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Ask An Army Spouse: Dating a Soldier Online Scam

These scams where you believe you are dating a soldier are becoming more and more common. They seem to come up with new ways to run the scam on a daily basis. If the person you are speaking to requests money in any form, cut off all communication. Here are some more signs you’re involved in a dating scam.

Scam: Form Letter to Request Time Off

Hi.. i have a .. I found a soldier online.. We have been talking for quite sometime and he says he loves me.. Well I just found out that he was courting two women. Myself and another women.. I mean he was playing us both. He was even writing us the same letters.. Like a cut an paste thing.. Well us girls found out about each other and busted him.. Well to make things short.. He ended up picking me.. I am leery about everything he says now.. I don’t know if he is really in love with me or just playing me to get some time off.. See he wants to marry me he says.. He wants me to write a letter to the army requesting time off so we CAN get married.. I am not sure if this is a scam that the guys pull, to keep themselves busy..He doesn’t want to talk about where we will go when he gets back.. My house or his house.. Just keeps saying we can talk about if and when he gets leave time.. Do you think I am being paranoid or now that he has made his decision and picked me. Is he sincere.. He isn’t going to use me for time off and then blow me off when he gets back to the states.. I need some advice.. I really like him and I want to trust him.. But need to know if this is what the men do for amusement.. Up for any suggestions and advice.. Thanks Michelle

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The entire thing would make me very leery, personally. The thing that sticks out most to me is him asking you to write to request time off for him so he can get married. This is simply not how the Army works. The Army does not process requests for time off from the girlfriend (or wife for that matter) of a soldier. It is up to him to put in a request for time off. Some units will not even allow individual time off and the soldier can only have leave when the unit as a whole takes it.

You didn’t mention if he is deployed, but I’m willing to bet that after you request his leave time, he will then request money to be able to take the leave. Nearly every scam I’ve been informed of in the past few months has included this.

He should also be willing to tell you where he is, where he is stationed, where you would both live after getting married, etc. Do you know what unit he is assigned to? Has he given you an AKO email address (his name @ us.army.mil)? I would definitely ask more questions. And if he asks you for money, you should cut off contact with him.

Good luck!

Scam: Sending Email to Request Phone Line and Paying For It

I have been chatting with a man who said he is in the Army and is in Iraq. he would like to talk on the phone and said there is protocol to follow. I am to send a e-mail requesting to get connected with him, he said there is a fee and then all calls are free.  He also mentioned something about registering and then I can request for him to get leave. This is the first time I have ever done anything like this and I am not sure its real. Is there a way to find out if this person is really in the Army? Any suggestions would be great. Thank you.

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I am afraid this is most likely a scam. When soldiers are overseas, there is no reason for other people to be paying for their communication. They make more money when they are deployed than when they are stateside and generally have less expenses. Also, almost every post in Iraq and Afghanistan has MWR phone lines available where the soldiers can call home at no charge.

There is also no reason for you to request for him to get leave. This is something that he has to do. The Army is not going to recognize a leave request from a civilian. In other cases that I have been informed of, the request is typically granted and then an outrageous amount of money (in the thousands) is requested to purchase a flight. This is a scam as well as soldiers do not have to pay for their flights in or out of Iraq or Afghanistan.

I’m sorry he has tried to scam you.

Scam: Paying for an Internet Connection Overseas

I have met a soldier online,  seems nice. We have beem talking for quite sometime now and he says he’s deployed to Afghanistan and will be going to iraq for 3months so he will not be able to chat online. He told me to write to ts2militarycall. They wrote back saying I should subscribe with a fee of 524. What I want to know is are there no internet connections in Iraq and is there a cheaper way to call? He says he’s a sergeant. Is this another scam?

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Yes, this is a scam. In almost all cases, he has access to the internet as well as phones through the MWR in both Iraq and Afghanistan. Depending on where he is, he may not be able to call very often but it would be very unlikely for it to be completely impossible. There’s also no reason why YOU should be paying for it. He makes more money as a deployed soldier than he makes when he is stateside. If he wants additional communication capabilities, he can easily afford the cost to do it.

I’m sorry.

Scam: Paying for His Leave from Overseas

I have a few concerns and i need to know if my gut instinct is telling me the right thing, before someone i care for ends up seerioulsy hurt or scammed for money she doesn’t have. My sister has been speaking with a guy who is in the army and is apparently a sargent. He has been telling her that he will be coming to see her when he can get a leave. Also, she should be getting a verification number shortly from the base , and then she will be gettting his leave money as he has put her down as his next of kin. this money will not be in a cheque form as the army has to be careful of fraud. therefore they will be using western union for the transaction. I have tried to tell my sister this all sounds like a hoax, but she is falling for this MIKE guy fast. He apparently has 2 children who attend a boarding school. I can not for the life of me , see how this so called sargent would want to give up his life long ambition in the army to be the boyfriend of a woman who he has never personally met. Do you have any insight to this concern. if my thoughts are true, how do i break this news to her.
Look forward to hearing from you SOON.

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This is a scam. There is no transfer of funds when they go on leave. The Army pays for their leave during a deployment. They will pay for them to travel to any destination they choose. The only requirement is that they fly back to the combat zone from the same location. I’m sorry.

