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Are You Dating an Army Soldier or a Fake?

If you don’t want to read the rest of this article, there is one surefire way to know if your soldier is fake:

If a soldier you’re “dating” online asks you for money for ANY reason, it’s a scam. Period. End of story. [Click to tweet this]

And as my husband says….If you have to ask, it’s a scam.


UPDATE: Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from 374 people in these scams! Story here.

Since starting the website in 2004, I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not. Nine times out of ten, they “met” their soldier on a social networking site, such as Facebook, or an online dating site. And he is the one who just happened to find her while he was looking around and decided she’s going to be his future wife. What he really means is she’s going to be his next victim.


Stories That Are Lies

He’s in Special Operations

1. He is in a special operations unit and therefore cannot share any information with you. It’s true that special ops guys can’t discuss their job but that also means they don’t tell random strangers they’re in special ops. My husband was special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. Special ops guys don’t brag about it. They’re known as “quiet professionals” for a reason.

He’s Been Denied Leave

2. He has been deployed for two years, has been denied leave time and will not be coming home any time soon therefore you won’t be able to meet. If there were soldiers being denied leave after being overseas for years at a time, it would be ALL over the news. It’s a lie.

He’s on a Top Secret Mission

3. He is on a top secret mission in a country other than Iraq or Afghanistan (or even in Iraq or Afghanistan – it’s all lies). Now, we certainly do have troops in other countries. However, they don’t talk about it and they certainly don’t tell you they are on a “top secret mission”. Also, any special operations soldier worth his beret will not reveal his location to someone he doesn’t know (or even someone he does!).

He Needs Permission from Someone in His Unit

4. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. This is followed by outrageous lies. If he truly is not allowed to share any details about his job, his CO doesn’t even allow him to talk about it with family, much less someone he met on the internet. Sometimes with this tactic, they will ask you to email/send mail to the CO to ask for permission. Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie.

Everyone Around Him is Dead

5. He says one of the following….his parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. My favorite is when they combine all these things. Really? I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him?

He Has No Mailing Address

6. He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often. Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address. And this is not a post office box and it’s not in Nigeria!! It also has nothing to do with a Western Union office. And you don’t have to send it through a relative because he can’t give out his address.

He Needs Money for Leave

7. He says he needs you to pay for his R&R leave because the Army doesn’t pay for it. This is absolutely false! A real soldier will not request money to travel home as he doesn’t need it! The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone. This includes emergency travel like the death of a loved one. It’s not like you just book your own flight home from Afghanistan on Delta.

He Needs You to Request His Leave

8. He says he can come home but you have to request his leave through an email address. If all an Army spouse had to do was email her soldier’s commander to get him home from deployment, don’t you think ALL Army spouses would be doing this? There would be no one deployed. The Army does not allow leave requests from Army family members. In fact, even in the case of the death of an immediate family member, the information has to be verified by the American Red Cross before the soldier’s command is contacted for possible leave by officials at the Red Cross – they don’t just take your word for it.

He Needs You to Pay for a Phone Line

9. He wants you to pay for a phone line, cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other. Real soldiers can call home for FREE. My husband deployed multiple times and we never paid for a single phone call. If he asks for this, he’s a scam artist. Not to mention, soldiers are making enough to buy a phone card if they really had to.

He’s About to Retire

10. He’s about to retire and then he can marry you and live happily ever after. This usually also includes stories about being a higher ranking officer. Typical story and it’s all lies. Real officers have even LESS time to be online talking to strangers over the internet.

His Child Needs XYZ

11. He has a child that is dying or needs surgery (or some other medical emergency) and he needs the money to pay for it. All military dependents are covered by Tricare, which for the most part is amazing insurance. I had a c-section and was in the hospital in a private room for three days. Know how much I paid? $12. Real soldiers aren’t paying out of pocket for their kid’s medical care.

He’s a General

12. And he’s only 28! Wow, talk about a quick advancement! LOL A General will have well over 20 years of service and less than 1% of officers will make it to the rank of General. On top of that, Generals make a minimum of $12,000 per month in JUST base pay. So why exactly would he need money from you?

His Pay is Deposited in the U.S. and He Has No Access

13. Seriously? First, the Army is providing the essentials while you’re deployed so there’s not a need for a lot of money overseas. Second, you can have access to your money, so this is yet another lie. There are ATMs on any main post and the PX accepts debit and credit cards. If he says he’s somewhere that there isn’t an ATM or another way to get money, there is also nothing for him to spend money on. So why does he need it?

He’s On a Peacekeeping Mission in {insert name of country}

14. Last time I checked we aren’t on a lot of peacekeeping missions in Nigeria and Syria. And if we were, a real soldier wouldn’t tell you that.

Verify The Truth

So how can you find out if he’s telling the truth?

The absolute best way to verify is with #2 – ask him to email you from his AKO address.

  1. Ask for his mailing address overseas. If he can’t provide one, he is lying. There is nothing secretive about an APO address. And an APO address will not be a post office box. It’s also not at a Western Union office!
  2. Ask him to give you his AKO email address rather than his yahoo, hotmail, etc. This will be his firstname.lastname@us.army.mil. All soldiers have an AKO account. There is NO reason why he can’t provide it – regardless of what unit he is assigned to, what his mission may be, who he’s working for, etc. And the AKO account is free so him saying his credit card hasn’t been processed or his account is locked because he didn’t pay is also a lie. If he refuses to provide this, he’s fake.

