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What You Should Always Know About Your Soldier

To me, this seems like very basic information. However, some questions I have received lately have me wondering about how basic it all actually is. The following items are things that you should absolutely know about your soldier. If you don’t know these things, you will find it very hard to navigate the Army system. You will also be facing delays if you ever need to contact the Red Cross to relay an emergency message to him.

1. His full name and rank

2. His social security number (you need this for just about everything in the Army)

3. Where he is stationed (I am amazed by the number of people who only know a state and don’t even know the name of the post!). For example, Ft Bennning, Columbus, GA

4. His unit information, at least down to his platoon (team if possible, especially if his name is common). For example, 1/75 Ranger Regiment, A Co, 1st Platoon

5. His job (MOS) – For example, Infantry or 11Bravo

6. His address – for his unit stateside and overseas (if deployed)

This information is not optional for you to know. You need all of this information if you are an immediate family member of a soldier. It will be much easier to get in contact with him and relay emergency information if you know these six items.

As an Army spouse, I see many who say they don’t need to be so involved in his job – after all, it is HIS job. However, not knowing simple information such as what I’ve listed above is just irresponsible. If he had a civilian job, you would know the name of his company, his job title and where his office is located. This information is no different. You don’t have to be “all involved” in his job to know this information.

So find it. Write it. Memorize it.

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • Yguaraya Gonzalez August 12, 2010, 1:41 pm

    HELLO. THANK GOD I GOT THIS PAGE SUPPORT, SINCE MY BOYFRIEND IS A SOLDIER USA AND IS FOUND IN AFGHANISTAN AND I AM VERY CONCERNED, ONLY DESEARIA SOME TIPS OF WIVES HAVE SPOUSES IN THIS SITUATION, BECAUSE FOR ME IT IS QUITE DISTRESSING BECAUSE AS I WANT MUCH, AND I HAVE NOT SEEN IN PERSON AND I WANT TO HAVE CONTACT WITH THE PHYSICALLY, WE CONTACT BY MAIL PROGRAM, MISSING SHORTLY TO RETURN BUT I SEE IT PERSONLAMENTE, SINGLE I WANT SOME SUGGESTION TO SUPPORT THIS ANGUISH, THANK YOU .
    MY NAME IS YGUARAYA GONZALEZ AND I LIVING IN VENEZUELA

    • Stacey August 12, 2010, 8:18 pm

      Separation is always difficult. Hopefully his deployment will be ending soon so the two of you can meet in person. In the meantime, surround yourself with supportive people and communicate with him as often as you can. Good luck!

  • Billie August 13, 2010, 9:08 pm

    I have been writing a sargent in the army for about a month now and we would like to talk on the phone well he gave me a email address to email for a phone request. When I did they sent me a letter back that stated that I would have to send by western union $250.00 and then after at least three calls they would send my money back to me. They are called TS2 communications. I checked their web site and found that the address on their site and what I was given was different. Are these guys a scam or is it for real? Does it really cost you money to be able to talk to someone overseas? I have not sent the money yet but I almost did today. If you know of anyone that has a spouse or loved one over there could you please let me know if I am being scamed.

    Thank you,
    Billie

    • Stacey August 13, 2010, 9:18 pm

      TS2 is a scam. You don’t have to pay to be able to talk to them. I’m sorry.

      • Billie August 14, 2010, 6:20 am

        Thank so much. I thought it was but really was not sure.

        Billie

  • Carolyn Rivera September 30, 2010, 12:30 am

    I have been talking with a Sargent in tthe Army that I met on a online dating site and I am having my doubts. He is supposly stationed in Kabul Afghanistan. When I asked him if we could talk on the phone he said that I have to get in contact with someone and that I have to do all of the leg work and I asked him if it would cost me and he said he thinks it will. He was also talking about taking a leave but he stated that I would have to apply for him because he says that they normally do not apply themselves because they normally will turn it down, so that is why it is better for a civilian to apply for them. To me that makes no sense at all! He also emails me with a ymail account and he Instant messages me through yahoo. I have been reading tonight that they stopped doing yahoo, aol, msn because of security reasons.

    I really think he is bs me and I dont know much about the military, so hopefully you can point out some answers for me.

    Thanks!
    Carolyn

    • Stacey September 30, 2010, 7:39 pm

      The military doesn’t accept requests from civilians for leave. This is how the scam starts. The next step is telling you that you have to pay a certain amount (typically in the thousands) for him to be able to come home. I’m sorry.

      • Carolyn September 30, 2010, 8:15 pm

        Oh dont be sorry Stacey…I havent fallen for this guy but I knew he was another scam. I would NEVER give anyone money that I personally do not know. My husband passed away 17 months ago and I would never let anyone put me in a position of weakness or take my money. It sure was funny though when I asked the fake who goes by martin lord what his ako address was and he stated that they dont use it to chat that they only use it to get offical emails and when i asked him his mailing address he said it was PRIVATE (yeah right)..Anyways thanks for the response and I hope women out there realize what these idiots are doing. I caught on real fast!!

        • Mandy December 2, 2011, 1:01 am

          Truth, it is important for other women /men to be aware of those scam.

          I have been scammed over thousands and most hurtful was the trust for a human being.

          Be aware of what is out there, they are decent human being, however, they are lots of scam who are well trained in getting people money. Be aware of any money request to sent to “Western Union” as cash transaction, hard to track back.

