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I’ve been reading all of the articles, and I’ve been able to relate to some, but i think its time to tell my story, since i haven’t read one like mine…
My girlfriend is in the army, and I know probably a lot of people are against the whole lesbians in the army thing, but my girlfriend is a strong independent woman. She’s a 2LT. She’s smart, intelligent, and really loves the army. I thought she would just be a fling, until we got closer. She always mentioned joining the girls team aside the SF, but I didn’t think it would happen. Until 4 months later of training, and making the team, shes leaving for Afghanistan today. I don’t know how to react. It’s a scary feeling. It makes me emotional, because I’m pretty much losing my best friend. Everyone tells me to pick up hobbies, work more, do things to keep the distance out of my mind. I just don’t want to lose her. What is the best way to not worry? I just wish someone could relate to how I’m feeling…
Sometimes it can be very hard to cope with having someone that you care so much about to leave for such a long period of time. My husband has been away for training and will be until mid-April. I miss him very much much but before I learned to cope I had deal with my emotions. I was sad for a while but as time went by things got easier for me. I hope you feel better.
does anybody have there fiance/husband in special opps? maybe possibly in ft. lewis washington as well? im in need of some advice. when my finacea is home he treats me so wonderful and like a lady should be treated. i know that he loves me. my problem comes when he is gone from me i dont hear anything from him. ive talked to him about it before and it turned into a big arguement because he says he is busy all the time and cant text or call me. he says he only gets a little bit of free time and he calls his mom when he can. Im having mental breakdowns because i wonder if he still thinks of me, if he still loves me. is there anybody who can give advice or help?
I live in Ft. Lewis and I’m an Army wife and Special Ops is not a joke I know for a fact they don’t have much time to communicate with loved ones. Just because he’s not able to talk to you as much when gone if ever does not mean he’s not thinking of you constantly. Most of there work demands complete focus it may be possible that as much as he loves you he doesn’t want to be distracted worrying about you because it can cause him his life or someone else life. Not much comfort possibly but at the end of the day being an army wife takes a lot of patience and sacrifice. The question you need to ask yourself is: Is he worth it? If he is worth the wait and the worry because you love him then you need to trust that you are on his mind. If all else fails be honest and write a letter so you avoid a fight but at least he can read what’s on your mind and concern and can respond in a calm matter maybe there’s more to the picture then being seen.Good luck!!
thank you so much this does help alot. before he was in wasington we were talking about going to the courthouse and getting married then having the wedding when he has more time off. He may not get any time off til fall or winter so if all plans work out and i get to move up there, i might just run into you.
i know once we get married it will be so much easier on the both of us. i will be with him and wont have to worry so much. he is so much worth the wait. we have been through so much already since we have been together, a little army cant scare me away
thanks again so much, Brittany
Alesha February 20, 2012 at 1:30 pm
I’m glad to help and if we do run into each other I can always share some more advise on how to survive being an Army wife lol or a at least some tips
Alesha
I need some advise. I am the fiance of the SF Soldier. A 2 months back we both found ourselves in some life changing events. Both of our Mothers within a 2 weeks span passed away. While he was home with his Mom up til her passing I supported him 110% and the more I tried to be there for him the more distance it seemed to place between us by him. After his mothers passing he return to work with both feet on the ground running. While he away on a job 2 weeks after his mother passed ,my mother passed and when he return I made him aware of my lose and he made me aware that he had been injuried but would not tell me exact what was wrong but that he was being sent to Walter Ried. He had told me back in beginning Jan before his last assignment that he was going to have training for the next 3 months so our wedding had to be pushed back. That was the last time I saw him. The last time we spoke at the end of Jan he was still at Walter Ried atleast that is what I was told by him and that that was a month ago. I have not heard from him since and when I call the hospital they won’t tell me anything. I am not sure if he has been released and would have been required to report to his training assignment or not. We went from talking often when he is not away on a job to me not hearing from him for a month now and the last time we talked be had was recovering from his injuries. Is this typical of a SF Soldier to shut down on their love ones? What should I so now?