I originally had other questions you could ask regarding his training, etc, but I’m removing those because many people believed whatever ridiculous information he came up with when they asked.

But you say he’s sent you pictures or a copy of his ID?

Many have been provided pictures, copies of military identification cards, even videos. First, pictures can be grabbed from anywhere on the internet – there’s no guarantee you’re talking to that person. They may very well be using the picture of a real soldier but that doesn’t mean you’re talking to him. Some of these scumbags are using the pictures of soldiers who were killed in action to run their scams. It’s sick.

Someone told me once they were dating a General and she even had pictures. I told her to send them to me. Guess who the pictures were of? David Petraeus!

Some use totally fake pictures in uniforms that are all messed up – I’ve seen Army uniforms with Air Force tapes and Navy insignia – no joke.

I’ve seen very badly doctored military ID cards where it’s obvious he’s typed over information on the card. What’s funny is he’ll type over the only legitimate information on the card and replace it with something that makes no sense. Such as rank of SPC and pay grade of MAJ.

The pictures they use many times on military IDs are so fake and it’s so obvious. Real military ID pictures basically look like a mugshot – solid background with him in uniform and basically only showing his face (maybe the very top of his shoulders). Someone sent me one the other day that not only looked nothing like a military ID (more like a business card for a recruiter), it had a picture of a soldier who was obviously at a military ball or some other formal event as he had a bow tie with his dress uniform. That is NOT an ID picture.

Or maybe he’s added you on Facebook and even changed his relationship status to you

The Army posted this example on their Facebook page:


So exactly which one are you dating? Oh and by the way, I’ve never seen a soldier unless it was on an official page (such as the base commander’s page) that uses his rank in his name.

Soldiers Don’t Have Time For This

99.9% of military guys overseas don’t have the time available to them to email, chat and Skype for hours at a time or even every day online. They are too busy doing their JOB. And most have no interest in “dating” someone online while they’re deployed. Continuing to talk to their loved one that they knew before deployment? Absolutely! Time to peruse dating sites and chat for hours? Absolutely not.

But he said he loves you and wants to marry you….even though you “met” last week

I’m assuming if you’re falling for this, you’ve never been in a military town. Go downtown in a military town to a club one night and let me know how many single soldiers are there looking for the love of their life….not exactly what their goal is. And when you’re thousands of miles away from each other, he doesn’t have the opportunity to sleep with you. So the point would be???

Many of these stories contain comments about him saying he loves you within a few days/weeks of starting to talk or he wants to marry you as soon as he returns. Let’s get this straight – you haven’t met and certainly haven’t had the opportunity to have any kind of physical relationship, yet he wants to marry you? Does this sound feasible to you? If you’re even hesitating on the answer, I’ll help you. It’s not. They’re lying so they can get in your wallet. And they’re doing this to many others at the same time they’re doing it to you. It’s just who is going to open up access to their bank account first.

But you asked him if he was a scammer and he said no!

Come on, think about this! Why would he admit it to you? Or even better, he told you he is in fact a scammer but he REALLY loves you…..as long as you keep sending him money.

He hasn’t asked for money yet though

Don’t worry, he will. If any of the above signs sound familiar, it’s only a matter of time. He may get pretty far into his story before he asks. He may wait until his plane is suppose to leave and you’re meeting him in less than 24 hours. Then all of the sudden disaster strikes and he needs three grand to be able to come home. LIES!

Even though he’s doing these things, you still think he’s the real deal

I hate to be harsh but if any of the above sounds familiar, it’s a SCAM. Don’t sit there and think you’re the exception. You’re not the lucky one who’s encountered these signs but somehow your guy is the real deal. He’s FAKE. He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t want to marry you. And sooner or later, he’s going to ask for money.

I get emails and messages (or comments) from people who tell me the story and ask me if he’s fake. I answer yes, it’s a scam. And what do they do? Keep asking me more questions – but he does this or he said this or he sent me these pictures. Guess what? The answer is still the same. It’s a scam. Go back and read the first line in bold at the top of this article. I don’t care if he asks you to mail him a penny – a real soldier will NOT ask you for money. A real soldier makes more overseas than he does when he’s home!!

The Scam Checklist

So let me sum this up:

  • If he’s asking for money for a phone line, it’s a scam.
  • If he’s asking for money for travel home, it’s a scam.
  • If he needs you to help him move money from one location to another, it’s a scam.
  • If he asks for your bank account information, it’s a scam.
  • If he wants you to wire money for ANY reason via Western Union (or similar service), it’s a scam.
  • If he asks you to email his command so he can come home, it’s a scam.
  • If he tells you to open a bank account or credit card for him, it’s a scam (and this one could get you into legal trouble!)

PLEASE quit sending these people money! If you’re just itching to give away your money, send it to me! haha After all, I’ve spent more hours than I can count updating this article with the latest techniques and answering questions here and elsewhere.

