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Notifications During Army Deployments

*This article discusses what happens if your soldier is KIA. It is not an easy subject to write about or read. You have been warned.*

Before your soldier deployed, he completed paperwork that listed who he wanted to be notified in the event that he was injured or killed during deployment. Many times, this also includes directions of how to get to that home as well as who he wants to be there with the family member during notification. This may also be done at the pre-deployment briefing.

If Your Soldier is Injured

Many times, they will do everything possible to let the soldier notify you of his injury via a phone call. If for some reason he is unable to make this notification himself, someone from the unit will call you. If the injury is very serious, it is possible they will send someone to tell you in person. Check with your unit to find out what the protocol is for notification of injuries.

If your soldier has to leave his current location for medical treatment, he will most likely be transported to Germany. Whether or not you are able to go depends on the seriousness of the injury and how long he will be in Germany. Some will get the treatment they need and return to their unit. Others may receive treatment and return to the states. If they expect he will be transported to the states, the Army will generally not arrange travel for the family. If he will be in Germany for an extended period of time, his unit may work with you to secure travel arrangements to see him. Again, this is a case by case basis.

If Your Soldier is Killed in Action

Notification of your soldier’s death will ALWAYS be made in person. These types of notifications will not be made over the telephone. They typically also will cut off communication from overseas until the notification can be made to ensure the family does not find out through other means.

Typically, someone from the unit along with a CAO (Casualty Assistance Officer) will go to the home of the primary and secondary next of kin to make the notification. They do not notify in the middle of the night. When they arrive, they will be in uniform. If you or your soldier has indicated that you want specific people to be there for the notification, those people may be there as well though they will generally not be at the door for the notification.

CAOs are trained to deal with a wide variety of situations. As you can imagine, people will react in different ways to receiving this news. The CAO is assigned to your family and will be there for you for months after your soldier’s death. They will physically be there with you to assist in funeral arrangements, transportation to Dover if you want to be there when the casket arrives, etc. They will also explain all benefits and what you can expect from the process. The CAO is basically a personal information officer during this time with answers to all questions.

I pray that you will never need this information. The most important thing to take from this article is that notifications of death are ALWAYS made in person. No one will ever call you with that news. In 99.99% of the cases, you will be notified before anyone else in the area (including the media) is made aware of what happened. If you have additional questions about notifications, check with your family readiness group (FRG).

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Kay September 18, 2010, 2:57 pm


    My boyfriend is a combat soldier currently deployed in Iraq. He generally calls me or contacts me everyday via Facebook or Skype. It has been almost 4 days since I heard from him. He hasn’t logged in to Skype or Facebook for 4 days. This is not the norm for him, because he knows that I am always concerned about him and he likes to put my mind at ease. I am worried sick right now. I haven’t slept in 3 days. I don’t know if I should assume the worst or think positive, because I can’t come up with any positive explaination for him not calling. I know he added me to his call list in case something happened to him, but he hasn’t added my address, because I recently moved. I don’t have contact with his family, so how will I be notified if something has happened to him? Any response will be appreciated. Thank you!

    • Stacey September 24, 2010, 8:28 pm

      If you are his point of contact, you can contact his unit back home to update them with your new address. As for not hearing from him, I hope you have by this point. But also know that when things happen, they do a black out as far as communication so official notifications can be made before word gets out. It could be something like that or he could have had to go out on a mission, etc.

