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Real Soldier or Scam?

I have been chatting with a man who said he is in the Army and is in Iraq. he would like to talk on the phone and said there is protocol to follow. I am to send a e-mail requesting to get connected with him, he said there is a fee and then all calls are free.  He also mentioned something about registering and then I can request for him to get leave. This is the first time I have ever done anything like this and I am not sure its real. Is there a way to find out if this person is really in the Army? Any suggestions would be great. Thank you.


I am afraid this is most likely a scam. When soldiers are overseas, there is no reason for other people to be paying for their communication. They make more money when they are deployed than when they are stateside and generally have less expenses. Also, almost every post in Iraq and Afghanistan has MWR phone lines available where the soldiers can call home at no charge.

There is also no reason for you to request for him to get leave. This is something that he has to do. The Army is not going to recognize a leave request from a civilian. In other cases that I have been informed of, the request is typically granted and then an outrageous amount of money (in the thousands) is requested to purchase a flight. This is a scam as well as soldiers do not have to pay for their flights in or out of Iraq or Afghanistan.

I’m sorry he has tried to scam you.

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Portia Laney June 8, 2016, 8:04 pm

    Hi I have been talking to a guy on Tinder and then he added me to Facebook he claims he is in the army and that he is a sergeant and his name is Kelly Fergus and he says he’s in Afghanistan right now.He has not asked me for money but I am still think he may be fake. Has anyone heard of him?

  • Jean Raiola June 9, 2016, 11:30 pm

    I met a guy on Facebook. first pictured with him on regular clothes with his dog. Said his name was Michael Vicente. After few messages shows picture of little girl. We talked as friends. Sent me a check said be needed our was deployment check. Cashed it after 3 seeks my bank tells me check is not good. I have to either pay money or be turned.in for fraud said be was coming back and should pay back money. Tells me late at airport. Said needed $87 more. I told didn’t have it didn’t hear anymore. Then I got text from African dying this is scam on retaliation for their godfathers.
    Said something else sought some movie then said don’t fall for anymore scammers.

  • j l lemasters June 13, 2016, 1:36 pm

    Robert Porter does this name sound familiar to anyone on here. Supposedly from Arizona stationed in africa was in car wreck with saw blade now in hospital can’t hold up to promises made due to his injuries . does this sound familiar to anyone?

