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Getting Married to a Soldier

My boyfriend has recently left for basic and infantry training. We have talked about getting engaged and married. We are both pretty young yet in the traditionalists’ eyes but we are so in love. We have known each other almost our entire lives and have many married military friends. People are trying to tell us we are too young or should get engaged but wait for a few years.. We are in our very early 20s but I believe age is a number. Does age or anything matter when it comes to the military and what on your thoughts for two people who are ready for this kind of commitment? Thank you SO much..


I agree with you that age is just a number. I have known people twice your age who are not mature enough to handle marriage, much less a marriage in the Army. It will be more difficult as the Army throws many challenges your way. But I believe only the two of you will know when you are ready. Just don’t enter into it blindly. It is not a walk in the park and at some point, that honeymoon phase ends (or at least sizzles out a little! 🙂 ). Maintaining a good marriage is work. If you feel you are ready, then go for it.

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Alexis May 26, 2012, 8:12 am

    So my boyfriend is leaving soon he’s in the navy and is going to basic training for two months. Both him and I are considering getting engaged once he comes back. We have the same birthday but two years apart so I’d be 18 when he turns 20. My parents are telling me not to get engaged or married because he’ll be gone and I’ll never see him again. I believe we can make this work but my parents don’t. They want me in college and forgetting him though I know I want to marry him. My family doesn’t know I plan on going to college wherever he is stationed. But it scares me that I might not have any support once he gets deployed. I cried when he told me he was leaving because we spend everyday today. When I found this site I got so happy. I know I can wait for him and this helps because I can talk to others going through the same thing. My family doesn’t know the feeling so it’s different talking to them. Well it was nice to vent and talk about what I’m going through.

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