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Ask An Army Spouse: Living with Soldier at AIT

Good Idea to Move to AIT?

Hi, my husband in graduating from Basic Training in a 3 weeks. His AIT is at Ft. Huachuca in Arizona for 48 weeks. He had asked one of his drill sergeants if I could live with him and she said yes but didn’t recommend it. I was wondering if anyone has lived with there husband during AIT and if it is a good idea or not. Thank you!




I was not allowed to live with my husband during AIT as his was much shorter. I can’t imagine why she would tell him that you shouldn’t live with him. So I will open this up for others to comment. Hopefully someone can shed light on what to me is a bizarre comment! 🙂

Moving with Him to AIT

My husband recently joined the USAR and will soon be off to Basic & AIT. His AIT program is 26 weeks long at a post on the opposite Coast. I had read that the Army provides temporary family housing for programs over 20 or so weeks long, but we hadn’t planned on taking advantage of the service (we already own a home together, a temporary move didn’t make sense).

However, we just found out I’m pregnant with our first child, and the due date is just past the halfway point of his AIT. It’s almost funny in a way – we’ve been together since freshman year of college over 9 years ago and this is the first time we’ll be apart for more than a month or two. Great timing on our part! Not having him around for the pregnancy isn’t an issue, but he is concerned about missing those first few months after the baby is born.

So I guess the big question is: if we were to qualify for temporary family housing while he’s at AIT, would I have to live there for the full duration of his training? For example would the Army allow me to move out there 12 weeks into his program, or when he ships out would I have to get moving as well?

If I had to move for the full 26 weeks, the loss of my income and his BAH would make our mortgage payment problematic. It would be great to be able to share the fabled sleep deprivation with him, but we do need someplace to come home to when he graduates.

Thank you so much for your guidance, and thank you for the work that’s gone into this site. It’s a lifesaver to find a resource like this on the web.

Congrats on the pregnancy! I hope all goes well with it.

Generally, the Army would expect you to move when he moves to his duty station. There may be some leeway with that but it is up to the Army about whether to allow you to move at a later date. You may be able to talk to the transportation office at the post closest to you to inquire about how long you are eligible to move after the orders have been cut.

If you chose to live off post there, you could still collect BAH based on that zip code. Depending on how much your living expenses are, it may still work out okay. You would only give up BAH if you chose to live on post.

Hope this helps.

Moving with Soldier for Reclass (AIT)

My husband has already completed Basic and AIT. His unit was called up with a different unit, and he has to reclass. If he reclasses, will we be able to go to AIT with him? He can choose between two jobs, one AIT is 19 weeks and the other is 24 weeks. Because his AIT will be so long and he will be deployed for a year, we would like to go with him and spend as much time with him as we can. Who would we need to talk to about this?


Generally, the Army will allow the family to accompany a soldier to AIT if the school is at least 20 weeks. Since he is reclassing, this policy should be a bit more lenient. He should be able to talk to his unit about including his family on the orders so you can accompany him to training. However, even if you are not officially able to go with him, you could still move to the area.

With longer AITs, there is more freedom allowed during training, especially after the first weeks of training. Of course, it would be easier financially if the Army authorizes the move as they will also pay to move your household goods as well and you could apply for on post housing if you that’s where you wanted to live.

I hope it all works out!

Moving When AIT Is Less Than 20 Weeks

My Husband just let for Boot Camp a little less then a week ago, This is a lot harder than I thought that it would be, We have never spent a day apart the whole time that we have been together.
But I’ve been reading that you may be able to move with him during AIT if it is 20 weeks or longer, Well my husbands is only 17 weeks, do you think that i would be able to move with the Army paying? And me actually being able to get to see him where it would be worth it? Or could we actually be able to live together? Thank You!
Usually, the Army will only allow this if the AIT is longer than 20 weeks. Even if his AIT was that long, he still wouldn’t be able to live with you until he had completed a certain part of his training (I believe until 11 weeks). While anything is possible, I would not count on it. There’s nothing that would stop you from moving to the area, but the Army wouldn’t pay for the move. And definitely keep in mind that depending on his schedule with AIT, he may or may not be allowed to see you during training.

