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Army R&R Travel from Overseas


Your soldier has to pay for his own travel back home during R&R when he is deployed overseas.


No, he does not. The military pays for this flight to the airport of his choice. The only stipulation is that whatever airport he flies into is the same airport he must fly back out of when he returns to theater.

Please note there is a scam where unsuspecting people are being told that a “soldier” must pay thousands to return home for R&R. The people are asked to wire money to the soldier to pay for his flight or he won’t be able to come home. This is a scam and not legitimate.

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Ashlyn Bradford November 7, 2012, 4:31 pm

    Yes I too was Scammed out of thousands of $ I barrowed believing in the words, photos and counterfit documents sent to me.

    Why is it that no one seems willing to go Public/On the record about this scam?

    Why isn’t there a entinty that will investigate this Robbery?

    If I walked into a bank and missapproiated $10,000 dollars. I’m certain there would be a way to locate me!

    Sincerely, another one of the thousands of single females being victimized for the past several years, with no assistance, or concern.

  • ROBERT JONES November 8, 2012, 2:04 pm

    COL. Hughes, did you command No Slack @ Fort Campbell back in 2002-2004?

  • veronica November 14, 2012, 6:03 am

    This scammer calls himself Captain Irwin Rooney, claims to have had an abusvie childhood, wife died in car crash, he has one daughter with his sister in canada, But I have done my homework, and have string him along, as I am writing this, he now waiting for the money, which I have not sent. So lads and ladies, learn from it. Never ever send any money to a stranger. I can across this site whilst looking at army scammers. If you look at it they are all similar stories. I am now waiting for him to get back to me or will he?????

    • yoko June 9, 2013, 1:42 pm

      Thanks for sharing your story, I guess I have text with same kind of soldier! he just talked about that it’s going to cost money him to come home!

  • Regina November 14, 2012, 7:22 pm

    I have been talking to two soldiers online both say they need to pay for leave, I have told them both I will not send money e Er. They are both still talking to me… Has anyon heard of leighton keys at or obrien or maj. Gen John Allen?

  • beny November 21, 2012, 9:40 pm

    I have been chatting to a sgt Jack Sutherland he says he is deployed in Kuwait since the begining I am suspicious that he is a scammer, but I wanted to follow the game, he got mad when I sent some links with his pictures reported as scammer, we have only one week chatting and he says I am the woman of his life, he says the same old story that he is a widow with two boys, he is asking me to write to ask for permission to tlk on the phone, but I wont do it because it is strange that an e mail addres of the armi ends with .com instead of .gov am right???

  • J.Williams December 5, 2012, 7:44 pm

    just wanted to say yup i was the stupid one for fallin for that Thomas Watts character and I have to say I did get scammed out of 350.00 . I never knew how cruel and heartless people could actually be until I watched the MTV show Catfish and thats when I started thinkin after this Thomas Watts character had told me that the 350.00 was for his leave cause he had to pay it he then told me he needed money for his flight like 2,000.00. So I started thinking something didnt feel right like it just doesnt make sense I never heard of such a thing so I started questionin him all kinds of questions sometimes the same ones over again and he would always just answer me differently and he would get so mad when i ask him about military questions so thats when I knew I got scammed but I never did send him that 2,000.oo. I hope all this guys who are scammin these military man go down like literally. Im so upset with these characters giving our good troops bad names u know?! So I just hope you guys are working on this or someone is .

  • Cece December 7, 2012, 7:20 pm

    Has anybody been in contact with a guy named Brent Boliver??? Age 38 from Texas(?) Divorced with a 7yr old daughter name Alysia. He states that he is working under contract in Afghanistan with NATO training the Afghan troops. Any help would be greatly appreciated

  • pamela anderson December 15, 2012, 12:56 am

    yes sgt decker is playing again but i think he thanks everyone is stupid same old story

