Hi I’m an husband army spouse and me and my wife were recently stationed out in Ft Bliss TX. I’ve been looking up alot of information trying to find other army husbands that are in my same situation. Now I know it not that common that men Play the spouse role in the army but all I see is army wives programs on every site. Is there any one in my area with my same situation or is there a website designed for us that I can visit. Again I know it’s not common but I also know I’m not the only one. Please someone help me lol thanks

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There aren’t many programs (if any) out there that I know of specifically for Army husbands. I do have a few on my site despite the name (lol) at http://www.armywifechat.com. You should also check with your FRG about possibly setting up a group just for the husbands – that may be the easiest route. Good luck!

Please can you offer some advice – my boyfriend is wanting to join the Army and has been talking about whether I would stay with him if he did.
I love him and want to, but I know nothing about the Army lifestyle or how it would affect me.
I have been on the Army’s website so have a vague idea, but not really? Any advice or help would be much appreciated.

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Check out the information here on this site under the lifestyle section, check out my blog at http://www.armywifeblog.com or join us at http://www.armywifechat.com to get an idea of the lifestyle.

I firmly believe that the Army lifestyle is what you make of it. If you survey a hundred spouses about their experience in the Army, you will likely get one hundred different responses. Some will be positive, some negative and some in the middle.

It’s not an easy lifestyle but there are many other career choices he could make in the civilian world that could be just as challenging on your relationship. I personally wouldn’t trade the time my husband spent in the Army for anything and neither would he. Were there bad times? Times we wished he was just a civilian again? Of course. But that’s true of any job. Overall, the Army was a very positive experience for us.

I was wondering where the best post is (safety wise) also that is close to a good fertility clinic where there is no wait for anything that I might need. I am currently just undergoing Clomid treatments, and had my first IUI. It isn’t anything more than that at this point and the doctor said he can almost say for a fact that I won’t need anything more that IUI and hormone therapy.

I have been searching all over for fertility clinics near Army posts but I have not had much luck. If you could please help I would be grateful!

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Check out Living the Army Life – http://www.livingthearmylife.com. I have a wife there blogging about the infertility process and she can help answer your questions.

I am 18 years old with a serious boyfriend who is 19, i do believe we will get married. Never before have i considered the military or anything but the more i learn, the more i really want to join. I want to join for many reasons, the paying of my education, and to be making something out of myself. Right now i am debating between the Marines and the Military (the variety of jobs and places to live will be the deal breaker), I do not however want to make a career out of the Army i really only want to enlist for about 4 years. The problem is, my boyfriend does not want me to and I realize it is very selfish of him but I don’t know all the details. I’m not looking to be married to him right away but soon, before I enlisted. I want to know would we be living together if we were married? What exactly would that four years be like? I hear you get to request where you want to live, i live on the east coast and would like to stay near by. In between 4 years do you move that much? I know we won’t get to live together in bootcamp if we’re married but what about after?

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While the Army will try to station you together if you both serve, there are no guarantees. If you join two different branches, I wouldn’t count on it at all as there generally aren’t two branches with posts in the same location (with VERY few exceptions). You could count on moving once possibly twice in four years – it depends on your job and the unit.

My husband is 18X and will be going through selection soon. I’m attending a local community college, and decided not to enroll for next semester because of the fact that we’re expecting him to get his Orders after selection.
My question is….What colleges should I be looking into? I really don’t want to take any more semesters off, so I was thinking of an online school but after some research I’ve read that online degrees aren’t that transferable and most employers look down upon it. I know transferring in and out of states, I will lose some credits…should I just take that chance and keep going to colleges around where we get stationed?

Thank you.

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Most SF guys do not change duty stations as often (if ever) as regular Army so I would say you would be very safe in attending a local college where he is stationed.

How can I be supportive to my soldier who is at WOCS, and I am left behind crying and lonely to take care of our baby, without communication from him? He told me I wasn’t being strong in our short conversation we had. Is it normal for training to leave the families out of anything and in the dark? When the army has their 4 to 6 week training for the Warrant Officer Candidate School, there is no communication for several weeks. It is extremely hard on those families with children and wives left alone to run everything, including an out-of-pocket trip to support the soldier at a graduation or family day at the end.

The problem is that without any information about dates, times, and events, as well as the specific rules which needed to be followed, families from out of state are simply left in the dark and put into a spot that isn’t fair to anyone. Where is the information about where soldiers are and are not allowed to go during a pass? And where is the information about any and all family events that the families are welcome to go to… such as the victory run? Do they not want families there for anything?

Not having talking privileges is going to cause problems with the soldier at HOME, not teach him how to be a respectful officer. If they want to make good leaders out of these people, then the place they need to start is to allow them to be able to be a part of the biggest leading role they have, even if its for one minute per day. Children need their dads. And wives are left behind to do all the work… so the wives need these details since they are doing everything to try to support their soldier. I am freaking out and don’t want my soldier to get home and be disappointed that his wife couldn’t be strong for him- It’s so hard! I don’t know what to do some days without him.

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It is difficult but unfortunately it is part of being an Army family. Separations are inevitable and it’s quite possible you could have even less communication during a deployment scenario. You need to develop a support group outside of your soldier that you can lean on in the times that he is gone. It’s essential to surviving the Army lifestyle.

Alright, so my husband got stationed at Fort Bliss… I was really excited when we got the new but at the same time I was really disappointed… Fort Bliss is 29 hours away from my family and friends… I don’t want to be just stuck in the house all the time when we get there (I’m only 19 you know)… How can I find other Army wives???

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1. Family Readiness Group
2. Spouses Club
3. MWR activities
4. Unit functions
5. Neighborhood
6. Online message boards

Good luck!

Okay, well my boyfriend is in the Guard and is going to training in about 30 days. He says everyone that he talks to has told him to break it off while he’s in California. I completely understand where he’s coming from, he’s had girls before cheat and leave him in the dust, but no one I know has gone through a situation like mine….I honestly don’t know what I need to do. I love my boyfriend, but do I try to move on while he’s away or do I wait?

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Waiting for just 30 days is really not that long. What will you do during a deployment when he’s gone for 12 to 18 months? If you can’t last for 30 days, then I would break it off now. The Army lifestyle will only continue to get more difficult.

My boyfriend finishes boot camp in June and he’s talking about wanting to transfer closer to California. Normally how long is it before he can do something like that?

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He will get orders to his first duty station when he is close to completing training. He can request certain places on his wish list but there are no guarantees for that. Typically, most soldiers stay at their first duty station for several years before moving again. While he can always make requests, it’s doubtful without extenuating circumstances that they will move him to that area as a new soldier just because that’s where he wants to go.

My future wife and I are both about to be soldiers, I was wondering if we were gonna get stationed together, even though we have different MOS?

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While the Army tries to station couples together or within a certain distance of each other, there are no guarantees. Ultimately, it depends on the needs of the Army.