Living with Your Soldier During AIT

Hello I dropped my husband off at AIT this past week in Fort Eustis VA. his training is 28 weeks long and in his orders its an accompanied tour so I can move down. But he talked to his Sgt and he said that he will not be able to move in with me..but everyone else I talked to said it shouldn’t be a problem. Just wondering if anyone knows more about this base. He is going to school to be a 15 juliet.
Thank you so much for your help.

With most longer AIT schools, they get more freedom after they pass a certain part of the training. While he may not be able to live with you in the beginning, it will likely eventually happen and at the very least he can spend any time off he has (nights, weekends) with you.

I will open this up to others to share their stories as my husband’s AIT was short.

When Can I Move to AIT with My Soldier?

My husband’s AIT is 44 weeks long; he is still in basic training and will graduate in about three weeks. I should be allowed to move to his AIT at the military’s expense, but how do we find out when I am allowed to move? Also, there is a week in between his basic graduation date and his AIT report date; does he get that week off or does he have to report to AIT early? Thanks for your time.


If you are on his orders for AIT, you will be able to move with him to his AIT duty station when he moves. Just be warned that it may be several weeks before he is able to live with you. Depending on the school, they sometimes will have the soldiers advance to a certain phase of the training before they allow them to live with family full time. Generally, he will have to report to AIT. Depending on the distance between his basic location and AIT location, he may be given some travel days. I wouldn’t count on a week off until it actually happens.

Time Off During AIT If I Move With Him

My husband is in basic training right now at Fort Benning. After basic he is going straight to A.I.T at Fort Gordon. All together he will be gone for over 7 months. I was curious because i want to move down there if I will ever get to see him. Some people say he will get weekends off while others say he won’t. I don’t know what to believe. Also what about moving there since he is gone for so long will the Army move me or do I move myself?

Whether you will be able to see him during AIT depends on his MOS and his instructors. Generally, the longer his AIT is, the more freedom he will have during training. I’m assuming from your question that his AIT is about five months long. In that case, he should be able to have some visitation time once he has been in AIT for a bit. But that is not guaranteed and their freedoms can always been taken away if someone screws up.

The Army will move you if you are on his orders. If his AIT is longer than 20 weeks, it is possible you will be added to his orders. If you are not on his orders, the moving expenses would be your responsibility.

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • jenni wynne anderson April 5, 2010, 3:39 pm

    typically the Army moves you if your soldiers AIT is over 20 weeks ( that is based on MOS weeks not actually counted weeks because they don’t always class up as soon as they get there)
    but anyways in all honesty they don’t want wives and families there because they consider them a distraction..( because they are in training and not out in there real jobs) not my words it was actually posted on my husbands AIT fb page by the command…yeah your family can move there but sometimes your soldier still isn’t allowed to live with you..so you have to go on post to see them or if they have weekend pass then they can go home with you..
    so that is the answer I saw posted by command..they have to move you for an MOS over 20 weeks but they don’t want you there…
    IMPO if you don’t have ties and can leave and move on the Army dime then I say go for it it makes it alot easier to PCS to your 1st duty station if you are in the same location..my husband got orders to Germany and because we are on 2 separate coasts I won’t be able to travel with him over because over all the paper work involved so IMO it is worth while living close by to your husband during AIT if you can..

  • Tawana April 5, 2010, 3:43 pm

    I don’t see why it would be a bad idea. Unless she was just saying you might be a distraction. But that’s still a ridiculous comment. I had the option of living with my husband while he was in AIT (26 weeks). We are in the process of trying to move to TX while he is training there. I personally thinkit is a great idea. You more than likely will get to have him live at home( if approved), and probably weekend are free so you get him then too.

    I say go for it. Especially with it being that long! Hope this helped a little.

  • Laurie April 5, 2010, 3:50 pm

    My husband has been at Ft. Gordon for AIT since June 2009, and will be leaving June 2010. I moved to be with him in October. It took about a month before he could move off post because he had to complete an off post packet. Also, keep in mind that for the first few months, your husband won’t have many privileges in AIT, and won’t be able to live with you for the first few months, depending on how fast he phases up.

