To me, this seems like very basic information.
However, some questions I have received lately have me wondering how basic it is. The following items are things that you should absolutely know about your soldier.
If you don’t know these things, navigating the Army system will be difficult. You will also face delays if you ever need to contact the Red Cross to relay an emergency message to him.
Here is the list of items you should have memorized:
1. His full name and rank
2. His social security number (you need this for just about everything in the Army)
3. Where he is stationed. For example, Ft Bennning, Columbus, GA. I am amazed by the number of people who only know a state and don’t even know the name of the post!
4. His unit information, at least down to his platoon (team if possible, especially if his name is common). For example, 1/75 Ranger Regiment, A Co, 1st Platoon
5. His job (MOS) – For example, Infantry or 11Bravo
6. His address – for his unit stateside and overseas (if deployed)
This information is not optional for you to know. You need all of this information if you are an immediate family member of a soldier. Contacting him and relaying emergency information will be much easier if you know these six items.
As an Army spouse, I see many who say they don’t need to be so involved in his job – after all, it is HIS job. However, not knowing simple information, such as what I’ve listed above, is just irresponsible.
If he had a civilian job, you would know his company’s name, job title, and office location. This information is no different. To know this information, you don’t have to be “all involved” in his job.
So, find it. Write it. Memorize it.
Hi Stacey,
I have a boyfriend going to army bootcamp but im expecting a baby in April and he wants to be there when the baby is born but he doesnt know if its possible. Is it possible for him to leave boot and be there for the birth of our baby?
I wouldn’t count on it – it’s incredibly unlikely he would be granted leave from basic.
I have been reading all these comments on meeting with military people through dating sites and feel I may have run into the same sort of situation and am going through this now as we speak. I have only been talking with him for a week, but already have my suspicions and things dont seem to add up, even though I dont know a whole lot about military regulations and all, things dont seem quite right with all this. i wont give all the details here because just with the short time span involved, I’d have to write you all a book here. He is supposed to be an E-9 officer, and as I already said I dont know a whole lot about the military, so when things didnt seem quite right I have been asking friends and family who are or were in the military. First of all what got me on guard, was that he was getting too sentimentally charged up way too soon, then he asked me about helping him to get a leave (By the way, he is supposed to be in Afghanistan)and even e-mailed me some forms(which didnt look right to me) and of course I asked questions and didnt think family, or friends or spouses could do that, as far as I know the soldier had to do that. But I got these forms e-mailed to me today, and to top off the story,yes there was to be a fee for the person requesting the leave for him. Well to make a long story short, I gave him a run around and told him I couldnt send any money for the fee, and his whole attitude started changing (smile), regardless to say the conversation changed drastically and we werent talking much longer.This was the reason I happened to come across this site,as I wasnt feeling quite right about the whole deal, and now I am glad I started snooping around a little.I’m not a very trusting person anyway to begin with, and have worked hard and been a single parent ,raised my daughter by myself and came through the school of hard knocks you might say. So glad my little sense of female intuition panned out for me, and glad you all had this site to back each other up like this, thank you for being here and helping me to keep from being made a fool of, although I will honestly say, I wasnt falling for it all.I think it is a shame these people take advantage of people and make the true soldier fighting for all our peace of mind,like bad news. its not right and I hope they all get what they have coming to them. And I think you all are doing a great thing here,helping each other out, we all need good backup……………………………………..Doreen
Dear Doreen,
I have been scam and loss some money before as it was not something I would expect. However, we all learn from our experience. As women, I do believe that we should help each other more. Recently, someone sent me a massage on facebook who I do not know. The way how he approach was very similar with the army solider one. The way of writing and wordings. I am posted here, so if anyone do come across be aware, as follow :
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How are you? Well writing to someone you have never met before I think is extremely difficult. Take this mail for instance, I had all the words in my head but could not seem to put a coherent sentence together, was going to start with hello or how are you today?! Anyway I will get to the pulse of it all, and I hope that everything is moving fine with you also that this letter finds you in good health and spirit. I am really going to put a lot of effort into writing this letter to you in hopes it will provide you with a good understanding of who I am, what I am all about, and what has made me the person I am today.
The reason I am going to write a letter rather than just send an mail message is because I am serious about wanting to establish a quality relationship with you, and because of the fact I rarely contact anyone on here, so when I do you can be rest assured I am serious about my intentions. I believe that our faith is the very foundation of our lives, and also of a great relationship that will endure the test of time, I am looking for a woman that will be able to listen to me and I will listen to her too because Love is 50/50.
