Last Updated on May 12, 2023
Indeed, the Army does not officially recognize the girlfriends or significant others of Army soldiers. However, you only have to be “just” a girlfriend if you want to be.
As the girlfriend or fiancee of a soldier, you need support and information as well. It’s important that you feel supported so you can continue to support your soldier.
Official Support Groups
Even as a girlfriend, you can generally still participate in the family readiness group and receive updates if your soldier passes along your contact information to the group.
You can usually attend meetings and events the same as any soldier’s wife. This is a great way to stay connected to your soldier and meet others who understand the situation, especially during deployment.
If you live close enough to where he is stationed to attend events, I highly recommend you at least try it out and see how it goes.
Note that there are some exceptions, such as special operation units, but most units welcome anyone who supports the soldier.
Online Support Groups
Reach out to other Army girlfriends online to form your support group.
There are many groups online and you can certainly find groups on social media to join. This is a good way to meet other girlfriends and fiancees and provide support to each other.
Not to mention, there is plenty of information about the Army lifestyle to learn. Approach it as a learning opportunity and you will be ahead of the curve when you marry your soldier.
Living with Your Soldier
Indeed, you will not be allowed to live on post as an Army girlfriend. Your soldier will not be authorized to have on-post housing until you are married.
However, nothing stops you from moving to where he is stationed. You can just as easily rent an apartment in the same city as you can where you currently live. You don’t have to have a long-distance relationship unless you choose to have one.
Even though the Army may not officially recognize your relationship, your soldier does. And that is all that matters in the end.
Be proud to be dating a soldier who is serving our country, and don’t let your marital status keep you from supporting him and reaching out for support from other Army family members.