I’ve been really confused about how things will go when my husband finishes AIT come this April. We he be able to come home for a couple days to help me move? Do I come back home after his graduation, or do leave with him to go to his PCS? I’m confused. How long from now until he gets his orders? Are they on his AKO by chance?
Aww… I’m sad I missed this one. Still need help?
I’m glad to help and if we do run into each other I can always share some more advise on how to survive being an Army wife lol or a at least some tips
Alesha
Can anyone help me please…..my son is enrolled in EFMP (Exceptional Family member Program) for acid reflex. My husband is training in AZ and just found out they want to send him to a base in Germany but don’t want us to go because of my son being in the program and they are not sure if they can meet his medical needs there. Is this possible??? We have been apart since July, he did AIT in AZ and than stayed for another training and we were not allowed to go with him. Any advice would help!
Thanks
Michelle
Hi, I am newlywed army wife & my husband is on deployment in afghanistan. Where he is located i can’t recive mail from him so therefore he cant send me a DD1172 form , is there any other way i can get my military id ? and is there any way i can be enrolled into deers while he is in combat ?
also he comes home in july and hes stationed in el paso texas once he comes home i was planning on living down there with him but he gets out of the army in feb 2013 so he would have roughly 6 months in texas , would it be a waste of money to get a appartment for 6months ? im sort of lost as to what to do , because if i move down there for 6 months my 2 yr old daugther would be coming along ? would it be to much of a hassel for just 6months or will it possibly take him longer than 6months to get out of the army?
thanks
If his ETS date is Feb of 2013, it’s unlikely he’ll be involuntarily extended beyond that. It’s really up to you on moving. If he’s just going to be moving to where you are now when he gets out, I’d probably stay put. Depends on what your future plans are.
If you have a POA you can be enrolled in DEERS without him.
I need some advise. I am the fiance of the SF Soldier. A 2 months back we both found ourselves in some life changing events. Both of our Mothers within a 2 weeks span passed away. While he was home with his Mom up til her passing I supported him 110% and the more I tried to be there for him the more distance it seemed to place between us by him. After his mothers passing he return to work with both feet on the ground running. While he away on a job 2 weeks after his mother passed ,my mother passed and when he return I made him aware of my lose and he made me aware that he had been injuried but would not tell me exact what was wrong but that he was being sent to Walter Ried. He had told me back in beginning Jan before his last assignment that he was going to have training for the next 3 months so our wedding had to be pushed back. That was the last time I saw him. The last time we spoke at the end of Jan he was still at Walter Ried atleast that is what I was told by him and that that was a month ago. I have not heard from him since and when I call the hospital they won’t tell me anything. I am not sure if he has been released and would have been required to report to his training assignment or not. We went from talking often when he is not away on a job to me not hearing from him for a month now and the last time we talked be had was recovering from his injuries. Is this typical of a SF Soldier to shut down on their love ones? What should I so now?
Looking for friends that could relate,even though he is just in bssic right now i feel lonely and none of my friends understand, i know this is just one of the many firsts we will have, would really like some advice,stories or just someoerne to talk to.
Hi Cecy, my name is Georgetta. My husband is away for AIT training and yes it sucks! We have a one year old daughter and she can be a hand full. I really miss him. Over time being apart will become a bit easier for the both of you, but I’ll be honest it is an adjustment and it takes time. Most of the people around me find it hard to relate as well, because most of them have no experience with having a spouse in the military. If you need advice, I’m new to the Army as well, but if I can help I will.
mine just left for basic, and i know i’m not very far into it, but i know that it must be hard for you. i’ll be praying!
Anybody else’s Husband at Ft Leonard Wood? Mine left 2/28. I can’t wait to get a letter or phone call!
My husband is in AIT at Fort Leonard Wood. He did his basic training there too. The first few weeks was the hardest because there was little to no communication. Eventually he started sending and receiving letters, but wasn’t receiving mine. The Army claims that they don’t hold letters but after so long you start to wonder. Soon his letters and phone calls will become more frequent so just try and stay positive
My husband is there also! Does your husband graduation April 26??
