Is Being Nosy Just An Army Wife Thing?

On my site (and it isn’t exclusive just to it), I often run across comments of something close to this:

“I live on post and I cannot stand my neighbor. First, she lets her grass grow to 3/4 of an inch high (I measured it!) when the housing guidelines clearly state that it should only be 1/2” high.

And on top of that, today I saw a cat looking out her window. I happen to know for a fact that she did not declare to housing that she has pets so I’m seriously considering calling the housing office on her or maybe even the MPs.

The woman drives me crazy! The other day, somebody came by to visit her, and she was parked partially in front of my driveway. I mean…rude! So I called the MPs even though I didn’t have to go anywhere. What if my house caught on fire and the firemen couldn’t get to my door?!

AUGHHH! Do you think I’m overreacting?”

Okay, so maybe I exaggerated a little. But, you know you are all sitting there thinking, I know someone who is just like that!

To answer the question, do I think she is overreacting? Yes, I do.

To answer the question, do I think she needs to find a hobby and get a life? Yes, I do.

Perhaps this happens in neighborhoods all across America and we’re just not as privy to it because they don’t exactly have places to vent for stay-at-home banker wives (or do they?).

Maybe it just seems more prevalent because it is somewhat of a unique living situation when you have a lot of military families living on post together in the same neighborhoods.

Regardless, it’s incredibly stupid.

I’m adding this much later after the original published date but now that my husband is now out of the military and we live in a neighborhood with an HOA, it’s not exclusive to the military communities. I mean wow, some of our neighbors make this example of an Army wife above seem tame!

The Golden Rule

Treat others how you want to be treated, right? When you have a problem with your neighbor, you talk to your neighbor.

Unless it is a potentially dangerous situation, you don’t call the police (MPs) or their mortgage company (housing office). You deal with it face-to-face in an adult manner. *gasp*

The MPs (or Police) Have Better Things to Do

Quit looking for reasons to turn in your neighbors. What goes around comes around.

Do you really want someone measuring your grass or watching the clock waiting for quiet hours so they can turn you in for your loud music?

Didn’t think so.

If you’re so bored that you have nothing better to do than stare at your neighbor’s house, try volunteering your time somewhere. I am sure some places will adore your take-charge personality.

Let’s show some common courtesy and realize we are petty in focusing on issues like this. And if you happen to be the victim of this oh-so-fun neighbor, pray they PCS soon.

Or shower them with kindness until they feel too guilty to possibly nitpick apart the housing rule book for living on post.

It’s your choice!

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Stacey Abler
Stacey's husband joined the Army in 2003 and was medically retired after four deployments. She enjoys sharing her experiences and expertise around Army life while continuing to support Army spouses and families in their military journey.

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  1. I haven’t had an experience with this, thank goodness!! The only thing that really bothers me is when people blast music, particularly the bass. And sometimes kids yelling bothers me, but it is not after hours or anything so I just deal with it. I have actually been blessed to have an awesome duplex mate who is unfortunately leaving at the end of the month so we’ll see what kind of neighbors we get then 🙂

  2. All I could think about when I was reading this was “Crap! She’s on to me!”

    I know I am one who is always ranting out my neighbors. But they are for real evil, I promise!!


    1. Kasey, this cracked me up! I promise I wasn’t referring to you – your neighbors really do sound terrible! 🙂

  3. Darn it! LOL Does it make me a terrible neighbor-down-the-street if I called on them leaving their puppy outside EVERY SINGLE DAY with no shelter and ZERO water in 90 degree heat?

    I’m being serious… sometimes I feel like I’m being meddlesome and should just mind my own business… but then I feel like the poor puppy should not have to suffer because of negligent owners, and they should be held responsible…….
    right? O_o

    1. No, of course not! That poor puppy! I’m talking about the ones who basically invent things out of sheer boredom and the need for drama! 😉

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