    For me, I’m happy with the decision. I was frustrated with my career, and it was a good reason to quit and move on. However, I have not been able to find a job. My husband’s schedule has changed three times since we’ve been here and there’s quite a few formations and other things he needs to go to, and we share a car. But like I said, the more time he spends at AIT, the more privileges he gets, and the more time you can spend with him.

    Some things to think about: You will probably have to pay out of pocket for your move if you are not on his orders. Does this outweigh the cost of visiting him? If you stayed where you are, how many times would you visit? What would the costs be? Also, do you have children? Do you have a good job where you are? Do you own a home? For me, I wanted to quit my job and hated living in an apartment alone, so I moved back with my parents and they were driving me crazy.

    My thinking was that I should spend as much time with my husband as I can, because you never know that he could get to his permanent duty station and be deployed right away. I suggest you wait until he gets to AIT and he gets a feel for how things are there.

  • Kelly April 5, 2010, 3:51 pm

    My name is Kelly and my husband is actually stationed at Fort Huachuca, AZ. He’s been here since November 6th and he graduates in 5 weeks. His training is about 22 weeks long and his orders specifically said accompanied, meaning I was authorized to move here with him. We were also told that it wasn’t recommended for me to move here with him but we did it anyway and we havent regretted it for a second. We got an apartment off post together and we couldnt imagine doing it any other way. Theres also a few other soldiers just from his company alone that are married and live off post just like us. If his training is that long, I would definetely suggest moving here with him. We moved from Maine so it was quite a big change for us, but the weather is beautiful, the city is great (Sierra Vista), and the people are nice. He is at work every day from 4:30 AM until about 5 PM , except weekends, so we dont get much time to spend together but we really treasure the time we do get to spend together. So all in all to answer your question, I think it’s a great idea, but it’s really up to you guys to make that decision. If it helps, they will only pay for one move, so if you have them pay for you to move from your current location to Fort Huachuca they wont pay to move you to your first duty station, but if you move yourself here, they will pay for you to move to your first duty station, thats how were doing it, because we drove our car here and rented a furnished apartment, but its all stuff that you two need to decide together…hope this helped, and good luck to you and your husband! =)

    • ally November 24, 2011, 11:01 pm

      Hi Kelly, My husband is at ft sill right now for basic and will be going to ft.Hauchuca AZ for AIT. He will be there for over 20weeks and I was looking at apartments in sierra vista. I am really nervous about how everything will go. I am currently 4months pregnant and I want to be near him when the baby is born. I still dont know how everything works. I heard soldiers go straight to Ait after basic graduation. If you have any advice for me please let me know. Thanks.

  • Kelly Brown April 5, 2010, 3:57 pm

    Living with your spouse during AIT is hard for the military because of moving expenses If your spouse has a 20 week class then they would have to move you twice in less than a yr and that is a waste of money. If you move yourself outside the post of his AIT the military wont be upset BUT if your spouse gets an overseas assignment that does not have command sponsorship the military wont move you home so it’s not always the best idea. Personally I stayed at home and visited the hubby as often as I could.
    Hope it all works out well for you.

  • Ariana Rathburn April 5, 2010, 4:20 pm

    My husband also had a long AIT so I was able to move there once he phased up. We got a one-bedroom apartment in town and signed a 3 month lease. Since the apartment was so cheap we made money off the BAH. I got to learn a little about army life before being completely thrown into it at our duty station. We didn’t have a lot of stuff but we left some of it in his mothers garage while I did a DITY move to his AIT and we actualy made money off of that as well, although I had to do it all by myself.
    The only reason I could see as to why some might say its not a good idea would be because of the other soldiers in training being jealous because your husband will get more freedom than them. The soldiers in the baracks will have to be in a certain time while your husband doesn’t have to answer to anyone after hours. But hey, since when is the Army fair?

  • Ariana Rathburn April 5, 2010, 4:23 pm

    Also they will pay for you to move as many times as your husband is reassigned! The army will only pay for 2 moves a year is a rumor and also they won’t pay for you to move back home while your husband is deployed, thats also a rumor.