First of all, let me introduce myself in brief. I’m Operations Planning Engineer. …….. I am 5.11 feet, blue eyes, 78kg weight; I live in Bronxville Heights, New York . I have a daughter. I was born 3 December 1964 in Florida, when i was two years old my mom took me to my grandma in Turkey that is where i grew up and studied. I came back to Florida at the age of 25 then my dad introduced me to the company am working with before he died; i registered as a private body with the company.
I was married for 13 years but i got divorce 2 years ago because she cheated with my best friend. So i am in search of my wedding ring. I I will vibration ally tell you more about my kind of person below. I don’t think I need to deceive anyone just for me to have a woman. I believe that if you could not accept me of who I am, Then we are just might be wasting each other’s time. I believe that faith can lead us to a very beautiful direction. That eventually we might end up with each other if we are really meant for each other. I believe that we are going to have a good chemistry for each other, as far as we both will be honest of what we really are.
Laying all the cards of what we should expect from each other. I believe that the most important ‘key’ to a successful relationship would have to be ‘trust’. I believe that with trust, love will follow. My heart is free and open also I will be happy, if I find the same heart and it will be mutual. The reason I came on to the internet to find the person who deserves all the love and passion that makes up my heart and soul is because I do not have the time to meet others out in a public setting, and the fact I feel you can learn so much about someone through letters, as a person has to take their time and think about the words they want to express, so it allows you to gain a better understanding of someone than you would probably otherwise.
Do you believe love after love? Yes I do, and if love is a crime, am ready to be wanted. Take a very good care of yourself for me OK! To tell you the truth I will end here for now, because I am very curious about your reply back. And if you write back indeed we can talk later other details if you are willing to know each other better in the future even if we live far away.
Warmest Regards,
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Just be aware . I do not think, he is a real person anyway. If anyone receive this type of writing be aware.
Dear all,
This one is the second e-mail , he sent me. Be aware of the way how touching he is in writing. Most men are less likely to be so good at those writing.
I have to say, it is a very touching letter, well written cover most of aspect people want to have in life.
Anyway, it is a lesson learned after been scam. For me, at very least, to post it, hopefully would help others not to been scam. As there is no website post out those letters for the awareness.
Please do not get me wrong to say anyone who has written those style letters are scam. They maybe , maybe not. It is better to know the one in person before any judgement.
Enclosed the second letter, even told him I am not interested.
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Thank you so very much for taking out time to read my profile and also write me an email. I think i have to let you know a little about me my kind of person. I feel so blessed because a thought was channeled to my direction.
Every journey is set out with a well defined destination in mind and it takes courage and conscious determination to arrive there. At this point, it obvious that am willing to set out for this journey of faith and it’s imperative that the desired destination should be well defined. I like to make something clear as you read this e-mail. My intention should be made known early enough so that you could be able to know where am heading.
The only reason I am here and ready to devote my time to make all the necessary communication is because I want a partner and desire to get closer to and see if there’s chemistry to yoke heart together because nothing works until someone work on it. What I am looking for is someone who will get to know me, who like me.. is tired of being lonely, who desires a sincere relationship, who is willing to love again irrespective of the painful memories of the past, who is willing to merge her soul with mine and her heart with mine.
Someone to share and spend the rest of my life with. You see, I feel there are few very basic but essential elements of a relationship.. (1) Identifying the need to be in a relationship (2) Decision and readiness to contribute to it success (3) Honesty (4) Trust (5) Mutual Respect, (6) Devotional Commitment with a Readiness to Make Sacrifices. Knowing fully well that a Gold must go through fire before it can be purified and graded.
They are also to a degree sequential. I may choose First honesty and then respect. They go hand in hand and without them any type of relationship, business, personal, family, whatever, is bound to fail. Anyone who is dishonest cannot be respected. Without showing respect, He or she is unlikely to be treated with honesty.
Those are fundamental to trust which like respect is earned because honesty was first and was given. When trust is built and respect is earned and they are given and shared, then love and happiness is inevitable. When your love and trust were given, its more important than receiving a treasure.
Then commitment becomes a part of the relationship. At that point, you promise and believe it will be forever. You can do this because you love and trust the other person and are committed to making a life to share together.
I will try to be more specific. First, no one is perfect, especially me. I know this though, when the right person or person that seems right comes into your life you will know it. A connection happens and you just can’t, or won’t let go of them. Your whole life changes and all of the emptiness begin to fill up.
It starts with the first touch, the first time you look into each other’s eyes, the very first time for everything becomes a moment to remember. Sometimes it happens quickly, other times it takes years.
I don’t pretend to have the wisdom to explain or understand. This is certain, if you observe consciously, you will find when a person is wrong for you. I truly believe it is easier to know if someone is not right for you than to know if someone is.. I guess I’ve tried.Of course you now know what my purpose of being here is, and that I am willing to nurture this friendship to grow in the direction of a rewarding and a long lasting if not and everlasting relationship in all sincerity. Now are you in the same train with me?