          Good luck for all and have a wonderful X’mas

    • Carolyn July 9, 2012, 9:54 pm

      Hello! this is Kathy…I’m also going thru the same thing…would you plz email so we can compare notes…Thanks …Kathy

      • Carolyn July 16, 2012, 1:26 am

        Kathy, what do you need to know

  • roxanne December 29, 2010, 11:44 am

    Hi my name isnne. I’m 25 years old and I wood liketo now how dose it work do you have to be married for you to chat with other wemons on chat

    • Stacey January 5, 2011, 11:04 am

      On Army Wife Chat? No, we have girlfriends and fiancees and other family members.

      • olive April 12, 2011, 6:23 am

        Hi, i have a boyfriend or fiance who base on kabul afghanistan, we fell inlove with each other now we’re in our 2 months, but i’m so curious about he asking me to make a request for a call for him, he gave me a email ad usamilitaryprotocol@usa.com, this email ad is true? he wanted me to write to them a request for a call. pls tell me this a scam or he tell me the truth? he told me also that they don’t handle money and there salary straight to they bank , they all free there in camp, food, medicine, and everything. he also gave his unit name 3rd special forces base name fort bragg MOS scout he is an Army reserved…. this is all true…thank you i really appreciate your reply

  • latosha January 9, 2011, 8:35 pm

    My name is latosha and im engaged to a soldier. Since he’s been in he hash really changed as far asrespect for me and we really have a hard time getting along of that. I dnt knw if its just one of the many hurdles we face or what. Everytime he leaves no matter how much I support him he.has a hard time trusting. I love him so much I dnt know.what else to.do. any suggestions?????

    • Stacey January 26, 2011, 8:27 pm

      Advice, readers?

    • Leann February 8, 2011, 3:09 am

      To me trust is always a tough topic. I didn’t even realize how difficult it could be until I married an army guy! Trust comes from a strong relationship. When my husband and I met he had returned from his second tour to Iraq. He was really in no shape for a relationship. He had just closed on a nasty divorce, lost custody of his children, and was emotionally numbed (at least that is how I would put it). We both realized that there was something that was worth fighting for between us. We did have problems early on, but my hubby sought help from a psychiatrist. She told him that his odd mood swings and detachment issues were a result of PTSD. I wouldn’t lie and say don’t expect change, but do be prepared to work at your relationship. As far as a loss of respect…I’m not sure exactly what you mean. This could be really bad, but it could also just be him having personal issues similar to my husband. If it is worth fighting for start communicating more. Make a list of the deep down issues (I LOVE LISTS!) and sit down together until they are resolved. If you feel like this is something you are unable to do the Army does offer many forms of counseling for both you and your fiancée.
      best of luck…

  • racheL February 23, 2011, 11:46 am

    Hi, I’m rachel I’m 25 yrs old and have been married to my husband for 2 yrs. we have been together for 7 though and he leaves very soon like 14 days for basic traning. we have a 2yr old son.. I haven’t been without him for more then 2 days at a time and never knew it was gonna be this hard for me to let him leave… and now i’m worried about what he is gonna go through and if it is gonna change him to much? he is a very happy person most of the time and he is like my daily meds he helps me calm down and not worrie so much. so I guess what im asking is do most men change drasticly after joining?

    • Stacey March 3, 2011, 5:45 pm

      It just depends. Biggest changes I’ve noticed in my husband and others is just a higher level of maturity and commitment.

      • aJ October 13, 2011, 9:16 pm

        I agree with Stacey.
        Even when I knew my boyfriend was enlisting when we first started dating, I did not worry much. Rather, I focused on the education/training he is about to embark to make himself the best he can be.
        What I’ve learned is to stay Army strong so that he doesn’t worry about you and the family.
        The unknown can be unnerving, but worrying is like a rocking chair. It does not get you anywhere.

        Thank you, Stacey. I love this site!!! So, glad I found it. I wish I found it earlier this year =)

    • Morgan March 26, 2011, 11:07 pm

      I agree with Stacey. My husband is in IOBC right now, has only been in for a little bit, in the scheme of the total time, and already I’ve noticed him being more willing to help around here when he’s home, taking initiative, and wanting to spend more time with our little family. It’s been a good thing for us! Good luck to your husband and to you!

  • racheL March 22, 2011, 12:52 am

    I heard from him today for the first time in two weeks and he is pretty happy with his choice and seems excited about his time their! so I don’t know how worried I am.. his change seems positive and thats always good :) but this page has helped tremendously! thank u!

  • Mandy April 18, 2011, 5:36 am

    I know a US solider through a dating website for months who told me he is servicing in Egypt at the moment. As we have not met and I am from UK. He wants us to meet in person that he would come to London to take the relationship to next stage. He told me that his leave requested is denied. I am now ask to write a letter to department of Army, ask for Advance/Emergency Leave requested which include my address and full name. I am not too sure about the system in defence force. We communicate through yahoo mail. Please tell me more the situation, is it a scam / identity thieves or he is real ??? ASAP help

    • Shana September 28, 2011, 12:09 pm

      I don’t know if anyone ever replied to your problem or helped you, but I thought I would. There is nothing that you as a civilian, not married to the solider can do for his’ leave. My husband is in the Army and has been for over 15 yrs. I, as his’ wife, can’t do anything about his’ leave unless there is a medical emergency for a close relative. I hope you didn’t get any problems with this person.

