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Writing Letters During Basic Training and AIT

I hope you thoroughly enjoy holding a pen in your hand as this is your new lifeline to your Army soldier as an Army wife.

One piece of advice – write to him every day.

My husband repeatedly told me that letters were like gold. It is their only tie to home or the outside world. After the first week or so, the letters were starting to feel forced. So I just started telling him about my day at work. I also would send him jokes and copies of emails. Each Sunday, I would send him the “ESPN update” with all of the scores. As long as they get letters, they couldn’t care less what they are about. It used to bore him to tears to hear about my job when he was home, but at basic he was thrilled so long as it meant he was getting mail.

On writing not so positive letters…

One thing that there are contradicting opinions about among Army wives is if all of your letters should be completely positive. While I agree that you should try to keep them as positive as possible, don’t cover up your true feelings either. If your car breaks down or the air conditioner at your home quits working, don’t tell him about it if you can help it as there’s not a thing he can do about it. But when it comes to your feelings, letting him know that you miss him and that you have a really hard day once in a while is okay. Once during basic, I wrote my husband a very long letter about how hard the separation was and my feelings surrounding it. I did warn him in the letter that I was feeling depressed and if it was going to bother him not to read past a certain point. After I mailed it, I felt horrible because I thought I was being selfish. But I received the sweetest letter in return with his reassurance. He later told me he was glad that I sent it. Don’t make your husband feel that you can’t function without him but it is nice for him to know that it is harder without him around and he is missed. You don’t want him to think you’re just living it up without him around.

Don’t slack off just because basic is over!

When my husband was in OSUT, basic ended when he came home for two weeks for Christmas Exodus. Once they returned, they were in the AIT phase. My husband told me that their mail decreased dramatically after the Christmas break. Don’t let this be the case with your soldier! I still continued to write every day.

Mail call…

They typically only have mail call a couple of times a week. Because of this, make sure you date or number each letter so he can read them in sequence. If you’re writing every day, he should be getting several at a time! During my husband’s AIT, they had mail call one day and he asked one of the guys to get his for him because he was shining his boots. The guys came back up in a few minutes and said they only had 10 letters to pass out and 5 of them belonged to my husband. But he said he was thrilled!

Many drill sergeants will have the soldiers do push ups in order to get their mail. Some moms and wives have emailed me to tell me they feel horrible that they are causing their soldiers to have to do some many push ups. Well, no need to fret. First, I’m sure your soldier is thrilled to do his push-ups if it means he’s getting mail. Second, he is going to have to do push-ups regardless all during his training so it may as well be for something positive. If he’s not getting mail and therefore not having to do push-ups during mail call, I can promise you the DS will find another excuse for him to get down and push!

So go out shopping and invest in a nice pen, a roll of stamps and a pack of paper. Your husband will never be so happy you decided to spend money!

About the author: Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003. He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier. Connect with Stacey: Facebook Twitter Pinterest

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  • ashley November 1, 2012, 2:46 am

    So my boyfriend gave me his address and I’ve been writing him while he’s at BCT. Today I noticed on his most recent letter that there is a building number. He didn’t put it on the first letter (that ive been using as reference to address his letters) so none of the letters I’ve sent have had a building number! The rest of the address is right, just no building number. Will he still get my letters?? :(

  • Tiffany December 1, 2012, 4:27 pm

    I have written my boyfriend a letter everyday. When he called to give me the address quickly there wasn’t enough time to repeat it back to make sure it was correct. He hasn’t received my letters yet. Is there a way to find out if my address is correct to him? And where I can find the letters that hve already been sent?