Because our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. God bless you!
Kindest Regards,
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Here is another one. I am not sure what is happening with facebook. In last few days,there is another scam type contact me. My facebook photo is private and plain. So it has nothing to do how I present myself.
Decent people just be aware !
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Thank you for your response, I sincerely appreciate your interest, actually I got your contact email discreetly during my search for someone. Can i tell you the kind of person I we want to grow old with? i want someone who is serious, honest and romantic.I want to find someone who wants to get to know me and love me for me and yes I want a life time relationship, hopefully someday i will ask That special person to marry me and we would live the rest of our life together as friends, partners and lovers.I want someone who we call and email me every day to make me feel that am in a serious relationship. That all I need from you.Remember the distance does not matter what matters is the love we share with each other.My greetings to the entire family. Wait to hear from you soon.
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Part 2,
l am a father who have one daughter and one granddaughter too. She live with her mother in the U.S.A. My wife died same year back.my mum and dad are late so i have only my daughter and my granddaughter who is my life now. and they are not living with me here in London. Can you please tell me more about your pass relationship life?My greetings to the entire family. wait to hear from you. thanks..
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The above were came from two different persons contact me in same week. After a lesson , we all learned. Be aware the style of writing.
Good luck to everyone. They are either tell us they are a solider in war zone ,in overseas country or so on. Just be aware.
Dear all,
This one is the second e-mail , he sent me. Be aware of the way how touching he is in writing. Most men are less likely to be so good at those writing.
I have to say, it is a very touching letter, well written cover most of aspect people want to have in life.
Anyway, it is a lesson learned after been scam. For me, at very least, to post it, hopefully would help others not to been scam. As there is no website post out those letters for the awareness.
Please do not get me wrong to say anyone who has written those style letters are scam. They maybe , maybe not. It is better to know the one in person before any judgement.
Enclosed the second letter, even told him I am not interested.
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Thank you so very much for taking out time to read my profile and also write me an email. I think i have to let you know a little about me my kind of person. I feel so blessed because a thought was channeled to my direction.
Every journey is set out with a well defined destination in mind and it takes courage and conscious determination to arrive there. At this point, it obvious that am willing to set out for this journey of faith and it’s imperative that the desired destination should be well defined. I like to make something clear as you read this e-mail. My intention should be made known early enough so that you could be able to know where am heading.
The only reason I am here and ready to devote my time to make all the necessary communication is because I want a partner and desire to get closer to and see if there’s chemistry to yoke heart together because nothing works until someone work on it. What I am looking for is someone who will get to know me, who like me.. is tired of being lonely, who desires a sincere relationship, who is willing to love again irrespective of the painful memories of the past, who is willing to merge her soul with mine and her heart with mine.
Someone to share and spend the rest of my life with. You see, I feel there are few very basic but essential elements of a relationship.. (1) Identifying the need to be in a relationship (2) Decision and readiness to contribute to it success (3) Honesty (4) Trust (5) Mutual Respect, (6) Devotional Commitment with a Readiness to Make Sacrifices. Knowing fully well that a Gold must go through fire before it can be purified and graded.
They are also to a degree sequential. I may choose First honesty and then respect. They go hand in hand and without them any type of relationship, business, personal, family, whatever, is bound to fail. Anyone who is dishonest cannot be respected. Without showing respect, He or she is unlikely to be treated with honesty.
Those are fundamental to trust which like respect is earned because honesty was first and was given. When trust is built and respect is earned and they are given and shared, then love and happiness is inevitable. When your love and trust were given, its more important than receiving a treasure.
Then commitment becomes a part of the relationship. At that point, you promise and believe it will be forever. You can do this because you love and trust the other person and are committed to making a life to share together.
I will try to be more specific. First, no one is perfect, especially me. I know this though, when the right person or person that seems right comes into your life you will know it. A connection happens and you just can’t, or won’t let go of them. Your whole life changes and all of the emptiness begin to fill up.
It starts with the first touch, the first time you look into each other’s eyes, the very first time for everything becomes a moment to remember. Sometimes it happens quickly, other times it takes years.
I don’t pretend to have the wisdom to explain or understand. This is certain, if you observe consciously, you will find when a person is wrong for you. I truly believe it is easier to know if someone is not right for you than to know if someone is.. I guess I’ve tried.Of course you now know what my purpose of being here is, and that I am willing to nurture this friendship to grow in the direction of a rewarding and a long lasting if not and everlasting relationship in all sincerity. Now are you in the same train with me?