  • Cynthia McAden December 20, 2012, 9:18 am

    I was ask to be friends with a Gilbert Palmer on Facebook about a month ago. We have been IM on yahoo. He has been saying all the right things until yesterday…..he wishes to be with me for Christmas and he needs me to send him $580 for his luggage insurance. He has really been to sweet to be true and on and on….I was given this information this morning: I can send a Western Union for these monies to: Adams Joseph
    112 Ajose Street
    Victoria Island Lagos
    Nigeria 23401
    Just wanted to let any other women that may be approached by this SCUM BAG impersonating our hard working military!!!!!!! DO NOT SEND HIM ANY MONEY!!!!! He has pictures posted of a military man and his small son that I wish I could find and let him know that these terrible people are posing as him! There should be something we can do to stop these people! If anyone has any suggestions of how I could find the man in the picture and let him or his family know of this FAKE posting I would appreciate it! This is disgusting for anybody to do to our military!!!!!!!
    Thank You

    • Amelia Moore March 28, 2013, 7:04 am

      I have just cut all ties with “Gilbert Palmer ” as he has asked me for the same amount of money for the same thing as you but to be sent through western union to Ermelinda Solelo of Saudi Arabia, he even had the photos you described. He truly had me fooled. My advice to any women who comes across this good for nothing scam artistes to stay clear of him as he says all the right things. I hope one day this guy gets what he deserves.

  • Christal December 26, 2012, 8:04 pm

    I got contacted by an Army medic named Steve Blair. I foud him on skout and it was sayin he is in San Jose. But when I started talking to him more he told me he is over seas. And he said he wants to come home to me but I need to write the army and send 500 bucks. I told him that I didn’t have that kind if money. Then we talked some more and he told me that his daughter wanted to talk to me. As soon as we starter I talk she started calling me mom and saying she couldn’t wait to meet me and all that stuff. Has anyone else heard from these people?? Please email me at scrapmom07@yahoo.com

  • Pb January 11, 2013, 8:19 am

    Hi I e been chattin with a says in he in the army based in afghan his name is James woodford
    Email add jameswoodford78@yahoo.com
    He has never asked for mony or anything says he has applied for leave to cum over
    I really wana know if this guy is for real
    Can u help

    • kerry February 22, 2013, 8:49 pm

      I have been emailing the same person since beginning of December 2012 it seems he is sending a lot of people the same emails. He is a total scammer stay away

      • Emma May 6, 2013, 3:54 pm

        I have been emailing him since December 12, He has said he has needed to pay for flights to get him here and has asked for money. I have never given it to him, when I have refused he has got quite angry with me.

    • Nicola January 29, 2014, 8:10 am

      I too have been emailing and falling for a guy who was so nice named Scott Woodford woodfordscott79@yahoo.com and telling me his son was Tyler Woodford tylerwoodford@live.com, whom he adopted when he was 27. He spoke about having children with me. Then wanted me to send him money for his sons private school fees since his bank accounts were frozen as some of the army accounts were hacked into and money stolen and there was an ongoing investigation being carried out. Got annoyed when I got suspicious and wouldn’t send money. He has sent me two pictures of himself and two of his son, which I would like to post, to help others not fall for this scam and be heartbroken.

  • Margaret Green January 30, 2013, 5:53 am

    Hi I am Margaret in Australia who has “met” am American soldier CSM Carl Anderson on the Love Again dating site, who says he is in Special Forces in Afghanistan ( Kabul) He said that “Stamp Duty ” had to be paid before he could come back to Australia , I was sent various forms by’ US ARMY’ to fill in and email back to them I have copied and saved them , there was even an Australian Bank A/c to send the money to. He said he owns a house in Melbourne . Address is real but I dont know if he owns it?? I have not paid any money and told him I wont , he says he still wants see me when his deployment is over. Is this guy for real!!
    Has anyone else met Carl – His email is dersoncarll@yahoo.com

    • Patricia April 11, 2013, 8:03 am

      Hi Margaret,
      Im Patricia, (Brisbane Austrlia) and a week ago I met CSM Carl Anderson on Be2 website.
      I discovered he was a scam during the first days with our email/chatting.
      I felt that I was receiving emails from 2 people (some mails were forwarded)
      one seems to be serious with good English
      the other one , poor English and trying to convince me that he is a real person.
      He insists to know my address. Today I told him that the only
      way we can talk is trough Skype. He sent to me confidential documents & pictures as well.
      This is unbelievable…
      my email: ledbyjoy66@gmail.com