  • Delaina April 5, 2010, 4:55 pm

    As of them paying when hubby deploys.. if you are cleaning on post housing then yes they will move you. But if you live off post they do not see it as a need to move the spouse to where they want to go. My husband just deployed and we were living off post by Ft Riley, Ks and I moved back to Oklahoma where I am from but Trans. wouldnt move me since it isnt a need since we were not on post housing.. Good luck with your decsion on to move or not

  • Audrey Schoolcraft April 5, 2010, 5:51 pm

    Hey Ladies!!!

    At the moment my hubs is going through basic @ Benning but will shortly be going to Ft. Sam Houston for AiT in San Antonio for 21 weeks.. we only live a few hours away from SanAntonio but also debated me and the children moving with him… in the end it has to be what is good for the family bc ultimately that will be what is better for the Army. We have decided that we will wait and see how it goes before moving the children again in such a short period of time only to move again when we get our orders. We sold our house before he left for BCT and moved into an apartment, and we know that we will have to move again before the year is up so our delima is move the children again between moves or just travel the 3 hours to see daddy or daddy to us when we know that he will have a weekend free.

  • Nichole Dulin April 5, 2010, 7:29 pm

    I lived with my husband while he was in AIT. His AIT was 46 weeks. I dont see why that person said she would not recommend it. The army will pay to move you as long as you are on his orders. For us, being away from my husband for almost a year between basic and AIT then the possiblity of a deployment shortly after, was not an option. We found a beautiful home and after about 12 weeks he as able to move home. While he was living in the barracks I was able to see him from about 1730 to about 2100 monday through friday. The weekends we could spend all day together. It was a wonderful experience for us both 🙂

  • Ashley April 5, 2010, 10:44 pm

    Here’s my opinion….
    If they will let you move there during AIT and you want to, go for it. If you don’t want to, don’t do it. The Army considers lots of things ‘distractions’ that aren’t necessarily. I think that as long as the Army doesn’t absolutely forbid it, you have to do what is best for you and your husband.
    I have been married to my soldier for almost 9 years. He has been in the Army the whole time. He’s done stuff where I went and where I didn’t and we were both happier when I did.

  • Jessica H April 16, 2010, 11:49 am

    We are currently living off-post at Fort Gordon, GA. I personally love it. Even though the army is very unpredictable and may piss you off the waiting for him to come home after class, or having to wait to see him on the weekends is well worth it. I would take the offer in a hurry. You never know if they are going to get deployed which is a great chance. If your husband pays attention in class and doesn’t get in trouble then there’s no distraction. We’re going to Fort Huachuca, AZ any day now for his duty station. I can’t believe the apartments they have there have no washer/dryer hookups in any of them. It frustrates me. Trust me, the moving part will stress you out. But it’s worth it.

  • Jessica H April 16, 2010, 11:54 am

    In regards to Ariana, my husband and I were reading that they only pay you to move once a fiscal year. I went to a family briefing(required for the off-post packet) they told me that they will pay you to move every time and if your husband deploys and your not around family they will move you back. It makes sense. Why would the army make you pay to move where your suppose to go? I’d understand if you were in the same city and wanted to move to another apartment but not if your duty station has changed. So I think you’d get paid from what I got from the briefing.

  • Brandon A April 21, 2010, 2:13 am

    Ok, I have a question Similar to this conversation but a bit more complicated I’m shipping out to Basic on June 1st then going to Goodfellow AFB for 27 weeks for my AIT and my Wife is currently deployed to Iraq right now and is scheduled to be back sometime around August or September and I want her to live with me while I’m at AIT. Has anyone else had a similar situation and if so how does it work or can it work with both spouses in the Army.

  • emilyskemily April 21, 2010, 9:49 pm

    Hi! My fiance and I are planning on getting married in 2 weeks while he’s in AIT training at Ft. Sam Houston. What do we need to do in order to get married? We are both originally from Birmingham, AL and I still live here but plan to move w/him to his next duty station. Who do I need to or does he need to get approval from his sgt? Anything would help us. Also, what documentation do we need in order to be married there? Thanks so much!


