At least once a week, I receive an email from a spouse whose soldier has cut her off financially leaving her with no way to pay bills or take care of their kids.
There are a few things you can do in this situation.
- Contact his chain of command. This has varying degrees of success depending on the commanders. Though, most will be willing to help.
- If his chain of command is not assisting you, contact the Chaplain for his unit. The Chaplain can often act as a mediator and help resolve the situation.
- If both of those avenues fail, contact JAG. While they generally cannot assist you in divorce proceedings (not always the case), they can lead you in the right direction
Your soldier must continue supporting you while you are married as he is receiving allowances for being married and is certainly obligated to support his children.
It is impossible to address every situation to determine what you should get regarding financial support. Be aware that if you are living on post, that is considered financial support, as he is providing you with a place to live.
Be advised that you are not entitled to his entire BAH or his BAS. Even though most soldiers don’t receive BAS until they are married, they are getting that money because they are no longer eating in the chow hall free of charge. It is not to provide food for the family.
If you find yourself in this situation, follow the above steps. If divorce is imminent, seek out a civilian attorney as soon as possible.