updating this article with the latest techniques and answering questions here and elsewhere.

Finally, if you don’t believe me, please read this article from the Army – Soldier Scams

If this article helps you or has kept you from becoming the victim of a scam (or sending him even more money), please consider donating to help maintain this website so that others will be able to utilize this information as well. Thank you!


About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Sara April 21, 2016, 8:05 pm

    Started talking to david napier. Asked for no money. But after reading this. Family deceased. e7. And in love right away. I asked what was wrong with him if he fell in love that quick…..lol

  • Dorothy April 22, 2016, 9:04 am

    Steven Ray is his name. His hometown is Tulsa Oklahoma He says he is in Iraq and he cannot give his military email because his commander doesn’t not want them to, only to family. Can’t receive mail because there are too many soldiers there in too many squads.
    He has asked for money for his internet. I did check Google and found that they do pay their own . BUT, is that true?
    I would hate
    to call a true soldier a liar.
    Help please, before I make a mistake OE lose him.

    • Stacey Abler April 27, 2016, 8:28 pm

      There is no reason why he can’t give you his email address. And the mail excuse doesn’t make sense either.

  • Alison April 22, 2016, 6:37 pm

    I met a guy called Major Michael Welch, he is based in Syria apparently. I met him on Tinder then he added me on Facebook. He is very loving and caring. hasn’t asked for anything but wants to live in UK eventually as his mum & son are there..I am very sceptical as we have only been talking for a week. He now wants to use Google hangouts & face time..How do I check him out??

    • lisette ayala May 7, 2016, 10:04 pm

      OMG that fake name account is all over facebook Arron Welch some cpt. Profile! On several occasions i have reported it to facebook, and i still see his profile, i wish we could find the real ppl in the photos and let them know scammers are using their pictures

  • Bodacious April 23, 2016, 3:57 am

    Been texting with Dale Howell for 2 months, wants to marry me after 1 month. Had a so called nanny who is taking care of his daughter verify his identity. Sent him $ for phone cell service. Feel really stupid. Stationed in Iraq.

  • Maribel Chaparro April 24, 2016, 12:27 pm

    Daniel Crowell Kabul Afghanistan, says he is a sgt , is in face book. He is a scam .

  • Patricia smith April 24, 2016, 11:59 pm

    I just read where someone said there were no army or military guys in Syria. Is this true?? I’ve been talking to a guy he says he’s from Colorado and is on deployment in Syria and has been there since January. I don’t know his last name but he told me his first name is Carl. He has sent me pictures but after reading all this I am not sure if they are real or not. He hasn’t asked me for anything at all. I wanted to send a care pkg but he tells me today that care pkgs now have to go through the military bases and can’t just be sent due to something happening earlier in the year where a bomb went off or something in a mail delivery truck. How do I tell if he is real or not?? He says he is coming back home in 3 wks. Can someone tell me how you find out if they are real or a scam since he hasn’t asked for anything from me.

    • Carolyn Jones May 4, 2016, 7:37 pm

      I been talking to a man named Ramona Viellreal he says all was nice until he gave me a story about his eyes being injured and the army can’t not pay for his medical needs or he can’t get his medical needs met because of issues there having in Afghanistan z I can’t believe that the government would make a man go out on patrol that can’t see I believe he a scan

  • Kelly April 26, 2016, 1:54 am

    Anyone heard of a Andrew Sawyer Farrar? Stationed in Nigeria. Has a 7 y/o daughter who lives with his GMA in dallas

  • Patricia April 26, 2016, 2:09 am

    I have recently found out that the guy I had been talking to is a scammer and he is using a military profile to do it. He is on POF and recently on eharmony which he deleted after I asked him for his military email address. But when I did a Google picture searches he popped up on the POF site as well. How do I turn him and his pictures in so others don’t get scammed by this guy? His user name on POF is scoutsout114. I want to get him stopped