    • Simone April 23, 2013, 1:12 am

      Hello Margaret
      I would be very interested in the types of emails he was sending you. I meet Carl about a week ago through dating site Be2. I have questioned a number of things he has told me. For someone that corresponds with the Pentegon his english is not as good as I would have expected. He was shipped out to Kabul yesterday. This is about the 5th scam I have hit on this site.
      You know what some people just want to meet someone to spend their time with and it gets ruined with these scams. It has turned me from a caring person to a questioning bit..
      Best of luck

  • Pb February 4, 2013, 3:45 pm

    Has anyone heard of staff Sargent James woodford
    Currently deployed in afganistan .
    Says he 34 from Michigan
    Says he needs 300 to get to uk to see me us army won’t pay as its not a usa airport
    Wat u think

  • Pam February 6, 2013, 12:58 pm

    Hello, I just got scammed, and it sucks. He is going by the name Sherod Brown. I have talked to the other women on his fb page, and I am hearing all kinds of stories. Beware of this guy…he is smooth. I actually contacted a recruiter about this and he is checking into it for me. I have only met him a couple weeks ago, but he played me pretty good. Finally, before taking him off my friends list…I told him I figured it out and the gig was up! lol I also found a picture of some kid which was under a search engine I came across, which I posted in my message. I asked him if it looked familiar. lol He is reading my messages, and I hope is sweating bullets, for I told him I will not rest till I shut him down. He messed with the wrong woman.

  • Lea February 6, 2013, 1:19 pm

    I met a guy on a UK dating site, who’s profile placed him in England…once we got talking he claimed to be a US solidier with Dual Nationality as his mother was English, and that he planned to settle here in the UK once his tour had finished. He was really very sweet and attentive, sent me photo’s in uniform etc, after a while he said he wanted to take leave to come to the UK and visit me. He stated that the military would pay for his flights, great! Then he came back with he needed 400 pounds sterling for an ‘exit visa’ to leave the base and that he couldn’t access his money whilst out in Afganistan…..that’s when the penny dropped!!!
    How sick are these guys, I can’t believe all the sad experiences posted on here.
    This guy claimed to be called Jerry Moe and uses Yahoo messenger….please be aware of men like this.

    • Tammy May 7, 2013, 4:13 pm

      Lea! I have been in contact with a man named Jerry Moe, he said he lives in Oregon….So sweet and attentive but it started getting weird when he said he was in military and had contract work to do in Africa and that the army makes him pay for his own expenses and then gets reimbursed later. He even sent me his military ID but I am not buying it….Thanks for putting this out here so that others can be informed. If you want I can send you a pic to compare

  • Jesse Sanchez February 10, 2013, 5:57 am

    Ive been chatting with a soldier by the name of Victor Castro. He stated that he needs $160 for a comisdion fee to com homr from Libya? Does any one recognize this email Sgtcastro.member@yahoo.com???

  • felix April 9, 2013, 3:22 pm

    I get e mails and chat and pictures from a guy in Iraq, Dempsey Douglas, he wanted me to give him my address so he can send his luggage to my place before his arrival back home. He wants my address in California, he lives in Oregon, so he says he can stop in California and meet me. Go figure.
    I googled the pictures, and it seems the guy exists, God only knows who is using his name.

  • carol maclachlan April 15, 2013, 6:42 am

    hi i have been talking to a guy called harris jones who says he is a us soldier he has asked for all these things but i havnt gave him anything we have fell out over it i sent him copies of scams that were from the usa goverment he says they do that to stop people going with soldiers i just laughed and said you must think i fell out of an idiot tree and hit every branch on the way down hes still emailing me and saying his undying love for me i just let him as hes getting nothing from me but these dating sites should be more protective of women from these preditors i have reported 3 of them but they get back on change there name same picture i think the dating sites should vet them all to see if they are genuine not just in it for the money women have been stalked killed by people like this so its about time they got there act together

  • Sandra May 12, 2013, 1:42 am

    I have been talking to a supposed soldier who is in Nasarawa supposedly . He says his name is Alexander Gibson. He has asked me for money to go home. He says his son is in London and can’t access his account. Has anyone else talked to this person. I meet him on Ok Cupid

  • yoky June 9, 2013, 5:18 pm

    I have been talking to soldier name Joe Milton Ramos. He is an Italian American and in Army who is deployed to Syria. he asked me my address to be his next of kin… and I did.. hope I’ll be safe here. and of course he told me that he wants to come home to be with me. and he have to pay $1500.00 for his leave from Syria. that was yesterday so I started research myself then ended up in here to tell my story.