  • Kat June 16, 2016, 5:40 am

    Hello! I’ve met a soldier in tinder whose name is Warrant Officer 1, Bryan McChrystal who is in the Army and currectly deployed to Syria. After several chatt, he asked me to be in telegram messanger which he gave his US number +1 917 8184252. We we’re chatting now for more than 3 weeks, from the start, he asked me why I am tinder so I asked him back with the same question he said that was looking a serious woman for a serious relationship. He introduced himself and according to him his living all alone being adopted, he’s parents are both dead, he is a widower, he lost his wife and daughter in the accident for more than 5 years. We used to chatt everyday but with a limited time only since he is busy at work. As the days pass by we’ve become closer and started to share thoughts to each other. He is a good man I must say coz he never metioned any silly things but instead having a good conversations about life. He even told me that after he lost his wife he doesn’t feel to have another woman. Through our conversations he noticed that I am a sweet type of person which leads him to fall in love with me easily. Infairness with him I can feel his sincerity and a God fearing type of person which leads me to feel the same way. Afterwards, he told me that he wants to be happy again and he feels that I am the person who can bring happiness in his life and he wants me to meet personally to start a new relationship. He told me that he can visited me in UAE so I just need to request a letter for a vacation leave which I did and sent to info@usamilitaryweb.org then they replied and at first they said that:
    Dear Applicant,
    We will rigorously look into your request and we will get back to you in the next few hours. Thanks for contacting us.
    United States Military
    Dear Applicant,
    Good day, We have read through your request and we understand that you are Bryan McChrystal fiancé and you have requested for his vacation, we want you to know that his last vacation lasted for three months which we sponsored his flight tickets back to the United States of America. The United States Military want you to know that since you are requesting for the vacation of your fiancé this makes you an expectant and according to the law of the United States Military, expectant must be responsible for the welfare of their relations whom they are expecting before we can approve his vacation, you as the expectant has to show to us that you will be responsible for the flight tickets of Bryan McChrystal , because the United States Military will not be responsible for any payment of flight tickets to your home country. You have to send to us the Fees for the flight tickets so that we can process his traveling to your country, you must note that the fee to the flight ticket must be sent before his vacation can be finally approved, for now we have accepted to grant him a vacation to you under your request.
    Thank you for your kind understanding.
    Me: Good Day!
    Thank you so much for granting our request for the Vacation Leave of Mr. Bryan McChrystal. We really appreciate your kind approval.
    I respectfully abide the Law of the United States Military that’s why as you have mentioned being expectant, I will be responsible for the flight ticket of Mr. Bryan McChrystal.
    We would like to inform you that as we planned, Mr. Bryan McChrystal will come here first to Dubai, United Arab Emirates to meet me for a couple of days from August 04 to August 06 then we will travel together going to the Philippines.
    In addition, please send me how much will be the cost for the fee of his flight ticket in order for me to send the payment.
    Moreover, May I request also the proposed flight of Mr. Bryan upon his arrival in Dubai is at least from 7:30 pm (4th August) onwards.
    Once again, thank you so much for granting our request.
    USMILITARY: Dear Applicant,
    We will have to book the flight for your fiancé . You pay via MONEY GRAM to our cashier in Kuwait this is because of the situation in Syria so you can pay to our branch cashier in Kuwait.
    Money Gram
    Name : Linda Quezon Malano
    City : Salmiya
    Country: Kuwait
    Kindly attach a scan copy of your payment via money gram and send back to us for verification before we can proceed with the flight booking.
    Thank you for your understanding
    United States Military
    After receiving this email, I started to wonder and asked Bryan why do i need to send the money in kuwait and which the receiver is under the individual name. He explained a lot of things. But from that time I started telling myself that there is something wrong so I suspected him. Since it is my first time to encounter this matter so I decided to check online about US Military and i searched how to indentify if the person is a real soldier or a scammer. Unfortunately, while reading all this things, I realized that he might a fake soldier coz most of the things he told me it was written here. My heart feels being hurt though it Is not confirmed whether he is true or fake. But based on the facts??? It’s like looking in the mirror which tells me that he is fooling Me. I even asked My Company for a Vacation Leave which was approved. So now what I decided is to continue chatting with him until I finally catch him. I am planning to call the number in US Military to confirm if the given email address is their offical email in US Military. Lesson learned: ”TRUST NO ONE”

  • Mary June 14, 2017, 1:55 am

    I met this guy on a dating website (zoosk.com). I’ve been chatting with him for 5 months now. He claims he is in the Army (now deployed in Afghanistan) A weapons specialist officer.
    He’s telling me he loves me, he wants to marry me.. etc. He was trying to get me to help him.
    I’ve been reading all these comments how these people send their monies. It’s the other way around. He claims the military will be sending the money to help pay for his fare. All I have to do is send it back. I was having a bad feeling in my gut, having doubts & confronted him that I won’t do it. He tried to make me feel guilty by saying that I don’t love him & so on. So I told him I don’t want to ever talk to him because I don’t feel right. We should end this.

  • Elizabeth June 15, 2017, 2:40 am

    Ok, I have a feeling the soldier guy I met on oncupid Feb 2016 may be a scammer. Didn’t want him to be but more I think about and see things make me stop to think. He’s name is Sgt. Williams Stevens he in the US Army when I start to talk to him he was in Paris, but then move to Nigeria. Started asking for money and now want he ex wife brother is sending him money, but he wants the brother to send money to me using Western Union. Then send the money to him but he can’t give he’s location out to the brother. Can you please help am trying to get my life back on track. Thanks

  • D. C. July 2, 2017, 7:57 pm

    I recently lost my husband and I was on a widow website and I met a major in the army and he says he is stationed in Afganistan. How do I know he is real. He gave me an address with out his name as I don’t want to say his name in case he is real but the address was 123RD afg 2nd PLT-B-CO APO AE. 09398-9998 and I ask for his email address and he said that it always for official use only. How do I know he is real

  • Jo griffin July 9, 2017, 6:25 am

    I’ve met someone who says he’s a us Soldier he says his name is Ryan Martin on deployment in Africa , he has not asked for money yet, he says his birthday is the same as mine but I’ve never told him when mine is and it’s not public knowledge. He has sent pictures of himself with his children who he says he has custody of after divorcing his wife they are apparently cared for by a guardian. He says this is his last deployment then he is coming to the uk. He says he is 41. I have found his face book which is not in use anymore, I’ve hunted google and other search engines high and low and can’t find anything on him. He isn’t on line much we may talk for 5 mins a day if that and he always seems to be off line. I know it’s probably a scam but I just need someone to confirm it before I block him. Any help would be appreciated

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