Scam: Completing Leave Forms to Return from Deployment

I met a girl online. For two months she seemed nice. Then she said I could request leave on her behalf and she gave me an email address. I wrote to it. They answered immediately asking me to fill out 1 form. I did it. The next day they asked me to Western Union $2350 to her replacement in Ecuador and she would be granted leave within 12 hrs. After this, since I had been skeptical for a while, I called her on it and she erupted. The forms have two other “officers” names on them. The forms were so bogus. They listed the Dept of Defense at an address not in the Pentagon, but at Washington DC, WA. Since I called her on the scam, she said I better be careful before I get myself in trouble and that she knows where I live and my child’s name. Is this a common scam? Should I be worried? I have all the forms and documentation and IP address. Help me.

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This is becoming a very common scam. First, the military does not ask civilians (relatives or otherwise) to write to request leave for a soldier. This is all handled by the soldier. Secondly, there would not be an exchange of money involved with it.

Quite a few that have contacted me about similar scams have said they and their families were threatened when they refused to send money (or refused to send more money). If I were in your shoes, I would contact the authorities in your area. You may also contact a CID (Criminal Investigation Division) for the branch of service she was claiming to be.

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • phyllis February 26, 2013, 3:22 pm

    I have been chatting with this guy name Williams Clarke who says he is in the army and needs me to send money for him to come home is this true?

    • Diane May 4, 2013, 1:22 pm

      Sorry Phyllus, this is absolutely NOT true. The US army take very good care of their soldiers, they travel home for free. Asking you for money is a big mistake, trust me this is a SCAM no doubt.

  • Rudi March 2, 2013, 2:46 pm

    I was asked to be a friend by a sergent in US Army, stationed in Kabul, Afaghanistan and he started to tell me he was a divorced man with a 15 yr old son who’s wife has turned him against him. He also told me that he was 47 and that he liked a relationship where there is complete honesty.. I am 62 yrs old and he keeps saying age doesn’t matter. He said he wants love and of course I told him it wasn’t happening.. but he continues on . I accepted his request for a friend because I thought that maybe one of our service men needed to talk with someone from the states and I have worked with Operation Welcome home for Vietnam Veterans and wanted to help a lonely serviceman have contact with home. He stated to say he was falling in love etc and that I was lovely. I am a widow also. How do these guys find us to request our friendship and is there anyway that these service men are for real. It makes me sad that this is happening. I even made a point of telling him I thought it could be a scam because it is done all the time. His name is William Jones., his picture is of a nice looking man but I am no fool to think that a 47 yr old would want to be involved with a 62 yr old. He did make a remark of if I was the one who put in for my income tax. I asked him why he needed to know that. He also said that since we have become friends. ( I have only spoken with him maybe 2 days when he was saying I won his heart and asking these questions). When you unfriend him it does make you feel a little guilty in case it is the truth. But again I have a hard time believing him.

  • Susan Petty March 13, 2013, 9:18 pm

    I need to look up a guys email address, I thought I saw where to look that up at on here something about IP???. I can’t remember. I need to know where this guy really is. thanks so much if you can send that to my email.

    • Vicky May 19, 2013, 1:19 am

      I think it’s called IP Tracker. I too want to know if my guy is real or not!

  • Ros April 6, 2013, 7:52 pm

    Well i been talking to this guy i meet on line and he is the sweetest ever he is a great listener he lifts me UP he makes me feel so good about myself .i think that i might even love him. He is deployed in kuwait i have never meet him in person but we connect so good. We skpe a lot we talk we email each other I feel like a queen every time we talk. He even sent me a gife just because . He have never asked me for anything bit to give .him a chance. So that he can prove himself I belive in him but if I must say it I am so in love with him. Can’t wait unrolled he comes home…..ps I had my friend let het sister look him up cause she is in the army. Yes he is the real deal my man the soldier who would have ever thought. Not me in a million years. Love my Andre .

  • shari bartlett May 13, 2013, 3:04 am

    Hi i have been talking with a soldier in afghistan, we get along just great I have read all your warnings ssign and none of these have came up. One day we were talking and all internet connections went down and i havent heard from him since, I am just wonering if he isnt interested any more or does these things happen, or is he on a mission, just need some answers, mainly if he is ok, can you help me ??

  • Gina Nakamura May 16, 2013, 2:00 pm

    May i know if there is fees for (DVW)Deployment Vacation out of War request?Because I had received an e-mail from PayPal that there are fees. This are the list of fees that they sent to me.574USD processing,last stage of processing and some fund fees.Is this is true?waiting for your reply soon

  • Florence June 6, 2013, 4:17 am

    I from Singapore recently met a doctor on Skype, he is from USA posted to Kabul in Afghanistan , he told me he had a 17 years old son studying in UK. We are talking fine and romancing and sometime sex involved. One day he told me he had problem accessing to his account and his son needed the money for education and food, so he wants me to send money to his son to save his only son , he is asking for US$ 2.5K to send to his son. That work out to be S$3.3k, I told him I cannot trust a complete stranger with money and what if I don’t get my money back. He promise and keep saying I’m the only person now to rely on. And he asking me if I can be trusted that he want to transfer US$500,000.00 into my name, I doubted and asked him are you kidding me. He say his son is still young cannot manage such big amount, I ask him what if I’m a gambler and dishonest and run away with his monies. He say I’m a nice person can be trusted. He intend to marry me and want to set up a clinic once retired and I help him manage and to stand by him. It sounded more like fairy tale than real. He press and beg me to send the money to his son by 6th June 2013 and always tell me not to doubt him, he is crying and on his knee for my help. I was taken in that I nearly want to send , but I went to consult GOOGLE for advice and decided to write this. His name is DR John M Barden his son is Kelvin Barden and he is widower. Please advised me and thank you.