Finally, if you don’t believe me, please read this article from the Army – Soldier Scams

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Susan September 26, 2014, 7:39 am

    I have been chatting with someone who claims to be Captain Roberts Kenneth Lee. He says he is on a peacekeeping mission in El Gora. He wants to retire and marry me. BUT he wants me to first put in for a secure line to be able to talk to him, AND that I have to register for Military Wives, before he can put in for retirement which I need to request. I reluctantly did, after I started reading up on this….just to see what would happen. Well I got the first response back regarding the secure line….they want me to pay $480.00 for 5 months. And the reply when I registered is that they want me to pay $520.00. The kicker now is..when I broke up and called him out on it, and said to NEVER contact him again. ……Now he just emailed that if I do this he will hurt himself! What should I do?

    • Diana October 27, 2014, 6:44 pm

      Don’t talk to him, again at all. You can’t control someone who is telling you he is going to hurt himself. He is using that to influence you. I have been scammed out of 32 thousand $$$$ by one person who claims to be US Army Spec. OPS. When I told him I couldn’t send him anymore money, I never heard from him again.

    • Anonn1 October 27, 2014, 10:01 pm

      Nothing they say this crap all the time he is a Scammer cut off All contact.

  • Marianne September 26, 2014, 12:59 pm

    I served my first tour as an Aeroscout Platoon Leader in the 5th Infantry Division, Ft. Polk, Louisiana. My next assignment was as the Assistant S3, 1-502d ATK AVN Regt, 2AD, Ft. Hood, Texas; followed by S2, 1-4th ATK AVN Regt, 4ID, Ft. Hood. After attending the MI Advanced Course, I served as the S4, 3rd Squadron, 6th Cavalry Regt, Republic of Korea. Upon return from Korea, I served as the S1, 1-3d ATK AVN Regt, 3ID, Hunter Army Airfield, Georgia. I then commanded Alpha Company, 1-3d ATK AVN Regt, 3ID, Hunter Army Airfield. After attending Army Command and General Staff College, i served as the Brigade S3, and later as the Brigade XO, of the 21st Cavalry Brigade, Ft. Hood. In 2005, I was selected to be the Brigade S3, 4th Combat Aviation Brigade, 4ID, Ft. Hood, and served in that position throughout the unit’s deployment to Operation Iraqi Freedom 2005-06. My most recent assignment was as the G3 Chief of Current Operations/Aviation, Early Entry Command Post (Airborne), USARAK, Ft. Richardson, Alaska.

    My awards include the Bronze Star Medal, Meritorious Service Medal with 2 Oak Leaf Clusters, Army Commendation Medal with 4 Oak Leaf Clusters, Iraqi Campaign Medal, Korea Defense Service Medal, Humanitarian Service Medal for Hurricane Katrina, two Overseas Service Ribbons, and a Meritorious Unit Citation from Operation Iraqi Freedom. I has earned the Senior Aviator Badge and the Parachutist Badge. I am qualified in the AH-64D Longbow Apache, the AH-64A Apache, the OH-58 Kiowa, and the UH-1 Iroquois “Huey” Helicopter. I have been in the force for 25 years and been in Kabul(Afghanistan) for 6 months and will having my retirement in March and am also a Special Ops and an air craft technician and here in the middle east is just like a world without no fear just all about pain and sorrow and that’s why we here and try to protect the nation we serve….

    So this is all fake from Paul White????
    LOL didnot fall for it for one minute maybe I’ll ask for money first

  • Audra September 27, 2014, 4:32 pm

    Trying to scam women. Keith carraway says he is a staff sargent in Egypt. Will send love poems and tell you he loves you so much. And Scott Schoop. Says his wife passed away from breast cancer years ago, has a daughter, is in Iraq, needs money to have a phone and his own internet, also for leave, Also in love within the first week or so. So sad. Please don’t send money and don’t even talk to them.

  • Cate September 28, 2014, 11:37 am

    Thank you so much for this article, I having been IM’ing with a guy who claims to have a higher ranking position in the Army and claims he is retiring in 2 months and wants to marry me. Then, all of a sudden he wants money wired to someone claiming to be a lawyer with Chevron to receive his package for him. Anyways I do not believe him but the tough part for me is he has been using Christianity to manipulate me. I feel bad and he came at a time when I am lonely, not dating. Thank you again.

  • tracy September 29, 2014, 1:33 am

    I’m so glad I found this site I am currently talking to a guy that say he is colonel in the US army his name is Kendrick araujo he has asked me to send him money to set up a phone line and if I can send him a phone cause his phone is crap thank god I haven’t sent a thing after reading the comments on this site I will be asking him for his apo address and his ako adress thank god I haven’t sent any money

  • Cate September 29, 2014, 7:17 am

    I was able to confirm my fake army guy is for sure a fake thanks to the posts on here. I ran his pic through tin eye and found him, I do not know who the guy in the pic really is but the guy I have been talking to is from Ghana. He went by the name Calvin, he is been on speed date, USmilitarysingle and his email is lovelyheart54@live.com. I have an IP address too.

    • Naya October 19, 2014, 2:53 am

      Hi Cate…..I had been talking to a guy in Ghana too. He said his name was William and he worked at the US Embassy there. Are we talking about the same guy?

