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Ask An Army Spouse: BAH or Housing Allowance

BAH After Getting Married

My husband is in his 9th week of AIT. We married in Dec after he graduated from BT. He just now got me added to DEERS. I called to see when we would start getting our BAH. I was told he had not yet completed the process and still needs to go to the finance office to fill out more paper work.My husband has a way of putting things off.It could take a few more weeks of me nagging him before he finishes this process.My question is: Will we get back pay for our BAH or will we only be paid from the day he completes the paper work? How long will it take to receive a BAH payment once he has the paper work done? Does the payment get deposited at the same time as his regular pay?

You should receive back pay for BAH dated back to the day that you were married. So that should be a pretty nice check. BAH is added to his regular pay. After the paperwork is completed, it should be in the following paycheck unless he completes it just before payday. If that is the case, it will show up in the next paycheck. The lump sum for back pay should all be in one check. After that, his pay will be split fairly evenly twice a month.
Hope he gets it taken care of quickly!


Applying for BAH

Hi! I am getting married to a soldier in about 2 months. How long after we get married will it take to get our BAH so I can move to his duty station. (I’m in TN and he`s in TX) And what steps do we need to take in order to receive our BAH? Thanks. 🙂

As soon as you get married, he needs to take the marriage certificate to finance to have his records updated. In addition, you will need to get your military ID and be enrolled in DEERS. Typically, BAH will go into effect on the next month’s paycheck and will be back paid to the date of your marriage. Congratulations!

BAH When Not Living with Soldier

I have been married for 3 months and my husband keeps telling me that the he is not getting BAH for being married. I live in a different place than him. He is at Fort Bragg. He says if he gets it, they take it for his bills. I thought the money was for me and the kids housing. He won’t tell me who his SGT. What do I do? I have nothing as I gave up my job because he said we were moving there. What do I do?


BAH is given to married soldiers to provide a place for him to live with his family. If he chooses to live on post, then housing will be provided for “free” but he will not receive any BAH. If he is living on post, he is not technically receiving any money every month. However, he should also not be living in on post housing alone. If he is living off post, then he is receiving BAH. You need to find a way to contact his chain of command to let them know that he is not supporting you or his kids. It is possible they can help through an allotment.

Why have you not moved to be there with him?

Geographic Bachelor Status

Hi, my husband and I have been married for two years and been together for five. He decided to join the army against my wishes for the reason I am unable to go with him because I cannot travel for medical reasons and am currently involved in a long school program while I am receiving my medical treatments. So now I am stuck living with my mom and am by myself. My medical condition does not allow me to sit in a car for more than 30 minutes and flying is out of the question. We are trying to figure out how BAH works when a spouse will not be living with the husband. I know it goes by where his duty station is but would they be able to give him a room in the barracks and let him keep some of the BAH or would he be better off renting a room in a house off base. Please help, no one can answer this one for us.

It is possible due to your medical conditions that he could be assigned geographical bachelor status with the Army. The Army supposedly ended this program, at least in an official capacity, but it does still exist in some circumstances. He would need to talk to his chain of command and his ability to stay in the barracks would be dependent upon his rank (usually lower than E-6) and the space they have available. Ultimately, it is up to his chain of command.

Housing Allowance During Basic Training

I recently enlisted in the Army, and am going into BCT at the end of May. I’ve read all over the Internet that a soldier with dependents receives BAH while at BCT, but I haven’t found anything that specifically lays it out as to how much, and I’ve found nothing on an actual military or government-run website. My recruiter doesn’t know for sure because he very rarely gets married recruits, and I’m trying to avoid going to and bothering his superiors. Any help?


Yes, married soldiers will receive BAH in basic training. While you are in training, BAH will be based on your rank and the zip code where your dependents live. You can look up the rate here:


You may get security exceptions when you first access the website but it is fine to confirm the exceptions and proceed.

When you go to basic training, be sure to take the appropriate paperwork so your pay will be set up correctly (marriage certificate and birth certificates for all children under 18). You may also be required to take a copy of your rental agreement or lease, if applicable.

Thank you for your commitment to serve!

BAH When ETSing

I have a question that need to be answered to the best of someone’s ability. I was just wondering, my husband is currently ETSing out of the Army. We are about 3 weeks from going home so its coming close ,but we were wondering when we will receive our BAH again because I know that we should receive it 1 last time in March’s payday.  So how soon will we receive the BAH after we leave here?


You should continue to receive pay on schedule as long as he is considered active duty.If he is taking terminal leave, for instance, then he will continue to be paid as he always has been until his official ETS date.

His final paycheck will take longer than normal as they review his financial records to make sure his final paycheck is accurate. In my experience, it is anywhere from four to six weeks to get a final paycheck after ETS. Those who are retiring tend to get their final paycheck quicker than those who are discharging before retirement age.

Keep in mind, it’s always possible during the final review, they will find other money that is owed and that will come out of his final paycheck.

Good luck with ETSing!

BAH at Lower Enlisted Ranks

Hi Stacey!

My fiance has recently decided to join the Army and will be off to basic soon. We plan on getting married before AIT, and I most definitely want to go with him to his assigned post after training. His father, a Veteran, told us that the military would most likely not cover my housing and living expenses while he is a low rank. He mentioned command sponsorship?

Thanks in advance! And btw, marriedtothearmy.com is by far the most helpful and informative site I’ve come across. Amazing!


Thank you!!

The military will cover housing with BAH while he is training (rank, zip code and dependent status determines the payment) if you are married. As long as you are married, BAH continues after training. He will also receive separation allowance during training and BAS (food allowance) after training is complete, if he is married.

You will only need command sponsorship if he is assigned overseas. Hope this helps!