    • aidyn February 18, 2013, 6:54 pm

      yeah call his base, get this info online & provide them his entire name & social. you have to say youre immediate family, they didnt wanna give me his info bc we’re just engaged. called back & said i was his sister & they confirmed his battalion, bc i also didnt have enough time to confirm the address with him gl! :)

    • london November 14, 2014, 11:49 pm

      Yes there is a website also a Facebook page what branch

  • Liz December 2, 2012, 1:00 am

    Okay So I am 18 and getting married as soon as BCT and AIT is over, it sucks not being able to talk to the person that I have spent everyday with since the first day we met, but what I want to know is when I write a letter to him do I really have to put the unit # I put everything else correctly just forgot to put that.. I was trying to send him money so he could come home for christmas break so I am worried he hasn’t got it or won’t get it at all because I forgot that part. help!!

  • Lisa Wright December 11, 2012, 12:35 pm

    I recently stumbled upon this website and I have been uplifted by it. I am not an army wife, :) but I am an army mother. My son, who is 18 years old enlisted in the army, and I am one of those terrified mothers. He went to Fort Leonard, MO on 11/18/12 and I have only heard from him briefly. He admits to having a difficult time during processing and it broke my heart to get that information. Please pray for him, and I will keep your sons, husbands and friends in prayer as well. His name is Tyrel :)

    • Ashley Nicole August 8, 2014, 5:35 am

      I’ve been sending out letter to my boyfriend, i usually send 2 one day and wait till he replies back, it usually takes 3-5 days to get my letter to him and his letter going to me, well on the 28th of July i received two letters from him, and he is telling me in the letters that he is surrounded by the enemies in Afghanistan, he wrote the date on the letter and it said July 22. Anyways I’ve been waiting a week and 5 days and still no letter, i don’t know what to do this isn’t like him and i am super worried, I’ve been so depressed and still waiting on the letter, i don’t even know if he is okay or not, so i came on here to get some information, maybe i am not the only one who had gone through this, and maybe it could help reassure me. Thank y’all for listening and please if you have gone through this I’d like to know because this is very stressful for me.

  • Shadae January 3, 2013, 9:22 am

    My boyfriend Just left for Basic Training for The Navy, I want to Write him, but he had a fight so I don’t think he will write me, Is there anyway I can find his information to write him?

    Please just help me, email me at sdillard508@gmail.com if you can help me!

  • Tashawna January 8, 2013, 8:32 pm

    My soldier and I have been together for 2 going on 3 years .
    We are a young , loving , mature , ambitious couple who plan on holding on to each other for the long run .
    Im currently in college : UC Irvine . working my way toward medschool acceptance letters , while the love of my life is in BCT
    So yup , its official, my soldier has been gone for two days.
    I have received one phone call which lasted for 3 minutes.
    All he said was that he was staying in a hotel with a bunch of other future soldiers and would be on his way to MEPS one last time to finish up paperwork/piss test/physical test and then to Fort Jackson the next morning .
    When he called me he said he was in a lobby ??? I just want to know if he is or was in the reception stage , since I did not get a chance to ask him .
    I just want to know so I can begin to count the weeks down .

    – thanks for reading and Id love to get some responses . maybe you can tell me when you got your first phone call .
    or kind words or advice would be lovely . Im just feeling lonely without him . First time apart since we been together . </3

    • Haley April 13, 2014, 11:30 pm

      No thats not the reception stage. He gets to the reception stage when he gets to Fort Jackson. My fiance/husband-to-be is at Ft. Sill. Reception is usually only a week long unless theres extra paperwork like allergies to medicine they need record of. Then it could be about two weeks. Once you get a letter with a return address you can start the countdown. Good luck! :) I’m 3 weeks down and 19 more to go and that includes the AIT. I cannot wait until its over. And in a week I’m having our first born baby. And the commander approved him to come home. So excited!!

      • Kirsten January 6, 2015, 12:49 pm

        Hey! I’m a new Army wife and my husband is at Fort Sill for BCT. I was wondering how long it took for you to receive his official mailing address? My husband has been gone just over a week. I received one phone call when he first got there and two letters a few days apart, but no official address to mail my letters to, nor a phone call letting me know his address. I’m just anxious to send out all the letters I’ve written him so I can get more updates!