  • Mary April 20, 2011, 5:46 pm

    My husband just left for Basic two days ago. It’s really hard, but I know I’ll be fine. I am just really worried about our 14 month old son. He and his dad are really close. I know he is already missing him. They’ve never spent any significant time apart. Last night, he kept crawling to his dad’s side of the bed and crying…Does anyone have any suggestions for how to help him get through this. I show him videos of his Papi all the time, but sometimes it just seems to make him sadder. He’s too young to understand what is happening. All he knows is Papi is gone and he doesn’t know why. I also want to make sure he stills feels that same attachment after all the separation.

  • LauraB April 27, 2011, 8:11 pm

    My husband left yesterday for basic at Ft Leonard Wood. We have been married six years and we have a five year old son. I am missing him so much! My question is, will he be able to give me an address soon to send his letters? Or is there a way to find out online where to send them? All I know is his name, social, rank, and that he is at Ft Leonard Wood.

  • molly May 17, 2011, 6:13 pm

    Hi – I am hoping you can help me. I have been online dating a soldier for the past 10 months, he was shot and on his way back home, but was killed in a car accident. can you please tell me who I can contact to indeed find out if this is all true, I have a very hard time swallowing this and need to know for sure. I have only been contacted by a Lt. General Lloyd Austin via email with the news which seems a little odd. can you advise me please, who i can contact? thanks!

    • Mandy July 30, 2011, 9:43 am

      Hi Molly,

      Move on with your life. The guy you have been online dating is dead. Does not matter it is real or not, as it is online dating, the photos and person may not be the real person, even so, those information is real. It may no be who he is.

      There is an email informed you that he was dead then take it as it is, if there is any money involved , take it as a learning lesson.

      Military does not contact by e-mail. I know it sounds mean, however, it is a scam. Get out, move on and have better life without him. (PS He is dead for you anyway)

      • Mandy November 30, 2011, 8:25 am

        Dear Shana,

        There was no one reply the e-mail during that time. In fact, I have been bought into his story. Within in few months have been scammed over thousand of dollars. For anyone out there if similar situation who is requested money sent to Western Union, it is very likely is a scam.

        It was a learning lesson for me and I have paid huge price for it w. Just be aware !!!

  • Yen Nguyen June 7, 2011, 10:54 pm

    Hi everyone! My name is Yen. My husband in currently in Basic Training at Fort Benning GA for around 8 weeks already, and he will be back at the end of this July. I am 33 weeks pregnant right now and will give birth around one or two weeks before my husband gets to come back home for a 10 days visit! He will be stationed at Fort Carson Colorado and I plan to move in and live with him there! However the only problem is that my son will only be one or two weeks old by the time we have to move in and both his family and my family have been telling me to wait until our son is 3 months old to move in! My husband and I really want to move in and live together right after he finished with his training but this is our first baby and we don’t have much experience about taking care of a newborn baby. I have been stressed out a lot lately because I don’t know what is best thing to do at this point! Can someone plz give me your advice! thank you!

    • Katie July 20, 2011, 3:16 pm

      You can move in at anytime. As long as your baby is healthy he/she will be fine. We have been an Army family for over 8 years and have 3 kids who were all born in different states. If your baby is healthy than a move will make no difference. waiting three months will only make it harder because your baby will be in a routine by then and will have to start all over again with adjusting.

  • Tori June 18, 2011, 9:58 am

    Hello, my boyfriend just came back from his two week combat training that he will need for next year when he deploys to Afghanistan. He will be gone for 9 months to possibly a year. He told me if he likes what mission they give him, he might extend his stay there. Which I have no problem with that. I did fine while he was away for these 2 weeks. No water works or depression or anything.
    He was acting a little weird when he called me one of the times there. I asked him what in the world was wrong, and he told me, “nothing, well a bunch of guys were talking while we had some down time about past relationships while we were over seas last time. So many of them were cheated on, and I don’t want that to happen to me…l again. (The last time he was deployed, he was dating a girl who was a senior in high school. I tried to tell him, that is why she cheated. She was young, and couldn’t handle. it.) And from your past history with men, and when you used to party and drink, I am scared you will do the same to me.”
    I informed him, that I was extremely young, and very stupid, and that will NOT be an issue that he will have to deal with. That was several years ago, and I was still trying to find out who I was then. I am nothing like I was, I have changed for the better.
    He said Ok, and seemed like he was still wanting this relationship with me. But I still feel as if he isn’t giving 100% because hes scared of what could possibly happen when he deploys. The military lifestyle is nothing new to me. Every male in my family has been in the military, and they are still with their wives that they got married to when they were enlisted. I am an “Air Force brat”. And I don’t believe that a relationship is based on a physical presence. So him being away from me, is something I can totally deal with.

  • lakevia gibson November 2, 2011, 1:50 pm

    wow ok the stories i read gave me alot of input on my situation i just wanted to knowwillmy husabd cheat on me while in AIT up in fort leonard wood mo as a military police

  • Georgetta November 27, 2011, 10:23 pm

    Hi Lakevia, my husband just left for BCT a couple weeks ago. His MOS is military police as well. Only you would know whether or not your husband will cheat or not, although I doubt that he even has time to think about anything else other than missing you. I wouldn’t worry too much. If you two had a strong relationship before he left you should be fine! :)

  • Carissa December 1, 2011, 6:57 pm

    I have been talking to a man for about 3 weeks who claims he is sargeant is US Army and is Afghanistan. He says he is really not supposed to contact outsiders for security reasons. The English that is typed is better than average, but once in awhile there are phrases that don’t really seem something an American would say. He says he was married for about 13 years, he came home to the states on leave, caught his wife with another man, now she lives with him in Spain. At first, he said his son was in a caretaker’s care in Brooklyn and in another note, his son was in Ghana. When I asked him which it was, he said his real son was in Brookly and his adopted son was in Ghana, who he is going to bring home when he gets to come home on December 18, but another time he said he was going to meet me on December 14, although he has not stated any plans or arrangements; it is now December 1. When I asked for his e-mail address for the military, he said his personal e-mail is at hotmail, what he had been emailing me from, but he did send a mailing address, so do you think this is a scam; I do and what should I do about this?