  • Ewa April 26, 2016, 6:37 am

    Stacey, thank you. This is the best article I read about those morons who pretend to be US soldiers. I promise you that if I recover any money from EUR37,000 which I paid to my soldier’s lawyer for getting him the replacement, I will not forget about you.
    I had a partner for 23 years who passed away nine years ago. After nine years of being completely alone, I decided to look for a soul mate, and … I found the scammer, I mean he found me. A single dad serving in Afghanistan, three children at home in the US and his late wife who died from cancer. Nice pics of a great decent man stolen from the network. Money is one thing, but the most important are my feelings. I just cannot believe that knowing all these facts about me, that I have no family at all, that I live all alone in a big house only with my dog, that it’s been already nine years I spend Christmas all alone crying instead of sharing my joy with my family, they (he and his “lawyer”) just used me. Like a piece of unnecessary cloth. I don’t drink alcohol, but now I’ve started. Some thoughts of suicide came also to my mind. And I feel terribly ashamed, guilty, humiliated, as if somebody raped me. I cannot talk to anybody because I have nobody to talk to; besides I wouldn’t be able to confess to anyone I know that it happened to me.
    When I started to be suspicious (it was too late because I paid them the “replacement compensation fee”) and started digging the internet, I couldn’t believe what I read. I found all the signs of his scamming. I wrote him the letter: ”… No man who loves a woman would ever expose her to what you have exposed me. … You have no slightest idea about the secret military services, and you will not be redeployed anywhere because you are not a soldier. Real soldiers like real men would never ask women for money because they are honourable guys with balls, guts and dignity. …. And you know what? – I do feel sorry for people like you and that woman .. your lawyer. But remember and be sure, it will come the day that we all will be judged … also such people like you and your lawyer deprived of any remorse for the harm you do to other people.”
    I reported them everywhere I could, but even if they are traced, found and punished, nothing will heal my feelings. I’m all alone here, and just need a good word ….

    • Donna Rachiele May 7, 2016, 12:20 pm

      Met a doctor Kirsten Schmidt aka William Calvin he approached me on Facebook took me to Hangups right away.Got super serious quickly said he s retiring.Tried to scam me for 3500 through stonebridge@hotmail .com

    • Tricia May 20, 2016, 10:41 am

      Your not alone , iv been there & back dont feel bad about it these people are scums , and need to be stopped , I meet a I met an American guy on Tinder called Christian Barrios Chee Sergeant station in Syria deployed for another six months hoping to retire three children in America wife died cancer . She’ll I go on , then he got his So called son to message me and he started call me mum , no way , then he disappeared for a few days no messages and his son messaged me to say that his dad probably haven’t been in touch because his son in America has had his car impounded and spent the money that he had to pay for his dads Wi-Fi and Internet and stuff like that so it’s your receiver not been cut off , I knew really it was a scam I was just playing along I had been ripped off money for that was a guy in Nigeria , Herbert smith , lol what a name , but I wonted to find love , got my finger burnt , know I don’t care and I don’t trust any man… I still believe in love.. I think you’re probably better off with your dog and you cats and real people not from the Internet I believe that love is every were & people like that try to crush it … Chin up Take care Tricia

  • Jenny Lynn cantrell April 28, 2016, 5:37 pm

    I need to ask you a question I’m meet a guy that’s in kwauit in the army he doesn’t get own line a lot he doesn’t ask for money we’ve been talking for a month now he saids when he is deployed back here he wants to no if I will marry him, but he told me that he was gonna mail me an engagement ring and he did I got it a week and a half ago in the mail is that true are is he fake. Will you answer that for me

  • Lina April 28, 2016, 8:27 pm

    Well I don’t know where to start been scammed need to catch person

    • Diana May 18, 2017, 2:01 pm

      First of all you should file a report with the Police. You can then go to the FBI CIA IRS CID Etc. You can take the money you were scammed out of off your Income Taxes as a loss. I did. Next you may want to call a television station in your area and tell the Investigative Reporter your story. Hopefully, you kept any and all documentation and receipts, Wire info WU & MG , Bank with draws, Checks etc.
      I hope this helps.

  • Sherry Hudson April 29, 2016, 1:00 am

    Please contact me I have been scammed by several men. And would like to know why me. What am I am doing to draw them to me

  • Ganda April 29, 2016, 7:04 am

    Hi i just want to know if tom steve davidson is a real soldier in u.s army? Please kindly send me an email message i want to discuss with you about my sister problem with her boyfriend. Its very sensitive matter, i prefere to discuss with you in private email

    • Diana May 18, 2017, 2:03 pm

      The best thing you can do is once they ask for money delete them and never talk to them again. they prey on women of all races, age etc. Never give any personal info. Make sure you aren’t posting any thing they can use to get to you. These people don’t care what you look like. All they want is your money.

  • Christine April 29, 2016, 2:58 pm

    I have been chatting to a guy from the above site for a while now and although he hasn’t asked for money, I really need to find out if he is real or not . His name or the one he has given is Thomas Nugent and is based in Qargha in Afganistan. He is a well built guy and very handsome , and I’m doing a bit of detective research on the internet because I want to check out what he is telling me is the truth. I’ve put his details on scammers site but don’t know where else to go to find the truth?