  • Christina January 21, 2013, 10:52 am

    hello, my husband is in BCT. after a weeks of waiting, he was able to send me letters with a return address. i was so excited to find out that i am able to send him letters i’ve put together since he left. i sent those letters last week. today, i am in the process of sending him another batch of letters. upon writing his address, i realize about the RN # right after his name. i believe i got the rest of the address correct except i forgot to put the RN #. do you think he will he receive my letters? i cannot concentrate at work because i am worried he will not get the mail. please advice.

  • Heather January 22, 2013, 1:57 am

    okay so my bf left for basic training Jan 13 , 2013 .. i have been waiting for a letter from him or his sgt , but i havent got one. i really want his address so i can start to talk to him. When do you think i will get one, cuz i miss him so much and i cant stand not being able to atleast talk to him.

    Thanks ! (:

  • Shelby February 9, 2013, 3:52 pm

    Hi, my boyfriend is in Fort Jackson, SC. He sent me letters with the return address. He sent my letters on Monday Feb. 4, 2013… and got here the 7th. are my letters going to get there as fast as his letters got to me???

    • Stephanie February 13, 2013, 2:17 am

      My husband is in basic at ft Jackson also. He wrote me the same day yours did :) I over nighted a valentines card to him. No word if he got it yet. Today is actually the fist day I havnt received a letter from him. Any news on if your soldier got any of your letters yet?

      • Tiana Holland February 26, 2013, 5:29 pm

        Omg, yes! I need to know how long it will take as well. I am so terrified because I sent my soldier his first letter on the 15th and he wrote me on the 21st saying he is sad because he hasn’t gotten any from me thus far..

        • kaci June 16, 2013, 10:39 pm

          My boyfriend is at basic in ft jackson. I live in Oklahoma and I got a letter from him on friday. He got to call today bc its fathers day. He said he sent the letter I recieved friday, about a week ago. He also said he hasnt gotten any of the letters I have sent him. I have sent about 4 about a week ago. Why hasnt he gotten Them yet? I want to send him a necklace I got him for our one year anniversary but if he hasnt gotten any of the letters I have sent already will his not get the necklace and letter either? Please help!!

        • Saira Hernandez October 8, 2013, 11:52 pm

          My bf just let me know to highlight the corners of your envelope with a yellow highlighter. That’s th best way I can say u will be able to have him receive ut letters faster.

          • Stacey Abler October 12, 2013, 3:29 pm

            I’ve never hard anything like this. Why did she say a yellow highlight would make any difference?

          • Rosa Martinez October 16, 2013, 12:39 am

            To Stacy Abler:
            The reason they suggest marking the envelope with a yellow highlighter is because the mail is assorted manually by company, platoon, etc and the highlighter makes the envelopes more recognizable to those who sort them thus making the process quicker.

  • Jessica February 11, 2013, 1:24 am

    My husband has been gone for about two weeks and I still haven’t gotten his address. I plan on sending all the letters thus far in one envelope as there are a lot and we have kids and I still need to stock up on extra stamps. Its driving me crazy not being able to send the letters. I even bought him a Valentines day card and I really want him to get it and it seems like Ill never get his address.

  • Tiana Holland February 26, 2013, 5:27 pm

    OMG, it feels so good to have other ladies to vent to about this lonely experience. I have written my soldier letters for the longest (since the 15th of February) and I have gotten like 5-7 from him but he claims that he hasn’t gotten ANY from me. It is driving me insane to know that he feels alone and forgotten since he hasn’t gotten any as of yet. Is it supposed to take this long for him to get his first letter?