  • Lynett September 30, 2014, 9:20 am

    Hi ladies am from South Africa i have been scamed by the guy claim to be an US army currently he is in Afghanistan in Kabul. His name is Ernest scott Lopez he said he is 47years old he has a daughter her name is Jessica she lives with her granny in America, we have been chatting since August 24 till last friday when he told me that he has a money on him huge amount of money that he got it from Muammar Gaddafi, when he went to his house for his arrest, so now he cant take this money to US when he go back to his country cause he may end his biautiful carier, so he want to move this money here in SOUTH AFRICA by Deplomatic carrier services so i can use this money for my personal use and keep same for him, until he comes to my country for our marriege plan, but i have to pay 1,500,00USD for clearence of the money, thank God i have know about the scam i was waiting for him to ask the money. What i dont like about this scammers they are using pictures of US army with they are familys like this so called Ernest he send me the foto of this soldier and his mother it is not good, i find out that this guy he is in NIGERIA in LAGOS.

  • Joy September 30, 2014, 12:23 pm

    Hi, I have been talking to a guy by the name of Jason Gordon for a good few weeks now, initially he didnt tell me he was in the US Army, until we were talking about what our occupations are, and he said he was on tour out in Kabul Afghanistan! We have been talking a good few weeks now, but he is restricted to when he is on, and sometimes, he is on, but the server or signal seems to be very slow! He said he lives in Chicago but is from Texas!

  • Jody September 30, 2014, 7:00 pm

    I too fell for this. I didn’t send him money but became very suspicious when he asked me to send 2 new iphones, sealed and brand new. It seemed odd and that is when I realized it was a scam. However now I’m terrified that he knows my email address and phone number. How can we stop this? Is there somewhere we can report an individual falsely claiming to be a US Military Officer? Does anyone know how to file a complain with the US Army so they can be aware there are people claiming to be military personnel fraudulently?

    Thank you and best wishes to everyone. I guess there are all kinds of scum in this world… but to impersonate one of our service men is truly sick.

  • Mary October 1, 2014, 12:00 pm

    I have had 3 “army” guys on my friends list. 2 of the 3 have asked for things. “Army” guy #1 asked for a care package, cell phone, help with his son’s day care expenses, and a flight out of Kabul. “Army” guy #2 asked me to fill out a leave request and $3,ooo. “Army” guy #3 didn’t ask for anything, but took himself off of my friends list when I asked for his APO address. They like to take pictures of really gorgeous guys and use them to trick you. How do I find out about the guys in the pictures? If they are real and are they in the U.S. or stationed overseas.

  • Missy October 2, 2014, 4:02 pm

    Stacey I forgot to ask you, besides all this being a shame and that all these scammers should be in jail, I would really want to know if there are real sites where u can actually meet real army soldiers for real I was in love with a Leutenant Commander from the navy years ago and lost track of him because of some circumstances in life. We were very much in love and I tried to look him up but I haven´t been able to find him.
    Thanks again for you site it came just in time

    • Stacey Abler October 8, 2014, 8:31 pm

      You can also go through some of the places that send care packages, etc to soldiers overseas. But just know it’s not a dating service and you don’t have any input on who you’re assigned. It’s just a way to support the troops.

  • carol larocque October 5, 2014, 10:57 pm

    A Martin Markson apparently stationed un Afghanistan US General asking for money to
    ship boxes with money insiside to my home in Canada. He contacted me from LinkedIn.Does anyone this this person?

    • Manuela Blodgett October 23, 2014, 3:32 am

      Hello Carol,
      maybe I can help you. I met a US General namend Martin Mark, At this time in Afghanistan. On then web site Militarycupid. Lol and I was his only one, his everything because he was looking for a woman, that he loves who he are and not for what he are! Love doesen’t interest title, rank or society, he said to me. Lol he wanted to come my home in Germay and stayed for long time. But before he can request me for money. I’ve had asked him for his AKO account and I said..,send me a email from there! Uups Profile switched off!
      He is a scammer. Don’t waste your time,

      Please, I am sorry , my english is not so good.

      Manuela Blodgett

  • Luc October 7, 2014, 9:02 am

    Hi Stacey.

    Thank you very much for this article. I think I’m already in the middle of something and perhaps a few more steps, I’ll end up being scammed. I’ll be doing a few more security steps and once I’ve received the responses that’ll prove my suspicions, I’ll certainly post more information here to help other. Your tips here have really been helpful. You have my appreciation and gratitude for your article here. God bless you, Stacy!

