My daughter is 18 years old and was talked into marriage by a guy serving in the Army. He was in Afghanistan. She stayed by the computer everyday just to speak with him. He is getting back to Tenn. January 4 and yesterday morning calls her to say he doesn’t want her to come down to be with him because she is only 18 and he will be going out to bars that she cant get into. Now he says he wants a divorce after one month.
She has a medical condition she has had for years and we dropped her from our insurance when they got married. He has not supported her at all and he says she can get nothing. What are we supposed to do? Turns out this is his second marriage and he’s only 23. He even talked her into tattooing his name on her. I just feel like he really messed her life up. I’m not saying she shouldn’t have known better but there has to be something we can do.
That is really sad. It sounds like he married her just for the extra pay. He should have been providing her some financial support as he did get extra money for being married in the form of BAH (housing allowance). If they were married during the deployment, he also received a separation allowance while he was gone.
If she files for divorce, she should speak to her lawyer about that – it can be sent directly to her as an allotment from his paycheck until the divorce is final and any alimony is set up. I’m very sorry that she is dealing with this. In these types of cases, the Chaplain on post can also typically be of some assistance. If for nothing else, he can provide the moral support she may need at this time.
If she’s going to be attending college, is it possible you can add her back to your insurance plan? I think most plans say the college student has to be unmarried but I don’t recall seeing a clause where she can’t have been married in the past. Of course, this can vary by plan so it would be best to check with your insurance plan. It’s also possible she may be able to get coverage through the CHCBP program under Tricare which provides temporary coverage after normal coverage has lapsed. However, it’s not without cost and can be rather expensive.
I hope she’s able to get her life back on track after all that she’s been through with him.
Filing for Divorce from Soldier
Well my husband and I have been married for a little over a year. The day after we were married he was sent to Iraq and he came back after about 4 months on injury. I tried to go see him but couldn’t and he “claims” to not have had leave and when I asked him to let me move with him when he was getting moved to GA, he said no. I have been catching him lying to me a lot and seeing new girls on his facebook and him talking to girls on the phone calling them “babe”. When I confronted him about it all he said was “oh I call all the girls in my phone that”. Really?!
Well I haven’t seen him since the morning after we were married and we are now separated but not legally.. I get an $850 housing allowance from him but I want to move on with my life but because of money he doesn’t want to get divorced. Is there any way I can move on and not get in trouble with owing the state money or something? I would like to move on and continue my life without the crying and headaches. Any advice will help. Thanks!
As long as he is stateside, you can serve him with divorce papers. And that’s exactly what I would do. There’s no reason to be treated as poorly as he is treating with you for a “financial benefit” from being married. It sounds like he wants to be single based on his actions, so help him out in that regard and serve him papers.
Leaving Him & Taking the Child
My husband of 6 years told me that I have to be at this duty station with him. I’m here against my will , and have wanted a divorce for the past year, after being away from him and realizing I deserve to not be emotionally or physically abused . He deployed and I moved back to our home state for a little over a year.
I’m now at the new station with him thinking it might have been a bad choice to move . Can I take our son and move home? Do I have to be here ? I feel lied to and upset. Out of the 6 years married we have lived together a total of around 3.
If it was only you, you could certainly leave no problem. But because there’s a child involved, it’s more complicated. I recommend you contact an attorney and find out what your options may be. I’m sorry you’re in this situation.
JAG & Filing for Divorce
My brother and his wife have filed for divorce. Both are in the military, but she was stationed overseas. She will be returning soon, and he’s hoping to finish up the divorce process. Does JAG has anything to do with this? The petition for the divorce was filed almost a year ago, but since she’s oversea, it was hard getting it done. Can anyone help me out with this?
JAG generally only provides advice to military members but will refer out to civilian attorneys. I have heard of some cases where JAG has handled the divorce because it was not contested and very cut and dry. In most situations, they would only offer advice and not actually handle the divorce itself.
Divorce While Living in Germany
Hello I needed to ask a couple of ?s. Me and my husband just aren’t working out. He’s not giving me any money what so ever, basically all he does it put food in the house (that’s what he calls supporting me) and it’s only food he likes to eat. I’m stuck over here in Germany with no money or car; I’m trying to go back home to the states, basically get EROT.
I’ve asked him to just send me home but he won’t; nor will he help with the EROT process because he’s collecting all the extra money if he’s getting any. What all do I have to do for this process to get completed the fastest way possible and how long does it take? And if I divorce him do I get BAH for a certain about time after the divorce?
There are no guarantees on how much you will receive after you divorce. It will depend on the divorce settlement. I would recommend you speak to JAG and the Chaplain about finding a resolution, including finding a way to return home.
Soldier Has Disappeared
I cannot locate my military husband . He left me shortly after joining the military to ft hood texas……when i tried to call his battery, they refused to tell me any info. His UNIT is 600 miles from where i am living… I tried calling red cross…they told me they cannot tell me his whereabouts but they can give him a message to call me. He never did….He just stopped my BAH recently. What can i do? How can i get a divorce? I have no money or income.
I’m sorry this has happened to you. If it were me, I would try to call the Chaplain for his unit to enlist his assistance. You may also contact JAG. If all else fails, contact a civilian attorney to start your divorce proceedings. Typically, JAG will not get involved except in rare circumstances with the divorce proceedings. You will need a civilian attorney.