    • Caroline July 30, 2013, 3:09 am

      Ladies PLEASE, they are all SCAMS. Check out this website http://www.fakewarriors.org/phonies/phonies1309.htm
      Read every single word on the page, & BE SURE to take a look at the “romance letter” example. I too received a so called “love letter …starting with the typical “Hello my dear” from a supposed 4 Star Army General aged 50 (so he claimed). He’s using a photo of a middle aged caucasian man in uniform to which I can only assume is identity theft. He is basically claiming to be a native New Yorker who is at the present time serving in Kabul Afghanistan. Just like the “example” love letter on the site, his letter to me had obvious spelling errors. He also claimed to be a widower. The exact line went like this “I lost my wife 8 years ago and my wife has two daughters for me before her death.” The entire letter itself was almost identical to the one on the Romance Scams website, very Fake in substance, containing spelling errors that resembled those of someone that does not know English very well & he was obviously using google to come up with words to describe himself…it was actually comical. He contacted me via fb, with the most, well, I guess you could say flattering line of bs ever heard from a complete stranger. The initial “love” letter just screamed FRAUD! He was not wanting to friend me but requesting that I contact him via his email address. I only did so out of curiosity to see what he would say when I asked him how he found me, which he said in his response was through the fb team friend suggest. PLEASE, DO NOT SEND THESE PEOPLE MONEY.

  • gwen June 6, 2013, 8:05 pm

    Hi I am also speaking to a soldier he says he is out in doha qatar in a camp called as sayliah he has declared his undying affections telling me we were ment to be together. I find it all very suspicous. He have put in for leave but says he can’t get the money for he’s tickets. As he has no way till he gets his deployment. He comes across to be very sweet. He has pictures up on his facebook at with his three children. He says he is three years divorced. He is telling me he wants to come here to see me I just want to know if anybody has heard of this guy his name is james nerkowski. I would like to think he is genuine. But I need to find out. He says he also can not speak on the phone or receive mail were he is.

    • Samantha Larham September 27, 2013, 6:20 am

      Samantha Larham here. I have had same story from nerkowski…he took 1,150 from me I money to buy his ticket. last week. he has been giving me the same shit since june. He made me suspicious when he called me GWEN!! he has now gone off facebook. He appears on 4-5 Dating sites, wanting women aged 40-65 how weird is that! He is also a different age on all of them. He is a cheating con. He needs reporting to the army and I will do it.

  • Beverly June 18, 2013, 5:29 pm

    I have been talking to a soldier for approx 2 weeks now, he says hes waiting for his retirement orders to go thru and will be home’soon’. also says he loves me and am only woman he talks to on net. i want to believe him, but i have been scammed before, he hasn’t asked for money, just a care package, said due to his retirement he can’t use APO. is this true of false?

  • violet June 24, 2013, 6:54 am

    ive been chatting to an American soldier who says hes a 1st class sergeant called james gordon. ive got lots of pics of him but hes reluctant to give me his ako address or an address which I can send letters to. he asked me to request leave for him through the us army admin. even tho I have my doubts and im very wary he does seem genuine. how can i find out if he is genuine

  • Lucia July 1, 2013, 4:59 pm

    … i’m chatting with a man named: Donnald Lawrence… he told me that he is on the US Army Ranger… he never asked me money or something other, but i do not know anything about it only about his dead father. I wish to know if he is a real man or a great fake… help

  • Judy July 2, 2013, 3:03 pm

    We started talking he sent me his phone number so we can text. He said that he was looking for a long term relationship that he lost his wife two years ago too lung cancer. His name is Sgt. John Steve Mark of Kabul, Afghanistan [combat engineering department] . he wanted me to send in for a personal leave and I did. I didn’t know that I have to pay for the paper work to be done I sent 315.oo dollars my money gram today. Now they want me to send 655.00 for the flight. Here is where I sent the money at Sandra Hires U city waycross state Georgia zip code 31501. Don’t the army pay for there leaves.

    • Stacey July 17, 2013, 1:20 pm

      Yes, the Army does pay for their leave and there’s no reason to send money. These scams usually originate overseas. I’m surprised they’re using a US mailing address. I would turn this one into your local police department since it’s not from overseas.

    • joyce valencia February 23, 2014, 7:34 pm

      I just started talking to an aaron something from florida who told me the same thing about his wife and even sent me a pic of son. when I got suspicious, he jumped all over me. interesting. thanks for sharing

  • sharon Alonso July 17, 2013, 12:37 am

    I want to know if Charles Wool is real.he told me he is station in Afghanistan n working for the Red Cross as a Doctor.he never ask for money.he profess his love for me and told me he was getting out of the service and for me to inquire about homes in New York.he sends me picture with Army Uniform. pls tell me if this person is real or fake.

    Thank you most kindly,

    Sharon Alonso

  • gwen July 28, 2013, 5:38 pm

    I just want to ask ros what is the soldiers name that she is talking to in kuwait if she does not mind.