    • Mandy January 8, 2012, 6:01 am

      Carissa ,

      It is a scam. His story does not make sense. Most of all, if he is real , he would give you his military e-mail. The soldiers who are proud of who they are and they are happy to give out their e-mail address to provide who they are.

      Delete and block his e-mail address. Those people are sweet talkers, get out ASAP. It is no point wasting time on a non existing person. I have been scam for about a year and lost thousands of dollars. They have many reasons from special urgent needs, custom duty fee, injury that request special needs.

      Even I thought I am smart still I lost lots of money on that guy. Just GET OUT ASAP.

  • christine sembiring December 28, 2011, 8:17 am

    Hi- i really need advise ,input about my questions. I’ve been chatting with this military man who is stationed in karla ,Iraq. He is name is sgt. Tom Jaime Russel. We met from tagged website and then continue talking on yahoo messenger. Two weeks later, he was telling me to ask for phone request so we could talk anytime….and he gave me to check on this website: ts2 communication. I did pay for the phone access …i paid 315 usd through western union. Then few weeks later he asked me to write to his boss…Lt.Wilson Gates to request a leave form for him…..I did email his boss for the leave request. But then to my surprised the letter was telling me to pay some refundable money to process his leave from the camp. Can you tell me what this guy is asking a real military person or yea like i read all the testimonies on this page ….he’s one of the scammers??? what is AKO stand for..? thank you .

  • Mandy January 7, 2012, 8:04 am

    Hi Christian,

    It is 200 % for sure was a scam. Cut your loss short, delete all his e-mail, address and so on. If you can , also delete your own e-mail account. I have been there ,loss over thousand dollars. He is a professional person (which even not sure is a man or woman) . Get out ASAP before you lose more money and time on a non existing person. The longer you stay in the situation, the harder for you to get out. It would be a year long heart broken process. Treat the money as a learning lesson then run away from him.

  • Christine Sembiring January 7, 2012, 8:46 am

    Thank You Stacey and Mandy-…
    thanks for the information and advise I’m going to delete and block him
    last time I spoke he was so insisted to help him out of the camp and send him money for the
    leave process … it made me sick how sweet talk he can be.
    well I’m thru and I’m telling my other single friends to be aware .
    xoxo
    Christine

    • Mandy January 8, 2012, 5:48 am

      Christine,

      I am glad it is helpful and respond at the right time. Let him go and don’t look back, those people are professional , they make their living out of using decent people emotions. It is great that you have done with him. I wish I would cut my loss earlier, however, I look at it as a learning lesson to forgive myself as well. Do not send anyone money with Western Union, there is where most of scam start.

      Wish you luck.

  • Ct February 15, 2012, 6:51 am

    Hi Stacey!
    I have been in contact with a soldier in Nigeria (met on a dating site) just a few days ago!
    He too gave me the Ts2communication.com email address. Yes, I did email them (no response yet).
    Doubt if I will! He has not asked for money or anything but did give me info to give for the Ts2.
    Seems ok, can you tell me! He gave me Rank Sgt E7, Rank#, Country: Nigeria, State: Ondo and his MOS.
    Is he a scam. I just asked him for his mailing address. It should state the name of his post, correct?
    Thank you!
    Ct

  • Stephenie February 25, 2012, 3:42 pm

    Hi Stacey,
    I have a boyfriend going to army bootcamp but im expecting a baby in April and he wants to be there when the baby is born but he doesnt know if its possible. Is it possible for him to leave boot and be there for the birth of our baby?

    • Stacey February 27, 2012, 7:29 pm

      I wouldn’t count on it – it’s incredibly unlikely he would be granted leave from basic.

  • Doreen February 25, 2012, 10:03 pm

    I have been reading all these comments on meeting with military people through dating sites and feel I may have run into the same sort of situation and am going through this now as we speak. I have only been talking with him for a week, but already have my suspicions and things dont seem to add up, even though I dont know a whole lot about military regulations and all, things dont seem quite right with all this. i wont give all the details here because just with the short time span involved, I’d have to write you all a book here. He is supposed to be an E-9 officer, and as I already said I dont know a whole lot about the military, so when things didnt seem quite right I have been asking friends and family who are or were in the military. First of all what got me on guard, was that he was getting too sentimentally charged up way too soon, then he asked me about helping him to get a leave (By the way, he is supposed to be in Afghanistan)and even e-mailed me some forms(which didnt look right to me) and of course I asked questions and didnt think family, or friends or spouses could do that, as far as I know the soldier had to do that. But I got these forms e-mailed to me today, and to top off the story,yes there was to be a fee for the person requesting the leave for him. Well to make a long story short, I gave him a run around and told him I couldnt send any money for the fee, and his whole attitude started changing (smile), regardless to say the conversation changed drastically and we werent talking much longer.This was the reason I happened to come across this site,as I wasnt feeling quite right about the whole deal, and now I am glad I started snooping around a little.I’m not a very trusting person anyway to begin with, and have worked hard and been a single parent ,raised my daughter by myself and came through the school of hard knocks you might say. So glad my little sense of female intuition panned out for me, and glad you all had this site to back each other up like this, thank you for being here and helping me to keep from being made a fool of, although I will honestly say, I wasnt falling for it all.I think it is a shame these people take advantage of people and make the true soldier fighting for all our peace of mind,like bad news. its not right and I hope they all get what they have coming to them. And I think you all are doing a great thing here,helping each other out, we all need good backup……………………………………..Doreen