    • Pamela Garcia May 16, 2016, 9:41 pm

      Hi , did this guys says his son is in uk and he lives in Arizona ? Sound like the guy I’m chatting now. Did not ask for money yet, but his story goes as.. Wife died of cancer, son in uk his dad is old and sick lives in Arizona . Wish I can send u a picture of him. He ask me to request a leave for him so he can merry me. I just met this guy about 2 weeks ago and he alredy proposed . A sergeant in the army well built and very handsome .

    • Diana May 18, 2017, 2:04 pm

      Facebook, Google, Spokeo etc can help. Never send money

  • Joanne April 29, 2016, 3:49 pm

    Been scammed by a by a name but so called two different people both say different things but then again one said something I never told him but told other with same name yes I was taken by one he got me for 100.00 bucks he promised to send it back but after I send him 230 bucks for a leave wanted me to get a hold of agent then other was to get a military stamp for him to call and sent me a list of things to send him I mean it was a list I want to report this person or persons both say they are getting hacked there e-mail was hacked how do I find these ppl to see if they are real

  • yolanda April 30, 2016, 12:36 pm

    I met a so called soldier from Syria I sent his so call mother over 5,000 dollars for a leave. I have known him online and phone on and off. He found me again and now he needs money for a lawyer. All I want is to find out who he really is. This is email address thomagodwin01@gmail.com

    • Diana May 18, 2017, 2:05 pm

      If he doesn’t have a military email he’s not real.

  • Crystal April 30, 2016, 10:59 pm

    His name is John Chamberlain. He says he is a E5 Sgt deployed in Nigeria who specializes in defusing bombs. We actually met on Tinder and we have not met in person yet. We have exchanged phone numbers (his number is a US number) and at least 20+ photos so far. We have also exchanged email, both personal and army. He has supplied his identification number, deployment number & location, personal email password, DOB, full name, and SS#. He tells me he has no access to his allowances, that all deployment allowances are paid when the deployment is off. And that mail that comes in/out of the base is letters only, packages can be sent/received on base at home. If packages are received on base when deployed all packages are opened & inspected, delivery to the soldier is delayed, and items have been known to come up missing…to prevent this the US soldier will use a local soldier they trust & work with regularly to send/receive packages they do not want inspected. He hasn’t asked for funds for any reason or any of my personal identification information or bank information. I have gotten the “I can’t share that information with you” when I asked for personal information but he did give it to me…the conversation came off as more he was a little concerned about sharing personal information that might be misused. We do speak over the phone once a week with a time limit of 20 minutes. He doesn’t not share much information about why he is there but I haven’t really asked much because I am not sure of the right questions to ask. He is adamant about our relationship be between us because he is concerned people will try to convinced me not to wait till he comes home.

    It’s been a wild crazy online romance but I always have it in the back of my mind if am I really talking to a US soldier because of all the scams out there. I try to be very vigilant and repeat questions answered after a certain amount of time has gone by to see if there are any changes in answers. I look for clues in information shared/not shared. I have combed through his email and facebook for clues and have found no red flags. I do have to admit I don’t have a clue on what to look for when it comes to the markings on uniforms and really know very little about any branch in the military. I have googled until my fingers bleed and my brain is fried from thinking of different ways to search the information he has provided. Is there a way for me to determine if I am actually talking to who I think I am talking to?

  • Connie Watkins May 1, 2016, 5:24 am

    Very nice reading, I have a scanner right KNOW. Thankfully I had a gut feeling about this bleeping person. I was just letting you know that he is using the name of Benjamin Scott Wolf says he is a sergeant. He had a passport plus family photos. Please stomp this guy. Facebook is the social networking. Gmail account Emmanuelle33333@gmail.com please check it out I have saved the emails.
    Thank you
    Do not like people I respect the army my dad served in Korea. To many family and friends