  • Janie August 1, 2013, 7:13 am

    I talk to a person that says he is in Afghanistan Kabul, he says he wants to marry me, he only once asked me to send him a calling card the site was like something like call call center but it had a gmail address and I got a response from a Janet Scott stating it was from the office of the United States that help our soldiers stay in touch, the site looks legit but it said I had to send it Western Union to a person in Indonesia, with the rates being real expensive like $400 I questioned it he said ask her the email person, I stopped contact, with him through fb and email, but he would keep looking me up and said if I didn’t want to send the card it was ok I did have to, he says his parents died when he was 2 yrs old has no siblings, was raised by his grandmother, joined the army met his wife whom made him very happy until the jaws of death took her 5 yrs ago in a motor vehicle accident has no children and has been in the service for 22 yrs but is going to put in for his retirement next year, claims to be freedom Fighter never discusses his job, at times when he doesn’t chat with me or emails me for 3-4days tells me that he was on a mission, I commented on the soldier that was on trial for being on a drinking binge and killed some civilians, and he said he couldn’t comment on it but they knew what happened, he send me 2 pictures and you can see his arm taking it, but the one with him and another soldier doesn’t look real, I have attempted to break all contact with him but he keeps insisting that he loves me I and that he isn’t a scammer but his email is gmail he claims to be a captain but his grammar is bad at times, all his emails are Hello sweetheart, and how is your day going, he calls me babes or his wife sends me poetry at times to show his love and sometimes just words, He never told me he was a Freedom Fighter, I saw it on his profile, his name is Daniel Hawkins from Hanalolo Hawaii we share bible quotes, prayers and he always says to remain in faith and that God will give us the strength, thank you

    • Stacey August 2, 2013, 8:30 pm

      There’s no reason to be sending anything to a real soldier through Western Union. They can call you for free!

  • Karen August 21, 2013, 4:23 am

    I met a guy claiming to be a soldier in the US army about a month ago on the site Meetme. I informed him almost immediately after he started professing his love to me that I would not send him any money if he asked. He said he had lots of money and didn’t need any. He told me he was on special assignment in a country that isn’t war torn and wasn’t to be revealed. He said his parents both died when he was young but hasn’t given much details on his life. He had a young daughter living with his ex in New Mexico. He said he can’t send new pics as he can’t from his phone. He can’t call me unless he can request a secure line. He has called a few times via Viber. I have his cell number which has a Portland, Oregon code for it. He gave me his last address when he lived in the states and his full name, Genella Vincent Cornelia. My questions began when he said he hadn’t been on leave for awhile and that I would have to send an email to his commander to request it. I did. I had to fill out the paperwork and email it back. There still was no mention of money so I wasn’t too concerned. I came to this site and noticed about the AKO and APO addresses, which neither he could give me. I also noted that most of what flashed as a scam was the same in this situation eg. sad life story, not allowed leave for long time, having to email commander for leave. I also read on another site somewhere that soldiers never have their first names in their uniforms and I seen in the pictures that Genella is the tag on his uniform. I want to know if this man is for real and how do I find out.

    • Maria luisa September 19, 2013, 5:57 am

      hi Karen, I’m Luisa fr. Philippines….This man is not real, he is a scammer I was supposed to be one of his victims, i met him, Genella Cornelia on Tagged Site, he told me the same story as what he told you except that his wife died 7 months ago by a decease (acute hepa B), we are just friends when i met him online last July 13, 2013. After i heard his story i immediately symphatized with him and i asked about his daughter and he told me that his child named Kim was left in his maternal grandparents in New Mexico, that he missed his daughter so much and he wanted to bring her to US to give her good education and good life but his on a mission in Scothland, UK. In short, I applied as his daughter’s nanny. He asked for my email address for him to send me my Job description, attachements of his pictures, his wife and daughter photos, the house photos, his license to recruit in the Philippines issued by Department of Labor and Employment, National Capital Region in Manila which i verified as FAKE. He asked me to email the USCIS for the requirements and the corresponding fees… before i sent an email to USCIS i read his email and told him that before i can go in US i need an agency here in our country to legalize everything, he told me that he doesn’t have time to go through agency and he asked me to read the end portion of his email, where i found out about his serial number that authorized him to transact in the USCIS without delay, that i need to trust him because he is a member of US ARMY and that alone would make me happy and secure. He even told me not to tell the US embassy about him breaking the protocol in leaking me the secrecy of his files. I already have an idea that it was a scam. He told me that i need to pay/shoulder 1/3 part of the visa processing fee. He convinced me that he will shoulder the visa and everything because he like me and wanted me to become his daughters second mother, that he wanted to marry me i told him i don’t need a husband all i need is a job. We had an agreement that no romance and sex will be involve unless we fall in love with each other I made him believe me so i tried to get more info of his tricks. I immediately email the USCIS and asked for the requirements. They sent me all the necessary fees i need to pay and that i only need to pay the labor fee which cost USD350. I asked him why i need to pay the labor fee and he explained to me that it is a sign of commitment to him as his employer. I asked him to pay for me in order to materialize the plan because I can’t afford to pay and told him to see my payslip. Prior to my knowledge about his scam, I already sent to him my Resume, payslip and all my information which I’m afraid will be used to scam other people too…in short IDENTITY THEFT…we exchanged messages and calls via viber and skype for me to get more info of him, I searched through google and people finder but no person with that name found in that address. I even asked him to send me money to pay the labor fee and he told me that if only he could he would but no way to send the said amount because his still in a mission that i will wait till he go back to states. He stopped sending me messages after that. Please take note: these scammer usually uses wrong grammar and spelling, use am instead of I’m or I am, emotional blackmail, they usually use UK and US as their address, usually single, separated, widower and their wife died months and years ago… They have a lot of tricks. Please don’t send money to these people they are scammer. Please have time to read about Romance scams in Google.

      • haidie October 23, 2013, 11:55 am

        i know this guy I also meet him in site of MEET ME and he offer me for a job as Nanny of his daughter Kim!!

        • Karen March 29, 2014, 6:47 am

          I found it quite interesting that he found this link and then proceeded to attack me through my Facebook account yet he did not reply with a response here to defend himself if what he was saying to us all was truly accurate. I noticed all the internet sites he used have been inactive since shortly after he seen this post. I just hope this person isn’t scamming someone else, some place else under a different fake profile.