  • Cody Castilla March 19, 2013, 2:51 am

    I Believe Im The Only Male Here Writing To My Soldier On This Forum. My Fiancé Left For Fort Jackson South Carolina On Feb. 28th. She’s An Amazing Young Woman, We Write Each Other Every Day. Im Flying Down To See Her Graduate On April 11th Then I Shipout To Basic Training April 15th To Fort Benning Georgia. Im Not Sure If Anyone Knows But Are You Given Any Time Off To Visit Family After Basic & AIT? Our Plans Orginally Was To Get Married As Soon As I Graduate AIT But She’ll Already Be Stationed Somewhere & I’d Need To Go To Her. If Anyone Knows More About This Could You Let Me Know Please. I Would Really Hate For All Our Plans To Be Cancelled Just Because Of The Army. Don’t Get Me Wrong, Im More Then Dedicated To The US ARMY But She Means More To Me Then The Army Does. Again If You Have Any Info Or Advice On This Please Let Me Know. Best Of Luck To You All & Your Soldiers. Thanks In Advance. Hooah.

    • Stacey March 27, 2013, 3:58 pm

      You generally have 10 days of personal time to get belongings moved, etc after you graduate.

  • Karisa May 14, 2013, 3:59 pm

    I really wish I had found this website when my boyfriend left in March for BCT! But I have a question that would be so incredibly helpful if someone could answer it! He has two week left in BCT and then he is off to AIT. He hasn’t written me yet, is that normal? He did call a month ago, but I missed the call. He left a voicemail and explained he’s super busy and he was voted team leader. So I’m assuming with that leadership role he may be busier than others and that’s why he hasn’t written? I’m just stressing out because I want to talk to him so bad and I thought I would have received a letter by now :/ he’s at Fort Leonard in MO if that helps any. Has anyone had a similar experience and if so when did you end up hearing from your significant other? Thank you so much!

    • Kayla July 24, 2013, 12:23 pm

      My boyfriend left for BCT as well as his AIT at Fort Leonard a couple weeks ago. At first, he had some down time during reception, so I got a letter or two the first couple days. However, I haven’t heard from him since other than the phone call about his address. I’ve been talking to other girlfriends and wives and that is pretty normal. He’ll have more time during AIT to himself to write and read letters. Everyone I have talked to has said that if he left his address in the voicemail (which he should have) to keep writing to him. BCT is really busy and his time to himself typically depends on his company commander. They wear them out every day. Just keep writing letters, even if you can’t send them and keep your hopes up :) There are a lot of people that understand. For the last year, there hasn’t been a single day that I haven’t talked to my boyfriend, and we”re planning on getting married in another year or so, so these last weeks have been rough. But hey! You’re almost through with the hardest part.

  • kaci June 16, 2013, 10:21 pm

    Hey. My boyfriend is at basic in ft jackson as well I just got a letter from him on friday. And he got to call today since it is fathers day. He said he hasnt gotten any letters and I have already sent out A few about a week ago. I live in chickasha Oklahoma and I wanna know why he hasnt gotten them yet. I want to send him a necklace I got him for our one year anniversary but if he hasnt gotten any of his other letters will him kot get this one either? Please help!!

  • kaci June 16, 2013, 10:33 pm

    My boyfriend is at basic in ft jackson. I live in Oklahoma and I got a letter from him on friday. He got to call today bc its fathers day. He said he sent the letter I recieved friday, about a week ago. He also said he hasnt gotten any of the letters I have sent him. I have sent about 4 about a week ago. Why hasnt he gotten Them yet? I want to send him a necklace I got him for our one year anniversary but if he hasnt gotten any of the letters I have sent already will his not get the necklace and letter either? Please help!!

  • McCall June 24, 2013, 12:50 pm

    My boyfriend left for AIT a few weeks ago, can’t wait for him to get back! Already been through this with brothers and friends so its nothing new but still missing him a ton. We’re getting engaged when he gets back and i can hardly wait! He’s doing well so far, i’m so glad i found this blog, finally a bunch of gal’s like me. Quick question, how long after graduation do they get to come home? Its been about a year since we did this with my brother and friend so its a little fuzzy.