  • Erin July 6, 2010, 10:17 pm

    what is he in school for? my hubby is re-enlisting and looking for a long school so we can be together cause we have a 18month old lil boy…..so many ppl are saying he wont get accompanied orders and that we wont get to go with him??????????

  • nicole March 23, 2011, 5:13 pm

    i have a question my boyfriends going to ft sill oklahoma for AIT AND BASIC for the army for 13F is it possibly he can be stationed there

  • Dawn April 16, 2011, 7:46 pm


    My hubby is graduating in bootcamp on may 12, 2011 and he said I might be able to live with him bc his school is over 20 weeks. Some lady said that not all company are family friendly and I may not be able to join him….is that true? He really wants me to live him. we don’t have anything to really pack just one tv and our clothes and that’s it. We do have 1 car. Btw were just got married reason for not having any stuff. Also is it possible that I can live in the base?

  • lupe September 27, 2013, 11:21 pm

    I had a quick question my husband is about to get out of basic training and soon will go to his AIT I think its 19 weeks he will be there and I believe it will be in Virginia I was just wondering if its a good idea to move with him even if he has to pay out of his own pocket ? And will I be able to see him if I do move

    • Stacey Abler October 8, 2013, 7:10 pm

      It depends on the school. Typically, the longer the school, the more free time they have. But even with longer schools, you can expect time off to be very limited (if at all) in the beginning.

  • Brittany May 28, 2014, 4:09 pm

    My husband has been at Ait at Goodfellow Afb for a week and will just now be starting classes/training. He will be down there until at least late November. I am on his orders so I can move down there on the military dime and we both ready want that but I just found out my place of work will give me double my paycheck in August if I stay until then. My question is will the military still pay to move me down half way through his ait training??

    • Stacey Abler June 2, 2014, 6:07 pm

      His orders should state how long you have to move, it can differ based on the type of orders they are.

  • GW June 6, 2014, 11:29 pm

    My boyfriend is currently in AIT school MOS 68kilo, he graduated from BCT in Nov. 9th of 2013. I wanted to surprise him and fly out to Texas for his graduation. Does anyone know how I may be able to retrieve his graduation on the military website? Thanks in advance for your help.

  • Crystal Sizemore June 29, 2014, 2:48 pm

    I am a new army wife with a soon to be 3 year old son! I have a few questions, my husband is in Basic training at Fort Sill, OK currently. His AIT is immediately followed at Fort Sam Houston; his Mos is 68A Biomedical equipment specialist, this school is 44 weeks. My husband and I originally planed for me to stay at our current home and travel with my son for holidays or maybe every couple months. During basic we have realized this may be harder on our son than we originally thought. So now we are wanting to join him at AIT. Since we were not in his orders who can I contact to see if we can get temporary housing or moving expenses paid?
    Thank you,

    • Stacey Abler July 1, 2014, 7:54 pm

      His orders should include authorization for dependent travel for AIT since it is 44 weeks. Since he’s still in basic, does he even have his orders yet for AIT?

    • Sheila Stone January 18, 2016, 3:49 am

      What ended up happening? I’m in the same situation, same MOS and everything, and the fact that you stated his AIT orders did not have you to accompany him worries me. He graduates Feb 18 and AIT starts Feb 21. I’m due with our second March 7th. We were planning on him graduating in January but he was delayed a month before going into BCT because of paperwork so now things are really cut pretty close.

      I’m completely and utterly confused by so many different statements on here. I’m thinking my only option is to call Ft Sam and speak to someone in regards to what is official and what is not. At this point I can’t afford to make a mistake and sign a lease off post in the event that 1) his orders do not include me to accompany him even though his MOS is 42 weeks. 2) because of how intense his MOS is in regards to AIT, I’m concerned they might not ever grant him permission to live off post with me, despite how long it is. 3) even if they did grant him permission to live off post with me, the only place we found that is safe, affordable, and willing to work with us is roughly 20 minutes from the gate and I’m concerned that that is too far?

      If by some chance you get a notification and can read this, would you please respond to me and let me know how your case worked out for you? It would really help. Thank you in advance!