    • Kirsten November 9, 2010, 2:17 am

      Hi! My bf has been deployed in Iraq for a year and a half. At first he was able to contact me almost everyday for months. Then as time went on, he would travel out in the desert far from internet–and keep in mind the sand storms will block communication too. At one point i was going insane because I hadnt heard from him in 8weeks. I was in the same boat. We knew eachother from high school although we are in our 30s now, and met on facebook a few months before his deployment. I have no contact with his family, so I would have no knowledge of him getting hurt or God forbid dying. During his long durations without contacting me, I did something really morbid— i checked everyday on http://www.icasulaties.org which lists all the dead soldiers, rank, age, where they were, how they were killed for both iraq and afgah.— i know this sounds sick and twisted… but checking the site out and NOT seeing his name made me feel so much better. However, it is also really depressing to see the names of those who have perished, and it is made clear where the deadly combat is and when. So depending on ur thinking— it could help, it could not. At times, he returns to a real camp and does get to yahoo IM me for a few weeks, then will be out of communication again for a couple weeks. U will learn what will be the norm depending on his job and mission lengths. Some missions are weeks, some guys just have a “normal” 9-5 type job. Another thing is that although I see on here that many have access to phones at the MWR, my guy has only been able to call me about 5 times in all this time. I called his cell one day and his Lt. had his phone and told me not to call him again. In June he escorted a dead soldier home to ft benning and i got to spend a couple days with him. He is supposed to be coming home this thursday, but i again havent heard from him in 2wks. I do know however that he WILL be calling me as soon as he can. So hang in there… keep busy… and let him know u miss him.

  • Kristin September 28, 2010, 6:24 pm

    Kay, I hope you come back to this post because I want to give you some encouragement. I have been through 2 deployments so far- first as an Army girlfriend, then as an Army newlywed- and am about to go through a third as a new mom. What I quickly learned through my husband’s first deployment was not to fret if I didn’t hear from him for some time. During that deployment, because of his schedule, we were lucky most of the time to talk or chat online almost every day. Then, once in a while, I wouldn’t hear from him for a week. There were blackouts due to deaths, or missions he couldn’t tell me about, or sometimes the phones or internet just didn’t work. It can be worrisome, but if you haven’t heard anything from anyone (parents, Army, etc) I would try to calm down and just pray for the best.

    Are you his POC? That is, before he deployed, did he list you as the person to notify in case something happened to him? If yes, then you will be the first to know. I would assume though, since you are not married, that his parents are his POC. (Just an assumption…my husband’s parents were during his first deployment, I have been since we got married.) If it’s his parents, then you would need to hear it from them. I don’t know what your relationship is with his parents, but the next time you talk to your boyfriend, ask him about making sure his parents contact you with any information they receive about him. This helped me a lot during that first deployment, knowing that I would eventually be contacted.

    Stay positive! Remeber the old saying, “no news is good news”. It can be really hard not to hear from them for awhile. Hope you get some rest!

  • Belle November 19, 2010, 9:30 pm

    I have a boyfriend in Iraq. We actually started dating right after he deployed, so I am not on his contact information incase something happens. He has called me every single day for the past three months, but I haven’t heard from him in 4 days! I’m freaking out and don’t know what to do. Actually I can’t do anything. If he were able to call he would call me, no doubt about that. He doesn’t call his family very often so talking to them would be pointless and probably make them worry which I would never want to do. I am so scared…please someone give me some advice. I wish there were some way I could find out if he’s ok!

    • Stacey November 22, 2010, 9:54 pm

      Always remember that no news is good news. It’s entirely possible he was called away for a mission or the phone lines where they are went down. I know it’s difficult but try not to assume the worst. Think positive thoughts!

  • Ron December 26, 2010, 10:42 pm

    Michael Moore’s movie Fahrenheit 9/11 features a woman telling how she received a phone call from the government regretfully informing her of her son’s death in Afghanistan. I was stunned when I heard her say that, knowing that it is definitely NOT the case. Having been in the military and having been employed by the U.S. Government for more than ten years, I knew she was telling a flat out lie for the cameras. Families are ALWAYS notified in person by a very well trained military officer and counseled for days, week and even months afterward.

  • Mindy April 20, 2011, 1:34 pm

    Thank you very much for providing this information. During part of the last deployment I served as the rear detachment first sergeant, and I was the spouse of a soldier who was still deployed. I found that even though there are briefings that go over a lot of this information, there is so much that is thrown at the soldiers and the families that everything gets lost in the mix. Many of our spouses had no idea what to expect.