  • Bill May 3, 2016, 12:54 am

    Ladies, I just want to say that these scammers are not only after women but men too. Iam a gay male and I have had to deal with at least four, so called , soldiers trying to run a scam on me. They all start off the same way. Wanting to find the love of their lives, someone to come home to. It’s always the same, they tell you everything you want to hear, they will pull at your heart strings and they all fall in love after the second conversation with them. All of them told me they can’t talk on the phone because they lost theirs in some attack or maneuver. They always want a phone or the latest one, wanted me to send him a care package but it had to go through a delivery guy to get to him. Wanted a watch and clothes but wouldn’t give me his rank or company or anything. Fake fake fake!! I asked for him to email me with his military email and he asked me if I wanted to get him in trouble with his superiors, needless to say I have not heard from him since. Now that I know about the military email iam using that on every soldier that contacts me.
    This has all been through Facebook, and a couple dating apps. Please ladies, don’t believe the lies. The first guy that had me, made me fall in love with him and took it so far as to tell me that he was sent to a VA hospital in Colorado after being shot in the neck! All the time asking for money or to send a phone, even told me that his niece didn’t think I was good enough for him (I’ve never even met or spoken to his niece). Oh I found out he was using a dead soldiers pictures too. Also talked to him once on the phone for about half a second before getting disconnected and he had an accent that I’ve never even heard before. Scum!!
    My father was in the Army iam an Army brat by heart and I’ve always had a soft spot for the Military, these guys are giving the Military a really bad name and trust me they are not military.
    Ladies, this is also happening to men everywhere. Don’t fall for the lies, look and heed the signs above, they are so true.
    Names of scammers I have dealt with:
    Whitfield Claude ( the latest)
    James Kelvin
    Austine Newcomb
    Sargent Stan Gard
    And last but not least the worst of them all David Bowen, this guy used a dead soldiers pictures.
    Please please don’t give money to these or any other scammers, that’s what they want ladies and any men out there, to play with your heart and take all your money.
    Thank God these men didn’t get a dime from me.

  • Cathy Garcia May 3, 2016, 9:51 pm

    Met on Quiz up, moved to kik, on to Viber. Just stop talking to a Harry Sanford US Army! Almost a ur! Knew all along something was up didn’t want to believe it. All above, asking for money for wifi 3 separate emergencies! Sent money twice! Stopped. He wanted account info, how much I made, when I got paid. If I would cash money order that he couldn’t and send to Nigeria! Also wanted me to pick up money from someone named Deborah Cook! Money sent western Union, money gram! To Fred Ayo!
    Went thru 2 phone number. # 757-298-7066 last one out of Newport News Virginia, but suspect it’s a virtual phone #.
    Last straw came when I told him I was not discussing money with him anymore! Period! He needed money to come home to me. Lol! I served in the service knew better! Also new better when he told me in the beginning no access to his money!
    To continue a friend of mine just got scammed recently and pulled out all the stops to check him out! Scammer, wanted by law enforcement!!! Had her run the pics found them on Plenty of Fish! Under a different name! I did confront him with it which they don’t advise! Was just so mad! Within 1 hr he nicked me on viber! No longer answering my text or when I called he’s not available! Scam scam scam! Warming please don’t let ur heart overrule ur head!!!

    • Diana May 18, 2017, 2:07 pm

      STOPPPPPPPPPPP sending money for any reason and erase these people from your life. I KNOW!!!!

  • Shawna May 4, 2016, 5:06 pm

    I think it might be a scam

  • Jody May 4, 2016, 7:43 pm

    Does anyone know of a possible scammer named James Gillespie? I’ve been talking to him for almost 2 months now. He was in Houston TX and then got deployed to Syria. He said he was special forces. Which was a red flag to me. He sent me his bank account balance…why I don’t know. He is nice to me. He just recently told me he wanted to marry me. Another red flag to me. My soon to be ex husband is a veteran. James has sent me pictures of him and I’ve noticed a couple of things different that are on it. He has a recruiting patch as his unit patch. Some things he has talked about sounded a little weird but I thought maybe that’s the way he talked. Any searchs I have done have come up with nothing. He tells me he is coming home soon and wants to meet. My gaurs is always up. I have it in my mind that he is a scammer. I was just wonerding if anyone knows him.

    • Diana May 18, 2017, 2:09 pm

      STOOOOOPPPPP! talking to him. Did you ask for his MIL email address???? No money.

  • jane May 5, 2016, 1:07 am

    it’s really a great article, i have been dating with a guy who said he serves at NSA and a on a secret mission.
    his story is typical of one or two of the above reasons, so i decide to stop chatting with him.

  • Victoria May 6, 2016, 11:36 am

    Heads up … met a “Master Sergeant ” in the Italian Army on an Online dating site who claimed to be a part of the UN peacekeeping missions at Fort Hood in Brooklyn. I knew it was a scam in my gut, but for some stupid reason I had to keep talking to him until he asked for money. So in about 8 days he asked for $885.00 for a phone card so he could keep talking to me because the military wi-fi was going away. All of the signs were there … told me he loved me after a few days, spent tons of time talking to me on Viber … so many inconsistencies with his name. His info is below:

    James Bayless Vicenti or Vincentiy or Rod Totti

    Once confronted and asked for his military email address he broke down and tried a new tactic. He said he was poor and wanted to break free of the demons in his mind and he was very sorry but he really was a poor man from Nigeria… geez.

