The FRG and Single Soldiers

by guest editor, Katherine Tiberghien

Family Readiness Groups are a Commanders program to keep family members in the loop of informational readiness. Although the name may tend to lend itself as being just for Family Members, it is for the ENTIRE unit, to include single Soldiers.

During deployments, many FRGs come together to do craft like things to send to their Soldiers overseas. For instance, my FRG just had a night to make Valentine’s Day cards for the Soldiers. They provided all the materials, all we had to do was bring the creativity.

Unfortunately, when I asked “Are we making cards for the Single Soldiers?” I was told, “NO.”

NO? Why not?

Single Soldiers are an important part of the FRG, and should be included in all functions. You do not know if those Soldiers are getting anything from anyone. Sure, we would like to believe that their parents and friends are sending them things, but the truth is, some do not have supportive parents. Sending them a card from the FRG may be worth more to them than anything else, because it shows that you CARE.

When married Soldiers return from deployments, they go back to their homes, which have food in the kitchen, sheets on the bed, and all the other “nice” things in a home. When Single Soldiers come back, they go to a barracks room with 4 empty blank white walls, no sheets, no food, no shower curtains, NOTHING. They do not get their belongings out of storage for at least 2 to 3 weeks. Wouldn’t be nice if the FRG could do SOMETHING for these Soldiers? Even if it is just getting government bedding and making the beds, providing some snack food and a shower curtain, is better than NOTHING. These Soldiers will appreciate the effort you put into THEM, and in return, will support your FRG in ways you thought were not possible.

In this high deployment stage of military life, let us not forget our Single Soldiers. They make up 47 percent of the Army, and deserve our respect and gratitude as well. It should be our responsibility, and our PLEASURE, to do something for these Soldiers, who have sacrificed just as much as our Married Soldiers.

Katherine Tiberghien

author avatar
Stacey Abler
Stacey's husband joined the Army in 2003 and was medically retired after four deployments. She enjoys sharing her experiences and expertise around Army life while continuing to support Army spouses and families in their military journey.

Similar Posts


  1. yes, offering our support is always a good idea! thanks.

    ps. the boss web page says that single soldiers make up 35% of the Army (aged 18-25)

  2. My son is deployed and I was told the FRG was a great place to get information about the time when he would be coming home. I’ve left a message at the fort Polk for someone to call me back but no one ever did. I belong to a military moms group and they all tell me to get in touch with the FRG. Can you help me with this? My son is scheduled to come home the beginning of October 2011, he tries real hard to give all the information he can. We want to be at the reception when they get back to Fort Polk, we live in Michigan and plan on driving.

  3. So, where I can find a real single soldiers to have relationship ? I am too proud of them and so admiring them but I never meet them in person.

  4. The FRG could do things for the single soldiers but can’t spend any FRG money on them. FRG money can be spent on food for an FRG event (xmas party or summer picnic) and decorations for those parties and that is it. FRG can’t even buy ingredients for an FRG bake sale. The stipulations are ridiculous.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.