April 19th, where’s his 1st duty station?
hi amber lol my bf is at ft. leonard wood and he graduates april 26 to!! so excited its almost over!! what plt is he in?
I found this site via google, and I was SO HAPPY when I starting poking around for information. I actually dropped my fiancee off at the airport at 6 am yesterday, and was still plagued with the memory of him turning around and waving as he boarded the plane. I had heard from him while he was delayed in Atlanta (he’s going to Fort Jackson, from Montana-long trip, even through airplane) for over 5 hours due to mechanical issues with the plane. I was waiting for a phone call telling me that he had landed safely, but haven’t heard anything and was starting to get worried until I stumbled upon this great site! Now I know that it’s okay I already have a 3 paged letter written, that I can totally creep on facebook looking for pictures of Tim, and all the other awesome information I learned on here.
I keep myself busy all day long and have a very busy schedule. I stay surrounded by people and friends. It helps me keep my mind away from reminding me that hes not here with me. But when i go to sleep at night i wish i could put my arms around him and wake up in his. im am so lonely and dont know what else to do. its been 7mos since ive seen my finacea and 2mos since ive talked to him. I dont know when i will get the chance to see him again.
Hi…i don’t think the man I’ve met on a Christian dating site is lying to me but do any of you have communication issues with your boyfriend or husband in Afghanistan? We haven’t been able to do Skype for some reason. He’s also kind of keeping hush on info outside of his battalion number. I can understand but I don’t think he’s in a covert type work. We’ve been writing alot n chat a bit almost daily. He’s retiring in may so it seems I’ll see him then. Is it normal he doesn’t know the exact date??
Any thoughts would be helpful
Thanks
I’m not sure, but he could be in an area of work where he cannot disclose much information with others, cause it could be a private duty. As far as not knowing the exact date, that is possible. Once it gets a bit closer to may, then more information might be revealed. I’d say, wait patiently and ask him questions out of curiousity any chance you can. Good luck!
-Sam
There’s nothing suspicious about having zero communication while they’re deployed.
I have been married to my husband for a couple of years now and this is the first deployment that I have had to deal with. I am terrified! I have faith that he will come home to me though. My question is when he leaves going to his training, we know that he will not be able to come home before going over seas, but will I be able to fly to were he will be and see him before he leaves? Or do I have to say all goodbyes to him when he is on his way to training.
My fiancé Renee is in the army. Not sure how many of yuu accept lesbians in the army, but i have a million questions. I have never missed someone so much in all of my days. It’s been 18 days since I’ve heard her voice and 26 days since I’ve seen her face. Why does it feel so much like I’m mourning a death? She is my best friend and I’m so lost without her. We are getting married April 2013 and I have a four yr old son who she is in the process of adopting. I know they repealed dadt, but my questions are..
If we are legally married can me and our son live on base?
Even though he is her adopted child, does he get the benefits of being a child of the army?
Can I get the benefits heterosexual army wives get?
Are we going to be treated and viewed as a couple in the army world?
Pllllleeeeaasseeee help me!!!
Thxx
http://www.sldn.org/pages/family-benefits
I read your thread and it made me interested in finding out what kind of rights same sex couples have. Unfortunately, even if legally married it seems you do not have many rights in the army’s eyes. I am hoping I am wrong, but above is one of the sites I found pertaining to your question.
Best wishes,
Rose
Anybodys soldier in Fort Sill, OK? Just looking for gay friendly support. My fiancé Renee is in BCT there and none of my friends understand what it’s like. :/
Hello,
I am an army fiance and I have done a lot of research lately, but that doesn’t mean I’m prepared for what’s ahead. My fiance is in BCT right now and has chose 3 places he wished to go after AIT. I was just curious if he will end up in one of the three places he chose or if chances are slim. Also, is there any chance that he will end up getting stationed somewhere where he can’t have me move with him?
Well I hate to be one to discourage you but the answer is probably not. The army is going to send him where they need him the most. My husband graduates AIT on April 13th, he just got orders a couple days ago and they are for Camp Casey, South Korea. Needless to say that was not one of the these that he chose, but as you will soon find out the army has to do what they need him to do. It is very upsetting but with this life you have to expect the unexpected and be patient. I will be praying for the best for you, just remember no matter where you go just be happy for the time that you get to have together because for some that time is very few and far between.