Choosing to Live Off Post

Hi! My husband is currently a reserve ARMY MP. He is now going active (by choice) We are unsure of where we are going yet, as his request was just approved. My question is if a space IS available on base are we allowed to say “no thank you” without losing our BAH? I know they will move us but do we have a choice to live off base? Thanks!

As a married soldier, he should have the option to choose to live off post. The only exception would be some overseas posts where they require families to be on post unless the soldier is of a certain rank. If you choose to live on post, you trade BAH for on post housing. If you choose to live off post, you receive BAH to help cover the costs of housing.

Good luck with the move!

Not Moving With Soldier When On Orders

My husband graduates BCT in Aug and then goes to AIT until December. He and I have talked it over and as of now I have decided to stay at our home for a little while after he goes to his duty station. He wants me to stay at my job for a while so we can get our debt paid off. My question is, if I am on his orders for his duty station, do I have to go? And also I plan on staying home no longer than a year, so when I do decide to move will I be able to move to his base with him?

You do not have to move with him. But realize that he will only receive a housing allowance to pay for one household. You will be able to move with him whenever you would like. Whether the Army will pay for the move will depend on if you are on his orders and if he uses his moving allowance when he moves to the post.

Your best bet is to contact the transportation office to find out about your particular situation and if there is an expiration date for the move. Many times, the orders will state how long he has to move household goods with expenses being covered by the Army.


About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Jasmine May 28, 2017, 10:19 pm

    I have a few questions, so I’m about to graduate from AIT this May 31st and I will get married on June 2nd , My first duty station is Fort Lewis and I did not include my boyfriend in my orders because we’re not married yet but I want him to go with me, what can I do to move him to my duty station and what do I need for that to happen (as in documents from him and all that)
    Thank You

  • MARCELA June 5, 2017, 2:40 pm

    My husband is in the Army at Soto Cano Base. Not accompained tour. I am living outside US because of my work. How can we receive the BAH?

  • Sol July 22, 2017, 1:14 am

    Hello I am about to be a year married to a soldier when we moved in together ON POST I found out all this females he was talking to even when I was sleeping next to him !!! No respect what’s so ever whatever I decided to move back to my home city he doesn’t want to give me a divorce he ignores me But neither does he give me whatever he gets from BHA or for being married after he deployed there’s no contact what’s so ever not saying that I want it or that I want his money I am currently going to school and working but I just find it messed up . Am I supposed to be receiving anything at all ?

    • Stacey Abler July 27, 2017, 10:53 pm

      You can talk to JAG about the rules around that. Divorce and division of any assets can vary widely from one state to the next.

      • ashleigh mills September 16, 2017, 2:25 am

        I have hangouts and this guy,asking me to pay his phone line because he owes a loan for his exwife does he look like a real soldier, please another opinion. His mail isnt directed to him

  • Jacqueline Rutherford July 26, 2017, 10:01 am

    My husband hasn’t been being paid the housing allotment since he has been in basics. Now they are trying to kick him out of the barracks without fixing it. I’ve been making it work but we need a place to live now. What do I do?

    • Stacey Abler July 27, 2017, 10:46 pm

      Is he at his permanent duty station now or still in some sort of training?

  • Maria Pierog August 3, 2017, 7:00 pm

    Hello there,
    I’m seeking advice on something. My husband wants to join the army (he is 30). While I’m completely supportive, will I have to travel with him at first and live where he is stationed? We have a 4 years old now and I’m due in a few weeks for a baby boy. He is seeking to leave asap and studying now for the asvab test so he could get a great score on it, but I’m skeptical to move because I’m also in pursuit of a nursing degree (2 years total) and do not want to stop everything I’m doing and move. I want us both to be in a great position for our kids in the next few years. When I’m finished, of course I’ll move with him wherever he is, but I just can’t see myself being happy to do that now. Would the military still allow him to send home money for our children? Any helpful and accurate advice would be so appreciative. Lord knows how much this has been stressing me out lately 🙁

    • Stacey Abler August 5, 2017, 4:48 pm

      Hi, you can choose to go with him or stay behind. If he gets unaccompanied orders (meaning dependents can’t go with him), then they’ll provide housing for him and the spouse and kids will receive BAH (housing allowance) for where y’all are living. He could send as much or as little as possible to support you while you finish your degree. That’s entirely up to him for that.

  • Lisa Dempsey September 6, 2017, 10:28 pm

    If a soldier finishes AIT, and while on leave gets married, what are the next steps to take in order to get the spouse to the location the soldier is going to be stationed. In this case Fort Lewis. I know the orders can be amended but can this be done while the soldier is on leave? Before getting to Fort Lewis? Also, what happens with the spouse in the meantime? Does the spouse come later? Does the military move the spouse? Does the soldier have to apply for BAH or can he live off base with spouse? Does the spouse live in a hotel until something comes available? What does the military pay for? The spouse will be coming up to the base about one month after the soldier signs in. What happens in that scenario? There are a lot of questions. If there is anything to simplify this PLEAASE!!!!! help. I am at a loss and desperate. I need help and am extending the olive branch. The admin at the AIT facility in Georgia are giving the total run around and it has created quit the frustration. I just want straight answers from someone with civilian experience b/c the adim in charge seems to not care very much. I appreciate all advice. If we can even chat I would love that. IF you email me, I can give you my number.

  • sabrina dorfman September 19, 2017, 9:53 pm

    I have a question. My husband left for Basic Training on September 4. He told me the BAH would post in the account on Sept 15 but it’s the 19th and I have not gotten anything. What should I do?

    • Stacey Abler September 20, 2017, 12:23 pm

      It may take 2 pay cycles since he started in the middle of a pay cycle. It should be there by the end of the month.

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