    There is a very strict timeline on notifications and as previously stated, they are made in person in the event of a KIA soldier. Once the notification is made, the casualty assistance will move in to assist with anything that the family needs. Now they are even offering families the opportunity to fly to Dover Air Force Base to meet their service member and remain there until the soldier has been properly cleaned and dressed for the final flight home.

    If you don’t hear from your soldier for a few days, even if it’s typical to hear from them almost daily, that doesn’t mean anything has necessarily happened to them. Anytime there is a US service member in the area that is killed in action, the units go on comms blackout. There is no notice of this happening to the service members downrange, because it is instant once a KIA has been confirmed. Even though this can cause stress on the homefront, there is a very good reason for this. Early in the wars, this wasn’t the case and many families were put through heartache as they were called by their service member’s battle buddy and informed of their loss. Unfortunately, this information wasn’t always correct. The comms blackout is to ensure that the family receives the correct information and in a professional form where they can ensure individuals are on hand to assist.

  • teresa July 17, 2011, 7:55 pm

    i have a friend that talking to a supposed capt in the army he is in deployment wants to come home marry he said she has to e mail and down load papers and then pay a fee which is refundable i think this is a scam please help my friend thank you

    • JustMe6064 June 10, 2012, 12:22 pm

      teresa under no circumstances do not send any money to that person the military does not have a family or gf send money to bring the military personal home EVER .. sorry hun you are being SCAMMED

  • Tiyonna January 5, 2012, 8:43 am

    Hello my name is Tiyonna ,I’am engaged to a soldier who does signal in Afghanistan. He call’s and text me everyday, yet I have not received anything from him. I was told by him that he was going on r&r for four day’s at another base, and that he was going to call me when he got there. It has been two days since we talked. and I do know that’s not long, yet it’s out of the normal for him not to call or message me. I’am extremely worried and not able to sleep or eat yet alone think positive and stop having bad anxiety attacks…..someone please help me here I have no support. and I’m always praying I stay praying yet it’s not helping me. I looked all over the web and it say that they can use the internet where ever they go and I know he was not coming home for r&r because he was not there long enough to get that pass.

    • Stacey January 5, 2012, 9:45 pm

      He can’t use the internet wherever. In fact, each time my husband deployed, it was rare for him to have internet access. It does depend on the unit and where he is over there – but it can vary greatly. I know it’s hard when the schedule of when you hear from them is disrupted but remain positive. In the Army, no news is good news. If something had happened to him, his next of kin would have been notified in person. The notifications typically don’t take very long after the incident. Stay positive! Hope you hear from him soon.

  • Kathy January 7, 2012, 3:17 pm

    I am so so confused, I have met a man on a dating social site, and he has given me his army pic, he says he is in Afganistan, he says that he has a 12 yrs. old son and he lost his wife, he wants me to be the beneficiary, he says he has been in the army for over 20 years, but he wants me to wire $195.00 to a Alecia Chapman in Mount Dora, Fl 32757 and once I do that I will receive a beneficiary form which I should sent to militarybase.afganistan@consultant.com, I talk to him on messanger every day and I have asked him about his MOS, his unit and post , his military email and his id number, and he says he can not provide those for me because we are talking on messanger, why do I need to pay $$$ for him to get a form to add me as a beneficiary, and can’t he just get the form internally and I don’t understand why I am suppose to send money to this Alecia lady which he says is the go between the army soldiers in Afganistan and U.S, please help.


    • Stacey January 8, 2012, 10:19 am

      It’s a scam. Amazing how many use the bit about wife being dead and having a kid.

      I’m sorry.