    He’s not hard to spot or figure out. His grammar is so bad and there are so many inconsistencies.

    Hope this helps.

  • Donna Rachiele May 7, 2016, 12:17 pm

    Got another question we know the scammers so how do you hook me up to meet legitimate soldiers to write to because I don’t know what safe sites there are out there?

  • Donna Rachiele May 7, 2016, 3:34 pm

    I am presently talking on Facebook to a Kevin Steffen says he’s in Army from California is he real.Hasn’t asked for money but still very early in.

  • lisette ayala May 7, 2016, 10:08 pm

    LADIES, PLEASE dont believe these fake profiles from military personnel! They are looking for money and phones to continue the scams! If you notice that their profiles were made in most recent time….. Dont trust them, or if their sentence structure is a bit off dont believe it! Dont be scammed!

  • C May 8, 2016, 8:54 am

    Met a girl that said she was special operations and serving in Isreal. Her grammar, for the most part, is exceptional. However, she’s consistently staying on me about getting a VPN so we can chat and insurgents not be able to hack it. She said she was called into the office by the DOD and they told her that I had to buy this VPN or she couldn’t talk to me anymore. I personally already have a VPN and told her that, but her response was that it wasn’t the correct one. The one I had to get was 260 dollars and has to be sent to an agent through money gram. That was a huge red flag. I understand the VPN, but I don’t understand how they’re different. The email she is using is kdohk@yahoo.com. She sent me pictures… Is there anyway you could take a look at them and maybe figure out who they are? I’m about 99.9% sure it’s a scam. Even though she’s not outright asking for money, someone is still getting it and I’m pretty sure it’s not our military.

    • Diana May 18, 2017, 2:11 pm

      Ask for her military email. don’t send or spend any money on anything. don’t give personal info etc.

  • Cindy May 9, 2016, 5:38 am

    I know all to well about scammers. I have ran across afew myself. this last one was Charls Hampton in Syria. on facebook. said he was in the army. pictures shows a guy in the army. but he wasn’t the one in the pictures. I knew it the 2nd time I talked to him. I could tell by the way he talked. he was not American and was not in the army. I let him go on and on til he asked for money. then I lowered the boom to him. told him I knew all along. he was mad, said he wasted his time on me and I just told him he wasn’t a waste of mine bcuz I was very amused. he was even madder. as soon as he showed his military i.d. I had it checked out by my niece that is a M.P. she told me it was fake. so it wasn’t a surprise to me he would ask for money and all his sweet talk. actually I was laughing. what is sad is there is so many women out there that is falling for this. where is thier self worth? i mean do they really have to fall for someone that they never seen bfor and hand over thier money. that’s nuts! anyways, this is my question. the photos he used on his fake account of a soldier., how can i find out who that is. I seen where it was said about sometimes they use photos of dead soldiers sometimes. that’s horrible. and haunting to me. I have about 5/6 photos of the same soldier. and one taken as a group of army men. just for my own peace of mind I would like to find out. so please reply to that. and also I want to add; he is still on Facebook with same profile and he also made another account on facebook with same name but differant guys pic but suposable from same home town. Washington district of Columbia..lol. I find that funny cuz Americans would just say D.C…if any one thinks that he talks, writes, types funny not like an american. then he ain’t one! and also I know guys! I know American guys! and if he don’t talk about things us Americans do then he probly ain’t one!

  • Janet May 9, 2016, 10:41 am

    I have the same thing as someone in April, 2016, says his name is Carl Johnson and is asking for a care package and the list is strange, because he wants a bible, American flag, crew neck Ralph Lauren shirts (which are not cheap), queen size bed sheets, why would someone need sheets, isn’t that all part of the military supply? I believe I’m being scammed (again) and I can’t send to the post, because there was a shipment that came in that made everyone ill from poison – which doesn’t sound right either, plus he wants me to send through a friend in Ghana, which I’m guessing is in Africa. Don’t believe word of it.

  • cheryl jones May 10, 2016, 1:50 am

    I like some of these woman have been scammed by an American soldier by the name of James Bock. I met him on facebook and we starting writing to one another. He told me he wanted to come out and meet me and could i send him some money because he could get into his account while he is in the army. Please be careful if any other women has been duped by him

  • valerie May 10, 2016, 6:31 pm

    Met a guy going by Delison Castillo, talked for weeks shares pics of family I googled a pic of him and he was sending me pics of a real soldier stolen from Facebook. Have been trying to contact the real soldier to warn him his pics are being used for scam.

