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Ask An Army Spouse: Basic Training Letters & Communication

Holding Mail During Basic Training

My husband has been at basic training for a week. When he called me, he said he had not received any letters. I have sent him a letter every day, and I live in the same state!!!!! Why isn’t he receiving my letters? Do they hold their mail?

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It seems to be common for mail not to make it to new soldiers in basic training for the first two weeks. Whether it is being held or it just takes some time to process the mail when a new class comes in is anyone’s guess.

Rest assured, if the letter was addressed correctly, he will eventually receive it.

I remember feeling horrible when my husband called and was upset that I had not written him yet. But I had been writing daily since he left. He got all of my letters shortly after that.

Phone Calls in Basic & Moving After Graduation

My fiance and I are getting married next month, and he leaves for Basic in three months… will he be able to call me often? 

This is going to be really hard for us. We have never really been apart, and we are only 18. When he’s finished with AIT, will I be allowed to move with him on the base right away?? I would really like to know; it will make this whole thing easier.

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How often he can call will depend on his basic training location, his drill sergeants, and his fellow soldiers. In the Army, if one person messes up, they punish everyone.

I know some who heard from their soldier at least once a week during basic training and others who were lucky to hear from them once a month. There is really no way to predict. Your main form of communication with him in basic training will be through letters.

If AIT is his last school, you can move with him to his permanent duty station at that time. The only exception to this is if he gets orders to Korea. While it is possible to be able to move to Korea with your soldier, many times, it is an unaccompanied tour. Barring that, you should be able to move with him then.

Cell Phones at Basic Training

IF MY HUSBAND TAKES A CELL PHONE WITH HIM THAT IS IN SERVICE, CAN HE CALL FROM THAT? ALSO, HOW SOON AFTER BASIC DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOU CAN LOCATE TO?

CAN THE HUSBAND CALL ANY TIME AFTER BASIC? BEING SO NEW TO THIS CAN BE SCARY…..IT’S LIKE WALKING IN THE DARK, AND I AM NOT ONE TO BE UNPREPARED FOR THINGS. I LIKE TO SEE THE ROAD WHEN I AM DRIVING, AND THAT’S HOW I RELATE TO LIFE AS WELL. ANY HELP IS GREAT HELP IN MY EYES AND IS ALSO A BLESSING!

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If your husband takes his cell phone with him at basic, he should be able to use it while he is in reception. When he actually starts training, it will likely be taken away from him though he should get it back at the end of training.

As far as when you will find out where he is going, it is usually towards the end of his final training school. In most cases, it would be towards the end of AIT. How long after basic training depends on how long his AIT is.

Generally, AIT is more laid back than basic training though it all depends on the instructors. Longer AITs tend to be more lenient than shorter ones. Regardless, unless he is in OSUT (where basic and AIT are combined), then he should be able to call more often once he makes it to AIT.

You may find this guide for new spouses helpful as well.

International Letters During Basic Training

My good friend is leaving for basic training soon. I am in Canada, and he is in the US. We would like to know if it is possible to send letters to each other while he is in Basic Army Training. We are not sure if he will be able to send anything out of the country. I have heard a no and a yes on this question, and I am looking for a more solid answer, hopefully from you. Thank you!
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I was unsure of the answer to your question, so I contacted an Army wife with whom I have been friends for a while. She is from Canada, and her husband attended basic training at Ft Benning in Columbus. She said that they did not have any issues with being able to write to each other, with the exception that the letters took a long time.

Address for Basic Training

My boyfriend left for basic almost 2 weeks ago. I received a call a week ago, and he said it was his last day in reception. I asked about when I would get his address, and he said he wasn’t sure, but he wouldn’t have it until he got to the actual basic training. I haven’t heard from him since, and neither has his mom. Is it normal for it to take this long to get the address?

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He can’t give you an address until he starts training. At that time, a letter will be sent with the address so I would say it isn’t unusual that you haven’t yet received it a week later. I hope it arrives soon!

Communication During OSUT for Infantry

I have several questions to ask. My fiance is currently in reception and about to start basic at Ft Benning, GA. I received one call from him and was told I would get one the day he left for basic.

He is going through OSUT with a Ranger/airborne contract. A friend of mine’s husband is currently in infantry training at Ft Benning as well, and she gets to talk with her husband on a weekly basis and gets letters almost every day.

Should I expect the same, or will his training be harder and more restricted? Will his commander mail his graduation and family weekend between basic and AIT information to his father instead of me since were not married? What can/can’t I mail him while he is in OSUT? Thanks for taking the time to answer questions. It makes it easier for those of us out there who have no clue.

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Infantry for soldiers who do not have a Ranger contract and those who do is the same. While it can vary from one class to the next, your friend’s experience with communication with her soldier will likely be similar to yours.

The information will most likely be sent to his dad since you are not married though it can be sent to whoever he chooses to receive it. While he is in OSUT, it is best only to send letters, cards, and a few pictures that you wouldn’t mind having everyone else see (nothing risque).

Limit on Number of Letters Mailed During Basic Training

How many letters can he send out in a week? His parents got one, but I haven’t this week. Would there be a letter limit per week? Thanks !!

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To my knowledge, there is no limit on the number of letters he can send. His time, especially in the beginning, is very limited. He may not have time to write. Hope you hear from him soon!

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Stacey Abler
Stacey's husband joined the Army in 2003 and was medically retired after four deployments. She enjoys sharing her experiences and expertise around Army life while continuing to support Army spouses and families in their military journey.

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64 Comments

  1. I am 32 weeks pregnant and my husband won’t be here for the birth is there anyway he can see her or talk to me while I’m basic?

  2. My fiancé just left for basic training in Fort Benning, GA. He never gave me an address or anything for his family and i to write him letters. How can i find out the address???

  3. My boyfriend leaves for basic on the 23rd of May to Ft. Benning. I’ve been reading a lot! I was wondering if anyone could give me any information about sending letter’s. Do’s and Don’t. Thing’s that can get him into trouble. So I can relive as much stress as I can. That kind of thing. Any tips and Information would be greatly appreciated.

  4. My boyfriend left for basic training two weeks ago. He called his brother, but not anyone else. Before he left he told me he would call and give me his address but he never did. Nor have I received any letters. I’m really starting to get worried. Will her call, or write?

  5. Hi my boyfriend hasnt recieved any of my letters and ive sent him several and im starting to get annoyed and worried, what can I do?

  6. Can anyone answer why a call to my Boyfriend’s grandma would be mandatory and keep him in reception for longer, delaying Basic Training? She had not received a call until I believe the day it was supposed to start and he sounds really upset, she keeps missing his calls, this is the second one. Why won’t they let him call/look up her call phone number? I believe she has to answer a question, but one was not left in the voicemail. Please help!

  7. I just found out I’m pregnant and my boyfriend just left for basic training… is there anyway I can get in touch with him and tell him

  8. My boyfriend left for basic on Sept 5 and text me on Sept 10 to see how I was doing I haven’t heard from him since and I’m worried because I still haven’t gotten his address or anything I’ve been communicating with his little brother and he haven’t heard anything either.

  9. Hello my husband arrived at reception on the 6th and officially started basic on the 11th. It is now the 23rd and I haven’t received not one letter. I am starting to get worried because he is the type to communicate, specially because im 25 weeks pregnant.

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