  • Adriana February 22, 2012, 4:22 pm

    This guy & I met last year on a dating site, a few months later we met in person, then we started dating and then in October he deployed. I’ve only received one email from him a couple of days before Thanksgiving. From the other posts I’ve read that is not typical because their soldiers are able to communicate with them on an almost regular basis. When I asked him about his mos, rank he says he can’t tell me that information because its confidential. I had a friend look him up and he is in the Army National Guard but his mos, rank was “classified”. My cousin (who is in the Army) just came home from deployment said its typical to not hear from soldiers for months – depending on what they do, their location etc. What should i do? And why would his info be labeled classified? Please help. Thank you.

  • Patti March 9, 2012, 2:30 pm

    My bf is over in Afghanastan right now and we are trying to get it set up that we can talk on the phone. We do talk via email, but we want to hear each others voice. I was told to western union money to this lady, the lady said not to do that because she has nothing to do with it. Any suggestions on what I should do? He is in the Army.

    • JustMe6064 June 10, 2012, 12:23 pm

      its a scam

    • JustMe6064 June 27, 2012, 7:00 pm

      is the womans name Patricia Mcclurg in marysville ,washington?

    • JustMe6064 June 27, 2012, 7:06 pm

      i hope its not using a t2s…. if so scam hun it happened to me

  • Gaby April 5, 2012, 12:16 pm

    My husband deployed about a month ago and we have been talking everyday. Its been 4 days since i heard from him and im trying to stay positive. Two weeks before he left i left my home state to live near base. I don’t know if he made an address change as to where i coyld be notify in case of anything. How can i go about changing the address?

    • Stacey April 9, 2012, 6:05 pm

      You can contact the FRG or Rear D for his unit to change your address.

  • michelle jardine May 29, 2012, 10:10 pm

    iam currently involved with a soldier in camp blackjack,afghanistan.We normally e-mail,or chat daily,yet now he wants me to wire 385.00 dollars for him to use the phone,he wants me to send it to a lady;Patricia Mcclurg in marysville,Wa,..how do i include his name,rank,and were he is and my name and phone number.I acussed him of lying and told him i found out they don’t have to pay to call home,he says his phone is broken and he wants money for birthday packages for himself.What is the policy and procedure for the phone money,he said i have to be registered as his fiancee?Also then he can take leave he said?he said he can’t do anything until the phone money is paid?were do you really wire the money,I’am very confused.

  • michelle jardine May 30, 2012, 11:02 am

    thank you soooo much,I was almost ready to wire the money.I don’t have that kind of money to throw away.
    sincerely yours,michelle.

  • CHAKA ALLEN June 2, 2012, 5:03 pm

    Hi , recently started dating a soldier stationed at Ft . Lewis, what Im wanting to know is will i be able to get on base in care thet have a homecoming celebration, and also how do i find out if they are having a homecoming celebration. This is his 3rd deployment, I have friends who havent had any one there for them when they came home, and there is no way i want to miss this. So i basically asking what do I need to do or how do I go about finding out this information.

  • ganeefa adams June 14, 2012, 5:58 pm

    Hi I chatting for 2 months now with a colonel james diaz spencer us army deployed afghanistan he told me to sent email to 23:56:48 Handerson requesting leave because he wants to get married to me we chat everyday I sent twice email requesting leave for him but I suspect it fake please help is it a scam

    • JustMe6064 June 27, 2012, 7:03 pm

      Ganeefa You Cant Request For A Military Person To Take leave I Hope You Didnt Fall For It… he is a scammer…. try to stay away from anyone that says you have to send money for them…. if they also sat the phone they have to use is a T2S its A Lie Also

      • JustMe6064 June 27, 2012, 7:05 pm

        believe me i know i was caught up in that mess… he said his name was Capt. Bobby Dave Woods Kabul Afghanistan

  • Marika 53 July 5, 2012, 10:42 am

    How does one know if the person you are talking to on line is a real soldier who is trying to scam you or if the person is a true scammer using a soldiers identity.
    Since it seems easy enough for someone to steal and use a Soldiers identidy who is to say that a Soldier may not try it on his own.


