army family expansion

Your Family Expands in the Army

A typical Saturday morning for me was walking into the kitchen and over multiple single soldiers sleeping on our living room floor.

First, realize that whether you live in on-post housing or in housing off-post, the guys who live in the barracks will be in love with your house.

Why Your House Is Best

The number one reason for this is because it’s not the barracks – meaning your floor has been vacuumed recently; your toilet has been scrubbed; your bedroom, living room, and kitchen aren’t confined to a 10×10 space; and you have actual things to watch on TV.

For the lower-ranking guys, it also means escaping doing “chores” or getting smoked by other guys during their time off.

In all likelihood, the majority of your husband’s friends are single (this is particularly true if he’s not high-ranking). So you should get used to hanging out with the guys.

Do yourself a favor and go ahead and prepare yourself for the fact that your family is going to expand. In fact, we have one guy here so often that we refer to him as our son.

It’s not uncommon for us to have guys over here several nights during the week. On the weekends, several guys usually camp out in our living room and spare bedroom. It is a rare occurrence if we manage to make it through an entire week with no one at our house.

New Set of Rules?

So, how do you deal with constantly having the guys at your house? Some wives decide to set rules, and some have flat-out refused to let anyone come over unless they were specifically invited.

It’s completely up to you how you decide to handle it. I actually enjoy the guys coming over and hanging out.

I’ve always been one who’s had no trouble getting along with the guys, so it’s not an issue for me. But some friends can’t stand it when the guys show up uninvited.

I became a bit of a mom to some of the guys, and they would even bring a girl over for approval before going out with her more than once or twice. I loved it! haha

The best advice I can give you is to sit down with your husband and decide how often you are willing to have the guys over. Then, make sure both of you stick to it. It will make life so much easier down the road!

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Stacey Abler
Stacey's husband joined the Army in 2003 and was medically retired after four deployments. She enjoys sharing her experiences and expertise around Army life while continuing to support Army spouses and families in their military journey.

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  1. This is TOO FUNNY!! I have often said, “i married one, and got two free!”. We (all four of us) are only two weeks into the first deployment, and i think i’m having a harder time than the boys. My living room used to look like an army slumber party every night, now its empty. i was surprised to find out my carpet was just plain tan, not ACU print!! I am 29, and i have two ‘kids’ that are 21 years old. We truly have become a family, and it hurts not to have them around, just as much as not having my husband. plus, things are always clean, whats a girl to do with all this spare time!!

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