          • berna October 6, 2014, 2:02 am

            i also read his offer..but we change our mind when we rad this article

  • Robert Nerkowski November 6, 2013, 3:16 pm

    Hi,
    I am sorry for all the frauds committed by “James Nerkowski” I am the real guy in those pics and those are my children being used. I am really in the Army and this is some sort of scam. Sorry for all the issues.

    Robert

    • sherry October 25, 2014, 11:27 am

      Robert
      I am so sorry that you and your children also are victims in these scams we all are victim in one way or anothe. Bless you you and your family will be in my prayers.

  • Cathy November 12, 2013, 11:46 am

    I am looking for help in regards to a gentleman named Gregory West. I met him on meetme. He is asking for money to be sent Western Union to a horse breeder. He claims that he is having horses bred in Cairo Egypt. He is having them shipped to the US where he says they will be sold and this will bring in a great income for him and me. He states he is 47 with 2 daughters that he has full custody of. He claims that he is currently in Afghanistan and will be home in Decemeber and plans to retire. He states his unit is from OHIO. He is not asking for large amounts of money and when I tell him I cant do it he is receptive. He does not always ask for the money. I do have pictures of him and I am concerned that they are not all him however its very hard to tell. I did open a bank account for him to be able to have money deposited here and for me to be able to withdraw and send to this horse breeder for him. The problem now is that the cashiers checks deposited where fraudulent. He claims he gave the routing and account number to the person and had them deposited into my account. I am in Ohio. I called the bank in Georgia and was informed that this is a scam occuring in the state. He tells me that there is no way he could have completed this fraudulent cashiers check. He tells me that there is no way it is him and that the mail in Afghanistan that is sent to him is monitored. Any help with this would be greatly appreciated.

    • Stacey Abler November 16, 2013, 9:10 am

      You need to listen to the bank. It’s a scam. Close the account and cut off communication before you end up in legal trouble for trying to cash fraudulent checks.

  • Tess December 29, 2013, 10:29 pm

    Hi guy’s i just wanna ask,if somebody know’s name John Mike Steve.Thanks and best regards….

  • Sammy December 30, 2013, 4:55 pm

    Hi, I have met a solider who says he has been in Afghanistan for the past 14 months and his children live in the United States with a nanny; due to his wife dying from breast cancer. He has asked me to request a DVW for him. For an email address he gives (deniskisses12@gmail.com)
    I don’t know whether to believe or not. He sounds so good … maybe it’s like the saying goes ‘too good to be true’.

    I am hoping you can give me some light on this. Looking forward to hearing from you.

    • Marcy R June 10, 2014, 10:25 pm

      I just got done cutting of communication with him today!!! After he got upset for me not wanting to open a bank account. He said his 2kids lived in the states with a nanny and wanted me to send them money because the nanny was ‘threatening’ him. After I blew off the idea, he send me a txt sounding pretty upset and I was very disappointed. But kind of glad because my daughter said it all sounded very suspicious. He said his wife of cancer and that his parents passed,and that he did not have a close relationship with his relatives which is why he did not ask them the favor!!! Dont trust him!!! He also uses the email denisewalkers37@yahoo!! Its a scam!! And this just happened like an hour ago!!!?

    • sweet girls August 15, 2014, 12:10 am

      Hi Sammy i met this guy on badoo hi claim his name is DENIS WALKER he is 47 deply in afganistan and have 2 sons, he said he been there for 14 month and single for 3 years, he sent 3 pictures and wanted to chat on gmail, his email is deniskisses12@gmail.com he havent ask for anything bur he is not getting it from me, how ppl can get scam sooo easy.

      regards

  • rhain February 17, 2014, 8:26 am

    Hi I have been asked by a soldier to give him money as the army send him to Nigeria and they don’t get meals. I have 3 brothers who has been in the army and they always got meals even while they were deployed in areas that connect be contacted…by us. The warning signs for me has gone up. Am I right by saying army always gives emails or supplies…?

    • Sylvia July 29, 2014, 1:16 pm

      I would also like to know the answer to this I’ve been told the same thing. The soldier has asked me for money for his meals….

  • Luz June 2, 2014, 1:20 pm

    Hi i am dating a Soldier in a website for a month now Exchanging e-mails and pics , Now he want to talk on the phone But said that i have to ask por a phone call activation with him , he didn’t said anything about money only gave me the E-mail address to send the request ( us-dod@admin.in.th) to ask for a phone call activation with ……..and gave his name his range and the place to send the request . I want to make sure that this is not fake could you let me know how i can confirm the info? i went to internet and search about the e-mail address apparently it’s real. I hope you can give me some advice. The reason that he said about this is because they have to make sure who is communicating with him since i am not part of his family yet and that is the procedure .
    Thank s

  • Maribeth June 2, 2014, 1:28 pm

    Do anybody know about someone name Msgt Steven Teich ?

  • Marcy June 10, 2014, 10:44 pm

    I recently started talking to ‘Denis Walker’ about 2 weeks ago who is stationed in ‘Afghanistan’. He told me he was a widowed father of two children ages 4 and 7 who were living in the states with a nanny. His wife died of breast cancel ‘3 yrs ago’. We were txting regularly and he kept asking questions about where I worked. Today, however, 6/10/2014, about 2hours ago, he asked if I could transfer $$$ to his childrens nanny. Said his parents died years ago and that he had no close relatives he could trust. And that he could not transfer $$ to the nannys account because he did not trust her and she was threatening him. After I refused to open up a bank account, he said never mind that I was asking too many questions. He has not txtd me back since and after reading these articles, the article Sammy posted made me realize it was the same person. He uses 2 email address: deniswalker36@yahoo.com and deniskisses12@gmail.com. do not trust them!!!! Do not send money!!! Do not let these people ruin your lives!!!!