  • McCall June 24, 2013, 12:58 pm

    Hey Karisa, i heard from him pretty quick but only because he had to wait around for a week in AIT before classes started. Does he have his phone? If so they could have gotten their privileges taken away, i know that happened to kyle and he wasn’t allowed to use his phone or any electronics. I know that once classes started they are so busy and he doesn’t have really any time to call or write letters. I haven’t gotten a letter yet because they are over a mile away from the mail box and they don’t have time to take it there. I hope this helps, i’m sure he would have contacted you if he could have. Things just get so crazy there, i hope you hear from your honey soon. Good luck with everything.

  • McCall June 27, 2013, 10:47 am

    Hey Karisa, i heard from him pretty quick but only because he had to wait around for a week in AIT before classes started. Does he have his phone? If so they could have gotten their privileges taken away, i know that happened to kyle and he wasn’t allowed to use his phone or any electronics. I know that once classes started they are so busy and he doesn’t have really any time to call or write letters. I haven’t gotten a letter yet because they are over a mile away from the mail box and they don’t have time to take it there. I hope this helps, i’m sure he would have contacted you if he could have. Things just get so crazy there, i hope you hear from your honey soon. Good luck with everything

  • Mackenzie Abrams September 25, 2013, 9:07 am

    My boyfriend wrote me a letter from PUT in basic and it has no return address. How do you figure out the address to write him back……

  • Breanna Hawkins October 6, 2013, 8:35 pm

    My hubby went off to basic training on July 8th and I’ve been writing letters everyday and I haven’t received a letter in 2 weeks. is that unusual? I’m starting to get worried and I don’t understand why I’m all of a sudden not getting letters. Do they take away writing privileges?

  • Stephany November 13, 2013, 8:04 pm

    My boyfriend arrived at Fort Leonard Wood for BCT a week ago and upon his arrival, I received a brief phonecall letting me know he made it safe. The rest of the week was in silence; no other phonecalls or letters yet. Exactly a week after his arrival, he finally called from his cell phone and gave me his mailing information. There was enough time to repeat his information in case I missed something, but there was no time for him to give me the correct mailing format. After extensive research, I took his information and I arranged it in what I think is the correct format. I have yet to receive a letter from him, and it’ll probably be a while until I see how he formatted it, but I’m biting the bullet and sending him a letter now. So to whom it concerns, if you have your soldier’s information, try to piece it together as best you can.

  • Emily Jade Jackson February 12, 2014, 11:13 pm

    My boyfreind is in fort sill and I just got his first letter today. But it didn’t have a return. Addrss how do I send my boyfreind. Letters. Is there any way that.I can get his address. In all his letters he told me to write home back But I cant.

  • Sade March 7, 2014, 3:49 pm

    Hey…I am so glad to have found this blog! My honey left for Fort Sill in February. His first letter didn’t have a return address and then I missed his call last Sunday. I don’t think I have gotten over that yet. So here I am….14 letters and counting- one a day- and don’t have an address to mail them to. Any help would be much appreciated!

    • Stacey Abler March 8, 2014, 5:58 pm

      I know how it is to miss those calls! It definitely seems like it’s been long enough to get the address – hope it comes soon!!

  • Lauren March 27, 2014, 3:07 pm

    So me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years he left about 2 weeks ago I haven’t heard from him since Sunday. How soon will he be able to send letters? Can I write him letters first and get the address off of the internet he is in fort Jackson and I honestly just want to be able to write and talk to him it would make
    My day. We went from living together and talking and seeing each other
    Everyday to nothing at all I never knew it would be this hard. Please help ladies thanks!

  • Kristen June 1, 2014, 1:39 am

    Hey my husband left to ft. Jackson SC for BCT on May 5th and the first week he was gone I talked to him for about 30 seconds for him to let me know he made it safe. But since then I have not received phone calls on Sundays or letters but I’ve written him about 30. Is it normal that I’ve absolutely no contact with him since he arrived? Or should I be worried? And is there a way that I can find out his address so I can send him my letters?