Hi, My name is Amy and I’m from England. I’m a Newlywed and my husband is due to deploy to Afghanistan in the next few weeks. Never having been through this before, I’m coping the Best I can, trying not to let too much show for his sake, But I don’t feel like I’m doing as good a job as some Wives I’ve met. Reading through the messages posted Its a comfort to know that i’m not totally alone, as most of my friends and love one’s don’t know just how hard it is sometimes. It feels like theres this clock the sizeof Big Ben counting down the time till he goes. His Regiment have Just had 5 Fatalities in Afghanistan, i’m trying to be Brave, but Just need a helping hand… Can anyone spare some time to chat to me?
Hi everyone,
I am looking for some advice. My boyfriend of 3 years and I have 2 young children. We are both 20. He has always wanted to join the army, but I have been hesitant of him doing so because I am not sure I would liike the army life style. I don’t want him to miss out on things with the kids and I am not sure if I would like moving around and I don’t think I could handle him getting deployed and having to be away from him for that long. So I guess I would just like some opinions on what other women think of being in relationships with people that are in the army and when you have children involved.
Thanks
so my husband leaves for basic on April 23rd he will be located at fort benning i was wondering if any of you had any advice about being on that base. Where to stay? what air port to fly into? Things like that I know its silly but today it finally hit me that this is happening i couldn’t be more proud of my husband but i’m also a little nervous about every thing so any information would be awesome! Its been great to be able to hop on here and read so many stories. I really appreciate all the things people have shared.
Hi my husband was at fort benning for basic and AIT he graduate feb 2nd,We drove to his graduation 7 in a half hours with a 2 year old errrr ha but anyways Atlanta airport is huge by the way after graduation I dropped my husband off there he was going to his first duty station i was very upset he wasn’t coming home for a few days but what could i really do lol there is plenty of hotels out side the base, we found one just 1 mile from base it was easy to get to and from the base..Ft Benning is a nice base and the weather was amazing 70 degrees ah it was nice
there is taxis service from the airports to base and wherever you need to go 
When he first left for training there he called to tell me he made it then for a few days he called me once a day while he was waiting to start the basic training,Then I didn’t get a call from him until 3 weeks later on a Sunday i believe. He wrote letters of course but had not yet recieved a return address so I couldn’t write him back it took a couple of weeks but finally I got his address..I hope this helps if u have any questions you can email me if you like at ccierra17@yahoo.com
thanks for all the info it helps to know as much as possible. It’s good to hear from the people who have survived the process. I don’t have any more questions right now but i’m sure i will thanks for the email it’s great to have a contact.
Can someone please give me some advise on my Feb 28th posting
Hi everyone! I had a question, my husband is leaving on Orders for In state deployment to D.C for 16 months. I hear that alot of wives leave eaither with this husbands and just find a home in or near D.C because it for so long or others leave to be with there family/ parents whatever just not to be alone for so long. Does anyone have experiance with this In state Deployment? I keep saying Im going to stay in Florida where we live because we have 4 kids and 3 are in school and I dont want to move them to a new school for this fall then move them back next fall to florida again, I dont want to deal with all the hasle of moveing all kids and I for a year and a half then have to move back. BUT I also dont want to stay here all alone. Please can someone give me advice. He is leaving to DC in 9 weeks.
If you are not sponsored to be with him and since you have so many kids (so you’d need a really big rental), I wouldn’t go. DC living is EXPENSIVE, most people that work in DC live an hour or more outside of the city (which means double or triple that for transport time, EACH way). So, even if you did find a house out there, you wouldn’t see him (unless he’s got really short work hours). And, in the mean time, you’d be going into debt by paying for the expensive DC living and for storage of your stuff back in Florida (or, of course, moving it all twice).