  • Mandy March 4, 2012, 12:37 am

    Dear Doreen,

    I have been scam and loss some money before as it was not something I would expect. However, we all learn from our experience. As women, I do believe that we should help each other more. Recently, someone sent me a massage on facebook who I do not know. The way how he approach was very similar with the army solider one. The way of writing and wordings. I am posted here, so if anyone do come across be aware, as follow :
    ===================================================
    How are you? Well writing to someone you have never met before I think is extremely difficult. Take this mail for instance, I had all the words in my head but could not seem to put a coherent sentence together, was going to start with hello or how are you today?! Anyway I will get to the pulse of it all, and I hope that everything is moving fine with you also that this letter finds you in good health and spirit. I am really going to put a lot of effort into writing this letter to you in hopes it will provide you with a good understanding of who I am, what I am all about, and what has made me the person I am today.

    The reason I am going to write a letter rather than just send an mail message is because I am serious about wanting to establish a quality relationship with you, and because of the fact I rarely contact anyone on here, so when I do you can be rest assured I am serious about my intentions. I believe that our faith is the very foundation of our lives, and also of a great relationship that will endure the test of time, I am looking for a woman that will be able to listen to me and I will listen to her too because Love is 50/50.

    First of all, let me introduce myself in brief. I’m Operations Planning Engineer. …….. I am 5.11 feet, blue eyes, 78kg weight; I live in Bronxville Heights, New York . I have a daughter. I was born 3 December 1964 in Florida, when i was two years old my mom took me to my grandma in Turkey that is where i grew up and studied. I came back to Florida at the age of 25 then my dad introduced me to the company am working with before he died; i registered as a private body with the company.

    I was married for 13 years but i got divorce 2 years ago because she cheated with my best friend. So i am in search of my wedding ring. I I will vibration ally tell you more about my kind of person below. I don’t think I need to deceive anyone just for me to have a woman. I believe that if you could not accept me of who I am, Then we are just might be wasting each other’s time. I believe that faith can lead us to a very beautiful direction. That eventually we might end up with each other if we are really meant for each other. I believe that we are going to have a good chemistry for each other, as far as we both will be honest of what we really are.

    Laying all the cards of what we should expect from each other. I believe that the most important ‘key’ to a successful relationship would have to be ‘trust’. I believe that with trust, love will follow. My heart is free and open also I will be happy, if I find the same heart and it will be mutual. The reason I came on to the internet to find the person who deserves all the love and passion that makes up my heart and soul is because I do not have the time to meet others out in a public setting, and the fact I feel you can learn so much about someone through letters, as a person has to take their time and think about the words they want to express, so it allows you to gain a better understanding of someone than you would probably otherwise.

    Do you believe love after love? Yes I do, and if love is a crime, am ready to be wanted. Take a very good care of yourself for me OK! To tell you the truth I will end here for now, because I am very curious about your reply back. And if you write back indeed we can talk later other details if you are willing to know each other better in the future even if we live far away.

    Warmest Regards,
    ============================================================

    Just be aware . I do not think, he is a real person anyway. If anyone receive this type of writing be aware.

    • Mandy March 5, 2012, 7:58 pm

      Dear all,

      This one is the second e-mail , he sent me. Be aware of the way how touching he is in writing. Most men are less likely to be so good at those writing.

      I have to say, it is a very touching letter, well written cover most of aspect people want to have in life.
      Anyway, it is a lesson learned after been scam. For me, at very least, to post it, hopefully would help others not to been scam. As there is no website post out those letters for the awareness.

      Please do not get me wrong to say anyone who has written those style letters are scam. They maybe , maybe not. It is better to know the one in person before any judgement.

      Enclosed the second letter, even told him I am not interested.
      ============================================================
      Thank you so very much for taking out time to read my profile and also write me an email. I think i have to let you know a little about me my kind of person. I feel so blessed because a thought was channeled to my direction.
      Every journey is set out with a well defined destination in mind and it takes courage and conscious determination to arrive there. At this point, it obvious that am willing to set out for this journey of faith and it’s imperative that the desired destination should be well defined. I like to make something clear as you read this e-mail. My intention should be made known early enough so that you could be able to know where am heading.
      The only reason I am here and ready to devote my time to make all the necessary communication is because I want a partner and desire to get closer to and see if there’s chemistry to yoke heart together because nothing works until someone work on it. What I am looking for is someone who will get to know me, who like me.. is tired of being lonely, who desires a sincere relationship, who is willing to love again irrespective of the painful memories of the past, who is willing to merge her soul with mine and her heart with mine.
      Someone to share and spend the rest of my life with. You see, I feel there are few very basic but essential elements of a relationship.. (1) Identifying the need to be in a relationship (2) Decision and readiness to contribute to it success (3) Honesty (4) Trust (5) Mutual Respect, (6) Devotional Commitment with a Readiness to Make Sacrifices. Knowing fully well that a Gold must go through fire before it can be purified and graded.
      They are also to a degree sequential. I may choose First honesty and then respect. They go hand in hand and without them any type of relationship, business, personal, family, whatever, is bound to fail. Anyone who is dishonest cannot be respected. Without showing respect, He or she is unlikely to be treated with honesty.
      Those are fundamental to trust which like respect is earned because honesty was first and was given. When trust is built and respect is earned and they are given and shared, then love and happiness is inevitable. When your love and trust were given, its more important than receiving a treasure.
      Then commitment becomes a part of the relationship. At that point, you promise and believe it will be forever. You can do this because you love and trust the other person and are committed to making a life to share together.