Because our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. God bless you!
Kindest Regards,
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Here is another one. I am not sure what is happening with facebook. In last few days,there is another scam type contact me. My facebook photo is private and plain. So it has nothing to do how I present myself.
Decent people just be aware !
==================================================================
Thank you for your response, I sincerely appreciate your interest, actually I got your contact email discreetly during my search for someone. Can i tell you the kind of person I we want to grow old with? i want someone who is serious, honest and romantic.I want to find someone who wants to get to know me and love me for me and yes I want a life time relationship, hopefully someday i will ask That special person to marry me and we would live the rest of our life together as friends, partners and lovers.I want someone who we call and email me every day to make me feel that am in a serious relationship. That all I need from you.Remember the distance does not matter what matters is the love we share with each other.My greetings to the entire family. Wait to hear from you soon.
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Part 2,
l am a father who have one daughter and one granddaughter too. She live with her mother in the U.S.A. My wife died same year back.my mum and dad are late so i have only my daughter and my granddaughter who is my life now. and they are not living with me here in London. Can you please tell me more about your pass relationship life?My greetings to the entire family. wait to hear from you. thanks..
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The above were came from two different persons contact me in same week. After a lesson , we all learned. Be aware the style of writing.
Good luck to everyone.
Hello Mandy !
I just can believe it when I read this letter. Really , I recived this letter from 2 different men , they arent soldiers , they ( as he said ) English men . To be honest , when I recieved the first one , I melted , but I found it quite suspicious , than I recieved the second one . So , I believe that kind of site is very dangerous , we need to be carefull.Unfortunately , this scamers are very persuasive , they tell you sad stories , they want to be a father , have a happy family with you and on. Now I am change emails and chat with a ” soldier” , I dont know if he is telling me the truth , he is in Kabul , he has a daugther in USA , so I do not lie , he is very cute and he somehow touched me. Anyway , I ‘m trying to get as much information as possible. He send me some pictures , but this can be stolen from a real soldier , I dont know…Let’s wait and see . Just one more thing , all women , please , be carefull , I believe all of us want to be happy and find the love of our lifes , just be careful.
Hello Patricia,
Just be careful and find out more information as much as possible. If there is any doubt or discomfort that you feel just quickly get out. If it has not happened to be before I would not believe that I would be scammed. Good luck.
Hi- i was emailing this soldier and I ask him for his ako and this what he email back to me.
i told you we are not in the
state now we are corentely in Afghanistan an hear Afghanistan we are
not permitted to our Ako Account and mind you , you not a military
woman so i can not email you with this Ako email is just only for the
military
Is this true,any one knows?
katie
Hi Katie,
Be aware about the AKO account as I was scammed by a so call US solider before and by the time I aware, it was too late , have lost thousands of dollars. It comes to a point that I realize that I do not know much about the whole military. Just for your information, why trust a man who we normally would not if he said he is in so call war zone. Go out with someone who is real able to see, touch, talk to face to face. Then make the judgement, not having an internet relationship may not be a real person.
PS Even he is a real person, would you want to wait for a year or two for him to come back , before you know him as a real person ??
It always seem romantic to have someone’s attention fully, but not for those who may not even exist person.
Take care
Hi Katie
No its not true. They do use their AKO account while in the theatre. I am an army wife for 8 years and my husband just got back from his 4 th deployment and trust me he used his AKO email to email me when for some reason his personal email is not working. Beware ladies. If he is too good to be true then it’s more likely he is a scammer.
Bianca
I asked the guy (Kevin D Stanfield) today for his ako email, he gave it to me, but I got a daemon email delivery failure. He was adamant I couldn’t send anything only his mom and sis could, I’d have to mail things from the base in LA. I told him that wasn’t true because people send stuff to our soldiers all the time, and he was not happy with me.
Also the poem he supposedly wrote me last night? My son found on another website.
Washing my hands of that disaster. Fortunately, I didn’t lose any sleep or money.
steering clear of these guys for good,
C
I have been on yahoo messenger with this military guy for almost 5 months now. He sent me a DFAS form. He says he loves me and that he is working out the the details of coming here for Christmas to be with me. Can this form be a scam? The librarian did not see it with the scam forms that needed to be looked for. I just want to make sure if I sent it to dfas-dept@armymail.com. Could someone please help me out with this because I don’t want to get hurt on keeping this going if this is not who I want this to be. I want this to be over if it is not him who he says he is. And how can I find out if this person is real or not? Thank you…
Armymail.com is an email anyone can sign up for.
Do they issue roster numbers in basic training? And do you absolutely need it for your soldier to recieve the letter? When writing the letter, what do they mean by class and company? I’m very new at this.