  • ellie May 11, 2016, 9:49 am

    The person I’ve been talking to has posted so many photos of himself in Afghanistan, as well as several of him with his children. I have reason to believe that he has accessed an actual army soldier’s photos. I have reason to believe he is not actually that person. is there a way of reporting this to someone in the military? Is there a link to notify someone that this scammer is doing this, using an actual soldier’s information?

  • Sean May 11, 2016, 4:31 pm

    Hi. I have a few friends that I believe were scammed. I have some questions.
    1. One story is that there is a base in Afghanistan, I think it was, where the Navy & Army have a base together. Is this true?
    2. That the person in the military who’s identity was stolen & the person who was scammed were able to get into contact with each other. Then got to know one another which led up to an online marriage. Via webcams with each party having a minister on either end. Is this true. I am afraid for my friend.

    Another friend was asked to send money then to help send money. But she couldn’t do either. She was told he was going on a big secret mission soon and would be gone for a month. But then he wasn’t picked to go & got to stay at the base. But has gone on smaller missions. On one his unit was attacked but sustained no casualties. I believe she is being scammed also, but fortunately has no money to send. She has also been contacted by his best friend & his sister. Even the guys commanding officer I think she said.

    How can I tell my friends if they are being scammed. Especially if they won’t stop talking to them. Any help you can give me would be appreciated.

  • Esperanza Flores May 11, 2016, 6:00 pm

    I feel so embarrassed such a fool but after reading this article I somehow feel less of a fool.. Lol about a month ago some commander named Phillip James Adams requested to be my friend on Facebook I excepted I thought I could be of comfort being that he was in Syria and then left to Nigeria as I’m reading your blog all that happened to me he lost his wife in a car accident has a child parents died as well and his the only child fell in love with me in a week wanted to marry me the next week even closed his old account opened a new one with the status that he’s married cause according to him we were married under God’s eye’s always wanted naked pics of me and when I wouldn’t comply he’d get very upset I’d tell him that not until he came to visit me then I’d agree to such pictures he respected that but I did fall for the calling cards scam I ended sending him to Nigeria via money gram to a supposedly red Cross buddy a Nigerian buddy!!! I convinced him to call me when he finally did guess what? He’s accent was so thick he would never pass for being anything less than a Nigerian!!! I told him that he was a sick animal to never call me again and blocked him from my Facebook account. I noticed he made friends with the ladies in my account so I’d asked some of them about him and everyone else was smarter than me none of them believed him nor wanted to be friends with him but me I was the lucky one that fell for it.. All I can do now is laugh about it and spread the word out to my circle of friends.. I wished I could have been smarter and looked things up like I did today a little too late now but I can’t change what I allowed to happen but be smart the next time I get a friend request from a soldier which I still continue to receive!!!

  • Eloise May 12, 2016, 9:17 am

    CERIL HENRY. Beware. I actually think that the pictures he has posted are legitimately of a soldier. I feel that he is using that person’s identity to try to scam women. what can I do to notify the armed services that this guy’s profile photos are being used for bad purposes?

  • Carla May 12, 2016, 12:22 pm

    I am started talking to solomon ogaga… He added me on facebook. And he said he wanted to see me.. But i have to ask for a vacation certificate and i have to send money for the processing of his vacation amd i have to send said amount to ghanna where they will process the vacation cert.
    I asked him to talk to me on cam but he said he’s cam is not working.
    Accdg to him he is in syria for a isis…. And his name is general steven macfarland…
    And i search for that name and i fpund out that its ltgen sean macfarland.. I ask him if why he used other name he said he used it in his education and the other one tribal name…

  • Diane Croghan May 12, 2016, 8:39 pm

    I met this gentlemen who was on Facebook he wanted a friend request which I said yes. Now he is off Facebook because he said it was hacked so now I have his email address. I saw him getting his commission from the congressional commity for a higher rank I don’t want to loose him he is stationed in the war zone I’m Afghanistan. Should I trust my heart and continue emailing him can’t tell u his name

  • Mo Hale May 13, 2016, 9:29 am

    Hi, In the last 2 months I started getting requests from US army soldiers, his name is Richard Becker, I accepted then, after 2 days of talking he told me he loved me and wanted to marry me, alarm bells rang, I played him along, the asked me to send him a £150, as the army were only serving rice? he had not eaten, I knew that was rubbish, I refused to send money, I got a load of abuse.
    I checked on facebook and found Richard Beckers details and photos, but his names were slighty different, now are Jean Becker and David Stone Becker and Paul Lonzo Becker, Peter Paul, Paul Drury, all their accounts have been stolen by Nigerian scammers, you can tell because of their grammer is awful, I have caught three out in the last 3 days, please be aware, one of the calls me my dear, not sure if that is an American term?? I have never sent money and never will, I have read all these stories, it’s so sad. I would like to find out if Becker, unknown firt name is still in the Army, I pray he was not killed in action, If anyone knows how i can find out I would be very grateful, Also one guy has told me his wife was killed in an auto accident 2 years ago???
    Please take care.