  • Tisi June 2, 2014, 11:40 pm

    Hi ladies, , my boyfriend left for ft Jackson SC for BCT on May 20th. We texted everyday for two weeks while he was at reception, and I was blessed to get two phone calls. He was supposed to spend only one week at reception, but his battalion was too full, so it was split into two batches, and the second batch spent one extra week at reception. He left reception today, we texted in the morning, but I haven’t heard from him again. He told me their phones will be taken once they arrive. So this is our first night apart without communication, and reality just kicked in. I feel so sad, and I miss him so much already. After crying my eyes out, I feel better reading all your comments and knowing that I am not alone. I didn’t get an address where I can send him letters so I am praying I would get a call from him or message with the correct address. Please does any one know how to address a letter to Ft. Jackson SC?

  • Amber June 10, 2014, 9:17 pm

    My brother just shipped out to bootcamp. This kid is my life. I’ve sent him a few pictures to give him a laugh or two. I pinned them together with a couple of paper clips, will he still get them?

    • Stacey Abler June 12, 2014, 9:44 am

      They may open the envelope just because it will be obvious something else is in it besides paper. But there shouldn’t be a reason not to give him the pictures. Hope they weren’t embarrassing pics as they’ll likely be passed around when they open the envelope (in front of everyone!).

  • Payton June 12, 2014, 11:40 pm

    My boyfriend left for fort Sill on the 9th, and called my early on the 10th to let me know he was okay. He told me during that call that he would call again in 7-10 days. Is that when I will get the mailing address? Or will I have to wait longer for that?

    • Stacey Abler June 16, 2014, 8:01 am

      He could be during that call or you may just get a letter from him with the address. Good luck!

  • Crystal Raelynn June 29, 2014, 12:43 am

    My boyfriend left to ft jackson, SC june 22 once he left he was able to text for a couple of days. He’s been gone for almost a week .He texted me his mailing address. How long do i have to wait in order to send him mail ? Or does it matter.

    • Stacey Abler July 1, 2014, 7:55 pm

      As long as you have his address, you can go ahead and send mail. No need to wait.

  • Tabitha July 5, 2014, 5:52 pm

    I just got my first letter from my soldier but there was no return address on it. I don’t know if he just forgot to write it or what. What do I do? Is there any way I can find out the address?

    • Stacey Abler July 7, 2014, 5:04 pm

      Has he already started basic? It’s possible he was still in reception when he wrote it and didn’t have an address yet.

  • Amanda July 16, 2014, 12:53 am

    My boyfriend of 1 year left for basic at Fort Jackson, SC on June 30th. We were able to communicate over text for a few days after he left while he was in processing. Since he officially started basic and we stopped texting, I’ve been going crazy. He called his dad to give him his address but his dad didn’t write it down so I’ve been waiting for his dad to receive a letter from him to get the address. I’m going nuts not being able to talk to him or atleast know how he’s doing.

    • Stacey Abler July 19, 2014, 8:51 am

      I hope you receive his address quickly. It’s a shame his dad didn’t write it down.

  • Annette July 23, 2014, 2:33 pm

    My daughter has been writing her boyfriend since he left for Basic. When he sent his first letter to her, the return address had his RN number listed. This was the address my daughter used to send letters to him. However once she received another letter from him, the RN# was different (2 numbers were reversed). He said he had not received any letters so far. Apparently he had written the return address incorrectly the first time. How likely is it that he will eventually get by daughters letter with the incorrect RN#? Everything else is correct.

    • Stacey Abler August 7, 2014, 7:31 am

      He may get them at the end or not at all – it’s hard to predict. I sent one to my husband addressed the wrong way and he never received it.

  • Elisabeth July 31, 2014, 7:38 am

    Okay so, I’ve been off and on w/my current soldier since November of last year, when he informed his mom to give me his address, I immediatly went to write him. In my haste to actually write and mail him a letter because I had so much to say, I wrote in what I had available, orange ink. When I got to the post office I did do the outside in black ink because someone was kind enough to lend me a pen, but now that I think on it, I’m worried. I’ve read on a lot of forums and heard from a couple girlfriends of mine who are Milsos, that colored inked letters can be opened or he’ll get in trouble. I don’t know, call it silly, but i’m concerned. I don’t necessarily want what I wrote broadcasted to his whole platoon (not dirty just..a little personal) and I certainly don’t want him to get in trouble for my silly mistake. Am I overreacting a tad here ladies? The lack of communication could be effecting my brain .