  • Carmen Cloute July 4, 2014, 12:13 pm

    My husband just arrived at Ft. Lee Virginia for his AIT. His orders includes me to move there. How long do I have to wait before I move there? I am new to the Army and want to have all the right information. He is there for 43 weeks I think for E.O.D.
    All information will be greatly appreciated.

    • Stacey Abler July 7, 2014, 5:05 pm

      As long as you are on his orders, there’s no reason to wait that I know of.

  • Luna September 11, 2014, 6:18 pm

    my fiance is at fort sill basic training he is graduating then going to go to AIT can we get married at Fort sill and how? someone please help i been racking my brain about how we are going to do this befoer he leaves for AIT.

    • Stacey Abler September 23, 2014, 8:46 pm

      If he has any time off between basic and AIT, you could go to the courthouse, get the license and get married. It looks like there is no waiting period in Oklahoma as long as you’re both over 18.

  • Mallory October 17, 2014, 2:55 am

    I actually have a question completely off this topic. However, I’m really hoping for some advice. My boyfriend actually already has experiences with nightmares before his deployment. Is this common? I try my best to calm him down. However, I’m not sure to wake him or let him sleep it out and comfort him when its done? It’s never became a physical contact dream or any other symptoms outside of these reoccurring war dreams. I can make out some of his words, most being Army lingo or orders. However, he doesn’t always remember every dream. I don’t want to pry to much but I want to be there for him and comfort him in any type of way. We do talk about deployment and his dreams and even war. I just feel him being the strong soldier he is he holds back certain stress and concerns he has about it. Is this common as well? Please ladies I may only be the girlfriend but I truly love and care for this man. He is my best friend, love, hero, and soldier. I want to take care of him as he does me. Any suggestions or comments?? Maybe similar stories.

  • Kayla Teal October 27, 2014, 9:56 pm

    My Husband is in Ft. Benning right now. some time in December he will graduate and come home for two weeks. He has called me a couple of times telling me to set something up for me and our daughter to move on base when its time for him to leave out for AIT. I really have no idea of how to get this started. I have read some of the comments above, that it has to be in his orders for us to live on base. Well how does it get on his orders? does he have to talk to someone? Do i call someone? I have no idea? I want to live on base, because my daughter is in school, and its looks to me that the schools are really good there. And of course we want to be close to my husband and her daddy, its been almost six weeks since me and my daughter have seen him. And he doesnt want to be away from us like that for 21 weeks. {when he is in AIT} Could someone inform me on what i need to do? and what he needs to do? please?

    • Stacey Abler November 7, 2014, 8:07 pm

      You should be on his orders since it’s more than 20 weeks. If not, he can speak to his command about it to get them adjusted.

  • Katelynn November 20, 2014, 11:58 am

    Hello. So my boyfriend is almost done with his infantry/AIT. He moves to Colorado for his duty station at the end of the month. What are the steps for me to go up there after we get married through court? Can I live on base with him?

    • Stacey Abler December 7, 2014, 8:46 pm

      As long as you’re married, you’ll be able to live on post with him. He just needs to turn in a copy of your marriage certificate to finance and get you enrolled in DEERS.

  • Andi Hembree December 29, 2014, 5:11 pm

    Ok so my boyfriend left 12/29/14 for basic training in fort sill Oklahoma, that’s also where he will be for ait school. He will be gone for a total of seven months, which will put him getting back the first week of July. Our baby is due at the end of March when he will be in ait school, will he be able to come home for the birth of our child? I also would like to know how often I’m going to be able to talk to him during basic training? And how often I’ll be able to talk to him during ait school? Also if when he’s at ait school will I be able to go up there and get a hotel on weekends so we can stay together? We haven’t been apart the whole year and a half we’ve been dating so this is really hard and I have so many unanswered questions that I’m dying to find out. Anything will help.

    • Stacey Abler January 6, 2015, 9:44 pm

      It’s been quite some time since my husband was in basic but when he was in, I heard from him by phone about once every two weeks for a few minutes. Everyone is different and every basic training class is different. Since he will likely just be starting AIT when you have the baby, I wouldn’t count on him being able to come home. AIT is typically a little more lenient as far as communication, etc. Every AIT is different with allowing passes off post on weekends and things like that. Typically, the longer his AIT is, the more privileges he will have.