  • Clara May 13, 2016, 2:18 pm

    The same here. I was contacted by several “US Soldiers” deployed in Syria, Afghanistan (Kabul) or some special mission in Africa. The first man – “Captain Alvin Eckert” – an orphan, (have “his” photos) would like to send some parcels of his personal stuff to my home but “he payed” just 1000 US Dollars to some diplomat ho took his stuff to the UK and the registration and taxes cost next 1280 US Dollars. He’s in Afghanistan so he “can’t” send the money (there is no way to access his account) for the shipping taxes and if I can pay them by MoneyGram to someone in “USA”, the shipping and delivery company does not exist on the internet, just one page where the address is not full, the phone number is wrong – so the fake company. And I am contacted by 5 soldiers at the same time – don’t know how they found my profile… They are in Afghanistan or Syria or Africa for some special mission… The first one claimed some money to be able to buy something good to eat or some stuff for his “birthday” and now the shipping taxes. He left the Fb to be on gmail hangouts… I asked him for his official Army email address, don’t have them, he gives me just his personal email address. I forced him to give me his address in US (it was a real problem cos of “security” and it took to him about 10 minutes to give me this information. Than I asked him the information about his regiment, it took also about 20 minutes… His regiment should be 1st Infantry Regiment and The Combat Arms Regimental System (CARS). The second one, from the “special mission in Africa” (Shega Dionis), is asking for some money cos he “lost” his gun… I blocked them. Often, they are widowers with a sad story… I am really sad for this situation cos I love the real Army and the real soldiers which are doing everything for our world, to be safe in hour homes. I am just angry and disgusted for these liars…
    So, the names: Alvin Eckert, Chris Massingale, George Batschelet, Shega Dionis (I looked to Buddy Finder, they are not there… And they are off the Fb now or they blocked me since the last night). And Each of them found my profile on the same Fb page where I take some pictures for sharing.
    There was another one, Sober Zachary (Moreno), he’s always on the list of fake profiles on Facebook…

  • Wilma Goodman May 18, 2016, 10:00 am

    Yep, I am being scammed at this very time as we speak from a man stationed in Kabul Afghanistan by the name of Kelvin Garcia, asked to be friends via Facebook, his Facebook pic shows he is an E8 Sergeant at US ARMY, and yes he did ask for money within a few days after he fell in love with me, said his son lives with his mother and his son wanted a video game so badly for his 10th birthday and it only cost $350.99,… so yes I did send it via Money Gram to his so called sister that lives in Michigan and her name was Laurie Cavagnaro and that is who picked it up….how stupid can we get, then he said he needed a new phone so he could continue texting me since he loved me so very much…again how stupid can we get.

  • bobbie ward May 18, 2016, 6:11 pm

    Can you please tell me if this guy is real & alive or deceased or is he fake? I’d like to know his real name if this isn’t the name of who is in these pics. Met him on FB. How do I send you his pics?

  • Natalia May 19, 2016, 1:17 am

    Great article…
    This was my experienced. I met someone online. His name Bradley Smith.. 30 years old and US Army. I suspect him was scammer love… he told about his daughter. She was 6th years old. Divorce.. and many things.. In 2 days he said he wanted come to my country because he loved me.. That’s funny. He sent me his ID card (edited). And Policies and instruction for leave from Department of Defense United States of America.. That was fake ID an Policies. Then he asked me to sent $1000 to leave the base. I didn’t sent the money. I was blocked his number .. He still sent me an mail (smithiebradley@gmail.com) .He gave me account facebook. But his name on facebook is Aro0n.
    I’m reading this article and more convinced he is scammer.
    Thanks a lot for your great article.

