My husband graduates from AIT in May. His AKO says that he is going to Fort Wheeler, Hawaii. My question is if he gets deployed will the Army pay for my things to come back home? And also I would like to know if I could visit before and our son come later on a flight alone?
The Army will generally not move dependents to another location because the soldier deploys. The dependents do have the option to move back but it will be at their own expense.
In addition, except in rare circumstances, BAH will be based on the location where he is stationed and not where you move to during the deployment.
Whether or not your son would be able to fly unaccompanied would depend on his age and the restrictions for the commercial airliner he flies on to Hawaii. You would need to check with the airlines for that.