      I will try to be more specific. First, no one is perfect, especially me. I know this though, when the right person or person that seems right comes into your life you will know it. A connection happens and you just can’t, or won’t let go of them. Your whole life changes and all of the emptiness begin to fill up.
      It starts with the first touch, the first time you look into each other’s eyes, the very first time for everything becomes a moment to remember. Sometimes it happens quickly, other times it takes years.

      I don’t pretend to have the wisdom to explain or understand. This is certain, if you observe consciously, you will find when a person is wrong for you. I truly believe it is easier to know if someone is not right for you than to know if someone is.. I guess I’ve tried.Of course you now know what my purpose of being here is, and that I am willing to nurture this friendship to grow in the direction of a rewarding and a long lasting if not and everlasting relationship in all sincerity. Now are you in the same train with me?
      Because our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. God bless you!
      Kindest Regards,
      =================================================================

      Here is another one. I am not sure what is happening with facebook. In last few days,there is another scam type contact me. My facebook photo is private and plain. So it has nothing to do how I present myself.

      Decent people just be aware !
      ==================================================================

      Thank you for your response, I sincerely appreciate your interest, actually I got your contact email discreetly during my search for someone. Can i tell you the kind of person I we want to grow old with? i want someone who is serious, honest and romantic.I want to find someone who wants to get to know me and love me for me and yes I want a life time relationship, hopefully someday i will ask That special person to marry me and we would live the rest of our life together as friends, partners and lovers.I want someone who we call and email me every day to make me feel that am in a serious relationship. That all I need from you.Remember the distance does not matter what matters is the love we share with each other.My greetings to the entire family. Wait to hear from you soon.

      ==============================================================

      Part 2,

      l am a father who have one daughter and one granddaughter too. She live with her mother in the U.S.A. My wife died same year back.my mum and dad are late so i have only my daughter and my granddaughter who is my life now. and they are not living with me here in London. Can you please tell me more about your pass relationship life?My greetings to the entire family. wait to hear from you. thanks..

      =================================================================

      The above were came from two different persons contact me in same week. After a lesson , we all learned. Be aware the style of writing.

      Good luck to everyone. They are either tell us they are a solider in war zone ,in overseas country or so on. Just be aware.

  • Mandy March 5, 2012, 7:59 pm

    Dear all,

    This one is the second e-mail , he sent me. Be aware of the way how touching he is in writing. Most men are less likely to be so good at those writing.

    I have to say, it is a very touching letter, well written cover most of aspect people want to have in life.
    Anyway, it is a lesson learned after been scam. For me, at very least, to post it, hopefully would help others not to been scam. As there is no website post out those letters for the awareness.

    Please do not get me wrong to say anyone who has written those style letters are scam. They maybe , maybe not. It is better to know the one in person before any judgement.

    Enclosed the second letter, even told him I am not interested.
    ============================================================
    Thank you so very much for taking out time to read my profile and also write me an email. I think i have to let you know a little about me my kind of person. I feel so blessed because a thought was channeled to my direction.
    Every journey is set out with a well defined destination in mind and it takes courage and conscious determination to arrive there. At this point, it obvious that am willing to set out for this journey of faith and it’s imperative that the desired destination should be well defined. I like to make something clear as you read this e-mail. My intention should be made known early enough so that you could be able to know where am heading.
    The only reason I am here and ready to devote my time to make all the necessary communication is because I want a partner and desire to get closer to and see if there’s chemistry to yoke heart together because nothing works until someone work on it. What I am looking for is someone who will get to know me, who like me.. is tired of being lonely, who desires a sincere relationship, who is willing to love again irrespective of the painful memories of the past, who is willing to merge her soul with mine and her heart with mine.
    Someone to share and spend the rest of my life with. You see, I feel there are few very basic but essential elements of a relationship.. (1) Identifying the need to be in a relationship (2) Decision and readiness to contribute to it success (3) Honesty (4) Trust (5) Mutual Respect, (6) Devotional Commitment with a Readiness to Make Sacrifices. Knowing fully well that a Gold must go through fire before it can be purified and graded.
    They are also to a degree sequential. I may choose First honesty and then respect. They go hand in hand and without them any type of relationship, business, personal, family, whatever, is bound to fail. Anyone who is dishonest cannot be respected. Without showing respect, He or she is unlikely to be treated with honesty.
    Those are fundamental to trust which like respect is earned because honesty was first and was given. When trust is built and respect is earned and they are given and shared, then love and happiness is inevitable. When your love and trust were given, its more important than receiving a treasure.
    Then commitment becomes a part of the relationship. At that point, you promise and believe it will be forever. You can do this because you love and trust the other person and are committed to making a life to share together.