    • Stacey Abler June 12, 2014, 9:42 am

      Obviously this story has worked for him before if he continues to use it. I’m glad you didn’t send money.

  • Gwen July 10, 2014, 6:30 pm

    I feel a little foolish at the moment but so glad I have found this site and read so many distressing scam stories above, that I feel that I am not alone and will get some experienced good advise.

    I am a lady based in London, UK. I met what seems a lovely man on a UK dating site – his name is George Hatfield and he told me after a few days of us chatting, that he is in the US Army based in Libya with Search and Rescue. He lives in New Jersey. All our conversations, (on the dating site to start with and now on Yahoo chat) have been lovely. We have been chatting for three weeks, every day almost! He told me that he lost his wife 2 years’s ago and was in a dark and lonely place and he is so happy to have met me and went on the site as he decided to move on in his life. He also says that he is now in love with me!!! This is sounding very familiar with the accounts I have read above and is frankly ridiculous and not possible as he doesn’t know anything about me apart from the very little I have told him. I am a very cautious person but would so love to believe him as he sounds lovely and his pictures certainly are. His profile picture on the dating site was taken a little earlier from the two further pictures he later sent me – one of him standing by the Statue of Liberty in New York and the other of him with a colleague in their uniforms in what he calls the Computer Room. It is clearly a military computer room. I can send a photo(s) if required. The uniform clearly shows his surname, the US Army tag, the ISAR logo and what seems arabic writing under this. It all looks very genuine, no cut and paste/photo-shop etc. Based on what I have now read, whether the man I am chatting to is actually the man in the photos I can’t be sure of course.

    He has now said he would like to hear my voice….. yes I know…. and to do this, he would need to make a Secured Military Phone Connection. It would entail me providing my name, address and number to be connected to. He completes a form with this information and the base do the rest. No mention of money involved has been mentioned at any time. He said it would mean he would have unlimited access by phone or computer.

    First, without reading about all the scams, I am very reluctant to give my address to someone I have only known for three weeks, also to the US Military in Libya. I understand the need for security, I have had Government clearance before and a member of my family used to work for the American Embassy here in London for many years, so my name and address will likely be known. However, I am just not comfortable giving my address. He wasn’t too happy about it at first and said that I didn’t trust him but calmed him by explaining my rational. For the moment he seems to have accepted this. He has asked me twice.

    I am trying to find out more information about him. He is a member of the 9339 Wingmen Motorcycle Club as he is wearing this insignia in two of his photos. A different T-Shirt in each photo. I imagine belonging to the New Jersey chapter. I haven’t perused this yet.

    I suppose I would like to know if this Secured Military Phone Connection is genuine or is there any way of him calling me without my giving my address. Also, of course, is my lovely George who he really says he is? How else can I find this out? As I said, I have photos and will be happy to send you these.

    THANK YOU SO MUCH – I know I’m probably being a complete fool and if this is a scam, I would like to take steps to find and inform the real George Hatfield of his ID theft.

    With my deepest gratitude

    Gwen

    • Stacey Abler July 10, 2014, 8:28 pm

      If he would like to call you, then he easily can if he is truly in the military. There are phones he can use to place free calls. Any time they ask you to set up a phone line, it is a scam. My husband deployed multiple times with special operations and we never paid any money for any of his phone calls home. I’m sorry.

      As for finding the rightful owner of the picture, you may be able to find him by doing a reverse image search on Google. You can upload the picture and it will show where else it resides online. Sometimes it can be hit and miss but I’ve found quite a few this way.

      • Gwen Marsh July 11, 2014, 1:31 pm

        Thanks Stacey
        That’s all I need to know. I will try to find the REAL George Hatfield if I can but not banking on getting too far on this.

        Kindest regards
        Gwen

      • Gwen July 13, 2014, 7:01 pm

        Dear Stacey
        Thank you once again for your advice. I have now found George Hatfield, who is actually Staff Sergeant Trenton Clay Hatfield, a genuine, very experienced and highly decorated US soldier who took early retirement from the Army 3 years’ ago. Unfortunately, through my research on the internet inc the reverse image you suggested, I have found that his ID and personal pictures have been stolen and used countless times by “scammers” using his name in a variety of different ways. It’s just appalling! I hope the real Trenton Clay Hatfield is aware of this but I don’t suppose there is anything much he can do with the photos in current circulation.

        Oddly, after my silence of 4 days, the “scammer” is once again trying to make contact through my Yahoo Messenger/Chat. I am not going on-line and opening this as I do not want to have anything further to do with the “scammer”. I may terminate this email account, I can easily open a new one. However, he does have a second email address and should he try to make contact through this avenue, I will just delete it and not respond as my gut feeling is not to have any further communication with him nor in particular, confront him. Do you feel this is the best course of action? Hopefully, he will eventually give up and move on.

        Your advice has been first-class and impeccable; it is obvious that there are no exceptions and thankfully, I smelt a rat before any damage has been done.

        Thank you so much for being there to help us ….. if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. Get a grip and smell the coffee! Support our Troops! But not in this way and only support the REAL ONES!

