I recently asked the question on the Facebook fan page about how being married to a soldier had affected the spouse’s ability to have a career. I received quite a few responses but most had a recurring theme that quickly summed up led to one statement:
It saddens me to see so many who have had to put their own careers on hold because of the career that their spouse chose. Now, if you did this completely voluntarily and are actually relieved that your career is on hold or it enabled you to raise your kids…kudos to you! And I mean that very sincerely.
For those who are a bit sad or perhaps frustrated at the lack of career options, I feel for you. When my husband was assigned to his first duty station, I also looked for a job. Funny thing is I was actually moving to a much bigger area than where we currently were. Perhaps it was the job market at the time but the only job I was offered involved a $15K pay cut. Ouch!
That is when I decided to venture out on my own. When my husband enlisted, that was our deal – he could enlist and I could start a business. But as time inched closer, I started to chicken out. When that job offer was made, I thought why not and took the plunge.
There have certainly been ups and downs with working on my own. The lack of a guaranteed paycheck definitely being one of the “downs” but it has also brought with it many rewards. Perhaps one of the greatest being that I was able to see my husband regardless of whatever crazy Army schedule he was on at the moment. I didn’t have to worry about requesting time off when I received two hours of notice of his return from overseas. That was a definite plus.
Since he’s been medically retired, I have continued my business and it has allowed me so many freedoms that I wouldn’t have with a “real” job.
So why am I going into all of this? Because if you work for yourself, your job is almost always portable from one post to the next. It doesn’t matter where he is training, what his schedule is like or when he deploys, your business can always be there for you.
If you really want to work, consider branching out on your own. I will write some future posts about exactly how to do this and soon.