    • Stacey Abler August 7, 2014, 7:22 am

      I’d be surprised if they called it out because of the ink color. If the entire envelope was directed in hearts, that would be a different story.

  • leah smart July 31, 2014, 9:51 am

    How long will it be before I hear from him if he left for basic the 28th? and during AIT will he have his phone when he isn’t in class?

    • Stacey Abler August 7, 2014, 7:22 am

      You typically get a phone call in the beginning but it will be very quick. It takes up to a few weeks to get the first letter. As for his phone, it depends entirely on his AIT. They can vary greatly from one MOS to the next.

  • Nayshaliz Nieves August 11, 2014, 12:50 am

    Hey There, So My Fiancé Left To BCT On July 8th To Fort Benning, GA. He Sent Me His Mailing Address And I Wrote It Exactly How It’s Suppose To Be Sent On The Envelope. He’s Sent Lots Of Letters And I Wrote To Him Early July. It’s August And He Tells Me He Still Hasn’t Received Any Letters… I’m Confused. Do They Purposely Hold Onto Letters? How Long Does It Take? Please Help.

    • Stacey Abler August 13, 2014, 8:51 pm

      It was a few weeks when my husband was in. Have you continued to send letters? A month seems a little excessive to wait.

  • Marissa August 22, 2014, 7:13 am

    My boyfriend just finished reception and is now in Fort Benning. I received his first letter with a return address but in the commander letter it says we need to draw a certain colored do on our envelopes for his platoon but my boyfriend didn’t mention anything about it. So I’m confused and don’t know what to do. I don’t wanna send my letters and him get into trouble!

  • Caitlyn August 23, 2014, 7:45 am

    My husband left for BCT to Fort Jackson, SC on August 11th. I am now 7 months pregnant and it has very hard for me being this is the first time we have been apart since we have been together. When he first arrived all his new friends he had made had their phones during processing and he was able to call me twice a day during processing so the first week was hard but, nothing could of prepared me for all this time after that last phone call (which was just the quick phone call from the base) and all that call was, was getting his mailing address and based off of some of the things I read on here I am very grateful for that. But, now I am also worried he may not be getting my letters. I have sent out a letter a day since he left and I still haven’t received one from him. (which I know is normal being he has only really been in actual basic not processing for a little over a week now). He told me there was a chance of being able to possibly call from time to time and I hope that is true and will happen because, even just hearing his voice would help so much (as you all would know). I just wish time would speed up and it was at least time for graduation so I could see him. Then he goes right to AIT after basic so he will miss the birth of our baby girl. (our first child too) I am just hoping he is or has gotten my letter(s) because, I don’t want him to feel forgotten or alone. I wish there was a way to make sure he is getting him but, there isn’t. Except for waiting for a letter from him letting you know he has gotten them. But, if anyone has any advice on how to get through all of this (especially with being pregnant) please let me know? Because I feel like I am going crazy and all I want to do is cry…

    • Stacey Abler September 1, 2014, 9:31 pm

      I’m sorry you’re having a tough time. It does take some time for them to start getting letters but hopefully he is receiving them now. Hang in there and hope all goes well for the birth. You can always send a Red Cross message when you go into labor and they may allow him to at least be there via phone with you.

  • Gabby September 3, 2014, 2:48 am

    So my boyfriend just left for basic training for the Navy. And I just sent my letter off. And he said that his officers might read my letter out loud. And it kind of makes me nervous. Hopefully not. And they say to use plain white envelopes, but my letters are to long to fit in just the plain white envelope. Hopefully I don’t attract to much attention.

