For some of you, this may not be an issue at all. For me, it was one of the hardest things to get used to. I took great pride in thinking I had control over my life and what was happening in it. At the very least, I was able to plan out my days and take vacations when I wanted without having to worry about someone else changing my plans.
Then because of my husband’s decision to join the Army (which I fully supported and still do), my control over our lives ended. When he was in basic training, we didn’t even have control over when he could call much less anything else. And it seems that even after being assigned to his unit, we still don’t have control over that. In the beginning, it drove me crazy that I never knew what time he was coming home (if he was coming home that night at all) or if we could go away for the weekend, etc. Maybe it’s not so much a loss of control over your life as it is a loss of control over the ability to plan anything.
Little by little, I’ve learned it’s easier just to go with the flow. The Army will operate how it wants with lots of “hurry up and wait” moments. They always seem to plan last minute training exercises when I’ve made plans to go out of town. Or they decide to give my husband CQ on the night I planned to go out to dinner. But even with all of this, I still like the Army lifestyle. Call me crazy (and I’m sure some of you will! LOL). It has made us more spontaneous and we really treasure the time that we do have together. Now we just take advantage of the opportunities we have to do something instead of planning for that special day.
Just go ahead and convince yourself now that you have little control over any thing as long as his boss is the US Army. It makes life so much easier.