  • Diana Lynn Shafer October 7, 2014, 11:12 am

    Hello, my name is Diana, I have just a bit of a different story. First i don’t use my real name on Facebook. But I totally understand where your all coming from. Mine little fake was somehow on a friend of mines fb friends list. He had sent me a request a few days before i even knew they were there, I then read them and omg. He had already started in his inital letter to me on messenger.But it took him a few days to start telling me that he loved me and wanted to spend his life with me, he had already told his mom and kids about me.They were so very happy for him. Not Even a week passed and he had asked for money for his mom to get thingsthat his kids needed and to help put food on the table.He proceeded to ask me if I had any money at all that I could help with. I said look i live on disability i have no money. He was darling this baby that, he then asked me what bank my went to. I told him my money comes straight to me and that i waslucky to have a dollar left out of it after i pay my bill’s. I had already been questioning his loving someone he had know clue about,but I played him as well or better than he had me. Lol. I was playing his game.HE THEN asked me to go open an account so that i could help him send money to mom, and if I knew of any resources to help his mom.I said well the first thing is go file for foodstamps, o hell he was outraged,saying darling i will not subject my family to foodstamps.Well that upset me,, because being on ssi check i had foodstamps,and i don’t have a problem with it. So I started asking him questions And he really didn’t like that at all, so he blocked me from fb..but continued to text me because he loved me. Lol. I played him like a fiddle I had already been searching him on Google,, and Yahoo. He can’t outsmart a marine corp mom,,,,, I was loveing it,, I already knew, well the Monday before my payday on that wensday he told me go ahead and open that bank acouñt.Ok I told him,,,, yeah right,, well i guess he caught on I haven’t heard from him again and it’s been about 2weeks now.but I’ve found him n Illinois, and I’m sure hes calling me a few choice names. Sargent special ops Lugan Cutcher.there is no LUGAN CUTCHER. Thank you all so much for your help. Sincerely ,,Diana..

  • Jennifer October 8, 2014, 5:53 pm

    Found a “sgt” on OKCupid by the name of Dustin Martinez. Gave me his cell phone number to text after about three messages on the site and said he is deployed to Kabul, Afghanistan. Now, about four weeks later after lots of texts and emails, he’s asking for money to help pay for his cell phone bill, since it’s really expensive to text and go online from there. Of course, the way to get money to him for him to put on his military calling card is to go to Western Union, send it to a third person, and then they will make sure it gets to his account. Supposedly, his bill is around $2400. His email is dustinmartinez338@yahoo.com. Think I’ll ask to meet up after the second email with the next person I meet online. What a waste of time and energy.

    • dar October 29, 2014, 12:17 am

      Recently met a “soldier” on this site. Told me he was born in Canada but lived with his Uncle in the U.S. . The “Uncle” was german and that’s why he, the “soldier” , has an “accent” when he texts with me.
      Then told me how his ex-wife ripped him off and how when he read my profile, he just had to know me better.

      I just wrote to him and asked him for his AKO..

      Thank you so much.. I have this gut feeling it’s all a lie but couldn’t figure out how to proveit.

      Goodluck to the single ladies out there

  • laura October 9, 2014, 4:21 pm

    I started talking to a Us Army Sgt.MartinezKohl. asked me for a phone that is about $600 in africa. Thats were he os base at. He also wants me to send him money by western union

  • Maricarmen Simon October 9, 2014, 10:11 pm

    How can I report if someone has been sending me messages and chating he is a General in a base in Afganistan, and I investigated and that General does exist, but he has not been in Afganistan since 2013, he was transfered…Thank you

  • Sam October 10, 2014, 12:45 pm

    Thank you for posting this information. It has been very helpful!! I think I figured out that I was being scammed after only two weeks of being chatted with. They didn’t want to exchange emails and he was defensive about it. Saved me lots of time, energy and thought power. Do you have an email that I can email you I want to see if you know the person that this is. If its someone famous in the military. I’m kinda annoyed that this person is using fake military pictures. I want to know if there is a way to report this. Thanks!!

  • mary October 10, 2014, 7:06 pm

    I’ve been talking to a nice gentleman from Canada. His wife and son died but he has a daughter and wants to marry me and settle down on the west coast together so we can all be a family. He asked for a phone so that we could text freely. Do you mean this could be a scam? His name is Derrick Clue and he’s told me he is a doctor serving in Iraq.

  • Melissa October 12, 2014, 12:29 pm

    I feel like such a sucker!! I met Capt. Miller Woodgate on Perfect Match.com He stated he was in the Army training Afghan Forces. When I asked if I could send him a care package, he said he wasn’t allowed to send or receive anything. His email address is millerwoodgate@outlook.com
    Today he told me that he wanted to talk & that I should email uswelfaredepartment @hotmail.com. When I questioned why it’s not a .gov email, he said it was for security reasons. That someone would call me to set up the call. So far he hasn’t asked for money, not that I have any to give, but I can’t believe I fell for his scam!!!!

  • Carolyn October 12, 2014, 7:20 pm

    Has anyone been contacted by Kelvin Samuel Benjin sationed North Africa? I know he is a fake I checked him out. No such person. Told me he is widowed with 7 year old daughter named Grace from Texas. Tells me he loves me. Crazy I told him he is a fake and give me his AKO email or an APO address nothing of course. He said I will explain sure he will. I said when are you going to ask me for money. Write me if he has contacted anyone.

  • anne October 13, 2014, 3:30 am

    I have met via tagged a so called us army named charles sanders whose now in a mission at nigeria, and as same story he ask me to request for his leave application via email of usmilitaryleavedept.com and as expected they have send the leave policy and it shows theres that the requesting relatives should pay some fees. And when i ask him how much needed to pay he says only $200.00 only. I was shocked how small time only he wants to get as a scum. I never send the money anyway. but up to now he keeps on sending me messages as if he really cares for me.