  • Soraiya May 19, 2016, 3:03 pm

    Goes by PAUL DWAYNE SCHWARTZ but said his real name is Perry Bratic, he said he had to use a fake name because he is part of the military intelligence and that he is a British based in Florida. I “met” him a couple months ago on Facebook when he sent me a friend request. We don’t really chat on a regular basis. Now to be honest, I am skeptical of everyone and anything so I don’t trust very easily. I also don’t believe this man’s “story”. He just sent me message telling me how a friend of his met a girl on facebook and that she contacted his commandment and filed a Leave Permit, which of course, was granted. He goes on to say that she even went to the extent of paying for it…..then he proceeds to tell me that I should able to help get him out of there too and that he thinks if I do this he will resign. HA HA HA, At this point I knew this had to be a scam. Anyway, I just wanted to get the name out there and I also have so called pictures of him. Do you know where or how I can report this? Thank you for any help! Good luck to all of you! watch out for these fakes! They should be ashamed of their selves for pretending to be soldiers!

  • Breezy May 19, 2016, 3:35 pm

    I started talking to a guy Named Steven Colon a week ago that say he is deployed in Nigeria and he needs money to come back home and his wife died why he was in west Africa , When I ask for his email address he gets mad and say why you don’t trust me ..

  • Patsy May 19, 2016, 10:50 pm

    How do i know if he is the real deal i feel sorry for him but i don’t want to be used

    • Patsy June 1, 2016, 9:38 pm

      Jordan billy says he is in nigeria and can’t get mail thru apo only thru local post office because he is not in a base just a camp is that possible anyone else had dealings with him

      • Diana May 18, 2017, 2:14 pm

        the first clue is the name!! Jordan Billy?? Secondly we don’t have bases in Nigeria nor do we have camps. too dangerous there. There are a few mil in Nigeria but only for The Embassy etc. Don’t talk to this guy anymore & for sanity sake don’t send money EVER.

  • jane May 21, 2016, 3:31 am

    I am currently chatting to an army as he said. He send me pictures, says he is in Afghanistan. He asked for money to help him book a flight to Dubai to fix his card as there is issue. I read your article, and asked his army email address but he only give me his yahoo mail. He said there he received his call up letter. His name is Sgt. Norman Hayes, or in email ssgthayesnorman@yahoo.com. He said he is from Koppel, Pennsylvania. I am afraid this guy I am talking is only using the name of an army guy. Please check.

  • Patsy May 26, 2016, 12:47 pm

    I would like to know if soldiers in nigeria cannot get mail thru apo address if it has to be sent to local post office and if additional fee to pick up. Please advise says he is sgt. Stationed there name is jordan billy did sent pic in uniform with his name on it

  • Debra July 10, 2016, 1:05 am

    I’ve been talking to a David Spillman
    I meat him on a dating site . He said his wife was in a car wreck and was
    Killed he has a son named James.
    That while he is working for the Army
    He paid her to take care of him.
    He said he lives in New Jersey. He has my family living but his son. The first
    Thing he asked me for was a I phone 6
    As he lost his phone . I said I don’t have money to buy my self one so no.
    Then he wanted to come home he needed 1800.00 to come home he had a letter that was sent to me via E Mail
    From his Cornel . I sent him 1400.00
    And told him that was all the money I had to my name that I was in a car wreck 16 months ago and can’t work
    And I have no money coming in to me.
    Then he spent it all he said on fun things as he had been working so hard over there that he needed that . He said he had some one in the States that had his bank info and that he scammed him so he lock it down he said he can’t even get into it until he gets home. So he has no money there for the things he needs . So then he needed more money I sent him 50.00
    Via money gram to Nigera as he said
    A lays son would pick it up and bring it to him it was 2 different men that picked up the money for him there.
    He keeps asking me when I’m going to get money from the wreck I was in and I said it will be next year some time. I also told him to never ask me again for or about money as I do not have any . I’m sure I’m the dumb one here I’m sure he is use ing a Army mans picture . He sent me a lot of pictures of a Army man with him name . This month he will have been there for one year now . I have been reading about how long they will stay in a country it one year then they are sent home . I asked him for his Army E mail address he said he can’t give it to me as it would compermise him and could get him killed over there.
    His E Mail address is dspillman49@
    Yahoo.com and dspillman16 @ yahoo.com . He gets mad at me when I tell him I have no money to send him
    And when I ask him for his Army E Mail address . I asked to talk to his son he will not let me . I asked what his address is In NJ he will not give me that info . One day a lady called me
    And said he was using her yahoo account she lived in Nigera and she was calling me off her cell phone which was not a cell phone it was the number off of her yahoo account .
    The funnier thing about that was that while I was talking to her he was tx ing me off of her yahoo account . When I told him what she said he got mad and said she was crazy and that was his E Mail address not hers for me not to believe her . I no now I’ve been scammed by him . I just no that God will take care of him for me .
    I just don’t want any one else to be hurt by him . I have learned now not to do on line dating it’s not worth my hurt heart and the money I did not have in the first place .

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