Dating Army Soldier

Just an Army Girlfriend? Dating a Soldier?

It is true that the Army does not officially recognize the girlfriends of Army soldiers. However, you only have to be “just” a girlfriend if you want to be.

Official Support Groups

Even as a girlfriend, you can generally still participate in the family readiness group and receive updates as long as your soldier passes along your contact information to the group. You can usually attend meetings and events the same as any wife of a soldier would. Note that there are some exceptions such as special operation units but most units welcome anyone who supports the soldier.

Online Support Groups

Reach out to other Army girlfriends online to form your own support group. On my Army message board, as well as many others, there are girlfriends of soldiers. You can come to the group to get information and support. Not to mention, there is plenty of information to be learned about the Army lifestyle. Just approach it from the basis that you will be ahead of the curve when you do marry your soldier.

Living with Your Soldier

It is true that you will not be allowed to live on post as an Army girlfriend. Until you are married, your soldier will not be authorized to have on post housing. However, there is nothing that stops you from moving to the area where he is stationed. You can just as easily rent an apartment in the same city as you can where you currently live. You don’t have to have a long distance relationship unless you choose to have one.

Even though the Army may not officially recognize your relationship, your soldier does. And that is all that really matters in the end, right? Be proud to be dating a soldier who is serving our country and don’t let your legal status keep you from providing support to him and reaching out for your own support from other Army family members.

20 thoughts on “Just an Army Girlfriend? Dating a Soldier?”

  1. I am recently an army gf and soon to be a wife I’m just wondering if anyone could give me advice. I’m in it for the longhall and want to be a part of what my man is doin for our country.

  2. hello, i just saw this site and i read your article and I really liked it. My boyfiend and I have been dating for a year and he’s to be shipped to basic on the 15th and I’m so scared! I support him fully i just don’t want to lose touch and I can’t follow him because I will be in college. Are there ways we can communicate other than letters? Or do you have suggestons on how to deal with him gone? I would really appreciate it if you had any tips. 🙂

  3. Hi. My boyfriend is talking to the recruiter tomorrow about joining the army. If he makes it to the army he plans to get engaged when he comes back from basic and then get married as soon as we can after that. When we get married how soon will I be able to live on base with him. Also, how does the housing work on base.

  4. hi stacey i’m new to this here ..and i need some help in getting ready to be come a soldier wife and my boyfriend he is in the ARMY and he is a CAPTAIN…and i would gladly apparascate it you can help me ..because i don’t won’t to make alot of misatake’s ..so that’s why i join this web site here to get some help.and it’s a great hornor to be come a army wife to a soldier ..i had a friend was talking to my boyfriend bestfriend,..and he got on to my friend talking to another guy and when he find out he told my friend to f OFF….and my friend borke his heart and i don’t have much to say to my friend now..and when my boyfriend comes home from afaghstiane we will be meeting each other for the frist time.and i can’t wait untill all our men and women to be back home to there loved ones and there friends ..and i’lll talk to you later ..thank you so very much sandy joyner.

  5. I recently started dating a boy in the army, he’s in pre deployment training to go to Kuwait. We’ve been friends for a few years and we’ve always wanted to date well I finally gave in and said yes.. We had been talking so much it was like we were dating! Any advice and support would be awesome, he thinks that I’ll be some great support system for him and understand what he’s going through better because I grew up on Army bases.

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