  • shyn June 20, 2013, 8:09 pm

    i thought im alone i was a victim of this scam $3000.god i never thought that his n0t real his name is sgt.john smith in email johnsmith3074@yahoo.com and i send m0ney to fayese emmanuel olaropo
    Country:nigeria :-(
    I bilieve that one day they would cry till no tear..god will revenge them they a such a bullshit people

  • donnamae December 11, 2013, 4:01 pm

    hi i meet a stg.michael harrison murray in afhanistan and he is askin for me to send 1500 .this his emailsgt.mic48@yahoo.com

  • Charlie January 3, 2014, 12:58 am

    Meet Jim Perez on Tagged.com. First 3 wks him seemed legit. Home & army photos. Senior Sgt MP in USA army; currently in UN work. I got a bit suspicious when he wanted me to send him money so he could phone me. He’s supposedly in Sudan. Had a bad feeling so did some reading up. Read a piece from an army guy who stated that army personal do have access to their own money, they can get their own calling cards, if they are deployed they do not have access to dating sites, techie.com (to email for phone contact) is a scamming site, and the military will pay for leave & flights. I queried JP about all this and he said it wasn’t true and don’t believe every thing you read. Over the past week this guy has changed his tune and become aggressive in his emails – very nasty words coming through now. Wanting the money for phone calls and giving another name and address for Nigera and WestonUnion banking. Any money going to this banking system or Nigera is also a scam. This guy is very good at wait he does – even to telling me (reluctantly) his MOS and sending through a copy of his CAC. The CAC had matched with what I saw on google about these card – ranking and all. This guy is a scammer (and he really didn’t like been told that). He doesn’t let thing go either – he’s very persistent. Still received another 2 emails this morning. Lady’s do not be fooled by this person – who ever is at the end of these horrible emails is not the person in the photos – STOLEN IDENTITY.

    CSM Carl John Anderson – from Elite Dating Site. Only just recently had contact with this one. I see from previous submission that he has done the dating site rounds and is also a scammer. Only had 1 contact with this one but don’t think I’ll be contacting him back. Supposedly and American MP working with Australian Army in Sydney. Divorced. Both parents died at a young age and was raised by his nanny. What a joke.

    I haven’t given any money but was certainly smitten by Perez. He’s a smooth talker. Tread carefully.

  • Naomi gados February 11, 2014, 3:52 pm

    I was talking to this guy called Chris Gibson he sent a friend request on Facebook just friendly chat for a day then he asked if I was married I told him no I have a boyfriend he saidnmy heart is broken and wrote me this long message saying he loved me he was deployed to Africa from america after a few days of this I noticed his English writing was not good then he told me he had no money to get home to his daughter in america and couldn’t access his cash and he had no passport or visa he asked me to help him with money I just knew then he wasn’t real u can’t tell someone u love them when they are a stranger to you so I blocked him.

  • ana March 4, 2014, 2:38 pm

    please I need help find out if my current on line relationship is real or if he is real.
    his email alexander_cahill@yahoo.com
    please need your help.
    thank you Ana Vieira

  • Kim March 12, 2014, 4:09 am

    I was also contacted by one of these scammers. He goes by the name Captain Eric McDaniel. Says he is a widower with a daughter named Sandra and she is in boarding school while he is on his tour. He was in “love” with me after a few days. He wanted me to fill out some forms so he could go on leave and come home. I was very leary of the paperwork & the fact that it wasn’t in proper english like a legal US document would be. I called him out on it & said it was fake. He completely denied it and said I didn’t trust him like he trusts me, blah, blah, blah. He keeps messaging me, but I have been ignoring him. His email is mc_daniel02@aol.com . Be leary ladies. I went with my gut and never sent any money.

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