    • JustMe6064 October 15, 2012, 4:51 am

      Marika have him come on cam if he says cant do that then walk away

  • Katie July 13, 2012, 8:49 am

    Hi, A woman a few days ago called my mother and told her that my Uncle had a son that he never knew about and his mother hired her to find us to tell us he was KIA in Iraq in 2011. We don’t want to tell my Uncle yet because this can destroy a family. We searched his name online but can not come up with anything, I did however contact a friend who knows someone that works for the DOD and they pulled him up and said the class is classified and the only thing coming up is that he won a purple heart and 2 bronze star medals. Is there anyway we can find more out before giving this small amount of information to my Uncle? A phone number to call or something, please help us. Oh and if your wondering if its some sort of scam this woman knew personal stuff about my family from the 1970s that you would only know about if you were around them. Thank you for your time and hopefully someone can help a family who wants answers.

  • Erica Pettit July 14, 2012, 9:14 pm

    I just want to say this. If you are married they will call you unless you are not his point of contact. If there is a silence ..well do not email I am worried about you nor try to argue. A worried soldier is a dead soldier. Wake up you married/dating himor her. They are doing their job. They are at war and if they could call or email very moment trust me they would. Stay positive , don’t cheat on them and pray. That’s all you can do. To all the girlfriend and on line dating ladies. They don’t need your money they need love and trust me if it is about money it is a scam. I met my husband when he was in the Marines and now he is in the Army and I was always involved with the other wives so we could support each other. I was a deputy sheriff and even if I did not have time to attend the meeting they always let me know if something happened. So with that being said. I wish everyone lots of luck.

  • AFWifeNMom August 2, 2012, 10:42 pm

    Wait?? You’re dating a married man in the military and you want to know how you can get on base to welcome him home? I suggest you walk away. You won’t be “welcome” at his homecoming. That’s for his wife. If you want to be part of a homecoming, date a SINGLE soldier. You know you can get him in a lot of trouble, as the military punishes cheating.

    • Stacey August 3, 2012, 6:36 am

      Wow, I totally missed the married part in that comment! That’s just wrong!

      • chaka allen August 3, 2012, 8:58 am

        I hope this is not a response to my question my soldier is not married I had a typo it should have said army i have a autocorrect spellthing on my phone and i messes up alot , but my soldier is single, I would never date a married man nor would I put that out there like that

        • Stacey August 4, 2012, 2:13 pm

          I edited your previous comment to remove that part.

          • CHAKA August 4, 2012, 2:19 pm

            Thank you very much Stacey, Im typing from my computer this time .

  • Niki September 8, 2012, 10:12 pm

    Thanks for all the comments. I haven’t spoke to my fiance in a week and we talked every day for over a month. Today is his birthday and I just knew I would here from him. The situation is very stressful but hearing others with similiar posts has helped to ease my mind a little. I just hope I hear from him soon.

  • tara September 30, 2012, 2:12 pm

    my boyfriend just told me he reenlisted in the army. He has been home for two years and was injuryed on his last deployment. He told me in April that after he turned in his uniform he was done. my question is is it that easy to reenlist? we went through a rough patch this summer and he reenlisted in august he leaves Oct 15th and i’m lost scared and confused. i thought they had a time fram of when they could reenlist?

  • Ash October 10, 2012, 4:54 pm

    My fiance just left for Afghanistan a few days ago. I havent talked to him in two days and I am a wreck – not to mention I am surrounded by people who say that its a sex fesr over there. I am nervous because I kep hearing about soldiers coming home and bringing back STD’s to their wives and because I have an amazing relationship and I don’t want it to change because of his surroundings. It is not so much him I am worried about, but the female soldiers who I have had the pleasure of meeting and they sleep with other men the unit.