    I will try to be more specific. First, no one is perfect, especially me. I know this though, when the right person or person that seems right comes into your life you will know it. A connection happens and you just can’t, or won’t let go of them. Your whole life changes and all of the emptiness begin to fill up.
    It starts with the first touch, the first time you look into each other’s eyes, the very first time for everything becomes a moment to remember. Sometimes it happens quickly, other times it takes years.

    I don’t pretend to have the wisdom to explain or understand. This is certain, if you observe consciously, you will find when a person is wrong for you. I truly believe it is easier to know if someone is not right for you than to know if someone is.. I guess I’ve tried.Of course you now know what my purpose of being here is, and that I am willing to nurture this friendship to grow in the direction of a rewarding and a long lasting if not and everlasting relationship in all sincerity. Now are you in the same train with me?
    Because our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. God bless you!
    Kindest Regards,
    =================================================================

    Here is another one. I am not sure what is happening with facebook. In last few days,there is another scam type contact me. My facebook photo is private and plain. So it has nothing to do how I present myself.

    Decent people just be aware !
    ==================================================================

    Thank you for your response, I sincerely appreciate your interest, actually I got your contact email discreetly during my search for someone. Can i tell you the kind of person I we want to grow old with? i want someone who is serious, honest and romantic.I want to find someone who wants to get to know me and love me for me and yes I want a life time relationship, hopefully someday i will ask That special person to marry me and we would live the rest of our life together as friends, partners and lovers.I want someone who we call and email me every day to make me feel that am in a serious relationship. That all I need from you.Remember the distance does not matter what matters is the love we share with each other.My greetings to the entire family. Wait to hear from you soon.

    ==============================================================

    Part 2,

    l am a father who have one daughter and one granddaughter too. She live with her mother in the U.S.A. My wife died same year back.my mum and dad are late so i have only my daughter and my granddaughter who is my life now. and they are not living with me here in London. Can you please tell me more about your pass relationship life?My greetings to the entire family. wait to hear from you. thanks..

    =================================================================

    The above were came from two different persons contact me in same week. After a lesson , we all learned. Be aware the style of writing.

    Good luck to everyone.

  • Patricia April 7, 2012, 9:38 pm

    Hello Mandy !

    I just can believe it when I read this letter. Really , I recived this letter from 2 different men , they arent soldiers , they ( as he said ) English men . To be honest , when I recieved the first one , I melted , but I found it quite suspicious , than I recieved the second one . So , I believe that kind of site is very dangerous , we need to be carefull.Unfortunately , this scamers are very persuasive , they tell you sad stories , they want to be a father , have a happy family with you and on. Now I am change emails and chat with a ” soldier” , I dont know if he is telling me the truth , he is in Kabul , he has a daugther in USA , so I do not lie , he is very cute and he somehow touched me. Anyway , I ‘m trying to get as much information as possible. He send me some pictures , but this can be stolen from a real soldier , I dont know…Let’s wait and see . Just one more thing , all women , please , be carefull , I believe all of us want to be happy and find the love of our lifes , just be careful.

    • Mandy April 17, 2012, 11:50 pm

      Hello Patricia,

      Just be careful and find out more information as much as possible. If there is any doubt or discomfort that you feel just quickly get out. If it has not happened to be before I would not believe that I would be scammed. Good luck.

  • katie May 13, 2012, 2:20 am

    Hi- i was emailing this soldier and I ask him for his ako and this what he email back to me.
    i told you we are not in the
    state now we are corentely in Afghanistan an hear Afghanistan we are
    not permitted to our Ako Account and mind you , you not a military
    woman so i can not email you with this Ako email is just only for the
    military
    Is this true,any one knows?
    katie

    • Mandy July 26, 2012, 2:14 am

      Hi Katie,

      Be aware about the AKO account as I was scammed by a so call US solider before and by the time I aware, it was too late , have lost thousands of dollars. It comes to a point that I realize that I do not know much about the whole military. Just for your information, why trust a man who we normally would not if he said he is in so call war zone. Go out with someone who is real able to see, touch, talk to face to face. Then make the judgement, not having an internet relationship may not be a real person.

      PS Even he is a real person, would you want to wait for a year or two for him to come back , before you know him as a real person ??

      It always seem romantic to have someone’s attention fully, but not for those who may not even exist person.

      Take care

  • Bianca July 23, 2012, 10:03 am

    Hi Katie

    No its not true. They do use their AKO account while in the theatre. I am an army wife for 8 years and my husband just got back from his 4 th deployment and trust me he used his AKO email to email me when for some reason his personal email is not working. Beware ladies. If he is too good to be true then it’s more likely he is a scammer.
    Bianca

  • Carrie August 24, 2012, 10:45 pm

    I asked the guy (Kevin D Stanfield) today for his ako email, he gave it to me, but I got a daemon email delivery failure. He was adamant I couldn’t send anything only his mom and sis could, I’d have to mail things from the base in LA. I told him that wasn’t true because people send stuff to our soldiers all the time, and he was not happy with me.
    Also the poem he supposedly wrote me last night? My son found on another website.

    Washing my hands of that disaster. Fortunately, I didn’t lose any sleep or money.

    steering clear of these guys for good,
    C

  • Sam November 25, 2012, 10:33 am

    I have been on yahoo messenger with this military guy for almost 5 months now. He sent me a DFAS form. He says he loves me and that he is working out the the details of coming here for Christmas to be with me. Can this form be a scam? The librarian did not see it with the scam forms that needed to be looked for. I just want to make sure if I sent it to dfas-dept@armymail.com. Could someone please help me out with this because I don’t want to get hurt on keeping this going if this is not who I want this to be. I want this to be over if it is not him who he says he is. And how can I find out if this person is real or not? Thank you…

    • Stacey February 12, 2013, 7:48 pm

      Armymail.com is an email anyone can sign up for.