Florida’s a great place to live, especially with kids, between the beaches and theme parks. Flights between DC and Orlando aught to be cheap since they are both international airports (for if he still gets 3 or 4 day weekends). During the summer, you could also do a road trip up to stay in DC for a week or two. All kiddos should get a chance to visit DC anyways. Hotels can be cheap (like $50-60 per night) and the museums are free.
And, no worries, an in-state deployment is not the same as an international one. The idea that you “could” just all gather into the car and drive up there will make it not so bad. You’ll talk yourself out of it by saying “I don’t want to” rather than “I can’t”. And, of course, you’ll have TONS of access to each other. You can have video conferences all the time. Maybe even get an iPhone and sit about on wifi having “facetime” (is that what it’s called?) as you go about the house. You won’t be alone: you have your husband to talk to and your kids to hug. There’s SO SO SO much to do in Florida; if you ever get sad, just set out to do something new over the weekend.
Hi, my husband is on his 2nd year in the army. We have been together 7 years this May and things are not going that well. Ever since my husband came out of AIT he has been such a different person. He has become moody, distant, and has developed a drinking problem. It really started after getting to his duty station. It’s like all of the soldiers he works with, they seem to feel like they can only talk and rely on each other. There is an NCO who is a female over this unit and she, I feel, is overstepping her boundaries with the men. She is married with children, yet she seems to spend her time blowing up my husbands phone with text messages (no they are not about work) I talked to another wife and she said that the woman has done this to her husband and a few others. We have all found several text messages that appear to be very flirtatious and inappropriate. Now, my husband has been deleting all the messages in his phone and lying about it. It’s disheartening. He finally said that he is interested in her, but not sexually…she is just fun. I really feel like this woman needs to stop spending her days texting other peoples husbands and spend time with her own. My husband says he wants to fix our marriage and this problem with counseling and now he is planning on leaving the military. He says that he can see where the military has trained him to think of other soldiers as his family and that it has come between us. I don’t know if I can make it the next two years and I wish there was a way to have this female NCO reprimanded. There are 2 othere marriages that have almost split for the same reason, but obviously you cannot do anything without some very substantial proof.
my boyfriend just left to Missouri for basic training and I miss him so much it’s hard for me to sit here everyday and not be able to talk to him to see or even to hold him. Hes my everything and with him being away my mind starts to wonder and all I really wanna know is,is he ok is the military everything he expected. can someone please explain how they handled their loved one leaving. also we’d like to be married either when he comes back or after he finishes school. I just wanna know how would we go about it since he is in the military now
How we handle it? We sort of … don’t, except that we keep marching… The military enforces young love in a very Shakespearian type way- not being able to have the one you love makes you love them all the more. The military’s nothing but hardships and broken heartedness. It’s very romantic. Very classical.
The little time you have together (and it will be… little time) becomes so precious. When they’re gone, the first few months you are in shock or extreme pain, then you learn to live on your own (month 2-6), and then you realize you’ve only been going through the motions and have only been half a person the entire year they’ve been gone (so month 6+ you’re realize you’re zombie-person). I’ve still achieved many things ( or ” lived “) while being a military spouse (granted, half things because you always have to pick up and go- you never get to finish anything). But, whenever we’re apart… I’m a shell of the person I normally am.
My suggestions: look for a few things to achieve while they’re gone (a few goals) and make friends with some form of escapism (hobbies).
As for getting married? Elopement is pretty common in the military. The courts forgo the usual waiting period (if he has orders) and you can get married the same day as applying. You can always have a ceremony with friends and family later. I think you can even have a free ceremony on base.
hi my names manuel and i leave for bootcamp in ten days…but my girlfriend just recently broke up with me and its not going well with her…shes depressed and just wont talk to me like we used to…i just wanna know wat i need to do to make things better..
Hi Manoel!
Give her sometime….though , before you leave you can try again or send her an email an explain to her your concern.
Good luck!
It’s hard to give advice when we don’t know the whole story, but… do update us.
Hey, my boyfriend left for basic training this past Monday. He is still in the receptions week. He got to keep his phone for the first two days he was there, but they took it after that. It’s Sunday, and I heard it was there personal day. I’m kind of expecting a call, but can anyone tell me if I might get one? I don’t want to get my hopes up, and get disappointed.