        Kindest regards
        Gwen

  • vivienne wise July 21, 2014, 11:15 am

    I have been talking to an American army segment in Afghanistan.he says he is from new York.I have been sent pictures of him and his son and pictures of him in uniform in Afghanistan.he has not asked me for any money. He has a gmail address.he is called john dickey I am trying to find out if this is not a Nigerian scam? Please help

  • Brittany July 24, 2014, 6:55 am

    Please help I have been talking to a guy on here who claims he is on a secret mission and needs a ts2 secure line to talk to him he asked for my email so he can set one up. He also says the only way he can get leave if is we are married and his email is jackson.smith@army.mil just afraid it may be a scam because you never know anymore and a few other things he says are just making me question. Please help Ty

  • Gloria August 10, 2014, 4:29 pm

    I have been on the okcupid website for about a month. I met Captain John Ledford on the sight! He started very slow however after about a week he decided to share that he lost his phone. He never ask for one however when I ask him for his birthday he ask what I would get him for his BD. I said what would you like and said a phone. That put was the first red flag! I told him that I would not feel comfortable doing that. After a week or so he decided to say that he could be home in two weeks after taking a course and once home he could fill out papers for retirement and was going to move in with me! I told him that was not happening but I kept asking question while I investigated more online. He was so mad of me doubting his reality he said some inappropriate that’s when I became really sure this was a scam. I stop talking to him however he is still trying to communicate I did ask for the AKO with no response from him! LOL So ladies if you come across this individual its a scam don’t fall for it!

  • Angela Henriquez September 23, 2014, 1:34 pm

    HI all,
    I am a woman from Aruba live in Holland. I came to a guy who is not US but the British on a dating site. I think I should write it down, because whatever it is I don’t know if he excist or not.
    I met him on a dating site. Then we started to talking only as friends in the beginning. He told me about his ex fiance who cheated on him at his moms house in Britian and also that he cought them in bed together also and by all this he has lost her mom because of her ex fiance. We only have talked by Skype and also when he talks he has his Jamaician accent. He told me he went to Jamaica from the age of 2 years with his parents in those time. Came back in UK with the age of 17 years because his father was very ill. Talking with him since may this year and untill now.He is now 37 years old. He is a Captain in Afghanistan and he also give me his ID number ,regiment and division.
    But how can we verify this as they are not allowed to pass information of a personal.
    He never ask me for money, but what is strange is he wanted to apply for a sudden retirement at his age now servind in the army for 13 years.But I have received an email from his commander and they are asking me to be the 3rd party Beneficiary as witness for his sudden retirement and need my ID number. I am like. ID number?? No way.
    Even so you apply for your sudden retirement they don’t need me for to be a witness for the transfer of his pensions funds to my bank account ,right??
    So not believing him , he opened the cam to prove himself he is Eddie there and on the camp alarm went off, but I did not saw him, I saw his friend. They all are in army uniforms and the inside was like a base camp.He has taken the blam on himself , because all he did it, he did it for love. He was held in costudy and almost 8 days in a dark room because they thought he was passing information to the Taliban.
    After email with his commandant what happened to him. The commandant told me he was held in custody because he was trying to send information and he is not allowed to say what for discipline action was taken against his act.
    So since last Friday the 19th of September and Saturday I have spoken to him.
    He says he is really broken and even thought he is all day on patrol. He was glad he was inside there instead of outside, when the bomexplosion occured in Kabul where are 3 soldiers killed.
    Since Saturday I have heard from him yet. I have called the British Army for inquiry and also to verify his ID number and everything, but they are not allowed to give such information of a personal.
    Somewhere I am still hoping, but if someone is asking to be your 3rd party beneficairy to a witness of a sudden retirement and need your ID number for the transfer to be send to your account is not true.

    It is hard, because somewhere you hope to have your ultimated dream with someone you connected and who will do anything for you and this will be your True Love.
    His name is Edward Shearer I will doubt if that is his real name.

    Angela

  • Carol October 9, 2014, 11:12 am

    Hi, I sent a message to you to report a scammer the name he was using on dating site was Alsarios Oasis Free Dating. then on G mail were he said he was on Website soulfulbrad saying his name was Jones Bradley but I believe it is Bradley Jones he sounds like an American by the way he says thing’s online I saw him on skype and he couldn’t look at me he was trying to cover his face up and he was the same guy on the Oasis Dating Site.

  • Carol October 9, 2014, 2:58 pm

    Hi Again the email address for JONES Bradley or Bradley Jones is soulfullbrad@gmail.com Phone no 004915738760116 I know this is his number because I pranked him and then he rang me back If he’s not a scammer please could you let me know

  • Loekey October 29, 2014, 1:44 am

    I’ve met someone online, exchanging pictures and waiting to hear if his name will be one of the lists to leave kabul, Afghanistan before Christmas this year. He said that he’s station at camp Eggers Base as a bomb defuse specialist. His name is K. A. WESTBROOK, stand for Kevin Allen Westbrook. He has a Serenity Prayer Tattoos on his left arm. He said that he used to be in the Air Force, but changed job as a bomb defuse specialist in th Army. He doesn’t ask for money, but he’d wish that he had money to leave Afghanistan for good. He said that he used all his leave or his R&R Leave, but if he wants to leave he has to pay for it because his time is not yet end. But I have a feeling that he wants me to pay for his leave now so he can be with me soon. How can I find out if this soldier is real and not fake. He seems very nice and really loves me. Please help me out because I got scammed several times already. I have his picture and yahoo email address. Please Email Me Back And Let Me Know How Can I Find Out The Truth About Him. Thanks for everything, and I appreciate it … Loekey