  • Emily October 13, 2014, 4:49 pm

    Hi Stacy,

    I’ve been talking to Capt. James Thompson for 2 weeks now, he’s a widow from NY with a 13 yr old daughter. I my case, is the contrary, to all the stories read before, he has been nice and not asking for anything, I met him on hi5 and he uses a yahoo email which I found suspicious, anyhow he does want to meet in person and his grammar in english is perfect. He sent me a gift (laptop/phone) and put money $5k inside to help me out cause I’m presently unemployed and he wanted to help me withs my mortgage and expenses. I was surprised by his willingness cause I didn’t ask him for help or anything nor the gift itself. He gave me tracking for the shipment but the package supposedly has been held by customs in Panama cause they noticed the currency and are now asking to pay via Western Union $1,550.00 in order to release it. I told him he had to resolve this issue with the courier and he said he had money there with him but that he couldn’t send money out, that’s why he sent me the money cash in the package “RED FLAG” and asked if I could borrow it from someone and send the WU and then return it when I get the package. I believe even the courier company is a scam, http://www.highflyexpress.com cause I’ve searched every where and even the Cambodia yellow pages where supposedly the main offices are and it doesn’t exist. They have sent me an email explaining this and have called me cause he had to get all my info in order to send it.

    This is to inform you that your parcel is now at
    Tocumen International Airport panama city,but there was a little
    problem that was the reason your parcel has not been delivered to
    you.Despite all our effort with the special securities and
    agents,hard currency was discovered in your package here in panama
    city which is against the law of the country but we tried our best to
    make sure that everything went well,we contacted our head office in
    Cambodia and they gave us the order to negotiate with the customs.We
    negotiated with the customs here and they agreed on our term to offer
    them some certain amount of money.We paid $1,550.00usd to them for the
    safety of your package.But we gave the order not to proceed with the
    delivery of the package until the $1,550.00usd refund is confirmed via
    western union to us.Once you complete the payment,your package will be
    delivered to you in 24hrs from the time of your payment.We made the
    payment on your behalf in other to maintain our customer-ship with you
    and to also show you our concern.Here is the information to make the
    payment via western union to our heand office.




    NOTE:If you need our account information,it will be forwarded to you
    but remember it is going to take five(5) working days before the fund
    will be confirmed in our account and that might cause you to pay extra
    fee for over staying of your package here at the airport.Make sure
    there is no error on the receiver’s name to avoid any delay or
    inconveniences and send the details of your payment to us via email
    for confirmation and your package will be delivered to you.For your
    own benefit,you are advised to make the payment as early as possible
    today and send us the details of the payment for confirmation and we
    will order for the delivery of your package.Please reply to us now and
    let us know your plans.Please remember that your package was not
    opened by customs or individual because it’s against the company’s
    policy to open our customers packages before delivery,it was only
    discovered with a scanning machine at the airport but your package is
    now safe and will be delivered to your door in 24hrs immediately the
    refund is confirmed.The safety of your package is our concern thanks.



    Country manager,
    David chu lee,

    1 Carton Of Apple Laptop System/ Samsung GALAXY S5 phone/
    On Hold By Custom / Please Check Your EMAIL For More Information
    6:23 am
    Arrived In Tocumen International Airport panama city
    Processed & Departed from United Arab Emirate – dubai airport
    Processed & Departed From Kabul Afghanistan International Airport

    I’m not sending any money anywhere that is for sure, but wanted to share my story because is a new version of what’s going on with these scams.

    Thanks so much for this page and for saving many women of these scams, God bless you !

  • Leslie October 14, 2014, 5:42 pm

    I have been in touch with a guy for over a year now who says he is a staff sergeant in the army. He’s asking for my bank info and wants to send just shy of $6000 to my acct. He claims it’s for ‘processing” so he can come back to the states. After the money is in my account he has told me to wire it thru western union AND moneygram. I feel so stupid for falling for this! I know something isn’t right or I wouldn’t be on your site. I fell for the guy who he is portraying. I mea I really fell for him!

  • mikaela October 18, 2014, 3:28 pm

    Well I’m in contact with lieutenant Colonel, he told me he will losing contact with me because he’s using he’s commanders laptop also he says that he’s cell phone explored on a blast. Now he requested for me to buy him a laptop because he’s commander is traveling and he doesn’t want to lose me. Also he says he’s wife got kill and he kids are in birding school here on the states. He started that he in love with me and he wants me to be he’s wife. And also that he’s retiring and coming to the states in a few months, I asked when is he coming, he said there’s no specific date. I wonder if I’ve been fool or what????. He ask me to email a diplomat that travels allot so I can send him a care package for he’s birthday. He send pictures of him with formal uniform and now tie also a picture of him with he’s kids. So I wonder if I’m being taking as an ass. Love the articles on this site. Thank you for all the information.