  • Kaylee January 28, 2015, 6:19 pm

    My husband is at BCT right now in Ft Jackson. He wants to me while he is gone to start setting up(saving money) and finding a place where his AIT is gonna be. Which is in Ft Gordon. IS it a good idea from my own expense to put the deposit down on a house which is about 2-3 miles from the base? Also since they finish school around 4-5pm everyday. Will I be allowed to pick him up or see him than he goes back in at his sleep time?

    • Stacey Abler January 30, 2015, 8:41 pm

      How long is his AIT? Is it going to be long enough for you to even have a lease? It would probably be easier to live on post. The amount of free time he will have will depend entirely on his instructors. Generally, the longer the AIT is, the more freedom he will have. But even with long AITs, they will sometimes in the beginning be very strict about free time, etc.

  • tara gonthier March 30, 2015, 8:42 pm

    I am really looking on where on i can go online to chat with other military wives who may be caregivers to their husband’s who have tbi and ptsd

  • Morgan April 6, 2015, 4:21 pm

    Hello! My boyfriend is currently halfway through bootcamp at Ft. Benning. If you aren’t married yet, are you still allowed to move with your soldier to wherever he goes for AIT?

  • Jackie Keddie May 12, 2015, 8:38 pm

    hello i am wanting to know if eny one here can help me i have a boyfriend non him long time hes in the army and he askd me if i can send to get him leve from the army $200,free is this wright i just would like to know if eny one can tell me thank you all

  • Gayatri May 19, 2015, 9:15 pm


    My husband will go for BT at the end of November, 2015. I am dur at the end of December, 2015. He says he will get holidays for christmas but as it is possible that the baby comes early or late, is it possible for him to postpone his BT date to sometime in Jan, 2016.

    Also, he is supposed to go for his AIT as soon as his BT finishes. His AIT is for 16 weeks. Is it possible that I live with him (at post or out post) while he is in AIT. If not then can I atleast in thr same city and meet him on weekends or during his after work hours?

    • Stacey Abler June 27, 2015, 10:08 am

      He would have to talk to his recruiter about postponing his start date for basic. You can move wherever you would like but the Army won’t pay for you to move unless you’re on his orders.

  • johnna June 17, 2015, 7:26 pm

    i was wondering if your significant other is going to south korea for a year if itis possible if you can go with them. If not how do i handle it because this is my first time with him going over sees im a rooky at this

  • Kevin castro December 15, 2015, 8:28 pm

    My girlfriend is coming back for the holidays and she wants to get pregnant but I don’t know if its a good idea when she goes back to AIT for one more month what should I do

  • barbara February 29, 2016, 6:41 am

    solder scamers..is there anything we can do to stop this..or turn them in? ben Johnson/renee gainey..he uses two names is a scammer on facebook

  • Heaven May 18, 2016, 2:44 pm

    Hello! My husband is reclassing when he reenlist and I am really wondering to where I stand in this situation. If he leaves to go to AIT will I stay at the base we are already at or will they have me go with him depending on how long he is in training. Or will I have to go live with family till he is done?

    • Stacey Abler May 21, 2016, 8:24 pm

      If the AIT is longer than 20 weeks, you can go with him. Otherwise, you can stay where you are. I know some who went through this and he already had orders for a new duty station when he graduated, so they went ahead and moved.

  • Tyjahe Hunter March 28, 2017, 7:19 pm

    Hi I just have a question my husband lives in Hawaii and I was wondering do u have to take a physical in your home town before you get to live with them

  • Kendra ostrom June 10, 2017, 3:52 pm

    My husband is transferring branches he isn’t going to basic training he is going straight from meps to his training for his job. His paper work says AIT but I’m seen on the paperwork for on post house that it says for signal school he much be there for 20 weeks or more but AIT says he qualifies if his training is over 12 weeks. We are planning to go with I’m now not sure if we are eligible for on post housing. Any help??

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