  • laura November 12, 2012, 3:28 am

    Who is this patricia mcclurgh?I was told she collects moneys for the soldier you have sent it to?I know of someone claiming to be in the army who says you have to pay for leave during deployment?

    • 11c May 1, 2013, 12:14 pm

      Don’t ever give money to people claiming to be soldiers. I am and I just came back from over seas and you never have to pay to use the phone and any forms that need to be filled out ( what so ever) are free to soldiers. So if they ask for money then it’s a scam. Now they’re not supposed to tell you where they are or what there doing but they can give you there contacts for rear detachment and you could call them to make sure that person is real and over seas and tell them what there asking for and they can tell you if it’s a scam or whatever.

  • Babo November 28, 2012, 6:57 am

    I pray i never receive or ever need this information…..my husband is going for deployment in sudan, im quite shaken hence my reading this article…

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  • marmar May 5, 2013, 8:19 am

    Hi my husband is deployed in Afghanistan. I haven’t heard from him in 2 days. I seen the news that 8 soldiers been killed. I guess that’s why I haven’t heard from him. I’m super worried right now. I know the soldiers thats been killed their families will be inform first. But how long does it usually take to have that done then get the communication back on? I just want to hear my husband’s voice. I’m anxious. I can’t think straight or anything. I’m just worried sick. I’m trying to be positive.

    • Stacey May 7, 2013, 8:03 pm

      I’m so sorry. I remember those days so well. Do yourself a favor and stay away from the news as much as you can. It will only cause you additional stress. The blackout will sometimes remain in place until all families have been notified. It’s just to prevent the news from making it to the family from an unofficial channel. HUGS!

  • Jenna May 8, 2013, 7:30 am

    My boyfriend is in kabul, Afhanistan. We talk through Facebook or by telephone every day, for hours. I haven’t heard from him in 2 days which isn’t like him. I’m worrying and trying to stay positive. There was only 1 day when we disnt talk before when the i get et was down a couple months ago. I’m hoping the Internet is down again but can’t help panick since there have been attacks recently in Afghanistan. I’m in touch with his mom but don’t want to worry her. Please help

    • Stacey May 8, 2013, 9:21 pm

      The best thing you can do is be patient and remember that no news is good news. It’s common after things happen to have a blackout where communication is not allowed. Don’t allow yourself to think the worst. Stay positive and hopefully you’ll get that call/email soon from him.

  • Dave May 16, 2013, 9:21 am

    What is a typical amount of time before notification. My son is stationed near Kandahar and we know on Monday three soldiers were killed in a convoy in the same vicinity. Normally either we hear from him or he posts on Facebook almost every day. But we have not heard from him since Monday. I cannot help but be worried.

    • Stacey May 16, 2013, 9:42 pm

      It’s common for there to be blackouts after KIAs where all communication is cut. Notifications are made as soon as the next of kin can be located. The ones I know of personally were notified in less than 24 hours.

  • Lori May 18, 2013, 11:25 pm

    I am moving back home while my husband is deployed and we live in a tiny town, our house can’t be found by GPS. Will a CAO still be able to contact me if the worst was to happen? If not, what will I need to do to ensure being able to be found?

    • Stacey May 30, 2013, 7:46 pm

      Each time my husband deployed, I had to fill out a packet of information which included written directions and a hand drawn map to my house (no joke!) as well as who I would want to have there with me, etc. I have no idea if it was just his unit that did this or if it’s standard protocol. They will find you if they need to but I hope that never happens.

  • Bevi July 24, 2013, 12:41 am

    I have a question. My fiance is done in 10 months we want to get married in September. Im not sure if i have an std or hiv ect will they deny us getting married. I plan on staying on main Land while he finishes his term in Hawaii.