My knowledge is old, but:
Phone calls during Basic is not normal. They’re not allowed cell phones. IF they are allowed personal time to make a phone call, it’s off of one pay phone and everyone is in line to use it. So, you’ll, at best, get 1-5 minutes to talk.
Basic for my hubby was 20 hour days. The Army has to give you 4 hours a day to sleep (or recovery if you do a 24 hour work day), but those 4 hours do not have to be continuous. So… not even counting all of the running and whatnot that they have to do… they’re exhausted. If you don’t get a phone call at all through the whole training, it’s not because he doesn’t love you, it’s because he’s passed out with bleeding feet and sore muscles all over. A lot of guys won’t tell you how bad it is and they’ll keep your hopes up because they’re trying to stay positive. They want to believe that they’ll get the chance to call you… but in likelihood, they won’t.
However, again, it could be different now…
Hi my husband is going Special Forces but has not left for training yet. I was wondering if we will get housing once he gets to Fort Bragg, NC? Also, how often are the deployments and how long will I see him at a time? Thank you for your help!:)
Amber
Fort Bragg is a highly deployable station. It’s a year at home and a year away (or, I suppose now it’s 9 months each). Special forces may be different though. For enlisted families, if you do not have several children, the housing on Fort Bragg is terrible. When we were there, they were condemning the units as people moved out- that’s how bad they were. They might have built new ones since though. There’s a lot of housing offpost. If you live north of the base, it’s a bunch of cheap country housing. (Where most of the people in our unit lived). If you live in Fayetteville, there’s a full range of apartments. Beware that there is TONS of crime in Fayetteville.
Hi everybody !
I am not american , I am from Brazil , and I would like to say that I am praying for all of you , your family , love ones who are in warzones. We ‘re living in a diffucult times . And I hope you have all of them back .
Patricia
hey!! my husband just came back from deployment a month ago and got stationed in fayetteville NC. I moved in with him about three weeks ago and im super!!! bored with nothing to do =/. We also have a three yr old. I would like to know if there’s anybody who lives in NC that could help me go around and kinda inform me of programs or update me on the living down South =) im originally from NYC so you can imagine the huge difference lol.
Fayetteville itself has good food options, busy movie theatres, and a mall for city conveniences.
There’s also botanical gardens (more woodsy type) and the community college puts on events and plays and whatnot. Fort Bragg/Pope is a massive base, so keep an eye out for volunteer options, events, free classes, etc.
http://events.fayobserver.com/
http://www.fortbraggmwr.com/event-calendar/
Also, you are about an hour and a half away from the beach, an hour from Wet n’ Wild (water park), an hour from Raleigh (tons of shopping and things going on: opera, ballet, festivals), two and a half hours from Charlotte (has a giant artificial white-water thing: largest in the world, I think), four and a half hours from DC (free museums and the cherry blossom festival). So, you have easy day and weekend trip options.
My husband will be doing MEPS this Thursday. Im excited & very proud of his choice to join the Army..but as anyone im kinda worried. We have a 7 month old son with multiple severe congential heart defects, he has already had 2 open heart surgeries..but I am worried about his next one that is due next summer.. I just want the surgery to go well, and I know that it will be done at a Military hospital. Im also a severe type 1 diabetic..
I do have troubles with my blood sugars alot..Im worried about the care the hospitals give. Any one have any advice. Also im curious to know about housing on base..What are some rules that most all Bases have? & is the housing good or poor or does it just depend on where you are based?
Hey, I’m not exactly new to army life, I have been with my now husband for three years and this is our second deployment. He is currently serving over seas and has been for almost 5 months of his 9 month deployment. He was recently home on leave to see the birth of our little girl, who was born on St. Patrick’s Day. We were very fortunate he was able to come home and I loved having that time with him. Shortly after she was born he had to return overseas. My daughter is now one month old and I am still dealing with postpartum hormones, now period hormones, and of course the normal deployment hormones. I seem to miss my husband more and more each day. I try to be strong for him when he calls because I know it can’t be hard being away from your baby so soon after her birth, but sometimes I loose it and I just cry to him. I know it’s already hard for him and I don’t want to bring him down. Has anyone else had a newborn right before their husband deployed and if so what did you do to make it easier on both of you?