  • Alissa October 10, 2014, 3:12 am

    My boyfriend and I spent everyday with each other until he left to basic tranning at Ft. Benning Georgia for us national guard on October. 6 just this Monday I have been crying nonstop ,when will I get a letter. I am so new to this and feel I cannot last 6 months …but for him I have no choice.
    Can anyone explain how graduation works when they graduate if there is any breaks and anything else you think would help me understand more. Thankyou

  • Alissa October 10, 2014, 3:45 am

    It’s me again I just have so many questions.. My boyfriend recently left to the nation guard on the 6th to ft. Benning Georgia . When and What is family day? Will he get to have a break for Christmas ? What’s the process for basic training? Whens graduation and how will I be notifyed? Should I know anything about the writing letter thing like ink or rules just to make sure,

    • Stacey Abler November 7, 2014, 8:20 pm

      Family day is generally just before graduation. If he’s in OSUT, it’s typically around the ten week mark. He will have roughly two weeks off around Christmas if he’s still in training. Hope this helps!

  • Cari October 10, 2014, 12:37 pm

    Hey! My Boyfriend left for BCT on the 7th of september !!! :( I’ve wrote so many letters already!! One problem I don’t have his unit or plat # ugh i guess his Dad will get a letter with all of the info how long does that usually take?????? I miss him so much. I hate being away from him!!

  • Tanika Beatty October 26, 2014, 12:40 am

    Well my fiancé left oct 6th for BCT. I have received 3 letters from him. I have sent at least 4 or 5 but he has not gotten any of mine. Since he isn’t saying anything regarding what was in my letters. He wrote the address wrong 3 times and I copied it wrong but there was still ft Jackson and his platoon Etc . But the only things that were left out was E1 and sometimes SC on my letters, will they still adventually get to him?

  • Melissa November 7, 2014, 12:40 am

    My boyfriend left for basic to fort benning almost 2 weeks ago and I just got a letter from him, but it doesn’t have a return address on it or anything for me to send my letter back to him. Im not sure how to get it either

    • Katy March 1, 2015, 10:55 pm

      Hey, I’m sure by now you’ve already received his permanent address and figured it out, but in case you weren’t told, he was most likely in reception when he wrote and sent those letters which is why they did not have a return address. :)

  • Narii January 5, 2015, 2:16 pm

    Heyy, I am recently planning to go to my boyfriends BCT graduation, and a major question in mind is will u have to pay for a ticket to attend it? And if so how much will it cost? As well as family day, I really would love to have these few questions answered so please help anyone lol…thank you in advance

  • Twalisha Williams February 20, 2015, 12:31 pm

    I’m not an army wife… Yet. My girlfriend is in the army and is in basic and she’s sent me 3 letters and I have sent 2 almost 3 back. I’m not sure if she’s getting any of them and it’s been hard not being able to see her. She’s transgendered (ftm) and I hope that they are okay with it. How do I know if she’s getting my letters at Ft. Sill?

    • Stacey Abler March 1, 2015, 12:25 pm

      It typically takes 1-2 weeks before they start receiving mail on a regular basis. Hope you’ve been able to get confirmation she’s receiving them!

  • sandyy March 15, 2015, 10:26 am

    I have a question, my bf whos in bct has asked me several times to send him a rosary … if i send it in the same envelope with the letters will he recieve it ? Or what do you suggest i do Please help , Thank You!

    • Stacey Abler April 11, 2015, 5:36 am

      Shouldn’t be a problem. They may open it to see what it is – but once they see that, I can’t imagine them keeping it from him.

  • Stephanie March 25, 2015, 6:03 pm

    Hi. My boyfriend just left for basic yesterday and I’m trying to get through the day without crying. So far so great, but what can I do to keep my mind off him?
    He told me to send him letters but he just said send it to the Fort Jackson Base in South Carolina, but thats it… I really just need people to give me some advice.

    • Stacey Abler April 11, 2015, 5:31 am

      Staying busy – take a class, find a hobby, work extra shifts, write him lots of letters, exercise, etc. It will go by faster if you’re busy.

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