I recently posed this question on the Facebook group for Married to the Army. And a large majority said they met people online that they clicked with better than those they met in person.
For me, it’s a mixed bag.
Meeting In Person
When my husband first joined, we were the only ones on my websites who were living in Savannah. I didn’t have much choice regarding how I would meet people – it was either in person or not at all.
When we were looking for apartments, the girl (lady sounds so old!) who showed them to us was the spouse of another soldier in the unit my husband had been assigned to. She gave me her number and told me if I needed anything to call her.
A few weeks later when we were getting ready to move, I made that call and asked if she would be willing to show me around. She readily agreed.
I must say that it was completely out of character for me to do that. But I knew my husband was deploying almost as soon as we arrived, so it was now or never. I swallowed my discomfort and made the call.
She invited me to her home with a group of seven or eight other spouses. We hit it off and they became my go-to group the entire time my husband was with that unit.
I met a few other spouses from the unit, but I typically stuck with the first group I was introduced to.
As time passed, other spouses living in Savannah joined my sites and we began to meet up in person. In fact, that is how I met Becca, who also writes for this site.
While I did love the girls I was able to meet up with in person, I really love the ones I have met online as well.
They are the ones who have always been there for me, including at 2am when I couldn’t sleep. There was always someone online who was willing to chat.
And I’ve been lucky enough to meet up with quite a few. Several people have questioned my sanity in driving (or flying) hundreds of miles to meet up with virtual strangers.
But these people are not strangers to me. We have been there for each other in every possible event, from the birth of babies to the death of loved ones.
We celebrate good news and provide a shoulder to cry on when bad news arrives. I know I have a large group of people online who would do whatever they could to help me when I need something.
So, to answer my question, I’ve met both. I get along in different ways with both groups. With my husband serving in a special ops unit, I was more limited in who I could discuss things with. The other wives in his unit were my saving grace for sure.
In my opinion, there’s room in my life for both. And I don’t know what I would do (or would have done) without either group.