  • Monique April 30, 2014, 3:22 pm

    Good day everyone,
    met this guy online on one of the dating sites, he is Iraq for 16 months now and he now added me to his bio-data and also ask me to apply for leave for him. He says he has been in the army for 10 years now and he want to get married and have kids. He is from Newberry South Carolina. He has never ask me for money though now am wondering if eventually he will ask. He wants me to marry him upon his return so that as soon as he gets his leave. we talk about place we would want to live, family stuff like that but am wondering if its a scam. I found his army profile on http://www.military.com
    I did a search and some information does not seems to add up at all.

    Please advise me as to what questions I should ask and information I should expect if he is a scam or just a true single guy.

  • Courtney October 9, 2014, 12:47 pm

    I’ve been talking with a certain US Marine now for a few months. He has told me he can’t tell me much about the mission but just that they are near Kabul, Afghanistan and I know he does night shifts mostly. But about 3 weeks ago, I was talking to him via skype (oh, and we can only message on skype due to him not having a webcam) and he mentioned work was just becoming more crazy but that he was hoping to be coming home around Oct 15. But the next day, I received a message on skype from my guy’s skype account and it was his buddy he talked real highly of. This was his message, “Hey… This is Eric, I am Paul’s friend. He got hurt very bad and is under intensive care. USMC officials will be sending him to Germany for the treatment. I am so sorry for conveying this news. Please take care of your self. Thank you”
    So I was in complete shock but I still didn’t think this could be true. Now, I’m not in contact with any of his friends or family so obviously I wouldn’t have someone come up to my door to tell me or even get a phone call but I was wondering if this was even possible? His friend told me he went on Paul’s Skype to see if Paul’s mom had replied yet and he noticed I was the last person Paul talked to. Anyways, about three weeks went on and I briefly communicated with Eric about Paul’s condition every week or so. Then a couple days ago, he wrote me again saying, “Hey this is Eric. I am so sorry to notify you that Mr. Paul ***** is no longer with us. He passed away yesterday. His Funeral will take place in Germany and might be sent to USA. I am so sorry to notify you that. It is a huge loss. Please stay strong… Sorry”
    So… I have no idea how to take this. Is this even possible for one of his friends to message me via Skype?? I don’t believe Eric is in Afghanistan, I believe he was stationed somewhere else but still, is this possible?
    Thank you.


  • Heather January 27, 2015, 7:59 am

    How and were do I find the paperwork to fill out so a soldier can call me??

    • Stacey Abler January 30, 2015, 8:44 pm

      There’s no such thing. A real soldier doesn’t need paperwork to call you.

      • Yvonne February 24, 2015, 9:05 pm

        Hello Stacy is there any procedure that my boyfriend has to do to call me and is there any way for me to call him he is deployed and he wants to hear my voice and I want to tell him everything is going to be okay and I love him

        • Stacey Abler March 1, 2015, 12:16 pm

          There’s no procedure involved in him being able to call you. There should be phones available for him to call you at no charge.

  • Miranda August 28, 2015, 11:34 pm

    How would the army notify you if your fiancé is M.I.A? Writing a book so I just want to have all my facts straight, thanks.

    • Stacey Abler August 31, 2015, 9:49 am

      His next of kin would be notified in person. Whether the fiance is notified would depend on who is listed as next of kin.

  • Emily April 18, 2016, 2:56 pm

    Me and my boyfriend met while he was on deployment. He has 4 weeks left. We usually talk everyday on Skype and cam. The other night he told me that he was just trying to get a message through . Then a few hours later he said the Internet was down and he was so pissed and he hoped I was sleeping well. After that I couldn’t get ahold of him. I tried to delete him then re add him now skype is saying I’m not a contact and I can’t get ahold of him. Our relationship had no change and we were already making plans for his return. I’m just freaking out because skype and wondering if he deleted me. But I read on a forum of someone else having the same issue with skype… I’m bugging because we talk every single day at least twice. Now nothing. He is a helicopter pilot medic… please someone calm my fears and let me know that he is fine and I’m being crazy. He doesn’t talk to his family really so that is no help. And he doesn’t have a Facebook.

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