  • Nina Poulton October 19, 2014, 9:18 am

    Here’s a doozy girls, I’m an Aussie girl and I feel sorry for the real CSM Raymond Chandler a respected military personnal and his wife Jeannie, there’s a guy out there whose using your profile on Facebook, calls himself Arnold Chandler, his email arnoldchandl.outlook.com has lots of your photo’s and info says he is based in Kabul Afghanistan says he is a CSM and in Peace Keeping cant talk about his job all hush hush . Usual stories – here’s me somewhat vunerable and lonely but not totally brain dead, widowed for some years who kind of fell into the bullshit he spun. After all being flooded by 700 + messages with multitudes of endearments, music clips, promises and bullshit most of us get sucked in you may or may not agree. said he would move to where I lived and so on and so on. I am at best I think fairly intelligent with intuitive gut feelings, but when there’s the constant 100 days of rain your brain gets mushy and your guard slips. One imagines the a soldier defending his country has a sense of decency & trust. But there’s the scammers, guess there all crowded into some building a bit like an Indian call centre. So ladies beware here’s the story poor wife got killed tragically (or died of some horrible illness), has son (or even daughter) aged anywhere between 11 – 14 no other family…. looking for a new mommy (age obviously doesn’t matter) of independent means. Trouble is you let them in to your life with lots of info which I’m sure they are going to use to create ANOTHER YOU IN A ANOTHER IDENTITY FRAUD for some unsuspecting soul which virtually stuff up your reputation, I am an artist so that does not fare well for my profile. in another identity fraud to scam some other poor victim. So son age 14 (Keltin) is really sick in emergency (his sister Jenni) is supposed to be his carer) and lo & behold no money for the emergency drips so could I help out and send it western union to a Michelle Antoinette Butler of 121 HOneywood Rd, Rocky Mount. Oh its only for $3,720. Please if I have stupid tattooed on my forehead let me know, but yes I was a partial victim of this scam and con merchant even as a short time basis. Mind you my ego fared marvellously well. Yes I am in that 60 + age group where men look for either a cash cow, sugar mamma or nursemaid hopefully I’m smart enough to recognise the next one. Be warned, facebook is putting out your profile to these scammers they are having a field day. So be warned ladies and also some gents if you get a request from me its not me. Nina Poulton

  • meehmeeh October 21, 2014, 6:57 am

    is it a true guy, he told me i have to made a request of his temporary withdrawal in kabul.. i need to make a request of withdrawal letter to attorney and it is subject for approval in washington dc.. the expenses is 3, 500 euro.. is it possible ? please anybody can help me or giving me advice about this.

  • Kim Lee October 22, 2014, 8:57 pm

    Hi Tracey is that true you have to pay to register as a wife or fiancée of the military ? Am talking to the guy he is UN Norwegian army and to it’s cheaper to registered in UN Ghana he said it will cost £1.500.00 and if in USA it will cost £5,000.00 is this true. Please advice me thanks.

  • vikki October 24, 2014, 5:17 am

    Theres this guy i met back in April2014 online and we talk for 10mins or less. He said hes in the Army and on deployment in Afghanistan. He ask me if i could help him with his care packages so i ask him where to send the care packages and he told me to email to this address: uscampadmin@militaryservice.info to ask for an agents info and how much money to send to in Moneygram or western union.. so that the agent can shop for them and delivered to the camp where they are….is this true? Can they get care packages like this too?

  • Conny October 24, 2014, 2:08 pm

    I just started to talk to a soldier, he said he is in Afghanistan, coming back in 2 month, he writes all this stuff about finding the right women, he closed his account on cupit,because of security reason, I got is name if it’s the right one and his unit if it is the right on, I just sensed him an e mail asking to give me his A.P.O, can’t waite to see what the answer is. How can I check him out ?

  • denise gregory October 24, 2014, 4:43 pm

    I have been talking to a man who claims he is a dr out in sudan working for the united nations he says he love me and to send an email to the medical secretary for some leave the I was asked for 2.500 pounds so he could be released from the un im struggling to know if this is true name dr ethan conner could please help

  • amron October 24, 2014, 11:14 pm

    Met on line A us army of Kabul afghan..agen..why is so popular..we become friends text messaginh.he call at times with u known ,999,private..sounds romantic ..WHY THIS SCAMMER,NIGERIAN have no heart doing bad things to scam guy people..GOD will punish them using America’s military pictures to get victims..KARMA will be all yours BAD people that includes your family circle….GOD IS not sleeping always put that in your heads…you bad people out there..sure I will pray hard of your scamsss…

  • sherry October 25, 2014, 12:36 pm

    hello, i am also dating someone in the peace corp his name is Mike Hertling he said that he is in Africa helping with the Ebola patients. we have been talking on and off since last April. i know he is a scam-er i have been checking him out he first used a face book page under the name of Robinson Mike but gave me a yahoo e-mail address hertling.mike@yahoo.com and wanted me to join yahoo messenger. that is not happening they can talk just as well on face book through messenger. well today he proceeded to say that he asked for leave and wanted me to ask for him that i will be contacted i had to lol to myself because i know how thing work i replied that i call the millitary and they told me that it was all up to him i have nothing to do with it. he said that the peace corp is different i said military is military that its all up to him i also told him that if he comes back that he would be qorrteen for a bit because of being around Ebola patients. he said no he is fine.

  • True? October 27, 2014, 5:46 am

    Hi Stacy

    Thank you for your information it was invaluable. I took you advice and I received his AKO email, so he’s real??

    • Stacey Abler November 7, 2014, 8:08 pm

      What was it? Did you try to email that address in a new email….not a reply?