  • Kelsie February 20, 2013, 4:54 pm

    Do they issue roster numbers in basic training? And do you absolutely need it for your soldier to recieve the letter? When writing the letter, what do they mean by class and company? I’m very new at this.

  • Silvia April 14, 2013, 10:08 am

    Hello!
    One military man contacted with me on dating site!he sent me nice e-mails and we was writing on google talk!In his e-mail he told a story about him that where he is,what is his station,and unit but when I was sasking what is his MoS and identifire he asked from that did I’m a spy and if I’m i will die!He was suprised that I know few things about military things!i just told him that if you go online you can find many usefull information!How can I know he is real or just scam he sent me some pictures as well but I can not know it,s or fake!Could you help me tha how or where i can found out is this scam or not?

  • Susan July 16, 2013, 9:05 am

    I met sgt billy owens thru Facebook . He told me that his wife died from breast cancer and had cute daughter. How can I find out if he chat with women. He showed me the pictures of him and daughter. I tried to search on him but no luck . Hope that u would tell me. Thank you

  • Renee January 9, 2014, 1:08 pm

    Im also talking to an Army man who is in Syria. He said the same thing that I would have to set up communication and pay 400 dollars. I didn’t but we talk on yahoo messenger daily. He wanted to take leave and he said his accounts were frozen until he got out of Syria. So I had to pay 850 to get him here. I did and somehow the Generals email got hacked and the money is gone.

    We were both upset. He now wants me to it again. I’m like no we will wait till you mission is over. Then his general tells me that he’s seing another wonan. He denies it and swears on his life he dosent know her. I told him I won’t send him any more money and that if he really loves me then he will wait. He said okay. Time will tell If he’s telling the truth.

    I learned the hard way so don’t make the same mistake I did. Be carful. Do your research on him.

    If anyone wants to talk you can email me at renee_cook29@yahoo.com

    Thanks,
    Renee

    • Stacey Abler January 10, 2014, 1:44 pm

      Please don’t send him any more money. This is a scam! There is no reason to be sending money to someone who is serving. They make more money overseas than they do when they are home. And IF we had anyone in Syria, they wouldn’t be able to tell you where they are.

  • Phyllis August 18, 2014, 11:34 pm

    I am talking to a guy that says he is an army Sargent. He is also a ranger. We met on match.com and he also has a facebook page. He emails me on outlook . com. He mentioned to me that I could ask for a leave for him when we get to know each other better. I asked if I would have to pay for this and he said No. I have already been through this with one trying to get me to send money is why I asked. I feel he is who he says especially since he has a facebook with some of the same pictures he has on match. He also has over 450 friends on his facebook he just opened in July from all over the world. We also text back and forth everyday. But I am reading on here that people are saying you do not have to ask for their leave. Now I am worried he is a scam. He did tell me he was widowed when his match profile said he was divorced . I understand that you could make that mistake when filling it out. He is 53 and went into the military at 30. Has 2 kids that are 23 and 25 so I thought maybe he was married, got divorced and then remarried and lost his 2nd wife. He is in Iraq . I know there has been a lot going on over there so I just haven’t been questioning him about it all. Now I am asking you all do you think this another scam cause I don’t want to waist my time if it is. But sure don’t want to blow it if he is who he says cause he sure seems like a nice guy. Asking for advice please.

    • Stacey Abler August 22, 2014, 7:52 pm

      If he’s been in the military for 23 years and only attained the rank of sergeant, something is seriously wrong. ;) There’s no such thing as you asking for his leave – it’s a scam. Also, Rangers aren’t typically deployed long enough to be granted leave – I’m married to one.

  • Phyllis August 22, 2014, 8:18 pm

    Stacy I was wondering if there is anyway to check and see if they are actually military. He hasn’t asked me for money or anything. I have told him about one guy pretending to be in the military and was wanting money and I wouldn’t do it. Have also let him know that I do not bank online. I just don’t know what he would be after. We have been texting and emailing for about a month. Haven’t been hearing too much now. Just a few text a day. Which with everything going on in Iraq if he is not scam I would understand that. He also said he has been over there a little over a year and came home for his daughters graduation. Phyllis

  • Phyllis August 30, 2014, 10:40 pm

    Well he told me the other day when I asked him that he was a staff Sargent and he has been in for 23 years..hmm. I also found him on another dating site along with facebook and match. Idk what is going on but I don’t understand how someone could be on 3 different sites under the same profile and not get caught. He also has some of the same pictures on each along with different ones.

  • Britney Singleton September 20, 2014, 11:49 pm

    My husband is graduating basic and AIT September 26th I still haven’t gotten any call from him when can I be expecting a call? Also what time and when is the turning blue ceremony? After graduation is he allowed to leave with his family and go home if he doesn’t have further training? I’m new to this and don’t really know what to expect.

    • Stacey Abler September 23, 2014, 8:35 pm

      He’s about to graduate and you haven’t heard from him at all? The date and time should have been included in the letter from the commander. Did you not receive this? If he’s completed training, he will then go to his first duty station. How much time he has before having to inprocess will depend on his command, etc. He should know this information once you’re able to speak with him.

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