  • wendy November 1, 2014, 1:22 pm

    I have been chatting with a man online since 9/9/14. Met him on Match.com. Says he is E6 SSG in Afghanistan Stationed in Ft Hood, TX his MOS is intell and surveillace. Says he is supposed to retire next year and come to CA to start his “new” life as his wife passed away in car accident 2 years ago. He mentioned something about a box found during a peace keeping mission. Full of gold money. I am an educated, smart woman, I am also Christian and have a very kind heart. He played on my love for Christ. And I sent hi money, God I feel stupid, lots of money for this box to be delivered and soehing always seems to come up. He is supposed to redeploy next week or so. Anyway searching last night I found one of his pictures matches a CAPT Lucas Mcgee who is originally from Australia. The man I’ve been talking to is SSG Henry Rooney Mcgee native of Norway raised in TX. Only child. He writes like he has heavy accent. I spoke with him on several different occasions and the accent isn’t as thick. Has a dreamy voice. I am hurt and saddened because I know it’s a fraud but trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. I also looked up the number he called me from but it wasn’t fruitful. I am not dumb, Jesus Christ I am so hurt though!

    • LJ November 27, 2014, 10:41 pm

      This person reached out to me on zoosk.com. he is using mcgeerooney886@yahoo.com now. He keeps telling me the same thing. He has not asked me for money but did mention his birthday is coming up and that we will meet before Christmas and that he wants me to travel to Norway with him in January. He has sent me all of the same pics and after I have researched all the photos online are the same he sent me.

  • Nina November 1, 2014, 6:44 pm

    I met this guy online. ..He said that he is a British soldier,
    that he was transferred to a city called paderborn in Germany to live in January and he lost his ex girlfriend for that….but he is in Afghanistan for moment and will be coming back to Germany before 8th of November 2014..He sent a lot of pictures of him to me and he has never requested any thing or money from me..and he is curious to meet me and I like him so much. ..i don’t know if he is a scammer. ..but if in case he is not please can you advise me on what to wear on our first date and what and what not to do or say. Though I have three kids from my ex..and I have never told him about that..Please help me out.

  • leni November 6, 2014, 10:16 pm

    Hi I met genella Cornelia on facebook month of june2014, I know this guy he offer me a job in US nanny for her daughter name Kim, but this kind of Scam, pls don’t send money,

    • ann November 18, 2014, 2:07 am

      hi am ann..this guy named genella cornella also contacted me and still contacting me..he said,he need someone to look after his daughter..is this really a scam..kindly message me..thanks

  • Elizabeth November 20, 2014, 10:39 am

    Hi,
    I live in the United States and so does the Army soldier I met. As the story goes with so many other women is, yes I met him online on a site called Ourtime. He’s a real person whom I’ve met, he’s a real soldier and an officer (an o5 or 06). We’ve been dating in person for six months. He says he was in Afghanistan so he doesn’t have a permanent home yet… he says he’s been couch surfing at a friends house, so I didn’t have an address for him… plus he stated that he lives almost 1.5 hours from me so its just better that he come to see me (which was fine at first because I have a 15 year old daughter who needs me close). He’s cancelled some of our dates and mini vacations stating that he’s been called to the base for some sort of duty. He also stated that he is about to retire and when he does we can truly start our lives together. Well, he in fact is an office, he is getting ready to retire, and he does live about an hour from me… BUT I just found out through an private investigator hire by my soon to be ex husband that the man Ive been dating has a common law wife of 5 years, he owns property with her, they live together and they are very much “happy”. Since contacting him with what I found out about his actually life, his “wife” contacted me and informed me that he and she are both on medications for an STD. She wouldn’t disclose what it was and he didn’t respond to me when I had asked him. My husband and I are now working on reconciling, because he was right that maybe I can’t trust my own judgement. My husband is also an officer, but in a different branch of service. I’m on emotional overlaid not knowing what to trust anymore. I’ve never experienced such a scam of deceit before What are my options in reporting this man who is an officer, but scamming women for sex?.

  • christiane November 21, 2014, 6:02 pm

    hello
    im meet this us army david r obray, obray david but now he is using richard obray in facebook same picture he want to leave and she ask me to pay the leave form amount ($500) the next form is finance ($500) after that she me to him a money for food ($150 or 100) mode of payment is western union or money gram.

  • Suzanne November 27, 2014, 7:34 pm

    I have been talking to a capt. Steve. We started talking back in august. We talked for a little while and he asked me for money so he could use emergency leave. I told him he didn’t need money for that. Then he apologized. Said he was needing it to pay back someone for something he broke, I confronted him. Then he apologized again. Said he just didn’t like asking for money but he was needing it for his own personal use. Said he didn’t want to ask his mom. Well we got into an argument I told him he wasn’t real. He has sent me videos and pictures of himself. He put me on his Facebook and even commented on it for everyone to see that he loves me. He tells me sometimes that he should be sending me money instead of me sending it to him. Talks about loving me and my kids. Texts me every morning and after he gets done and goes back to his base. He has all girls on his Facebook. But he tells me he wants to be with me and no one else. He calls sometimes. Says he has been hurt enough and don’t want to go thru getting hurt anymore. I want to believe him. I am very confused would someone please help me out?

  • Erika witthoeft December 11, 2014, 11:52 pm

    Hi there. I am talking to a sergeant who is currently serving in Nigeria from Louisiana. He has given me a email address to contact to send $150 western union so that we can talk on the phone. The email is deployed_usmilitary@usa.com. I do not know if that is real but today I had gotten a phone call from his higher up sergeant because he had not heard from me on Facebook and he was worried. Is this real or should I be worried? There was no number, it came up as restricted. Do I have to pay to talk to this man on the phone? I really have fallen for hi and we are on Facebook with each other for hours but I want to be safe. He wants to marry me when he comes home.

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