  • natalie October 28, 2014, 6:27 am

    I met a guy on okc said he comes home in two months never asked me for money wanted to give me money weirdi did ask him fr his ako email but he sent me a link that showed as in jan 2014 they will no longer have those ako emails anymore the have to use there personal ones he wanted me t sign up as being engaged so he could send me money ..he does have a cell that we text but when he called me in was from a unknown caller ..I asked him why he said he has to use a pay phone I am s confused …I asked for his mailing address but never got one probley fake even told him that he claims he is real

  • Teresa October 30, 2014, 12:15 pm

    I have been getting emails from a guy named Richard Pelzer his email is rpelzer21@yahoo.com.
    I asked him for his AKO address and he gave me this address richard.pelzer@us.arm.mil
    I was wondering if they can fake a AKO address.
    He talked to me years ago and then stopped and now four years later he has popped up again telling me how he loves me and misses me.
    I was wondering if anyone else has heard of him.
    I will not be sending him ANYTHING AT all.
    I am just curious if I am the only person that has heard from him.
    I think he is a fake solider and if he is someone should do something about him impersonating a real solider, because that is so wrong.
    I had talked to him 3 years ago and now he is try to talk to me again.
    I have married and have moved on with my life, but was wondering if he is a fake.
    If so can someone help stop this horrible person if he is impersonating a re as l soldier.
    Thank you for your time and advice in advance.

  • DIANE KERRIDGE October 31, 2014, 5:55 pm

    Hi, im Diane & i would like your help. Ive been online to some Soldiers, but can u let me know if they are True or Scammers.
    Michael Hortsman – we have been talking since 2012, we get on & have a laugh. hes now in Nigeria. He has never asked me for anything, which pleases, but is a True Military man?
    Jennings Jones- asked me for 400$ to get him home to me. Didnt do it of course.
    kyle Rodriques – Asked me for money. Did not help him.
    Irwin Robles – asked me for 4,000 $ not bloody help him.
    Alex Champman – Asked me to help his sick son, but didnt help.
    Please let me know? reply to me via my email please.
    From Diane

  • Nikki November 3, 2014, 12:44 pm

    I have been talking to a guy for one month. He says he is a soldier in Nigeria. He did ask for money once to help get another phone but I told him I couldn’t afford it and he dropped it. Hasn’t asked again. I came across this scam information last night. I feel so stupid cuz i think I’m being played. I have been telling all my friends about this amazing guy. Now I don’t know how to get out without sounding like a fool. I knew he was too good to be true and fought this for a while but I gave in and started having feelings for this guy. He goes by Daniel Adams email is danieladams63@yahoo.com. He is supposedly a first seargant. He never tells me anything about what he does cuz he says he can’t. There just have always been some red flags not sure what they were exactly but just some things he said bothered me cuz he seemed to perfect to be true. How do I get out of this with him and my friends? One big red flag recently was they had a staff meeting 9am new seargant until 2am. I’m being played I’m pretty sure but what can I ask to be sure? Then what do I tell my friends about him cuz been talking about him to them and don’t want to say I was scammed. Thanks for your help. Oh and he has even used Christianity as part of his profile which is what got my attention to believe he was real.

  • Trudy November 3, 2014, 6:29 pm

    i have talked to so many ‘soldiers’ lately – most i knew there was something not right – but the latest one i have talked to for about one year – just now he has asked me to send 457.57 to subscribe for a secure phoneline and we can talk to see if there is anything between us – then he can put in for a leave and there will be a processing fee BUT there will be a $75,000.00 bonus when he leaves army that he will have put into my account as the person who is requesting his leave, and he can be here in 72 hrs.
    I was to sent the 457.57 to Agent in charge of secure line: Biolo Olatunji in Isolo, Lagos, Nigeria 23401
    with the question: what is your favorite color and answer is purple
    When i saw Nigeria – i freaked and asked why Nigeria? He said thats why he was deployed and he is from Jordon Utah but lives in Tennesse and his name is Frank
    Anybody hear of him?
    So happy i came across this site.

  • Nikki November 3, 2014, 7:47 pm

    I asked for his APO address and AKO email and they seem to fit your description of what is real but still need to know how to tell for sure. He says he will be home by January 2015. He hasn’t asked for money or account information. Just been texting and not all the time. Long periods where he isn’t available. I’m doubting after reading about this scam but he seems to have legit information I can’t disprove right now. His email address isn’t on lists I have looked at or name . Just know seems to know a lot about where I am from. Please help me get unconfused. When you respond I will give you a dress he gave me.

    • Stacey Abler November 7, 2014, 8:00 pm

      Message me on facebook with the details and I’ll help.

  • lynn chittenden November 3, 2014, 10:34 pm

    Hi. If anyone knows who belongs to michael deese from illilloppils Ill. Can you please let me know. I reckon he is scamming my friend … wants to marry her and retire here. Hasnt asked for money yet but has been sent stuff and got her to fill in his leave papers as his wife lol. Thanks all

  • lynn chittenden November 3, 2014, 10:40 pm

    Hi. Sorry I meant to ask if you can get this page set up to share on facebook please. Not sure how to do it myself but someone on here could help or maybe I can learn? Great information and hoping my friend believes you because she won’t believe me … grrr!

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