I have known others that have made picture-heavy baby blogs (some even posting literally as baby saying “today mommy took me to do this and that” or “I don’t like socks!! (with a crying/pouting picture), others that have done it the old fashion scrap-booking way ) as a way to prevent their husbands from being left out of it all, it also gives you something to do (has you focusing on capturing cute moments), and records all the precious little moments when otherwise you wouldn’t do so nearly enough.
If you start that tradition now, for the later deployments doing things like video cds were all the kiddos talk about their day and send him their school art, etc etc things that really well-coping long-term military families do will be natural. He’s not gone, he’s just out of sight right now.
I live about 5 miles from post. My husband is in his ait and I HAVE to have surgery in about two weeks. His mos requires ait that lasts about a year long so I moved out here to be close to him. My problem is that I have to have a ride home from the hospital and he isn’t allowed off post. Does anyone have any advice on how I can get home? The surgeon won’t allow me to get the surgery unless I have someone there to drop me off, stay while I’m in surgery, and be there when I’m out. I have no family here and haven’t been here long enough to meet anyone
Hospitals and some health centers offer transportation to people who need it for procedures like that. You can call around in your area and see what’s available and how much the fee may be.
You don’t have to know anyone to have them want to help you.
Have him tell his chain of command.
There’s the FRG, even in AIT there’s an FRG- especially for the long AITs. There’s also a “duty van” usually only for soldiers, but it’s for this exact thing for them.
thank you both. @Samantha-i had him go for the chain of command route. they are getting back to him.
hoping to find something out soon. thank you ladies
@Georgetta- they dont have that. i asked while i was there. if i dont find my own transportation then i dont get the operation
Hello everyone… I am a newlywed army wife, and i know this may seem small or illegitimate to some but my husband just left for BCT. I’m already feeling the sadness setting in and can’t seem to stop from crying. I know he’s not deployed or anything, but its just kinda hard to deal with, especially when i’m used to being able to pick up the phone and call whenever I want, or just hug or kiss him whenever I please. Can someone relate? Or does anyone have any advice or encouraging words for me. I know I have a long way to go, but any thing would help
I remember that first separation all too well. Keeping yourself busy is one of the best things you can do. The more time you sit around and dwell on the fact he’s not there, the longer the days will seem. You’re going to miss him and feel that void no matter what you do but you need to stay active and busy while he’s gone. It’s only the first of multiple separations you’ll likely encounter as an Army family. If you go about it the right way, you can use the separations to make your relationship stronger. Good luck!
Thanks sooo much for your words… I’ve been on multiple sites and this was the only response I got. I truly appreciate it.
My husband started basic today but we was stuck in reception for three weeks. It is hard don’t feel silly when your used to being around some one and suddenly there gone its not easy and it’s little weird. I don’t know if it helps but i understand and I hope every thing goes well for you and your husband.
Thanks soooo much. It has definitely helped. I’m just anxious for that first letter, or that first call. I don’t have many friends around because most of them have actually gone military and are in basic themselves. But thanks for the support. I definitely appreciate it.
I just got the phone call from him saying he was done with reception and started BCT. Luckily, his reception was only about a week long. However, I missed the call and had to settle with a voicemail, smh. I would love to keep in contact with you throughout this process if thats at all possible.
Hey Michele I’m sorry you missed the call hopefully he will be able to call again soon and you can start writing your letters. I would love to stay in contact! Where is your husband? Mine is at Fort Benning
I know! I hope so. My husband is stationed at Ft. Jackson, but when he was at MEPS, I met quite a few guys headed to Ft. Benning and he is also going there for Airborne school once he finishes AIT. What is so crazy about him being at Ft. Jackson is that the base is literally 10 minutes away from my house. Knowing he’s so close yet so far drives me nuts! And you can message me in my personal email at mickey80309@yahoo.com or chat on yahoo messenger at mickey80309.
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